Gay Public Displays of Affection Page 2

Started by -ty- October 25th, 2011 7:43 PM
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I'm a Christian myself (albeit my beliefs are a little...different than others). Just saying that before I say my opinion on the subject.

Light PDA I have no problem with, be it heterosexual or homosexual. As long as it is just holding hands, a hug, and/or a peck on the cheek (or even lips for that matter), it doesn't bother me in the slightest. It is when the two participants are groping and trying to eat each others' faces that I go, "C'mon people. At least get a room." That's to both heterosexual and homosexual HEAVY PDA. Honestly, who wants to see two people making out? I know I don't.
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Honestly, who wants to see two people making out? I know I don't.
A lot of people have been saying this, and it seems to be the prevailing opinion of society. But I have to wonder why it makes everybody so uncomfortable? Why is it something "nobody wants to see"?

I'm just curious as to why it's seen as so disgusting.
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A lot of people have been saying this, and it seems to be the prevailing opinion of society. But I have to wonder why it makes everybody so uncomfortable? Why is it something "nobody wants to see"?

I'm just curious as to why it's seen as so disgusting.

I just don't find the exchange of bodily fluids to be an attractive thing to watch. It's uncomfortable IMO because it's predominantly and traditionally an intimate action.

I think you can say the same thing like "Why is people having sex on the classroom floor something nobody wants to see?" well.. same reason for many people that they find the sight of others making out uncomfortable.

But then again, that's just my opinion. I can't speak for everyone.
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I see guys and girls kiss all the time, I don't want to see them do that but I accept it. Suddenly, when they're gay its not okay...?

I find all forms of public affection disgusting to some degree, but if they're gay it doesn't change anything. Heterosexuals and Homosexuals, get a room.

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I'm curious to what extent people who don't like PDA (of whatever kind) think it's okay to confront someone about it (in other words, at what point is it "too much" and you feel someone should stop them) and how strongly they feel they should be able to confront someone (polite words, strong words, physical force, etc.).

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I'm curious to what extent people who don't like PDA (of whatever kind) think it's okay to confront someone about it (in other words, at what point is it "too much" and you feel someone should stop them) and how strongly they feel they should be able to confront someone (polite words, strong words, physical force, etc.).
I honestly don't think it's about the amount of PDA but more the company they're in. For example, when I was in high school I saw plenty of making out on the bus to and from school. Yes, I was uncomfortable with it. Yes, I thought it was inappropriate. But no one on that bus was really innocent, so I didn't feel the need to lecture them on it and try to get them to stop.

If, however, I was a parent of a small child and saw people making out, I might feel the need to request they tone it down in front of the kids. But I'm honestly not sure what I'd do if I requested politely and they said no, because I'm certainly not the type to start a fight over stuff, haha.


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Absolutely ridiculous if anyone says "my beliefs say this is wrong" so your beliefs are more important than the beliefs of somebody else? If you don't like it, just don't look.

Gay PDA is no different to regular PDA, I don't care about it. Hell I can sit next to two people making out and not give a damn. If you've got a serious problem with it, you're the one with the issues, not the people making out.

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Absolutely ridiculous if anyone says "my beliefs say this is wrong" so your beliefs are more important than the beliefs of somebody else? If you don't like it, just don't look.

Gay PDA is no different to regular PDA, I don't care about it. Hell I can sit next to two people making out and not give a damn. If you've got a serious problem with it, you're the one with the issues, not the people making out.

I'm uncomfortable in many situations, where's my special treatment?
So other people's beliefs are more important than mine? Shouldn't they respect mine also. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
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So other people's beliefs are more important than mine? Shouldn't they respect mine also. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
There is a difference though. Everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but what they're not entitled to is to have that opinion tell other people what they can and cannot do. Unfortunately, though, we see way too much of that in society as it is.
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So other people's beliefs are more important than mine? Shouldn't they respect mine also. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
Except PDA is between two people, they are doing something they believe is okay between the two of them. If you think it's wrong, and think it shouldn't ever be done, you're infringing on their rights by saying they can't do it. They're not infringing on your rights in any way.

They're not forcing you to do anything, you shouldn't force them to stop doing anything.

If you don't like smoking is it okay to say nobody should smoke in public? That's ridiculous. Live your life how you see fit and don't try and tell other people how to live theirs.

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Well with the smoking analogy to PDA, there is a bit of a difference. In Michigan, smoking is not allowed in any restaurants and other buildings open to the public, because second-hand smoke is harmful.

However, the argument does help keep the PDA in perspective. Smoking in public could harm others, does making-out in public hurt others, children in particular?

Some say yes, because children may be exposed to the PDA's. Also, there is a varying degree of PDA. Would it be inappropriate/harmful for a child to see a couple hold hands, kiss, hug, makeout, or anything beyond that? Also, those who do not condone homosexuality with kids, would they feel like a gay couple holding hands would go against the ideologies they are trying to teach their kids?

So Here is my opinion. There are all types of different people that exist in the world. Just because a child sees a gay couple holding hands/hug/kiss, the couple did not force the child to condone homosexuality, the parent can explain to their children after seeing a gay couple that their actions are not condoned. A gay couple should not have to adjust their actions and stop those forms of PDA, but rather, it is the parent's responsibility if they want their child to not condone homosexuality.

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Some say yes, because children may be exposed to the PDA's. Also, there is a varying degree of PDA. Would it be inappropriate/harmful for a child to see a couple hold hands, kiss, hug, makeout, or anything beyond that? Also, those who do not condone homosexuality with kids, would they feel like a gay couple holding hands would go against the ideologies they are trying to teach their kids?
If I have kids, it will hopefully be in a time that homosexuality is more widely accepted. But even if it's not, I still plan on having my kids know there's nothing wrong with it. However, homo or hetero, I wouldn't want them seeing a couple making out. I wouldn't want my children thinking that's just an okay thing to do when they're of age to have a bf/gf. I just don't find it right. I mean, I'm not gonna stop people, it's not illegal to do that (as far as I know!), but I just would turn my children away and give the "it's rude to stare" talk, even though I was raised on "they're your eyes, you can look at what you wanna look at" which...got me in trouble a lot as a kid.
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I think as far as children are concerned, there is too high a price put on their innocence. I am very, very against the idea that the freedoms of adults should be restricted in the name of "protecting" children. This is particularly the case in issues like this, in things that do not directly harm the child whatsoever. Children, too, have the option of looking away if they don't wish to see something.
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I think as far as children are concerned, there is too high a price put on their innocence. I am very, very against the idea that the freedoms of adults should be restricted in the name of "protecting" children. This is particularly the case in issues like this, in things that do not directly harm the child whatsoever. Children, too, have the option of looking away if they don't wish to see something.
Would you watch porn in the same room with a child under the idea that they can look away?


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So Here is my opinion. There are all types of different people that exist in the world. Just because a child sees a gay couple holding hands/hug/kiss, the couple did not force the child to condone homosexuality, the parent can explain to their children after seeing a gay couple that their actions are not condoned. A gay couple should not have to adjust their actions and stop those forms of PDA, but rather, it is the parent's responsibility if they want their child to not condone homosexuality.
I agree completely. I think those parents who don't want to see gay PDA are afraid they won't be able to imprint their own prejudices on their kids so they want their kids to never see gay people ever.

Would you watch porn in the same room with a child under the idea that they can look away?
Well, aren't there different kinds of porn? I don't want to jump into this topic, but I know I'd rather, for instance, let a child see some "tame" porn than some violent/bloody movie. I'd rather they watched My Little Pony or a million other things first, though.