The Rainbow Connection [LGBTS Club] Page 138

Started by Shining Raichu May 22nd, 2011 5:52 AM
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EGKangaroo

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Well, I've certainly never experienced any thoughts like that myself, but based on my own experience with discovering my sexuality... I think you're taking it too seriously. I drove myself crazy trying to find the perfect exact definition of my identity but... it just... doesn't matter. lol

It took me a long time to realize that, but it's a lot easier to just accept you as you, and not think too far into it... though I suppose I'm already who I want to be, unlike you or transgendered people, so I guess I can't relate well enough to understand what you're going through.

I also don't believe in any past lives or spirits, so I can't help but assume it's all in your head, so it seems to me that it'd be best to let it go... you're not going to have the opportunity to get human to kangaroo surgery any time soon. lol

I mean, I feel like I'm being really hypocritical in saying that, since I support transgendered people, but it just seems like it'd be healthier to try and let it go. Of course, take that with a grain of salt, considering I know nothing about the subject, but I assume you wouldn't have posted it here if you weren't looking for second opinions.
Thing is that I am not necessarily struggling trying to find my identity any longer, I pretty much found it already for as long as no major changes show up in my life that make me reconsider my values. Only problem is, now I have to be honest about it, which I fortunately was just then. I do not think I am taking it too seriously either. It's the exploration of the self we're talking about, and I deem it worth it to put every last strain of effort into it to make sure that I can create the me that I feel best inside of. Everyone creates, and there's something that everyone creates, and that's the self. It's one of the most intense and most beautiful creations that anyone can work on. And everyone gets to create just one, so my goal is to make it count.

And I don't think you quite understood what I meant when trying to compare myself to otherkin, I do believe that this is all in my head, I specifically noted that I did -not- feel the same way as they do surrounding this issue. I don't religionise my feelings, I don't associate it with reincarnation, karma, or any mumbo-jumbo that would be the cause of how I feel. It is in my head, of course, alongside every bit of meaning I've assigned to the universe and every value I hold. Nor am I really specifically looking to change my physical form in any way. I feel strangely at comfort just knowing, and accepting this thing about me, not necessarily followed by a course of action to make the subjective thought to something objective.

But like you said, I ought to take it with a grain of salt, but I figured I should at least clear up some of the confusion there.
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"Three lives of a gamer: the first'll be your best, because you can always restart if it isn't; the second pales in comparison, and the game will cheat you out; but the third one's going to be better, because it gets do or die from then."

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*snip*
I can sort of see what you're going through as I've had many similar feelings, only with my gender instead of my species. What you're saying isn't offensive to trans people. Or shouldn't be. I can see why someone would be offended though. For a trans person it's still a struggle to have acceptance of even the basic idea that they're one gender while their body signifies a different gender. It can seem like someone co-opting their identity, and while I don't think that's what's happening, you can't expect the wider world to see it that way. The wider world might see someone saying (at least in their simplified view) "I'm really a kangaroo" and react badly to that, then similarly react badly to a trans person, saying things like "You're not really a girl. You're as crazy as that person who thinks they're a kangaroo."

I've no idea where the line between 'legitimate feeling' and 'mental issue that needs fixing' lies. I'm not one to judge. I guess I would just hope that you can find some place where you're comfortable with who you are, and it seems like you're there.

Wow, I was like the fourth member to join this thing, but I haven't been really active since. I'm glad to see it's grown so huge! =O

Well, to reintroduce myself, the name's Jessica, and I'm MTF transgender, pre-everything. I've often been wavering on this see-saw, with one end being hiding who I am forever, and the other being doing something concrete about it. I've mostly been on the latter end in recent times, though I find I often put too much emphasis on what other people think.

Anyway I'd love to get back into discussions on this community, and in the wider PokéCommunity as well. The fact that this thread has grown so much is proof enough that we are not alone. =3
Welcome back. Thought maybe you'd left PC for good like so many people have. I hope you're not suffering needlessly by hiding things. But hey, you've got this place again to let things out and be yourself.

Shining Raichu

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I've often wondered why furries get such a bad rap myself. One of my roommates is a furry, and he has all the porn pictures on his laptop and my other roommate gives him a load of crap about it (affectionately and all in good fun, of course). I guess it's just another example of how people are too concerned with how other people get turned on.

As for your acceptance of self, EG, I'm really happy for you! Being honest about it might draw you some odd looks, but who cares really. There are people out there who will just be like "You wanna be a kangaroo? You be a kangaroo, good for you" and those are the kind of people you need to associate yourself with :P.

I've actually looked into otherkin a bit on Tumblr and while I do support them in their endeavour to be their happiest self, from what I've seen they do seem to encourage the hate toward them. They seem to try to be obnoxious just so that they can start internet fights. That's just what I've observed anyway. I realise you're not otherkin, that was just a tangential thought lol
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Hey guys,
I know I'm rather inactive, I apolize for that.

I'm extremely happy right now because I've come to fully accept the fact that I'm bisexual. I've been in denial for... all my life, actually, but during those recent months, I've learned that it's ok. Now, I feel so relieved and I wouldn't change a thing about who I am. It's like a big burden fell off my shoulders.

I just wanted to post this because I thought it might give hope to people, who are still trying to accept themselves.

And sorry for being off topic.

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Hey guys,
I know I'm rather inactive, I apolize for that.

I'm extremely happy right now because I've come to fully accept the fact that I'm bisexual. I've been in denial for... all my life, actually, but during those recent months, I've learned that it's ok. Now, I feel so relieved and I wouldn't change a thing about who I am. It's like a big burden fell off my shoulders.

I just wanted to post this because I thought it might give hope to people, who are still trying to accept themselves.

And sorry for being off topic.
Hey LaVida. <3

I hope you're back for sure now! If not, I hope you will be soon. :]

I'm so glad you posted that because, like you said, it does give people the confidence and hope they need to be able to come to grips with their sexuality. Although I haven't really questioned my sexuality ever in my life, I know many people do/have, and it can be a very strenuous process for any person to endure. It definitely is okay to be anything you want, really. We are so tied up with believing that we must follow everything society has declared is appropriate and within the norm, but that, frankly, should not be the way things work. Nevertheless, I'm so glad you've found your way around those "regulations" and are happy with who you are. I know I certainly would never change who I am, nor would I ever be able to, anyways.

So, I congratulate you! You've put a smile on my face, that's for sure. :]

Hope to see you around from time to time!

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I've often wondered why furries get such a bad rap myself. One of my roommates is a furry, and he has all the porn pictures on his laptop and my other roommate gives him a load of crap about it (affectionately and all in good fun, of course). I guess it's just another example of how people are too concerned with how other people get turned on.
. . . lololol, yeah, gotta love the furries.
And, that wasn't exactly sarcasm. xD
My sister likes to poke fun at my being a "furry-freak" . . . I wouldn't go so far as to say that, but yes, I do quite enjoy them, lol.

Anyways
I'm about to go off topic
but I don't even know exactly what the current topic is, soooooooo

A little while ago (about two hours ago, actually) my English class was in our school library to start picking topics and doing research on our Freshman Thesis Papers. To start off, I wasn't sure what I wanted to do as my subject, but the two that came to mind, of course, were violence in video games and all of the wonderful topics surrounding the LGBTQLONGACRONYMHERE community. My friend decided to do Teen Suicide, so she kind of dragged me along to search for books before I could seriously decide what topic I wanted to do. So, while we were back there, I decided on gay marriage.

While we were selecting books, another girl from our class walked up to search for some feminist-women'srights-whatever books, because she was debating doing that as her topic, but she wasn't sure how she wanted to argue it. We had all started to talk, and I was having a bit of trouble finding the books on homosexuality, so I voiced that little issue. The one girl, whom we shall call . . . uh . . . Hawkgirl (xD no reason for that whatsoever) asked what my topic was. I responded, and then she asked if I was for or against it. I said "for" and she said something like "Thank God" followed by a vivid description of how my neck would have been cut and body shoved in the corner if I'd said against. (It was actually funny, and she's not violent. She's actually the kind of genius girl that's into all of the debate stuff, lol.)

Blahblahblah, I found my books and we all kind of sat there, searching for the right books and flipping through them. Eventually Hawkgirl decided to do Transgender persons as her topic. We got into this random conversation that I don't really remember and eventually we somehow got to her saying that she was mostly so adamant about this stuff because she was pansexual. (before she'd said that, she had asked me if I'd had a Tumblr because I knew terms like "pansexual" and "demisexual", which most people don't seem to xD) She was unsure about saying that to us, and later commented on how now only six people in the school knew, and her family didn't. When she was in the middle of the whole "oh don't tell anyone now I'm embarrassed" type of speech, I was all like "it's okay, I'm gay, lol"

I said that with my friend standing right next to me, and she was like "What?! *gasp* Really? *freakouttime*" and such and so on. Now, I had never really tried to hide it from her. I'd actually stated it a few times, but people just thought I was kidding, lol. I had even planned to introduce her to my ex at our school play a few days before, but stuff got screwed up and I was delayed to see it for an extra night.

Lol. The stuff you can learn when you get into random conversations like this. I might have an idea on a few more LGBTQLONGACRONYMHERE in my school now, lol. It's all sooooooooo long. Pfft.

Anyways, that's it, really. d:

Now I get to read a bunch of books on homosexuality to take notes on and stuff, lol. The first of which is What Causes Sexual Orientation? Genetics, Biology, Psychology which sounds interesting and has a cute cover, lol.
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@Nakuzami: For some reason, that whole thing just made me laugh really loud. *derp*

Also,
Ahh... The wonders of unrequited love from both genders...
I could get rejected twice as much! *whoo*

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Lol, yeah, it was rather amusing. xD

Hmph.
Unrequited love.
I hate that little beast.
"Sure, there're probably infinite dimensions, but I'm with you in this one, so why would I try to find them?"
~Neil Hilborn


FenrirDarkWolf

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Lol, yeah, it was rather amusing. xD

Hmph.
Unrequited love.
I hate that little beast.
Yep, hate it too...
Oh well, off to drawing anthro's and playing Pokemon all day.

Esper

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With all the buildup in that story I was expecting something much more dramatic to happen at the end. But I guess since this is real life and not a movie it's okay for things to just end normally with no one getting their feelings all twisted in a knot.

Nakuzami

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I know, it's disappointing.

Wouldn't it be awesome if life liked to act like television, throwing the most depressingly tragic and unrealistic crap at each of us, only to end in either our happy endings or redeeming deaths? Lol

But hey
now I have more information to walk around school with
and I know a person
that I want to ask something
so maybe I'll have more to say tomorrow. xD
"Sure, there're probably infinite dimensions, but I'm with you in this one, so why would I try to find them?"
~Neil Hilborn


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I know, it's disappointing.

Wouldn't it be awesome if life liked to act like television, throwing the most depressingly tragic and unrealistic crap at each of us, only to end in either our happy endings or redeeming deaths? Lol

But hey
now I have more information to walk around school with
and I know a person
that I want to ask something
so maybe I'll have more to say tomorrow. xD
That story was rather awesome to read, and I'm glad all ended well. It's not every day you hear these types of stories ending well, especially when these situations occur in high school (I'm assuming you're in high school). ;]

And it also seems to be getting good, too! You better let us know what happens! xD

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So I think I'm falling for my roommate, and I doubt very much that he feels the same way about me.

This is a problem.
This is exactly how I felt when I fell for my band mates...
And they were dating each other at the time.

EGKangaroo

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Hmm, that's problematic. I'm by no means experienced in dealing with unrequited love, or pretty much being in love with anyone I know to be honest, but I think the first and most important thing to do is to just be an amazing person to him, which shouldn't be too difficult for you. It's a little step, but you kinda need a way to tell for sure how interested he is in you without freaking him out.
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"Three lives of a gamer: the first'll be your best, because you can always restart if it isn't; the second pales in comparison, and the game will cheat you out; but the third one's going to be better, because it gets do or die from then."

Shining Raichu

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I'm already doing my best to be my best around him at all times lol. The thing is we kind of have a friends with benefits thing going on but he's much more confident and social than I am so I'm pretty sure that's all he sees it as, and while that's pretty awesome in its own right I want more.

But again, he's been out way longer than I have and he's got a lot more life experience (socially speaking, not sexually... well sexually too probably but that's not what I'm getting at) and a lot more people in his life, so I'm sure to him I'm just one among the crowd.
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Andy, your situation sounds exactly like all the 'friends with benefits' stories I've heard, which honestly aren't that many, but still. One isn't interested in romance and the other falls. My friend went through this and it was hard to watch because it's like watching someone with unrequited love only more.

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I can't say I've ever found myself in your situation Andy, but I'll have to agree that it's a hard position to be in. All I can suggest it telling him how you feel, and see what happens from there. I know it's easier said than done, but I think it's better than staying where you are. I wish you the best.

So I've been sitting around trying to come up with a topic for my gender politics essay, and my instinct keeps telling me to focus on feminism in the lgbt community, or with transgender folks specifically. I'm thinking of writing about intersectionality, and the problems faced by transfeminists in the larger feminist community. Some of the excerpts from books on the subject have been pretty insulting, like in this Wikipedia article. =/

Though if I write this, I'll most likely be outing myself to my marker, and possibly even my discussion group. I have butterflies regarding both issues, but generally I don't really care. I'm also well aware of the big ol' library of research materials in the lgbt centre at my university....I just haven't outed myself to anyone at school yet, let alone walk through those doors. I'm hoping this'll be a perfect opportunity to do just that, unless of course the butterflies take over and I decide to instead write about women's parties in Nigeria or something. xD

Esper

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Okay, this is just my own preference, but I think you should totally go with the feminism angle. I know I'd like to see some of those things in the wikipedia article questioned and refuted. I mean, there are so many gaps in the arguments they just ask to be taken on.

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@ Nakuzami:
THAT STORY WAS BRILLIANT :D and so funny and I loved the happy ending. Are you a writer? You sound like one. Either that or you've just got an instinctive grasp of all le tricks :)

@ EGKangaroo:
It's the exploration of the self we're talking about, and I deem it worth it to put every last strain of effort into it to make sure that I can create the me that I feel best inside of.
Nicely put, and I'm in complete agreement with the sentiment. :)

More broadly... you seem to be a damn sight better adjusted than the vast majority of people I know, self included, and a lot more comfortable and confident. I gots nothing but admiration and support for ya. Also, your discussion of facticity was *fascinating*. I've never really delved far into Sartre et al, but after what you said, I might just have to rectify that.

It's the weirdest thing, isn't it? To take your example, 'a man without legs would be the happiest person in the world' if we finally invented robotic prosthetics. So my first thought was that you were arguing that that isn't a negative thing - because the possibility of that happiness would be extinguished had he been born with legs.

Now, the obvious response to that is, 'what, so you're arguing we should all be born minus our limbs, that way we could maximise *potential* happiness?' Which is, of course, about as much use as potential wealth. (Namely jacksh*t.) But, if I'm reading you correctly that's not at all what the existentialist argument is.

It is instead that there are some things we want, but can never have. And further, had we been born in possession of said things, we'd be radically different creatures - perhaps unrecognisable. So we'd gain everything but lose everything at the same time.

I guess the crux of the matter is this. Sex changes are about changing the body to suit the mind - but in so doing, you don't lose anything about you, which is lovely. But species changes would be so much more - you'd end up losing yourself, essentially. You, wonderful, mysterious, complicated creature that you are, you couldn't fit into a kangaroo's mind. So, exactly as you say, 'the facticity wouldn't be there anymore. [You'd] just...well, be a kangaroo, and that kangaroo would be none the wiser.' I might hesitantly add (without meaning to cause any offence at all!) that the kangaroo wouldn't be you, either. So you're genuinely better off being you - in fact, it doesn't even make sense to say 'you' would be better off as a kangaroo, because 'you' could not ever become a kangaroo without losing the essence of 'yourself'.

(Doesn't mean that one day we might not be able to put a human mind into a kangaroo's body! And that would be pretty awesome. But I guess what I'm saying is that you couldn't put a human mind into a kangaroo's brain.)

(Um. Obviously.)

...Reading that back, I've basically just repeated you, argued a point nobody was questioning and come to the triumphant conclusion that kangaroos are not human. Jeez. I've half a mind to delete this... but hell, it's late, and maybe someone will get some use out of it.

(Or maybe not.)

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EGKangaroo

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Yeah, you kinda made the exact same point as I did, except you made it sound like a counter-argument to itself, thus not counter-arguing it anymore or...something? Just think of it as a dog eating its own tail; It's simpler that way.

There are of course problems with wanting to become a "full" kangaroo, which'd be impossible if you've already been a human. That kinda comes with the mind-body dilemma, if I am correct. Since the mind by itself is a physical thing, that wouldn't really fit into a "full" version of the creature without that thing not being "full" anymore. The physical mind is the thing where we store our 'true' essence, you could say.

Also, I wasn't particularly arguing that we ought to be born without legs. Some people lose their legs during accidents. When that happens, and they've known what having legs is like and can only live a sincere life when they have those legs back, then we can say, yeah, getting prosthetic limbs is a very positive thing. Let's say that we're all born without legs, we might end up with a whole wide group of people who don't really go through the despair of having lost their legs and not being able to fulfill some condition to live their lives authentically. There are some (usually most of them) people who are just fine with the gender, species, physique, whatever they're born with, so...it's really one of those issues where we just oughta be happy when the veil of despair is finally lifted. Or, well, to better explain it, in the book Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep, when Deckard found a bunch of toads he thought to be extinct, which were Mercer's favourite animals, he learns after a while that the toads were actually mechanical, and he spoke the pretty well-known sentence "The electric things have their life too. Paltry as those lives are." The same way, if we were all born without legs for the sake of the potential, we will just end up with a whole bunch of legless people who'd be all like "'kay, cool."

As you said yourself, were we born exactly the way we want to be, we'd be radically different creatures, with a completely different desire of what to be, and we'd be back to square one. And even when you later become what you want, you can't fully become it, as though you've been that for as long as you can remember, because the past needs to be carried with you, otherwise, it's not your essence that is living your dream, it's something else. I think that can be compared to one person with memory loss and a criminal history, and another person without memory loss and that same criminal history. The first one will be able to lead a pretty 'normal' life; though he's not taking that past essence with him, while the other one might say that his past is trapping him in his life of crime. And hell, even with sex changes, part of the thing is that we're perfectly able to transfer a male mind to a female body and vice versa, though with that, we literally have a male mind (though its gender is female and it does have the strongest desire to be female) inside a female body, even in this case, the facticity remains, that essence of a male not feeling at comfort with what he is born as still needs to be taken along with them if they get a sex change operation. Every human mind is fantastically different too. We can't want to be the perfect copy of someone/something else and at the exact same time wish that we're ourselves. I would never want to get rid of that part of myself that found these wishes I have and the solace I've found along with them.

So, yeah, I am probably just bounding (not a kangaroo pun at all, nossir) around from topic to topic to basically say what you said, which is that you repeated what I said as well. So we are just repeating repetitions now, which is always fun to do.

Also, as much as I like the philosophy, I can't stomach Sartre's comparison of science with a type of bad faith and all the silliness of people claiming that analytic and continental philosophy are incompatible with each other. Maybe I'd be cool with Kierkegaard. Or maybe I should just follow whatever I like myself and name it sexistentialism. *nods*
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"And they tell me there are people who are normal, but I don't know what they look like because I've never met one. And neither have you, so why not compare yourself to real people instead?"
"Three lives of a gamer: the first'll be your best, because you can always restart if it isn't; the second pales in comparison, and the game will cheat you out; but the third one's going to be better, because it gets do or die from then."

Nakuzami

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I'm already doing my best to be my best around him at all times lol. The thing is we kind of have a friends with benefits thing going on but he's much more confident and social than I am so I'm pretty sure that's all he sees it as, and while that's pretty awesome in its own right I want more.

But again, he's been out way longer than I have and he's got a lot more life experience (socially speaking, not sexually... well sexually too probably but that's not what I'm getting at) and a lot more people in his life, so I'm sure to him I'm just one among the crowd.
Last I heard, you had a boyfriend. I think. Perhaps I should check back here more often. .-.
But . . . I know the feeling.
Still trying to get out of it.
It sucks, although my situation seems . . . backwards compared to yours.
Personally, I would try and voice my feelings before he went off and found someone else.
If that doesn't work . . . then, at least you can say you tried. Dragging something like that out only makes it worse. . . .

Andy, your situation sounds exactly like all the 'friends with benefits' stories I've heard, which honestly aren't that many, but still. One isn't interested in romance and the other falls. My friend went through this and it was hard to watch because it's like watching someone with unrequited love only more.
Ahaha, yeah. That kind of feeling sucks. A lot.

@ Nakuzami:
THAT STORY WAS BRILLIANT :D and so funny and I loved the happy ending. Are you a writer? You sound like one. Either that or you've just got an instinctive grasp of all le tricks :)
Um, yes, actually, I am. xD Although I wasn't really trying to sound like one with that post, lol.

The only thing that's happened that relates to that story in any way is the fact that we're in the library every class for the paper I mentioned, and it just so happens that one of the two people in my school (in my life, really) that I strongly dislike happens to be there with his class at the same time, every time. I don't hate him (but I hate the only other one of the two with a burning passion . . . for reasons. REASONS.) but I seriously don't like being that close to him for eighty minutes every other day. Granted, I just noticed him last class and he doesn't really come up to me or anything. I noticed him because I had been looking around for a moment for a stapler, and he was sitting back in his chair, facing away from the computer and at me, giving me this . . . annoying look, along with a few of his friends. The look was mainly annoying because it was on his face. xD
(^Random pointless update. Nothing else exciting has occurred, really. Although, word about myself has spread to a few more people, lol. That reminds me . . . )
The other day my friend came up to me and tried to "claim" me as his gay friend, saying that the other girl I hang out with already has enough gay friends. xD Another one of the girls I hang out with also claimed me as her gay friend, saying that I wasn't a . . . uh, annoying like the other gays in the school she knows. x3 It's been rather amusing, actually.
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~Neil Hilborn


Barrels

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11.3 Years
Let's say that we're all born without legs, we might end up with a whole wide group of people who don't really go through the despair of having lost their legs and not being able to fulfill some condition to live their lives authentically.
Yeah, exactly! It's like the alien example - say there's a species somewhere in the universe that are absolutely identical to we humans, except they have zaks. Now. We don't know what zaks are, we've never encountered them as humans, but what we do know is this: the aliens have them, and we don't.

But should we get upset about not having zaks? Course not. Because there are an infinite number of attributes we or any other object could have, but don't. Some good, some bad, but here's the thang:
Were we born exactly the way we want to be, we'd be radically different creatures, with a completely different desire of what we want to be, and we'd be back to square one.
We're never happy, we sentient beasties. :P Unless you're born perfect, there'll always be something you wish you could change - but you can't be born perfect, because 'perfection' is an entirely subjective concept which would necessarily change the moment you became it. (Because you, the subject would have changed, so your conception of perfection would have changed, too.) And that's even without questioning whether anyone should, could or does want to be perfect in the first place.

Or maybe I should just follow whatever I like myself and name it sexistentialism. *nods*
YES. Can I *please* be the second ever sexistentialist? :D (Also, thank you for teaching me all this stuff! Iz awesome, now I know what facticity means! :) My horizons have been all broadened and sh*t. ;))

EDIT: Also, @ Nakusami :)

He probably just really hates staplers. ;) I know that whenever I see an ominously extended metal device with the capacity to fire tiny strips of metal through innocent paper, I get all tense and jumpy. (Though maybe that's just me.)

And haha, those sound like funny reactions. :) Good ones, too! You sound like a pretty awesomely confident person, too :D coming out at 14, that's amazing. I'd doff my cap if I wore one.

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FenrirDarkWolf

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Seen November 10th, 2013
Posted July 13th, 2013
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10.3 Years
I still feel very conflicted about his "coming out" thing...
I want to do it so bad but, I just never can....
I feel like a coward...

Hann

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Seen October 8th, 2020
Posted August 30th, 2020
352 posts
11.2 Years
I still feel very conflicted about his "coming out" thing...
I want to do it so bad but, I just never can....
I feel like a coward...
I know the feeling. I've been thinking more and more about it lately (it was actually one of my or my only New Year's resolutions) and sometimes I get so close and then I just back out again. The one thing I noticed is how many chances I actually get, but maybe that's just because it keeps running through my mind.
So, I also have quite a hard time about 'coming out' to anyone, but just remember that you're not alone in this. Just believe it'll work out and don't get too stuck on it. I find that sometimes you just have to be able to tell yourself that it wasn't meant to be told now and to move on to the next moment (don't really know if this 'advice' counts as I'm still stuck in the closet, but meh, I tried).