The Rainbow Connection [LGBTS Club] Page 122

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Phantom

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I'd agree, it seems excessive.

About the other questions, who was your first and when did you know.

For me it sort of went hand in hand, and I remember every detail, cause I'm a hopeless romantic like that.

It was the girl from down the street. We were in the same year and had been good friends since were were little when I first moved into the neighborhood when I was ten. We were best friends, and when we were in like 8th grade she came out to me, and I was okay with it, more than okay really, since I had yet to come out.

Right after we started high school we were having movie night at my house, and my parents were in Chicago for work. She fell asleep at like three in the morning, but started to fall asleep on me. I wasn't always a person comfortable with people touching me, it's a part of my asperger's syndrome, but I got used to it at that point with the help of my friends. And her resting on my shoulder was nice. It felt natural when I lifted my arm and wrapped it around her, but I was nervous just after that I'd freaked her out, that I'd crossed that invisible friendship line. Instead she actually moved closer and grabbed my hand. I remember my heart pounding in my chest, but when she sighed and snuggled closer everything just felt natural. We both fell asleep like that, and when she started moving in the morning, I woke at the same time. I had no idea what to say, and apparently she didn't either cause right there she kissed me full on. I kissed back and that was the start.

We were head over heels over each other, completely twitterpated. I was the only person she'd come out to, so it was a secret. It was easy to hide our relationship from our parents. Since were were such good friends before we were always together anyways. It did get in the way of school friends after a while, and I ended up telling my other best friend, who was cool with it and ever classy with his response of "You'd so be the guy in that relationship". She told a few of her friends too. We were in love.

I had no problem keeping it from my parents. We weren't that close. But she was really close to her parents, and felt guilty. I said I'd support her no matter what happened. She was afraid that they'd kick her out, and I said then she could live with me, my parents wouldn't care. We decided that she'd tell them that she was lesbian, but not that she and I were in a relationship. I would be there to support her, as a 'friend'. They were absolutely livid when she told them. They kicked me out, saying they were sorry, that they understood that I wanted to support my friend, but they needed to talk to their daughter alone. I remember standing in the doorway, and seeing her crying in the dining room and I felt so angry at the sight of that. I seriously remember wanting to rip through the screen door and just hug her. They ended up grounding her and explicitly not wanting to talk to her again about it, not even mention it.

After that her parent's relationship started to get ****ed up, I mean it was rocky as it was, but she sort of felt that her coming out was the last straw. Her parents ended up getting a divorce about five months after. She moved away with her mother to another state where she had family. We didn't see each other for years after that when she told her mother she was 'visiting' the schools here for college. It had been two years and I skipped school every day that week and all we did was walk around downtown and go to movies. It was like she'd never left. That was the last time we saw each other for a few more years, she visited again last month. Same thing.

We moved on, I still love her, but distance ruined the relationship. Even today my parents still don't know that we had been together. It's sort of funny.

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I think it's a bit unnecessary.. for example it's like calling people "homo-sapiens" instead of "people".. really they mean the same thing but there is just a term now for it.

Same with heterosexual female and androphilic female. Same thing so why not just use the more common one? My spellcheck is even telling me the word androphilic is wrong haha. Just my thoughts though. If you didn't want to announce what gender you are, you can just simply say "I like males/ I'm attracted to masculinity" and people would understand that more than throwing out this scientific term.
The whole terminology thing aside (which I admit is cumbersome, but then I'm sure that was true with words like "bisexual" and "transgender" once, too), it's not the easiest thing for people who are intersexed or genderqueer to use terms like "heterosexual" because... what would it mean in their cases? Rhetorical question, btw. Not asking you to solve this.

And Phantom, you really are a hopeless romantic.

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The whole terminology thing aside (which I admit is cumbersome, but then I'm sure that was true with words like "bisexual" and "transgender" once, too), it's not the easiest thing for people who are intersexed or genderqueer to use terms like "heterosexual" because... what would it mean in their cases? Rhetorical question, btw. Not asking you to solve this.

And Phantom, you really are a hopeless romantic.
Yeah but wasn't it true with those words before there was really a word for it besides "I like both girls and boys?" that's why I think this new thing isn't necessary.. we have words now so it is a bit redundant to me. Who knows though.. maybe it'll catch on?
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Phantom, your story was beautiful! Scarfy, you're a mean old cynic :P

I agree that these new terms probably aren't entirely necessary, but I do like them and I can see how they'd be useful. As Scarf said, they're great for the genderqueer and intersex community who may not know whether the more correct term for them would be 'heterosexual' and 'homosexual' because they're not sure of what their gender is themselves, and these words disregard your own gender entirely (way to repeat everything that was already said, Andy!) They're probably also good for more private people who are of the 'my life is none of your business' school of thought as they reveal less about you than the -sexual terms do.

In addition, the words probably are necessary as far as the English language is concerned. We have a whole set of 'philia' words to describe human attraction - paedophilia, necrophilia, ephebophilia, xenophilia, just to name a few. The set would be incomplete without the two most basic ones of all - the attraction toward males and females. And if we have the words, what's the harm in using them if they're more convenient?
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They're really not more convenient though, since no one knows what they mean. lol

So... I've moved in with my new roommates... and none of them ever check facebook apparently, because they don't know that I'm bi. I was so happy that I was able to get it out online too =/. I guess enough other people know though... so they'll probably find out on their own.

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Scarfy, you're a mean old cynic :P
You think I'm mean? :(

In addition, the words probably are necessary as far as the English language is concerned. We have a whole set of 'philia' words to describe human attraction - paedophilia, necrophilia, ephebophilia, xenophilia, just to name a few. The set would be incomplete without the two most basic ones of all - the attraction toward males and females. And if we have the words, what's the harm in using them if they're more convenient?
Very good, positive examples there, Shining. (b'')b

For the record, I'm one of those hipster types who don't like using labels and would rather people all just kept open minds and didn't assume about anyone, but I also like equal representation so I feel like there could be a place for new words if we're gonna be using words in this sense. I'm all about possibilities.

And while I'm posting I feel like I should post some news, but it's mostly bad stuff from what I'm gleaning so I think I'll hold back. The US does now have its first openly gay general so... yay?

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Of course I don't think you're mean! The :P is meant to convey a joking energy. It seems someone got a bit cocky and skipped some of their Internetiquette 101 classes!

So... I've moved in with my new roommates... and none of them ever check facebook apparently, because they don't know that I'm bi. I was so happy that I was able to get it out online too =/. I guess enough other people know though... so they'll probably find out on their own.
Well I guess you just go onto Plan B! Don't bother telling them unless it comes up and then just naturally slip it into the conversation, or just wait until they find out on their own and approach you about it.
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Nice examples of philias there Andy, very positive ones indeed >.>
Aww thats a bummer Quil, but I agree with Andy, they have a way to find out now so you don't need to tell them. Im sure that gets a lot of your chest doesnt it! As long as youre happy with how things are with them you really dont need to bring it up or tell them until they approach you about it, so you're basically free now to be yourself completely now.

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Aha! Roommates.

Yes, okay, so I had a roommate but then he cancelled the roommate contract. Something happened that I don't care to go into detail about. Then I got another one who I thought was going to be a chill guy. Except I had my female friend over and I can see that he was acting all weird and then when I came in (after going out to a party with her) he told me that because of his religious views he doesn't want girls in the dorm. I said okay because I try to be tolerant of other people's (religious) views. Though, most of my friends are girls but whatever. And, then on this roommate sheet we had to fill out to get to know each other I put I was gay because I thought it's a good of a time as ever. Anyway, when he read it he packed a bag and walked out the room. Needtheless to say he didn't spend much time in the room after that and he didn't even sleep in our room and he moved out yesterday. Sooo now I'm roommate free.

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Aha! Roommates.

Yes, okay, so I had a roommate but then he cancelled the roommate contract. Something happened that I don't care to go into detail about. Then I got another one who I thought was going to be a chill guy. Except I had my female friend over and I can see that he was acting all weird and then when I came in (after going out to a party with her) he told me that because of his religious views he doesn't want girls in the dorm. I said okay because I try to be tolerant of other people's (religious) views. Though, most of my friends are girls but whatever. And, then on this roommate sheet we had to fill out to get to know each other I put I was gay because I thought it's a good of a time as ever. Anyway, when he read it he packed a bag and walked out the room. Needtheless to say he didn't spend much time in the room after that and he didn't even sleep in our room and he moved out yesterday. Sooo now I'm roommate free.
Wow, that guy is horrible :\ I don't want to say anything, but I'm pretty sure I know what his religion is...
Good thing you got rid of him, though :) Maybe you can now get a roommate that'll allow girls in the dorm....

Hey, maybe I can get the house to myself if I tell them I'm gay! Fool proof plan. :D
Yeah, it is a fool-proof plan, if all of your roommates are intolerant bastards xD

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Aha! Roommates.

Yes, okay, so I had a roommate but then he cancelled the roommate contract. Something happened that I don't care to go into detail about. Then I got another one who I thought was going to be a chill guy. Except I had my female friend over and I can see that he was acting all weird and then when I came in (after going out to a party with her) he told me that because of his religious views he doesn't want girls in the dorm. I said okay because I try to be tolerant of other people's (religious) views. Though, most of my friends are girls but whatever. And, then on this roommate sheet we had to fill out to get to know each other I put I was gay because I thought it's a good of a time as ever. Anyway, when he read it he packed a bag and walked out the room. Needtheless to say he didn't spend much time in the room after that and he didn't even sleep in our room and he moved out yesterday. Sooo now I'm roommate free.
You're a lot more tolerant of people's religious views that I would have been. I mean, people can believe what they want, but if I were in your shoes I would have said "If you don't want girls in the dorm, don't bring girls into the dorm." Kind of like my stance on gay marriage which is "if you don't like gay marriage don't get gay-married."

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You're a lot more tolerant of people's religious views that I would have been. I mean, people can believe what they want, but if I were in your shoes I would have said "If you don't want girls in the dorm, don't bring girls into the dorm." Kind of like my stance on gay marriage which is "if you don't like gay marriage don't get gay-married."

I am now running for President. That is my campaign slogan. Vote for Phantom!

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Hey there Gliberty, welcome!

Why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself? Are you gay, straight, bi, other, transgender? If you're gay or etc, are you out? Are your parents OK with it? That kinda thing :P

Aha! Roommates.

Yes, okay, so I had a roommate but then he cancelled the roommate contract. Something happened that I don't care to go into detail about. Then I got another one who I thought was going to be a chill guy. Except I had my female friend over and I can see that he was acting all weird and then when I came in (after going out to a party with her) he told me that because of his religious views he doesn't want girls in the dorm. I said okay because I try to be tolerant of other people's (religious) views. Though, most of my friends are girls but whatever. And, then on this roommate sheet we had to fill out to get to know each other I put I was gay because I thought it's a good of a time as ever. Anyway, when he read it he packed a bag and walked out the room. Needtheless to say he didn't spend much time in the room after that and he didn't even sleep in our room and he moved out yesterday. Sooo now I'm roommate free.
Yeah... I'm gonna go with Scarf on this one lol. When I read this (and I'm sure I replied to it when I read it, but I guess the disgust was just swirling through my head and I didn't actually write it down) I just thought "what. the. ****."

I don't take to people's religious views very well. So if somebody had tried to use their religion to impose on who I could bring into my own home, I would be very much not OK with that. Even without the whole gay thing, I would have gotten rid of him the fastest I could.

The worst part of this is that I can see it in my head lol. He's just reading your sheet then gets to that part. All of a sudden he puts the sheet down, walks to his room, puts his stuff in a bag and leaves. That would have just infuriated me, it's like you were diseased or something. Oh well, that jackass will get what's coming to him, one way or another.
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Wow, that guy is horrible :\ I don't want to say anything, but I'm pretty sure I know what his religion is...
Good thing you got rid of him, though :) Maybe you can now get a roommate that'll allow girls in the dorm....
You do? Me and my friend were trying to figure it out, what is it? Aha, I sure hope so or not get another one. I like living alone.


You're a lot more tolerant of people's religious views that I would have been. I mean, people can believe what they want, but if I were in your shoes I would have said "If you don't want girls in the dorm, don't bring girls into the dorm." Kind of like my stance on gay marriage which is "if you don't like gay marriage don't get gay-married."
Really? Hmm, I just didn't want to be rude and thought that's what "a respectable" person would've done. I really didn't realize how dumb it was until my (girl) friends wanted to come over and I had to deny them that privilege.

Yeah... I'm gonna go with Scarf on this one lol. When I read this (and I'm sure I replied to it when I read it, but I guess the disgust was just swirling through my head and I didn't actually write it down) I just thought "what. the. ****."

I don't take to people's religious views very well. So if somebody had tried to use their religion to impose on who I could bring into my own home, I would be very much not OK with that. Even without the whole gay thing, I would have gotten rid of him the fastest I could.

The worst part of this is that I can see it in my head lol. He's just reading your sheet then gets to that part. All of a sudden he puts the sheet down, walks to his room, puts his stuff in a bag and leaves. That would have just infuriated me, it's like you were diseased or something. Oh well, that jackass will get what's coming to him, one way or another.
(C/P what I said to Scarf here~) Also, it did make me pretty mad but I knew that he'd would be requesting a change, which made me happier. I just wasn't sure what to do in that situation as I've never been it before. It definitely prepares me and hopefully next time I don't get a prick.

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Hey guys,

I have returned to the PC, after what has been nearly 6 months, maybe more.
Not much new has happened in my life though; although, it seems like my political science courses discussions have been gearing toward some LGBTQ-related issues due to the upcoming election.

This one girl actually yelled out, "you know what, I just don't care; it's wrong because I know it's wrong," after I pointed out her flawed propositions in a ten minute long rebuttal, since she never took the time to formulate an opinion rather than restating a learned prejudice. After she said that though, I just kept my composure and smiled and said, "well, you just proved my point; ultimately you are saying something is wrong using the fact that it is wrong to prove that point. That is a circular argument, which is derived from a prejudice rather than a philosophical argument." After that, she just glared down at her desk in anguish and didn't participate in any of the class discussion for the remaining hour of class.

Oh boy, I can just tell this is going to be a great year. XD

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@Retro Bug - I demand to know what twenty-something heterosexual male college student in their right mind has a problem with girls being in his dorm.

No, seriously, tell me. It's like a paradox.

Religious views are one thing, and sure, respect of each other's beliefs is key. I wouldn't want anyone making me doing or watching something I'm uncomfortable with or don't believe in. But that was ridiculous. I think if I were you, I would've had a follow up discussion with my roommate if that came up. In what way does me bringing friends over impose on his religious beliefs?

Ugh, well, think on the bright side. In many ways that whole "leaving" stunt he did was better than what it could've been. He could've done something worse had he had a more violent disposition, and quite frankly, a passive aggressive bigot leave is much more preferable.

Here's to luck with any future roommates to you my sexy charming friend!

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@-ty- - Good job. Hopefully she's re-thinking her mindset? Nice to see you again, btw. Welcome back.

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Hey guys,

I have returned to the PC, after what has been nearly 6 months, maybe more.
Not much new has happened in my life though; although, it seems like my political science courses discussions have been gearing toward some LGBTQ-related issues due to the upcoming election.

This one girl actually yelled out, "you know what, I just don't care; it's wrong because I know it's wrong," after I pointed out her flawed propositions in a ten minute long rebuttal, since she never took the time to formulate an opinion rather than restating a learned prejudice. After she said that though, I just kept my composure and smiled and said, "well, you just proved my point; ultimately you are saying something is wrong using the fact that it is wrong to prove that point. That is a circular argument, which is derived from a prejudice rather than a philosophical argument." After that, she just glared down at her desk in anguish and didn't participate in any of the class discussion for the remaining hour of class.

Oh boy, I can just tell this is going to be a great year. XD
It always makes me so sad to see young people with such prejudice. I wonder where they get it from. Older people I sort of understand because back when they first had learned about the fact that gay people existed it was probably something that no one knew much about and there were a lot of misconceptions, but today? How does someone not having a kid in their school who is gay, or a family member, or a neighbor, or at the very least see someone on television or other media?

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Prejudice is learned. The older people who don't have the brain power to overcome their own bigotry can't help but spread it to the younger generation. The ones that allow it to stick are the ones that are weak-willed and impressionable, and should be pitied for that.

Also, it's great to have you back, ty!
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There's a lot of ways a young person can learn to prejudge other people (especially homosexuals). It's not only the parents or grandparents. Media and friends can affect someone's brain as much as stubborn parents.
For example, if someones best friend is extremely homophobic, the same's to be expected from that someone (especially someone who is weak-willed/stupid)

Also, prejudice comes with stupidity. There are a lot of stupid people out there, who think that everything they do is awesome, and anything different is wrong and should be hated. Also, it's almost impossible to make a stupid person change their mind about anything! If a stupid person believes that milk is black, you couldn't change his mind even by showing him milk... yeah, a stupid example, but you get what I'm trying to say.

I believe that at least 80% of people are as stupid as I just described. If not even more...

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Good to be back Kiyoshi, Scarf, and Andy :)

Yeah, this girl said she went to a baptist church twice a week. There, I am sure she gets a regular condemnation of homosexuality; although the bible makes very little, if any claims about homosexuality. Her parents probably solidify that viewpoint as well; she mentioned her parents were avid church-goers and were also part of the republican party (and got her participating with them).

Not to point fingers at either Republicans or Baptists, but the likeliness that someone will become homophobic increases dramatically if one grows up in a household that is extremely right-wing and follows the Baptist faith. So, in a way, she might not be homophobic if she were raised by a non-religious or tolerant religious family and/or if her parents were libertarian/democrat/independent. She would actually be highly likely to support gay rights if she was adopted by gay parents.

This all sort of ties into the idea of freewill. We are placed in a certain circumstance by birth, that we have no choice in. Factors included: where we are born, ethnicity/race, sex, gender, sexual orientation, medical conditions, religion, economic status, among other factors.

Our upbringing is not really much of a choice, so it's hard to change someone's ideals when they are ingrained into them. As Scarf mentioned, the number one reason why people switch their views on gay rights and homosexuality is discovering that a close relative is gay. Usually the impact can be gauged by how close the relationship is; if a second cousin is gay, then it may have little effect, and if their sibling or child is gay, it may have an enormous effect. All-in-all, gay rights support has soared simply because more people are able to come out than ever as gay rights and gay television/media is not being swept under the rug, and instead, is being integrated into our culture. IF I were born in the 50's or earlier, I most likely would not come out. The amount of people who are coming out really has legimized the concern for the those with close gay family members and the general population at large.

In short, I can't exactly hold her accountable for the upbringing she had, but I can try to make her think more logically in order to make her consider whether her ideals on homosexuality (from her upbringing) have negative effects on society. I totally keep the angry we're-queer-and-we're-here persona under complete wraps, since that is absolutely not effective on homophobic-types. I don't know if many, if any of the people in class know I am gay either; I would rather them not for the sake of the argument, so they don't think I am biased; although, my professor that I had from a previous class knows that I am gay.

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In short, I can't exactly hold her accountable for the upbringing she had, but I can try to make her think more logically in order to make her consider whether her ideals on homosexuality (from her upbringing) have negative effects on society. I totally keep the angry we're-queer-and-we're-here persona under complete wraps, since that is absolutely not effective on homophobic-types. I don't know if many, if any of the people in class know I am gay either; I would rather them not for the sake of the argument, so they don't think I am biased; although, my professor that I had from a previous class knows that I am gay.
It's funny. If you want to get people to understand your point of view you can't use the obvious and simple argument that "hey, this doesn't affect you in any way so let people do what they want" because it's so simple an idea that they just bat it away like a fly, like it can't be valid because it's so simple.

That part I bolded there, that's the kind of thing that irritates me to no end. Just because someone is gay doesn't mean they can't make a coherent argument without ever referencing their own sexuality, but you'd get dismissed by a lot of people if you were supportive and then people found out you're gay.

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Srsly, this acting is so bad I could spew. Also, the message is terrible, backwards, etc.

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I need to ask a question which I may know the answer too but maybe my answer is the wrong one. Ok so I'm trans and all but have not gotten the operation. However I wore skinny jeans and a girl Hot Topic shirt today to school today and did get some stares but a bunch of kids in the cafe just called me out on it. Now here is what I don't get. They were boys with pants pulled down and you could see their boxers and girls hardly wearing anything to cover up and yet they call me out for wearing girl clothes. Is it they are just stupid and ignorant or should I not dress as a girl in public without the operation. I mean I met some very supportive people about the whole thing today too but wondering if doing it at school is to much compared to just doing it at home or around the town/city. Sorry if it was worded wrong

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I need to ask a question which I may know the answer too but maybe my answer is the wrong one. Ok so I'm trans and all but have not gotten the operation. However I wore skinny jeans and a girl Hot Topic shirt today to school today and did get some stares but a bunch of kids in the cafe just called me out on it. Now here is what I don't get. They were boys with pants pulled down and you could see their boxers and girls hardly wearing anything to cover up and yet they call me out for wearing girl clothes. Is it they are just stupid and ignorant or should I not dress as a girl in public without the operation. I mean I met some very supportive people about the whole thing today too but wondering if doing it at school is to much compared to just doing it at home or around the town/city. Sorry if it was worded wrong
This is a situation with no perfect option :(

But here are my thoughts; I think some other members might be more able to give this type of advice.

Assuming you don't live in an accepting city like New York City, San Francisco, Fort Lauder-dale, Ann Arbor, Seattle, among several other cities, here is what I would do, or suggest for you to do.

If you feel as if you will be physically harmed for dressing more feminine, I would say ride-it-out; you don't have to dress particularly masculine or feminine, more neutral attire might be a better choice for you while in public places that are not accepting. Of course, your life is your first and foremost concern.

I know it feels cowardly and unfair, but it may be your only option until you are able to move. I know it is not right for anyone to judge you or harm you because of your gender identity, but if there is no safe-way of going about expressing your true gender in a given situation, then it may have to be a concession on your part to dress less feminine.

Although finances may not always permit, I think moving to a LGBT-friendly city and/or neighborhood would be the best solution you can make for yourself.
Similarly, if you are to have several corrective surgeries, it may help your ability to go about your life with less fear of being harassed for expressing yourself. Of course, that is very expensive as well.

I know this is not much, if any, help for your situation; let's see if anyone else has something to add or has differing advice.


@ Scarf -
Those videos LITERALLY seem like parody videos. XD
I absolutely love the dramatic piano music, along with the 3rd grade acting.