Lying to your parents Page 2

Started by Guy December 14th, 2010 9:08 AM
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Katie_Q

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Posted April 15th, 2013
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Well I sometimes lie about little things. Who doesn't. However a few months ago my friends and I snuck out (stupid teen mistakes) and it got back to my parents. So now that I feel guilty over betraying their trust, and them not 100% trusting me, I'd prefer to be truthful to them. I mean, after raising me, it's the least I can do to be honest with them. However I can be very embarrassed over stupid things and don't tell them unless it's important for them to know. Like how I want to be a dog trainer. My mother even said I should do something like that, yet I don't want to bring it up. Things like that. I won't tell her some thing unless she asks. (Of course now if I want to go to some party I'll be asking, and if they say no then I'll just accept it.)

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I really don't like lying to anyone, and I don't lie to my mother very often. The lies I have told her I usually tell her later, due to guilt. But the last lie I told was four weeks ago. I told her I was going to walk with a friend to school. I walked to my boyfriend's house instead of going to school. At noon I felt bad and told her the truth. I don't ditch school very often (that she knows- I usually ditch every now and then) but it's the first time she knew of, so she just told me to come home. We played Scrabble. :3

When I was younger, I was terrible. I was an awful little liar, lying about this and that. The most severe was when I was ten years old. I was a typical kid who liked playing with his friends, so my mom got walkie-talkies. But these cool ones that are instant. It's like a two way radio. Well, one day I was with my friends, and we were on a huge hill with our bikes. I thought going down the hill would break the radio, so I tossed it into a nearby field for some reason. The day was fun, until I had to go home. I was looking for the radio, but couldn't find it. I asked my friends to help, but they refused.

I was with four friends whom I remember, but no longer talk to- Marcus, Micheal, Richard, and Andrew. Marcus has always been a troublemaker, so I figured I could blame it on him. And so I tried. I got home and told my mother than Marcus took my radio and tossed it into the field. So she got in the car and drove to the hill (or at least close to it) and scolded Marcus. He swore he didn't do anything, and then I immediately confessed. She was so angry, she'd make Chuck Norris flinch.

Eventually I found it, but I was dreading the car back home. It was silent. No one spoke a word, but my mom was furious. She was totally aware of my lying, and she's sick of it. So when we got home, she called my uncle's cousin - a police officer - to come by and talk to me about my lying. My siblings were frantically crying. They thought the cop was going to take me away for something. I don't remember crying, but I don't remember fear. I wasn't afraid of cops they way I am now (they have so much power and I'm always afraid they might get me for some random thing).

The cops arrived and had a talk with me. I don't remember the talk exactly, but I do remember him saying something that I didn't own anything until I was eighteen. Then the cops left, and I learned my lesson.

...Wow, I'd tl;dr that.

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Honestly, it's not that children have malicious intent or mean any disrespect when they lie. Parents can be overprotective, overbearing and quite totalitarian sometimes, and that's hardly fair. Sometimes you just have to lie. I call lies like that "Gray lies". They're neither good nor bad lies...they're just to save a big fight and lots of trouble in cases where you just so happen to strongly oppose your parent's moral standpoints.

No one can ever say they've ever agreed with ALL of their parent's morals. Maybe you want privacy. Maybe you just don't see a need to argue the point with them. Sometimes you have to lie out of respect for their beliefs and morals. It's not that you are disrespecting them, you're doing them a respectful service by not debating the subject.

Gray lies are not immoral or wrong unless you're doing something obviously harmful or stupid. Sometimes a child just knows that their parents will freak out if they found out you did X, even if they never explicitly told you that you could not do that. If there is no harm, there is no foul. What a parent doesn't know, doesn't hurt them. In a way, most of those gray lies are told out of love and respect, not hatred, disrespect, or disregard of their wishes.

I've lied to my parents. I admit it, and I'm openly not ashamed of it. Still, I avoid telling direct lies anyways. That being said, I'm so rarely in any situation where I'd have to lie about something, and I'm usually so honest with my parents anyways that even if I do have to lie I never got in much trouble anyways.

Lies shouldn't be told regularly though, because if you make a habit of it...people won't believe you when it really counts. When you really need them to believe the truth you're telling, or the lie you're forced to tell because if the truth came out, it'd do more harm than good they won't believe you and everything you say becomes a lie in their eyes.

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Well, when I was 5, mom made some sort of a "surprise". Since I just learned to read, she put up a sheet with "5 Rules to Follow" for me and my brother (at that point, he was 3, but I read them to him). One of them was not lying... the rest, I really can't remember.

I suppose... lying and not telling are basically the same thing, right ? Anyways, I never really lied to my parents, just tried not to tell them things. I am not a really good liar, and my face usually turns red... >_<

However, mom did lie as a kid herself : in 8th Grade, she got a 3 in Chemistry, which she turned into an 8 with her pen... my grandma kinda beat her. ): My mom usually told me she would beat me if I lied, but I knew she would never do that... still, I don't remember lying a really important thing, such as a bad grade.
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I lie when it benefits me. However, usually, it's only small lies. I've found that lying about big things only ends up in disaster. ):

I mean, I only lie so I don't have to deal with moaning/etc. D:
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I lie occasionally. Usually to benefit myself slightly, or as to not hurt the feelings of my mom. Small things only. Also, when I tell the truth, it usually works out better. Of course, sometimes I don't lie, I just omit parts of the truth. You know like, "Hey mom, can I spend the night with _____" and in turn I do, just not at that persons house.

I think that most kids lie simply because they don't want to get in trouble. They still want to keep the favor of their parents, so they lie to make it seem like what they did was good, or bad to a lesser extent. They don't want to look like a horrible kid in front of their parents, otherwise, they might not even get to do good things. I've seen plenty of this in my house.

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Posted October 22nd, 2013
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14.2 Years
I seldomly lie to my parents but mostly its because I want to avoid getting punished. Even though my mom is so smart that she even easily finds out about my lies, I still lie. Strange and yet crazy for me. I guess it can't be helped sometimes.
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We've all done it and there's no shame in admitting it. The real question is why we do it and for what reasons? Are we to be blamed for lying to our parents? Are there certain situations where we should lie to them? If we get caught, should we be upset even though we lied?

Just recently I had a friend speak about her sister and the fact that she lies to her mom. She created a facebook page and kept it a secret just so her mom wouldn't know about it. The irony of it all is that her mom even asked her if she wanted to make a facebook account (note: the mom has one herself) and the daughter told her no, even though she already had one.

Well, eventually someone found out and told her mom about it. My friend's sister ended up getting in trouble for lying and keeping it secret, while in the end she was angry at her mom. I mean, why? She lied about it, her mom even offered, and she said no. Does she have a right to be angry? To me, I wouldn't say so, especially since her mom offered. This is just one of her lies amongst many while growing up though.
I think the main reason is privacy. The daughter doesn't want the Mum keeping updates or having the ability to get into her facebook.
I would never add my family or parents if I had one for the same reason. Thankfully mine repels technology.

I have lied to my parents before, not guilty about it either and I'd say the motive and nature of the lie imo matters more than the lying in itself.
I rarely was a trouble girl but when I wanted to some freedom. I had to lie to get it because my parents are just too strict. I will always try to balance between what is expected of me and what I want to do.

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If I were to get punched in the face every time that I told a white lie, I'd be dead by now.

Now, actual, hardcore "I didn't sleep with your girlfriend last night, I swear!" lies, that's.. something I don't often do. xD;

I think the worst way that I've ever lied to my mom, would be the typical:
"Do you have a lot of homework to do tonight, honey?"
"Nooo, mommm. ; ; "

& I am secretive to my family with a lot of things, but that's a trust issue, and not really 'lying'. :/


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13.6 Years
I tell lies to my parents well it's more like not telling them stuf I don't know I don't tell them if I'm doing bad emotionally I don't like to trouble them I don't tell them someting that I thought would make them hate me like diffrences in belief and a big thing I won't tell them until I'm out of the house or on my death bed or if they catch me in it that's the one I dread and I don't tell them when I do something that could be illegal but everything else I tell them but I don't know if that balances it out though...
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Posted February 7th, 2012
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12.7 Years
Back in Elementary, I ALWAYS lied about EVERYTHING. Every time I came home from school, my mom would ask me, "were you good in school?", and I would always say yes, regardless of the fact that I'd get in trouble pretty much everyday. I remember even lying to get a game I really wanted (in specific, it was Kirby Tilt n' Tumble for the Game Boy Color x3). I told my mom I did good in school so she would take me out to get it. Ugh, I was just a bad kid. :x

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14.9 Years
For me... lying was a bit more than just trying to shield myself from possible consequences. Everything has a consequence that you can't always see, and I learned that early on, so that's not the reason I lied so much when I was younger. To me, lying became like a game of bluffs and tells (or whatever term works better here), a social challenge that actually played to my interests.

Even now I still lie, but more to probe for other's mind and behavior than anything. For protecting myself... I just tend to keep things to myself in the first place, or just give the necessary details. It's probably this behavior of mine that helped me learn how to imagine about what other people were thinking about, to a degree, and why I have an interest in psychology now.

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We have all lied yes that is true but some of us have reason's and some don't thou.Some times you may lie to cover up something you did wrong or some times you may lie to protect someone from finding something out.

I have lied mainly to cover up things i did wrong in the past thou XD
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I used to not lie to my parents, then I reached puberty. When I lie to my parents, it usually something that involves me doing rebel stuff like telling them where am I, did I clean the room, am I using the computer, or stuff like that.

They're... harmless lie so I don't think that it matters but..
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I used to not lie to my parents, then I reached puberty. When I lie to my parents, it usually something that involves me doing rebel stuff like telling them where am I, did I clean the room, am I using the computer, or stuff like that.

They're... harmless lie so I don't think that it matters but..
Same here but then i just reached about age 16 and didn't care what my grandmother thought and did whatever i wanted basiclly.