Stop leaving me out of your fun! D<

Started by Ho-Oh October 27th, 2011 7:14 AM
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Ho-Oh

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When you feel left out, do you confront those that are making you feel that way? Or maybe you just shrug it off and find other interests (as in literally don't care)?

Also!
How much to an extent can being "left out" affect you?
If you haven't been excluded from anything or felt left out, how do you think you would react?
Do you think being left out can emotionally scar someone?

Zet

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Speaking from experience I have bared a few emotional scars from being left out when I was in high school, so yes it can leave an emotional scar on people. But these days I try to ask what everyone is talking about when I don't know what's going on, though sometimes I don't even get an answer and that just upsets me.

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Sometimes when I tend to feel left out, it is mostly because I am paranoid like that, so I try to ignore it and think it's just me. I have kind of a trauma to these kind of things and I have no idea how to handle them. I don't even know how I am supposed to feel or act when I am being left out, it's because people have left me out and excluded me, judged me on my reactions and laughed at me, and all the changes I made didn't help, so now I can't even react naturally anymore because I just don't know what my natural reaction is.


How much to an extent can being "left out" affect you?

It can cause anxiety, paranoia, traumas, everything. It's just another extent of psychologically messing with someone and it can cause great damage. It affected me in all the possible ways. To the point of not even WANTING to care anymore.

Do you think being left out can emotionally scar someone?
Completely.

PlatinumDude

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When I feel left out, I try my best to shrug it off. Being left out isn't a good thing for me because in general, it may be rude for other people to leave others out without telling them. If I wasn't left out of anything, then I'd feel like I'm the center of attention. If being left out happens on a regular basis, then it could cause some emotional damage.

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I like how the original poster was the one who posted a blog that was completely an inside joke the other day

Being left out of things upsets me especially if it's some of my friends who are having all the fun. It makes me feel like their going "This is SO much fun but I don't want you to join in because you'd ruin it".
As for scaring someone, it defiantly can. It can lead to low self esteem and other problems.

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I hate being left out, it makes you feel really bad about yourself. But when it happens, I don't confront the people doing it. If anything, I think that would make it worse and make them less likely to include you if you're seen to be causing drama. Though why you'd be sucking up to people who made an effort to exclude you is part of human nature that I'll never quite understand, even though I conform to it as well lol.
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I like how the original poster was the one who posted a blog that was completely an inside joke the other day

Being left out of things upsets me especially if it's some of my friends who are having all the fun. It makes me feel like their going "This is SO much fun but I don't want you to join in because you'd ruin it".
As for scaring someone, it defiantly can. It can lead to low self esteem and other problems.
Crossing something out doesn't make it not rude

A lot of the time I'm left out even though no one meant to leave me out. I mean, I have friends that have no problem inviting themselves to things, so they assume I'm fine with it to, but I don't like doing that because I feel like they'd invite me if they wanted me there, so I end up not doing things with them and then feel left out. It's really no one's fault though, haha.

It makes me sad, but less so because I can get online and entertain myself, it just gets kind of lonely sometimes.


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I was being left out far too often when I was younger, but at some point I just found the right people to hang out with. Anyway...

... I don't try to confront the ones making me feel left out. sometimes they don't even realize it, I'm sure. But I don't shrug either. It's just not manly lol So most of the time I try to do something and forget about it. It sure feels bad, though.

>Do you think being left out can emotionally scar someone?
Maybe, I can't say for certain. Depends on the person and their growing environment, is the most logical answer to that.
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I am left out of everything all the time. xD All throughout life, school and otherwise, I have always been the one that says "What, when did this happen?" All throughout life, I was never invited to anything, never got to go do stuff, so I was always kind of an outsider. I've grown used to it though. And the internet has certainly helped in that regard. xD

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When you feel left out, do you confront those that are making you feel that way? Or maybe you just shrug it off and find other interests (as in literally don't care)?
Before I was about 14-15 it really bothered me when people left me out of stuff because of my hearing(I'm 50-60% deaf in both ears), but now I just don't care, I go and hang out with my real friends now. And after a while I stopped confronting them about it, turns out they had "forgotten" about telling me, lol that was a sucker punch each time.
Also!
How much to an extent can being "left out" affect you?
I don't talk to people anymore, really introverted, I prefer to be alone.
If you haven't been excluded from anything or felt left out, how do you think you would react?
I think that if someone who is used to being included in everything was left out of something important it would really hurt their feelings, but that's just me.
Do you think being left out can emotionally scar someone?
I want you to imagine walking into class every day to every other day, and finding your friends laughing and joking around about something fun they had done the day before or something they where going to do that day. And when you ask them why you weren't invited they say, "Oh sorry man we forgot to tell you." Now do that every day for 8-9 years. Do you think that would scar someone?

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Im always left out..
I dont try to talk to them though, I just walk off.
It hurts sometimes, to be forgotten or just left out of something.
Though I guess Im used to it, if I ever dont get left out, im like what? <.<

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It's been actually quite a long time since last I really felt left out. I'm not normally the type to 'bottle things up' as I find it unhealthy, but being left out is one thing I prefer not to bother confronting people about (although I have before). Usually I just feel selfish if I do or just awkward in general and I guess in my experience it hasn't really proven to be worth the effort for something so relatively petty. And in almost if not all cases it wasn't anyone's intent to make me feel that way in the first place, so I just leave it alone. Maybe sulk for a while but then sleep it off later.

Growing up I didn't really have any friends for a lot of my life and even later in my childhood I only had a few. I was left out of pretty much everything by my peers, taking solace in the fact that at least the teachers cared about me and my enthusiasm for learning. I wracked my brain for years pondering madly about why no one sat by me, played with me, or let me in their little circles they'd stand in and talk. But now that I'm grown up and have been living a wonderful life full of friends for years now, it's clear that I was just in the wrong place with the wrong group of people. Sometimes that's really all it is, and that's probably why my reaction when this sort of thing happens now is simple disappointment but with understanding.




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I definitely don't like being left out. Fortunately it wasn't a problem in college since I usually got invited to events and stuff. But at home I have to sit on the sielines since I'm 900 miles away from whatever my friends are doing... can't really confront them since it's not their fault I had to return home. Being left out hasn't scarred me, but I can see how it would be entirely possible for a person.

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I don't really like being left out, but confrontation doesn't seem to let people back in. If anything, it can exclude people more if the confrontation is done with a high degree of pettiness and/or petulance. I guess if it happens constantly, it can have an emotional effect, but it can be nipped in the bud if you take a proactive attitude and just keep trying to 'get back in', per se. Don't let other people leave you out, and eventually they'll have to put up with you.

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Well, with the group of friends I've been mainly hanging out with this school year, I feel left out to a certain extent. I'm not as close as the other four are (there are five of us, including me) and sometimes they go off by themselves, and they talk amongst themselves leaving me behind. It didn't really bother me much, since I just started opening myself up, but now, it sort of does bother me. But, I only have myself to blame since a few years earlier one of them asked me to hangout before any of the other three and I turned them down.