The Rainbow Connection [LGBTS Club] Page 53

Started by Shining Raichu May 22nd, 2011 5:52 AM
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Posted February 27th, 2012
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Is it enough to trust someone before sex? Do you think that is appropriate or not to ask a potential sexual partner for STD/HIV testing results?
I would say that asking for paperwork is going a step too far, but just asking is fine in my book. Of course, if you're in a committed relationship and want to have unprotected sex, then I would say you should both go in and get tested at the same time.

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DAT SNARKITUDE

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Seen September 2nd, 2012
Posted December 27th, 2011
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Is it enough to trust someone before sex? Do you think that is appropriate or not to ask a potential sexual partner for STD/HIV testing results?
Pretty much what Charlie said. Everyone has the right to be sure they're not gonna catch something.

I will help revive it with moar questions!

Here is a very simple question for the gay/bi/etc. people:

What was the first time you recall being attracted to the same sex? How did it make you feel?

And for our small amount of trans and genderqueer peeps:

What was the first time you recall clearly identifying as not your birth gender?

Basically when did y'all find out you weren't like the other boys & girls :3

(Straight Allies can just say their early reactions to LGBT stuff I guess.)

#077: Ponyta - The Fire Horse Pokémon
Fire ~ Field eggs
3'03" ~ 66.1lbs ~ 50/50

Its hooves are 10 times harder
than diamonds. It can trample
anything completely flat in moments.

Abilities: Run Away or Flash Fire or Flame Body
Moves: Growl, Flame Wheel, Stomp, Agility
Locations: Pokémon Mansion

Cry

Other names:

jp: ポニータ (Ponyta)
de: Ponita
fr: Ponyta
cn: 小火馬 (Xiǎohuǒmǎ)


TornZero

Resident Yuri-ism Cult Leader

Age 29
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In your pantry, eatin' your delicious cake.
Seen September 10th, 2013
Posted July 10th, 2013
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Is it enough to trust someone before sex? Do you think that is appropriate or not to ask a potential sexual partner for STD/HIV testing results?

I wouldn't go to the extremes of needing paperwork, but more like assurance that they're clean. Everyone deserves to be informed about their potential partner's health. However, if I can't be fully sure, I would go in and be tested along with them. (Though I would hate being diseased myself when I'm still a virgin. o_o)

What was the first time you recall being attracted to the same sex? How did it make you feel?

I believe most of my physical attraction comes from my imagination since I can find it pleasurable in thought being stimulated by someone of either sex, so... yeah, I can't really answer this very accurately past "after puberty hit me."

What was the first time you recall clearly identifying as not your birth gender?

Around the time I was in primary school (so between six and eight years old), where I MUCH more easily made friends with girls than I did with the boys around me (and I still do); getting told I was different from the girls and should be making friends with boys just made me feel extremely out of place.
With the unnecessary berating from my family (mostly mother and older brother) about me being girly, I started asking myself, "Why am I a boy anyways?"

The only ways I ever find myself "identifying" with my birth gender are enjoying the physical advantage (although only slight in my case except for some strenuous exceptions) that I wouldn't have as a girl, and the annoying off-day I just feel more "manly".

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-Jared-

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Northern California
Seen June 16th, 2022
Posted June 14th, 2014
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14.2 Years
Is it enough to trust someone before sex? Do you think that is appropriate or not to ask a potential sexual partner for STD/HIV testing results?
Well, I am personally a fairly paranoid person, so if my partner knew that about me, hopefully he wouldn't find it weird to go get tested just for my sake. I wouldn't find it weird at all if he asked me, so I would hope he would feel the same way for my sake. :\

What was the first time you recall being attracted to the same sex? How did it make you feel?
Back in 8th grade, for me. My 8th grade class went on a trip to a water park, so it was my first encounter, really, seeing others guys without shirts on, so I was like "Huh. Me likey." xD At the time, I knew I was supposed to find girls attractive, but i figured that maybe it was normal to find guys attractive as well, we just weren't supposed to say so. So I just figured I would wait and see when I would find a girl I was attracted to. It never happened. :\

-ty-

Don't Ask, Just Tell

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Posted December 22nd, 2012
792 posts
13.6 Years
What was the first time you recall being attracted to the same sex? How did it make you feel?
Wow it seems like everyone knew about their sexuality much later than I did; I was like in 4th grade when I knew I was attracted to the same sex. Although I never came out until I was 18. At the time, I was confused since I never heard of the concept of homosexuality, and barely understood the concept of sex.

As far as STD's go, I do not even know if my ex was honest or not; he ended up lying about everything. Although there was protection, I just don't know for sure.

In the future, I will not have any physical relationship(beyond kissing/cuddling) with someone until I know for sure that he is the right guy. But I think that it would be fair to ask if we both got checked out at a clinic to confirm STD's. I think it would be highly unfair to ask your partner to get tested, and not get tested yourself.

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Esper

California
Seen June 30th, 2018
Posted June 30th, 2018
Is it enough to trust someone before sex? Do you think that is appropriate or not to ask a potential sexual partner for STD/HIV testing results?

Totally necessary to ask if someone has any STIs and still quite appropriate to ask for some kind of proof. I'll admit that I have not done the later, however. I would not be against doing it if someone asked. You're at the beginning of a relationship so you don't know each other that well, probably, so this is something that helps build trust.

What was the first time you recall being attracted to the same sex? How did it make you feel? What was the first time you recall clearly identifying as not your birth gender?

Gonna answer these together. When I was very young (I can't remember exactly, maybe 6?) I can remember playing with dolls and pretending to play dress up and other girly things so I've always had and known I wasn't quite gendered properly, but it wasn't until much later that I even understood that trans people existed and it was only in high school that I was able to really admit anything to myself.

Since I wasn't clear with myself who I was I can't say that my first attractions were really same-sex or opposite-sex, but I first was attracted to girls in the 6th grade and I can only remember first being conscious of attraction to boys around the start of 9th grade. Some time after that I cam to realize that I found some trans/androgynous people attractive, too.

How did I feel? Pretty weird and lousy mostly. I was one of those people who could have used an "It Gets Better" campaign at the time.

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DAT SNARKITUDE

Age 29
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Any ol' place really
Seen September 2nd, 2012
Posted December 27th, 2011
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14.8 Years
I would answer my own questions, but honestly my whole discovery experience was so vague and uneventful that there's not much to say. Basically, there was never much surprise as to being attracted to girls since at the time I thought "oh that's normal". And when I found out I was trans it pretty much started as "my body is so weird idk I just want it to change I don't need to live as a girl though" (physical dysphoria alone) and progressed rather quickly to coming out of the closet to myself and saying "well now I'm going to be a girl kthnx" and I was quite quick to accept myself. I realised gender identity feelings way later than most people, like fourteen/fifteen and I didn't have a very long "I'm gonna disregard this / shove it deep down inside and stifle it" phase like other transpeepz I know.
The only interesting thing is that I came to identify as a lesbian by watching yuri-themed animes and realising how good they made me felt, and not in a sexual way.

#077: Ponyta - The Fire Horse Pokémon
Fire ~ Field eggs
3'03" ~ 66.1lbs ~ 50/50

Its hooves are 10 times harder
than diamonds. It can trample
anything completely flat in moments.

Abilities: Run Away or Flash Fire or Flame Body
Moves: Growl, Flame Wheel, Stomp, Agility
Locations: Pokémon Mansion

Cry

Other names:

jp: ポニータ (Ponyta)
de: Ponita
fr: Ponyta
cn: 小火馬 (Xiǎohuǒmǎ)


Shining Raichu

Expect me like you expect Jesus.

Age 32
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Australia
Seen October 17th, 2020
Posted December 21st, 2017
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12.3 Years
Is it enough to trust someone before sex? Do you think that is appropriate or not to ask a potential sexual partner for STD/HIV testing results?

Omg yes, always ask. This is so imperative I don't even. I am so paranoid about diseases and catching them, I'd put myself in a plastic bubble if it were socially acceptable. As it stands, it is socially acceptable to put a certain part of you in a plastic bubble so I always make sure to do that even if I am sure the guy is clean lol. I'll never have unprotected sex, anyway, I'm far too paranoid for that. I always wear a condom (or require whoever I'm sleeping with to do the same if the... situation requires it). But yeah, I always ask just for extra peace of mind. Though it's weird sometimes trying to do it in a way that's not a moodkiller lol

What was the first time you recall being attracted to the same sex? How did it make you feel?

I was 9 or 10 when I first started having "sexual" thoughts about other boys (though, as a 9/10 year old, these were very very softcore and I'm not sure they'd even be considered sexual, it doesn't take much to please a kid lol) though I was sort of an oblivious child, so I never really thought much of it. I just lived in my own head and nothing much really phased me, so nothing really ever clicked. The first time I noticed myself noticing other boys was when I was 12 in my first year of high school in the change rooms after PE class. I won't get graphic, but a few of them took their shirts off and after that I had to get changed and leave very quickly to avoid embarrassment lol. It was at that point that I realised I was gay lmao. But yeah, I didn't go back into the changerooms until I was a little older and able to control my hormones a little better.

I feel like those might have been tmi responses, but hey you asked the questions...
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You know, your immune system needs germs to strengthen so living in a germ-free environment is a death wish. But enough about Carlin facts.

I think it's very important to ask about STI/HIVs, that's something you really do need to be careful about. No one should be offended. when being asked about that.

Also I just have to say, I'm really proud of Pokecommunity for being an acceptable site. Even outside this club no one here is judged by their sexuality I fell in love with this site because of the hacking section but when I realized how open we are, I'm positive now that this is the best Pokemon site on the entire internet!
The more you learn about something, the more you realize just how much you don't know. I've shelved my more ambitious ideas in favor of smaller, more feasible projects and contributions. While I still have an ongoing project, and still intend to experiment with improving Gen 3's multiplayer, it's been much less stressful doing smaller things, like entries for Anthroyd's MAGM contests.

Of which you can check out here:
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Shining Raichu

Expect me like you expect Jesus.

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Posted December 21st, 2017
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This video is FOX News, which is famous as the least reliable news source in America because of its intense conservative spin that borders on propaganda. I saw nothing in that video that suggested it was anything different than exactly that.
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TornZero

Resident Yuri-ism Cult Leader

Age 29
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In your pantry, eatin' your delicious cake.
Seen September 10th, 2013
Posted July 10th, 2013
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13.1 Years
I actually didn't get the thread title at first. T__T; But anyway, sign me up! :'3

I'm still kind of confused with my gender, I'm trying to find an answer, so hopefully, I might get some here! :'D
Let me be the first to welcome you to the LGBTQIPAAOS Alliance, Snivy!

You'll find the vending machines, sitcoms and cartoons in the lounge, the games over in the den, movies and reality shows in the theatre, and (hopefully) your answers in this thread. :D

I will be moving my account to Songbird over the course of immediately. The signature will stay as is for posterity and reference.

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DAT SNARKITUDE

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Posted December 27th, 2011
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You can tell that that video is biased, but it does raise interesting points. Am I the only one who thinks the schools should only be for education and nothing else?
I actually didn't get the thread title at first. T__T; But anyway, sign me up! :'3

I'm still kind of confused with my gender, I'm trying to find an answer, so hopefully, I might get some here! :'D
Welcome welcome welcome! We hope you can find both support and answers here! <3
But mostly support since the answers are in your heart. :3 (That was cheesier than I'd hoped . . . )

#077: Ponyta - The Fire Horse Pokémon
Fire ~ Field eggs
3'03" ~ 66.1lbs ~ 50/50

Its hooves are 10 times harder
than diamonds. It can trample
anything completely flat in moments.

Abilities: Run Away or Flash Fire or Flame Body
Moves: Growl, Flame Wheel, Stomp, Agility
Locations: Pokémon Mansion

Cry

Other names:

jp: ポニータ (Ponyta)
de: Ponita
fr: Ponyta
cn: 小火馬 (Xiǎohuǒmǎ)


Esper

California
Seen June 30th, 2018
Posted June 30th, 2018
I have not watched the video yet, but I'm going to assume it is something about schools teaching kids to be accepting of queer people.

You can tell that that video is biased, but it does raise interesting points. Am I the only one who thinks the schools should only be for education and nothing else?
What would you (or anyone else here) define as "education" then?

TornZero

Resident Yuri-ism Cult Leader

Age 29
Female
In your pantry, eatin' your delicious cake.
Seen September 10th, 2013
Posted July 10th, 2013
1,137 posts
13.1 Years
You can tell that that video is biased, but it does raise interesting points. Am I the only one who thinks the schools should only be for education and nothing else?

Welcome welcome welcome! We hope you can find both support and answers here! <3
But mostly support since the answers are in your heart. :3 (That was cheesier than I'd hoped . . . )
Cheesy, but very accurate. We're mostly here for support, but we can still help him find his answers.

I will be moving my account to Songbird over the course of immediately. The signature will stay as is for posterity and reference.

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DAT SNARKITUDE

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Posted December 27th, 2011
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What would you (or anyone else here) define as "education" then?
I define it as teaching the facts, not instilling in children a school's moral values. It doesn't matter how right the school thinks it is because it's the parents' job to raise their children.

#077: Ponyta - The Fire Horse Pokémon
Fire ~ Field eggs
3'03" ~ 66.1lbs ~ 50/50

Its hooves are 10 times harder
than diamonds. It can trample
anything completely flat in moments.

Abilities: Run Away or Flash Fire or Flame Body
Moves: Growl, Flame Wheel, Stomp, Agility
Locations: Pokémon Mansion

Cry

Other names:

jp: ポニータ (Ponyta)
de: Ponita
fr: Ponyta
cn: 小火馬 (Xiǎohuǒmǎ)


-ty-

Don't Ask, Just Tell

Male
USA
Seen May 2nd, 2015
Posted December 22nd, 2012
792 posts
13.6 Years
While the LGBT movement is mostly good, it does have its ugly side.
We read books and watched movies about racial discrimination in elementary school. Is that the black community's "ugly side"? The man who opposed the curriculum change acted as if there was not any education about racial discrimination, but I am doubtful that is true, if it truly is the case, then the new anti-bullying policy would protect his daughter from being discriminated against. The only case that he made was that the parents, not schools, should deal with bullying; kids get bullied at school and the parent cannot be there to do anything about it; it is hardly fair for the child to just deal with the bullying and then have a parent talk to them about how to "endure" it. Also, kids are not being taught that homosexuality is right or wrong; however, they are being told that bullying is wrong. The book about the two penguins does not teach homosexuality is right or wrong; it teaches that there are same-sex people who raise children and have families. Now the funding issue. They had to buy some books, big deal. *cough* that is my two cents.

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DAT SNARKITUDE

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Posted December 27th, 2011
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Also, kids are not being taught that homosexuality is right or wrong; however, they are being told that bullying is wrong. The book about the two penguins does not teach homosexuality is right or wrong; it teaches that there are same-sex people who raise children and have families.
I guess I misunderstood what the school was doing in the first place because that's actually what I think they should do.

#077: Ponyta - The Fire Horse Pokémon
Fire ~ Field eggs
3'03" ~ 66.1lbs ~ 50/50

Its hooves are 10 times harder
than diamonds. It can trample
anything completely flat in moments.

Abilities: Run Away or Flash Fire or Flame Body
Moves: Growl, Flame Wheel, Stomp, Agility
Locations: Pokémon Mansion

Cry

Other names:

jp: ポニータ (Ponyta)
de: Ponita
fr: Ponyta
cn: 小火馬 (Xiǎohuǒmǎ)


FreakyLocz14

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This video is FOX News, which is famous as the least reliable news source in America because of its intense conservative spin that borders on propaganda. I saw nothing in that video that suggested it was anything different than exactly that.
FOX is probably the least biased, imo.

I can't call it a good thing when a group that fights for its own liberty takes away to liberty of others.

Esper

California
Seen June 30th, 2018
Posted June 30th, 2018
I define it as teaching the facts, not instilling in children a school's moral values. It doesn't matter how right the school thinks it is because it's the parents' job to raise their children.
I think schools should be teaching kids facts, too, but also to think and understand cause and effect (such as the consequences of their actions). You don't have to tell kids "Being gay is okay" (although, really, schools should do this) in order to teach them that there are queer people and that picking on one of their classmates for being gay is unacceptable. I mean, goodness, what kind of world would we have if a teacher couldn't tell a kid not to do something if that kid was just acting like their parents taught them? There are crazy prejudiced people out there and when their kids are in school (where they ought to be because homeschooling would just perpetuate the hatred) a teacher should be able to correct them when they start to harass someone, even if that harassment is what that kid's parents want to teach them, because they need to keep school safe and teach kids how to get along.

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DAT SNARKITUDE

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Seen September 2nd, 2012
Posted December 27th, 2011
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I mean, goodness, what kind of world would we have if a teacher couldn't tell a kid not to do something if that kid was just acting like their parents taught them? There are crazy prejudiced people out there and when their kids are in school (where they ought to be because homeschooling would just perpetuate the hatred) a teacher should be able to correct them when they start to harass someone, even if that harassment is what that kid's parents want to teach them, because they need to keep school safe and teach kids how to get along.
Oh definitely, I mean I don't think of bullying as a moral issue just kind of . . . common sense. If you think it's right to beat the crap out of someone just for being different, than you're probably more damaged than anything else.

Lol sorry gaiz I misinterpreted teh school. D:

#077: Ponyta - The Fire Horse Pokémon
Fire ~ Field eggs
3'03" ~ 66.1lbs ~ 50/50

Its hooves are 10 times harder
than diamonds. It can trample
anything completely flat in moments.

Abilities: Run Away or Flash Fire or Flame Body
Moves: Growl, Flame Wheel, Stomp, Agility
Locations: Pokémon Mansion

Cry

Other names:

jp: ポニータ (Ponyta)
de: Ponita
fr: Ponyta
cn: 小火馬 (Xiǎohuǒmǎ)