The Rainbow Connection [LGBTS Club] Page 70

Started by Shining Raichu May 22nd, 2011 5:52 AM
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Age 29
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USA
Seen February 22nd, 2016
Posted December 12th, 2015
139 posts
11.5 Years
Hey, I'm so happy for you!
It's such a big step, but it seems like everything feel into place exactly the way you planned it to. Congratulations on having the courage to tell your dad (and in a pretty smooth way too, if I might add), it's admirable of you. I'm glad your dad was accepting as well, he sounds like a really proud parent.

It sucks that we're in a position to be so excited and happy for a parent to accept us as their child for who we are, absurd actually. Ah, no getting around it so no use complaining too much.

Good for you , a freaking awesome moment indeed. (=
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Hiidoran

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Age 32
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17.6 Years
That's so awesome! You're very lucky to have a father that is so loving and supportive of his children. I know I was pretty apprehensive about telling my dad I was gay, but it sounds like you two have a great relationship.

So touching. :3

-Jared-

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Age 31
Male
Northern California
Seen June 16th, 2022
Posted June 14th, 2014
1,817 posts
14.2 Years
OH OH SHARING TIME <3

So I came out to my Dad the other day.

I decided to tell him the next time he picked me up, and I made sure he was the one coming to get me. Thankfully, my mom had a holiday party that day, so he had to be the one to come get me.

*Pick up*

Me: Hey dad. [Pause] How was your day? Not too stressful?
Dad: Not really. You?
Me: Fine, fine. [Pause] Say Dad, you know that club I go to on wednesdays?
Dad: Yeah?
Me: It's the Gay-Straight Alliance.
Dad: Gay-Straight Alliance. Okay. Why are you telling me this?
Me: ....Because I'm gay.

[Sudden off-topic conversation about what I do in gsa followed]

Dad: [Pause] So are you sure?
Me: Really sure.
Dad: What made you decide this?
Me: I didn't really decide.
Dad: ....So you do know I knew this already?
Me: I figured.
Dad: Well yeah, Joe. I know my kids very well.
Me: What tipped you off?
Dad: Well.... I dunno. You were always so sensitive. [Pause] Yet, still a manly-man! ....I dunno.
Me: Was it just different?
Dad: No, just.... I don't really know. I just knew. Joe, it doesn't really matter what your sexual preference is. You're my boy.
Me: <3
Dad: [Parental pride shaking knee thing] Such a brave boy you are!

[Awesome conversation followed]

Pretty freaking awesome.
Oh that is so awesome! :D :D :D I am so glad it went well! We need more of these stories, so thank you for sharing it with us!

Plus, that line I bolded up there was my favorite part. He was like, trying so hard not to hurt your feelings. So much awwwwwww! x3

Phantom

Uh, I didn't do it

Age 32
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Posted September 18th, 2017
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11.8 Years
I didn't want to tell my mom, she found out, and was sort of pissed but had no reason to.

See we had gone to the family cabin and my cell phone wasn't working so she loaned me hers. I used it to go on fb, and check some things. Well I was stupid and forgot to log out. The next morning my mom comes up to me telling me, "Why are you lying to *name? You don't need to lie to make friends" then she went on a rant. And I'm standing there like, wait, what the hell happened what are you talking about.

Turns out she'd seen I was still logged on so she helped herself to my PM's where I was 'coming out' to my friend. My mom was under the impression that I was lying to get attention or something. I told her I wasn't lying, her response was "yeah right". I stand my ground and said, "No, Mom, I'm not. I seriously am interested in women too." And she just gave me this 'whatever look'. I then told her, "Proof? Remember *name? We were really good friends... really good friends. In fact she was my girlfriend, for months. We broke up, but are still friends."

My mom just left the conversation hanging and to this day I still get this 'yeah right' look and rolled eyes like I was lying for attention or something.

-ty-

Don't Ask, Just Tell

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USA
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Posted December 22nd, 2012
792 posts
13.6 Years
GREAT STORY KIYOSHI!

I am glad things worked out so well for you!

Also, just to let everyone know I am going to go on a date for the first time in...maybe a year! Although I am not going to have high expectations, I think that there is a lot of potential. He is the ideal guy, you know, the standards that you don't apply because they limit the amount of people you can pick from essentially. So he is 6'5", sings, plays piano extremely well, has a graduate degree, does charity work, and is kinda a manly man, lol...not to mention he is so attractive; he looks like Paul Walker! Okay, enough of my excessive optimism, I am just trying to be very positive. I made sure not to jump the gun and ask him out; I wanted to be sure that he wanted to, and he I just waited for him to ask.

Well, there you go. Kiyoshi's story was positive, so I tried to do the same. But his, of course is much more important, you only come out to your parent once!

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Posted April 13th, 2016
386 posts
11.8 Years
Congrats Kiyoshi!

My coming out experience was pretty funny. I was acting a bit down that day and my parents kept asking me what was wrong, until they just asked me if I was gay. They go on and on about how they have lots of gay friends, until my dad says: "And me! I'm like half gay." Turns out my dad is bisexual :P

[23:02:31] thoughts: shut up christos
[23:02:33] oocyst: christos shut up

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Posted December 27th, 2011
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Ahhh...what the hell. I haven't really joined because I don't know what all I can contribute, but hey, might as well, right?

So I'll jump in. Dreamsepilogue, Dreams for sort, I'm a guy, I'm 20, and I'm pan. ^^
Welcome to you! ^^ It's always nice to have new people. (At least it is for me--you can ask anyone, I always say this. :D)
Anyway try and have fun here! I too sometimes get the feeling of not being able to contribute but if you get over that feeling you can always at least end up accidentally saying something right. xD
I uh don't know if we have any active pansexuals in this group, so it'll be great to have you so we can have more perspectives here because that's what it's all about. ^^

And of course, the traditional New Member Crown:


^^ Enjoy it!

My coming out experience was pretty funny. I was acting a bit down that day and my parents kept asking me what was wrong, until they just asked me if I was gay. They go on and on about how they have lots of gay friends, until my dad says: "And me! I'm like half gay." Turns out my dad is bisexual :P
Hahaha that's really interesting information! xD I would love that kind of reaction, it's just so cute and funny and perfect. Glad some people here have such great coming out experiences. Good news is good. <3

#077: Ponyta - The Fire Horse Pokémon
Fire ~ Field eggs
3'03" ~ 66.1lbs ~ 50/50

Its hooves are 10 times harder
than diamonds. It can trample
anything completely flat in moments.

Abilities: Run Away or Flash Fire or Flame Body
Moves: Growl, Flame Wheel, Stomp, Agility
Locations: Pokémon Mansion

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Other names:

jp: ポニータ (Ponyta)
de: Ponita
fr: Ponyta
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Shining Raichu

Expect me like you expect Jesus.

Age 32
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Australia
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Posted December 21st, 2017
8,958 posts
12.3 Years
I got a MacBook yesterday and I've pretty much spent the last two days working out how to use it, so I've been pretty inactive on PC lol. Turns out it was pretty crappy timing though, because so much has happened! D:

Coming out story
AAAAAAAA Kiyoshi! That is so amazing! Your father sounds frikkin' awesome XD. I'm so excited for you! And I'm so happy you thought to come back here and tell us, I haven't seen you in ages! It's moments like these that make me really love this club, it feels like we're growing and evolving together!

The next morning my mom comes up to me telling me, "Why are you lying to *name? You don't need to lie to make friends" then she went on a rant.
I question the wisdom of a woman who thinks we live in a world in which people tell others they are gay/bi/etc as a way to be liked. I've heard of denial, but that just takes it to a whole new level lol.

Ahhh...what the hell. I haven't really joined because I don't know what all I can contribute, but hey, might as well, right?

So I'll jump in. Dreamsepilogue, Dreams for sort, I'm a guy, I'm 20, and I'm pan. ^^
Welcome, Dreams! I'll add your name to the list now. We love fresh meat :3
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Posted January 27th, 2022
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14.5 Years
I was requested by Mr Christmas mod up there to post this, so here I am. Posting and stuff.

So yesterday I came out to my parents that I'm gay. I'd been planning this for a while now and yesterday was pretty much the last chance I'd get to be alone with my mum till after new years so it had to be done xD I got up extra early so I could catch a ride with my mum as she went to work. This was kinda breaking a rule I'd set about not doing it whilst driving just incase she took it badly but I was willing to make an exception xD
So about a minute had passed I started talking

Me: Mum, what would you do if one of your kids said they were gay?
Mum: Nothing. Their still my kids, it doesn't matter what their sexuality is I'd still love them just as much as if they were straight. *goes on talking about pop culture references to people wanting gay kids because its in style*
At this point I'm feeling all "stfu and let me come out >:("
Me: You do see where I was going with this right?
Mum: Yea, and David I don't care if your gay. I still love you either way. And to be honest I've known for a while now. Probably longer than you have.
Here I'm all like "B**** please. I've known since before I could remember."
Me: Do you think you could tell Grant*?
Mum: Sure, but it's not like he's going to take it badly. Remember Richard? He was gay and Grant didn't care at all. Richards mum cared because his only sister was a lesbian so she was never getting grandkids but that's another story.

Here we get out of the car and have an awkward conversation about who knows and who doesn't and how everyone will be cool with it and stuff. Then I go to the bank and she goes to work and I go home.

Then once I get home and I'm telling Shining Raichu about what happened I get this text from my stepdad:

"David I'm not bothered about you being gay. Me and mum spoke about this years ago. I'm just glad you realised it . So just get on as normal and you'll soon start thinking how silly you were for being worried about telling us. Have a good day see you later."

To be honest I still don't really know how to react to this xD I'm kinda wanna confront him about the realised it bit because it's not like I woke up yesterday and thought "Oh, I think I'm gay lol" and I'm also kinda curious about this "talk" that they had about me...

But yea, apart from awkward small talk with my parents to see if I want to talk about it everything seems normal :D

*Grant is my stepdad btw :3

Shining Raichu

Expect me like you expect Jesus.

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Posted December 21st, 2017
8,958 posts
12.3 Years
I know I said this on MSN, but I maintain to this very moment that that is the sweetest goddamn text message I have ever read in your life. You have the most awesome stepdad ever. When I read the "Have a good day see you later" bit, I almost teared up. It's just the most amazing reaction a person could ever have. Your Mum is amazing too but that text message really got me :P

Don't you dare delete it ever!

This whole story is just amazing, I'm so happy I was there as it went down lol. It doesn't matter if he thinks you only just realised it lmao, though I think you should ask about the talk they had about you because otherwise I'll you'll die of curiosity!
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-Jared-

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Age 31
Male
Northern California
Seen June 16th, 2022
Posted June 14th, 2014
1,817 posts
14.2 Years
I was requested by Mr Christmas mod up there to post this, so here I am. Posting and stuff.

So yesterday I came out to my parents that I'm gay. I'd been planning this for a while now and yesterday was pretty much the last chance I'd get to be alone with my mum till after new years so it had to be done xD I got up extra early so I could catch a ride with my mum as she went to work. This was kinda breaking a rule I'd set about not doing it whilst driving just incase she took it badly but I was willing to make an exception xD
So about a minute had passed I started talking

Me: Mum, what would you do if one of your kids said they were gay?
Mum: Nothing. Their still my kids, it doesn't matter what their sexuality is I'd still love them just as much as if they were straight. *goes on talking about pop culture references to people wanting gay kids because its in style*
At this point I'm feeling all "stfu and let me come out >:("
Me: You do see where I was going with this right?
Mum: Yea, and David I don't care if your gay. I still love you either way. And to be honest I've known for a while now. Probably longer than you have.
Here I'm all like "B**** please. I've known since before I could remember."
Me: Do you think you could tell Grant*?
Mum: Sure, but it's not like he's going to take it badly. Remember Richard? He was gay and Grant didn't care at all. Richards mum cared because his only sister was a lesbian so she was never getting grandkids but that's another story.

Here we get out of the car and have an awkward conversation about who knows and who doesn't and how everyone will be cool with it and stuff. Then I go to the bank and she goes to work and I go home.

Then once I get home and I'm telling Shining Raichu about what happened I get this text from my stepdad:

"David I'm not bothered about you being gay. Me and mum spoke about this years ago. I'm just glad you realised it . So just get on as normal and you'll soon start thinking how silly you were for being worried about telling us. Have a good day see you later."

To be honest I still don't really know how to react to this xD I'm kinda wanna confront him about the realised it bit because it's not like I woke up yesterday and thought "Oh, I think I'm gay lol" and I'm also kinda curious about this "talk" that they had about me...

But yea, apart from awkward small talk with my parents to see if I want to talk about it everything seems normal :D

*Grant is my stepdad btw :3
<3
D'awwwwwwwwwwwwww. :3 That has got to be as cute as Kiyoshi's story. :3 But I still maintain that
Kiyoshi's dad trying to be polite in saying he was still a manly man is cuter. >__>

Gee everyone seems to be talking about coming out lately. :3 Should it be an official topic? xD

Alice

(>^.(>0.0)>

Age 31
Female
Oregon
Seen April 30th, 2015
Posted April 29th, 2015
3,077 posts
14.2 Years
Funny, somewhat offtopic story.

So, I was watching Retsupurae's newest video(if you don't know them, they watch other people play games, and either make fun of the person or the game), and in the game the guy was running away from the camera, so they said "watch my a** jiggle!" and shortly after my mom knocked on the door... and just as she knocked, they said "oh s***!", which she thought was me... so she thought I was watching porn. lulz

But anyway, the point of the story is that she didn't question the fact that it was a guy that said that, so maybe she does remember.

Esper

California
Seen June 30th, 2018
Posted June 30th, 2018
Ugh. I had an awful morning and I'm gonna tell y'all about it because it pertains to the club here.

So where I work there's this woman who isn't the brightest light bulb and kind of rude and all of that and makes disparaging comments about people like us from time to time even though I try to correct her. Anyway, among the regular traffic of people this morning not one, but two trans people came by my office looking for help for one thing or another and both of them just had to mention in one way or another that they were special needs (and I don't mean to be cruel or anything, but it showed) so now this woman is convinced that being trans is essentially a mental handicap and all my reasonable "Oh, it's just a coincidence" and "There are lots of people who are trans who aren't" and so on did nothing to convince her. :<

I uh don't know if we have any active pansexuals in this group, so it'll be great to have you so we can have more perspectives here because that's what it's all about. ^^
I guess I don't advertise as well as I thought I did. Not tryin' to rain on your parade, Dreams. Just, you know, making myself known.

Axєl

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Male
Kansas, USA
Seen March 5th, 2014
Posted March 6th, 2012
202 posts
17.4 Years
(Not posting without joining, this is Drew's alt.)

Wow. So many nice "coming out" results up in here lately.. ;w; I'm glad for you guys.

Also, at Scarf's combo-breaker, I'm sorry work made your morning suck. I've had a similar issue happen at work where a trans person comes in and ruins the opinion of them for everyone in any nearby area. >__> Then you try to tell your co-workers differently, and not all trans people are the same, nor act the same, and it.. doesn't work. I feel you there.

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Shiny

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It's great to see more people coming out with such positive results! : )

And Scarf, I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe try talking to your boss in private about it and tell her how her comments make you feel.

Nakuzami

Age 24
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Posted December 31st, 2020
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12.7 Years
Mum: Sure, but it's not like he's going to take it badly. Remember Richard? He was gay and Grant didn't care at all. Richards mum cared because his only sister was a lesbian so she was never getting grandkids but that's another story.
Yeah, lol. That's the only thing about being gay . . . if you want to have kids (but for some reason don't want to/can't adopt) it's kinda hard to . . . make your own, lol.

Some really cool/cute coming out stories~ :3

Aw, for when I officially come out, I guess . . . well, the only person near to me I'm worried about, I guess, is my dad. Only because I have NO idea how he would react, lol.

Spoiler:
Funny, somewhat offtopic story.

So, I was watching Retsupurae's newest video(if you don't know them, they watch other people play games, and either make fun of the person or the game), and in the game the guy was running away from the camera, so they said "watch my a** jiggle!" and shortly after my mom knocked on the door... and just as she knocked, they said "oh s***!", which she thought was me... so she thought I was watching porn. lulz

But anyway, the point of the story is that she didn't question the fact that it was a guy that said that, so maybe she does remember.


Lolololololololololol xD

Congrats Kiyoshi!

My coming out experience was pretty funny. I was acting a bit down that day and my parents kept asking me what was wrong, until they just asked me if I was gay. They go on and on about how they have lots of gay friends, until my dad says: "And me! I'm like half gay." Turns out my dad is bisexual :P
Lol, that's an interesting turn of events. You go to come out to your parents, then your dad tells you that he's bi . . . lol. xD

@dream's-epilogue - I think . . . I think your signature just ruined Kingdom Hearts for me. (Curse you My Little Pony lovers!! xD)

@-ty- - Well, I don't know whom Paul Walker is, but I think I wish I were you in this case xP
"Sure, there're probably infinite dimensions, but I'm with you in this one, so why would I try to find them?"
~Neil Hilborn


-ty-

Don't Ask, Just Tell

Male
USA
Seen May 2nd, 2015
Posted December 22nd, 2012
792 posts
13.6 Years
Ugh. I had an awful morning and I'm gonna tell y'all about it because it pertains to the club here.

So where I work there's this woman who isn't the brightest light bulb and kind of rude and all of that and makes disparaging comments about people like us from time to time even though I try to correct her. Anyway, among the regular traffic of people this morning not one, but two trans people came by my office looking for help for one thing or another and both of them just had to mention in one way or another that they were special needs (and I don't mean to be cruel or anything, but it showed) so now this woman is convinced that being trans is essentially a mental handicap and all my reasonable "Oh, it's just a coincidence" and "There are lots of people who are trans who aren't" and so on did nothing to convince her. :<

This leads me to believe that most of the people against lgbt rights or have prejudices usually don't know many well enough to understand that we are just "average" people.

Many gay people don't like being associated with transgender people as well, and have prejudices - the hypocrisy is beyond me! Perhaps those people have never met a transgender person.

As time progresses, more people are starting to come out whether they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender, but there are many more gay/lesbian/bisexual people than there are transgender (who have come-out). So as more and more people continue to comeout in more families, I think we will start seeing more awareness of transgender people, like we have been seeing with gay/lesbian people.

http://www.gallup.com/poll/118931/Knowing-Someone-Gay-Lesbian-Affects-Views-Gay-Issues.aspx

The same is most likely true for transgender people.
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Posted November 25th, 2021
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12.8 Years
Ugh. I had an awful morning and I'm gonna tell y'all about it because it pertains to the club here.

So where I work there's this woman who isn't the brightest light bulb and kind of rude and all of that and makes disparaging comments about people like us from time to time even though I try to correct her. Anyway, among the regular traffic of people this morning not one, but two trans people came by my office looking for help for one thing or another and both of them just had to mention in one way or another that they were special needs (and I don't mean to be cruel or anything, but it showed) so now this woman is convinced that being trans is essentially a mental handicap and all my reasonable "Oh, it's just a coincidence" and "There are lots of people who are trans who aren't" and so on did nothing to convince her. :<
It can get really annoying being around people who bad mouth the lgbt community when you yourself are either lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgender/sexual/ect. I find it really annoying when people use the word "gay" to describe objects or events. Whenever I hear someone use gay in this context I just want to make their head explode. If I had Piper's powers.

Alice

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Female
Oregon
Seen April 30th, 2015
Posted April 29th, 2015
3,077 posts
14.2 Years
This leads me to believe that most of the people against lgbt rights or have prejudices usually don't know many well enough to understand that we are just "average" people.
Yeah, I can vouch for that. Having never known a gay person until recently, I used to think they were all evil or something.

-ty-

Don't Ask, Just Tell

Male
USA
Seen May 2nd, 2015
Posted December 22nd, 2012
792 posts
13.6 Years
Yeah, I can vouch for that. Having never known a gay person until recently, I used to think they were all evil or something.
My brother used to be like, ugh gay is disgusting, but he has gone a complete 180, and now is an avid supporter of gay rights including gay marriage. Also, I forgot to mention that the closer the relationship is with the gay person the more likely they will support gay rights. With that being said, there are some lousy parents who will kick their children out of their homes and lives, but I think most, like your parents, will always love their kids and will learn to overlook sexuality overtime, and become better and more accepting people.

@nakuzami

You don't know who he is? Oh, you are 13, then you probably have never heard of Fast and the Furious(unless they made a bunch of sequals) or Joy Ride; they were both out in theatres a little over 10 years ago. He isn't quite as popular nowadays, but his hotness remains intact!
Well, I wouldn't want you to miss out, so here is a picture of Paul Walker:
Spoiler:


But anyways, he looks like Paul Walker and John Krasinski (from "the Office") combine. So he's kind of sexy and adorable rolled into one. But I want to stress that I am much more picky about a person's morals, ambitions, personality/temperament, and intentions than I am about appearance. Appearance-wise, the only "requirement" is attractive, lol; it's all by my own subjectivity.

@ everyone, lol

That is why I dislike the questions, "would you rather date someone attractive or with a good personality?" both are needed. Dating someone who possesses a "non-negotiable" quality, is the number one reason why relationships do not pan-out. A lot of people have done this, including myself. If you do this persistently you may become a serial-monogamist! Being in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship does not equal love, although I would say going over-board on standards could really limit your ability to find a great person-you really have to figure out what things are most important. ( I think I have been watching too much "Tough Love" and "Millionaire Matchmaker".)

So it brings me to this question:
What are your 5 most important non-negotiables when it comes to dating? (You absolutely cannot date anyone with these qualities) Also, avoid being vague, like saying, "must be nice".

Here are mine (in no particular order):

1) Must not have substance abuse problems
2) Must want a long-term monogamous relationship.
3) Must have a decent job, a degree(looking for a job), or attending college.
4) Must be at least average in masculinity.
5) Must not be overweight or obese...unless it is because of muscle mass, ;).

That concludes my HUGE post!

Ineffable~

DAT SNARKITUDE

Age 29
Female
Any ol' place really
Seen September 2nd, 2012
Posted December 27th, 2011
2,738 posts
14.8 Years
What are your 5 most important non-negotiables when it comes to dating? (You absolutely cannot date anyone with these qualities) Also, avoid being vague, like saying, "must be nice".

In no particular order:

1.) Must be very sweet and loving.
2.) Must be nerdy like me.
3.) Must be very serious about being in a long-term monogamous relationship.
4.) Must be supportive and patient because I'm the most annoying person on the planet.
5.) Absolutely must must must be easygoing. Complete mandate and there is no way around it.

I know it sounds like a lie, but appearance doesn't really factor in for me. It affects the first encounter, as in I would probably never be able to get into a relationship in the first place with someone who has a completely distorted face or extra eyeballs or something, but I fall in love based on emotions and once I feel that way about someone, the appearance looks beautiful to me no matter what.

#077: Ponyta - The Fire Horse Pokémon
Fire ~ Field eggs
3'03" ~ 66.1lbs ~ 50/50

Its hooves are 10 times harder
than diamonds. It can trample
anything completely flat in moments.

Abilities: Run Away or Flash Fire or Flame Body
Moves: Growl, Flame Wheel, Stomp, Agility
Locations: Pokémon Mansion

Cry

Other names:

jp: ポニータ (Ponyta)
de: Ponita
fr: Ponyta
cn: 小火馬 (Xiǎohuǒmǎ)