Parents just don't understand. D:

Started by Timbjerr May 6th, 2011 2:37 PM
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Timbjerr

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Posted January 28th, 2016
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yes, lame title is lame. XD

This thread is all about your parents. Specifically, do you love them or hate them or are you somewhere in the middle?

Personally, I really love my parents. It might have more to do with my age, but I've really been able to see how much they really cared for me even when I went through my rebellious teenage years thinking that they (er...my mom specifically) were trying to prevent me from doing anything I want. XD

I'm especially close with my dad and I've always gone to him for advice on anything...jobs, school, relationships...omg he's the best! It's just a shame I only get to see him like once a month lately. Hopefully that can be changed soon.

So, yeah...love your parents or hate them? Any particular anecdotes or examples to back up your stance?

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Parents barely understand sometimes. D=



Well, to be honest, I love my mom and dad very much. Why? Well, they are the closest people I will ever known; since they DO know me at birth!

Its just well, they've got a divorce, and I just wished my dad spent more time with me. A thing with my dad is that he goes to work during the day, and does a newspaper route during night, which well, it ends up with him only getting 3-5 hours of sleep; which he does get kind of irritable. However, he does make it go out of his way to try to see me here and there; and he even said to me: I'll be always be there for you.

Same goes with my mom. I used to share a rocky relationship with my mother, but, overtime when I moved out of the house, I guess I was a little more open to my mom, so we worked out our differences, and...yeah.

I also kind of went through a rebellious teenage phase myself.

Which is where my relationship with mother got a bit rocky. =( She upsets me the most when she compares me to other people. For example, when I was 16, she compared me to my oldest friend growing up: "OH SHAWN, KADEEM HAS A GIRLFRIEND, WHY DON'T YOU?!" Which...okay, annoyed me once upon a time, because I HATE when my mom compared me to kids she barely knew herself. @[email protected]; Another thing: she's a little irritable when it comes to my dad. Its like...she flips out and gets crazy whenever she sees him, and she always puts me in the middle of them; which...come on; I don't like to be; I love them both very much. =(

The only times that my dad upset me is when he puts me in a low platform with no reason whatsoever. Even in the smallest mistakes, its an automatic: "BOO, YOU SUCK AT THIS." [well in my language anyway. =B]

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I love my parents. :) They're just made of awesome. Seriously, I could talk to them about anything if I really wanted to and I don't think they'd ever judge me.

I can't think of a time where I didn't get along with them. I've always been the good kid so I hardly ever got on their bad side. Or, well, the sneaky kid that hardly got caught. 8)

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My parents are fine, they're just normal parents. But they nag at me too much about stuff I don't want to deal with and I really just wish they'd leave me the hell alone a lot of the time.

My Dad I've never been close with, he's really just an annoyance. Mum is way better, but she can overstep and get too involved sometimes - I'm 20 years old, and she still tries (unsuccessfully) to set me a bed time.

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Posted November 13th, 2018
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13.8 Years
Eh, they usually bring my day down, but sometimes they're pretty useful. I don't like them all the time, sometimes I do. Especially when I want to go somewhere lol XD

They always judge me, push me to the edge even when I'm already trying my best, insult me, bring me down, start fights with me, yell at me for no reason and piss me off :x


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Age 28
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Seen July 7th, 2011
Posted May 22nd, 2011
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14.6 Years
My opinion changes at times. Deep down inside, I know they're awesome parents. They raised me very well, disciplined me, and when they get angry at each other, they don't show it to upset me and my siblings.

However, I still feel like I'm being treated like a child. "Oh, what are you doing? How much homework do you have? You spend too much time doing this..." It's irritating. They think I'm kinda dumb in terms of real life experience in all that. I'm always watching them do something so I can learn (been at this now for the best part of ten years -_-).

They're so soft on my brother and sister. When I point something out, they say, "Well, they're still kids. You're older than them." So even if its something a five year old will do, my brother, who's almost a teenager, won't get in trouble if I report it.

My dad tries to bond with me a lot and its now kind of getting to the point where I just want to be alone. My mum is the one I usually get angry at and shoo away, but really I hate getting her upset and she's the one who usually puts a smile on my face.

I guess I feel too old for parents, but they feel their kids need nurturing. They focus their attention on me so I feel like a kid, and my siblings can wreak havoc and get away with it.

Oh, and they sometimes cannot believe what they see. For example, I've been getting frequent depressive spells lately, and according to some research, I have a high chance of getting Bipolar Disorder. If I told them I need to see a therapist, they'd say I'm being silly, ungrateful, it's a phase, or I need more friends. So as awesome as they sometimes are, they're sometimes not very useful.
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I don't really like my parents. They're so annoying. Even when they're away (they're always traveling), they call me at least 3 times per day!! >m< They stop me from doing everything! D: I swear, one day I'll run away from my house and NEVER return.
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I love my parents. C:
They can be unreasonable sometimes, and sometimes I feel that they don't understand me. But it can be the exact contrary; it might be that it's just me who doesn't understand them.

I can understand them doing things for my betterment, yet I can't. But I know they care about me, love me. I can share my problems with them, and they're really supportive. They support me, even if the things I want, aren't really according to their aspirations.
I'm close to me mom, and even joke around with her. Dad on the other hand.. is a tad serious. .___. And he upsets me. But I can't really stay angry at him for too long, even if I want to.

Overall, they're awesome parents. ;)

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Seen March 23rd, 2012
Posted May 14th, 2011
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12.4 Years
Let's start with my father. He is a programmer working for a small company. Nothing fancy, but he knows his job well. He is very smart by normal standards, in fact he is one of the smartest "normal" people I know. We spend a lot of time together, mostly discussing about computers and technology. Recently he bought me a bunch of microchips with logic gates, flip flops, ALUs, RAM, anything you can imagine. I've been reading about circuitry for quite a while, and once I finish the books I am reading right now concerning it, we will start building electronic projects. My intention is to build an 8080 computer complete with a small cathode ray tube monitor and one of those awesome IBM clicking keyboards. It is going to fit perfectly in my room, and will be an incredible way to show off. He also used to go kickboxing with me, though I've given it up due to laziness. He is of course not perfect, mainly because he is only incredibly smart by normal standards, but it does not really matter. He is not an idiot and I can have an intelligent discussion with him. All in all, he is awesome.

My mother can be considered smart, but with me and my father raising the bar, she is the dummy of the house. However, she is still part of the incredibly small group of people who I actually respect and admire. She is an English teacher, and I can assure you in an unbiased manner that she is the best English teacher I have met. She has earned all of her students' respect, in such a level that nobody ever makes the slightest noise in her class, even though she has never given a single punishment of any form. She is a nice person, and nobody cares that she believes "90*10=9000" (Not making this up, she believed my sister on this and backed her up while I was correcting her >_<). The one problem is that she tries to be overprotective while nobody takes her seriously on that. The result is she keeps whining whenever she thinks I or my sister are in danger, no matter how ridiculous her claim is (Once she gave me a hard time for hanging out in our balcony at 5AM, stealing my neighbor's internet, because she had a "bad feeling that I will get shot by burglars", while we were at our summer estate (~5 other houses in proximity, no history of crimes, 30 kilometers away from civilization). >_<). All in all, she is also awesome.

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I love both of my parents immensely, but after being at university for three years, I've come to the realisation that I don't ever want to live with them again. After about four weeks of holiday back home at Christmas and Easter, their eccentricities and quirks (which I wouldn't change, mind you) get so unbearable that I just have to go back to uni!

Essentially, I love spending short bursts with them, and talking on the phone, but I can't live with them any more. I do love both of them, though!
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My dad is more like a house-mate. We live in the same house and that's about as far as it goes. He's a funny guy and I like him, but the parent thing is just not there; we don't talk and he lets me do what I want, which is fine for me really.

I like my mum a lot despite the fact she has the intelligence of a child. She does so many things I don't agree with at all; but as a person she's funny, friendly and we share a lot of interests.

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Posted June 30th, 2018
My parents were always more interested in making sure I fit in, did what they wanted, and didn't argue with them. I'm sure there was some level of genuine concern for me as a person, but there was without a doubt a heavy helping of self-interest. I was, frankly, an embarrassment to them a lot, as they were for me, and they didn't like the kind of child they had. I'm not saying I was perfect and they were devils (although a lot of the "flaws" they saw in me where nothing of the sort), but I feel like if they had been a little better, more understanding, more forgiving people we might have been able to get along. But they're not and since we have nothing in common besides DNA I want as little to do with them as possible.
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We're like best friends! My mom anyway. My parents are so lax, I love them. It's because they trust us and we in turn are more or less good kids :D My mom is really funny and she's sacrificed a lot for us. My dad is great and tries his best for us whenever we need anything. So yeah, I have cool parents! =3
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I generally cannot stand my parents, I love them but still they aren't useful most of the time in my life. They didn't do any raising nor have a reason to care for me. I've got through a lot without both my Mother and Dad. Sometimes, Mom can give good advice but other than that she is generally a bother and expects too much for me to handle. As for Dad, I don't even know. He is an all around horrible guy in which I can't stand most of the time, sure he may pay child support and visit but that isn't a father to me especially since he lacks parenting skills and being there when I really need someone. There's more but I'd rather not go into it. Seems like a reasonable amount I've already shared.

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I love my parents very much, they've been through a lot and I look up to them :)

I had a rocky relationship with them for most of my life, but after some issues were resolved my dad and I are a lot closer and we get along a lot better than we have in the past. My mom and I fight a lot still, we're usually fighting more than we are not fighting but that doesn't change how much she's there for me. Both my parents support pretty much everything I do and do their best to make sure we're happy which is all I can ask from them <3

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Posted November 29th, 2021
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I don't really like my parents. They're so annoying. Even when they're away (they're always traveling), they call me at least 3 times per day!! >m< They stop me from doing everything! D: I swear, one day I'll run away from my house and NEVER return.
Sweetie, you're 12. You're young...if I had a 12 year old daughter, then yeah, I'd be calling her and stopping her from doing things I didn't want her to be doing as well. Don't say you're gunna run away and never return. They call you to check on you because they care and love you and wanna make sure you're safe. Some parents don't even do that. Sorry, I just felt I had to defend them there. :/

As for me, my parents divorced when I was young. I've had them both in my life though, but I was always with my mom. My dad would come pick me and my sister up and take us out to eat or to the arcade or a movie or something back then, and honestly, I thought that's how all father-child relationships worked. I never understood what it was like to have a dad figure in the house all the time. But anyway...I do love my parents, both of them. I'm disappointed in a lot of choices my dad made though, and I'm disappointed that I was lied to about them for 15 years. But I wouldn't have understood so young. Oddly enough, I feel I'm closer to him. Mainly because he's not all crazy religious or over protective. My mom is though, which is annoying, but I get along with her fine.

My step dad though...eh. He generally annoys me. He's not bad, but he's that father figure that I never had as a child, and he came into my life when I was about 13, so obviously I went a majority of my life without the male household figure. So when order and organization was put into my home, it sure as hell was uncomfortable. Personally, I wish he would get off my case about a lot of stuff. He annoys me when my mom is telling me something I need to do, and he chimes in like an ******* and is all like "yeah you better (insert task) because (insert punishment)" and I'm thinking "shut up, did I come in here asking MOM for something, or did I say your name?" But he's not a bad guy. Just gets on my nerves more than my actual parents. He's much better than the step dad I had before him though.

Overall, I think I'm alright with my parents. I'm not particularly very close with any of them though. I live with my dad now though (sorta, it's more of we live with his dad and brother, lmao) and I feel like I have more freedom and I'm treated a little better here, and not like some idiot like back at my mom's with my step dad running the house.
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I love my parents.
In high school I was living separately with my parents, and I also think my mom's protective attitude for calling me every times was annoying, but now I understand that it's the proof that she's love me.

One day when I and my dad go travelling, my mom called my dad for many times just for ask about our trip. and after that my dad said to me that even mom called him for many times just for asking same question he will not get angry, instead he feel happy to know that mom worried about our trip.

After that trip I understand that my mom not only giving protective attitude to me, she also give that attitude to my dad, and my dad can understand her. So after that trip I not get angry anymore if my mom ask about my condition in outside city.

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Posted May 22nd, 2019
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12.8 Years
I love my parents very much, even though i am a rebellious teenager as you so nicely mentioned. They might not understand me too much (or do they), but i know how much they care for me, and how they want em to experience all the things i can (my dad is giving me personal driving lessons 2 years before i get my license !! :) ).
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