When do you feel you 'know' someone?

Started by Nihilego May 29th, 2012 9:31 AM
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Nihilego

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I was thinking earlier about how much I really know the people I think I know. And I ended up wondering, when can you say you 'know' someone anyway? At what point, OVP, do you think that you can say that you 'know' somebody?
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Alex

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I think you'll only really "know" someone unless they give you the validation that you do. If somebody claims to "know" me, I don't take it very lightly. There are only very few people that I can definitely say know me, apart from my parents. Knowing someone comes from years of sticking by them, helping them through their troubles and sharing great memories together. It comes with time and dedication. There's no point-of-no-return, where you officially "know" someone (especially because people do change). If you truly know someone, you don't doubt it. You trust that person will agree that you know them very well. There are only a handful of people that I can claim to 'know' without offending.

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I "know" somebody once we become friends, to me. Not just like, basic friends, but like really close friends. I have to be able to predict what they'd do, what they'd say, how they'd react to things. I mean, it doesn't mean that I'm not friends with people who I can't predict these things about, but I just don't feel like I know them-- like, we're still in the process of getting to know each others' habits and personality at that point. Those I know though, I know like we've been best friends for forever. =v=d
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Depends on the kind of "know."

People think they "know" me, but they really don't. There's only ... ~4 people that "know" me, and that isn't even fully.

I kinda get people easily and know what they're going to say/do/whatever (mostly in person, though), and it feels like I "know" quite the few amount of people. However, there are only 3 people that I probably "know." I've been friends with them for a very long time, and we've all been through a lot, which is why it feels that way.

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This is an interesting question...I don't think you can truly "know" another person, given the inadequacies of communication; thoughts and feelings can be voiced to a certain degree, although to voice them completely and as honestly as possible would take an immense amount of effort, and is more than people actually want to know and more than people typically want to reveal. It's probably a defeatist way of looking at it, but I think the only way to "know" someone would be to become them, which isn't in the realm of possibilities at the moment...I think. Who knows what sort of experiences people have these days.

I think "knowing" someone in this context is more about personal comfort around them than it is actually knowing what they are like as a person; it's about breaking down those social barriers we all have in place around strangers. When you feel you "know" someone you feel comfortable enough to not conceal things you might otherwise do so for the sake of social propriety.

I think I usually feel this way around people after I've had my first argument with them, strangely. The more I argue with people, the more we tend to understand one another's views; if we can overcome our differences in opinion, we can generally tolerate and accept one another's eccentricities. That's just me though; I can be an occasionally difficult person.

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You never really know anyone as clear as you may think. I guess that you can say you 'know' somebody after a long period of socializing and shiz, probably a year or more unless they're an open book, but everyone has their own secrets.

I guess the people you know are true friends are the ones you get close to actually learning about.

Shining Raichu

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I have a theory that people know people better than people would like to believe. I honestly don't think that anybody is as big of a mystery as they seem to think they are lol
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Wow, this is deep.

Honestly, I don't give it too much thought as to how well I know someone. Even people like my parents and immediate family have lives separate from me, so I don't even know if I know them as well as I'd think upon a first glance. On a grand, navel-gazing, philosophical level, do any of us truly know anyone else... really? I dunno, but that's why I don't delve on these questions.

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God, this is such a difficult one to explain for me and is different for friends and love interests.

Friends - With friends, I am a very good judge of character and can tell when someone is putting on a face or trying to act like someone they aren't; I hate that. This would only, really apply for the first time meeting someone, but it does catch up.

You start to know your friends after time and I think that is the best way to explain it really.

Love Interests - Well, this is a bit more difficult. I thought it was the same really as friends. You take your time and you get to know them, but sometimes, that one person comes along and you feel like, after a little while, you know them so well because you already have so much in common and you just gel nicely.

This is more difficult really.