"There's a little bit of gay in all of us."

Started by Captain Fabio June 11th, 2012 1:00 AM
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Do you agree with that statement?
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Me and Kura were talking about this yesterday and it got me thinking, do you agree with the statement "There's a little bit of gay in all of us?"

It is an interesting statement to think about, but since, most people would say, we are born straight, how does this bit of 'gay' enter into our lives?

I do not want arguments about peoples choice of sexual paths or anything of the sort.

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Well, I try not to think too hard about where sexuality comes from, for at the moment there are just too many different answers or theories (feel free to shoot me down on this statement) and I don't want to come to any conclusion as of right now. Where does the gay in our life come from? You could be asking where does the straight in our life come from, for we could be born gay or bi. But I believe I'm missing the point of the thread, aren't I? If the gay in our life does come from somewhere outside our body, I imagine it'd be your environment, but I'm afraid I can't give you a definitive answer on that. I'd love it if someone were able to provide a more conclusive answer than mine!

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But I believe I'm missing the point of the thread, aren't I?

Yes, you are.

The topic of discussion in the thread is do you, simply, agree or disagree with the statement "There's a little bit of gay in all of us" and why do you feel that way, not the origin of gay feelings.

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Yeah, I reckon that statement is reasonable enough. I've certainly heard of far more outrageous things in my time. Sometimes I pass by a guy and I think he's really good looking or something along those lines, though I reckon that's more me appreciating beauty rather than having "gay tendancies" or whatever.

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Ehhh, I don't think so.

I think that anyone is capable of falling in love with anyone, regardless of their sexual attraction. People can develop romantic feelings for anyone they come by. Just the same, I think people can develop physical attraction to anyone, but physical attraction is much, much different from sexual attraction, and sexual attraction doesn't seem like something that everyone has towards the same sex, whereas, everyone has a physical attraction to both sexes (assuming they're the right type that they find physically attractive).

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Yes, you are.

The topic of discussion in the thread is do you, simply, agree or disagree with the statement "There's a little bit of gay in all of us" and why do you feel that way, not the origin of gay feelings.

Okay, let me try again. Yes, I do believe there is a little bit of gay inside everyone, no matter how much some people may try to suppress it. Why I feel that way? I simply believe we are not limited to loving just one gender, that's all.
Sufficient?

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I've said it before, but I feel like posting it again: I really disagree with this statement. Although I do agree that there is that whole "gay scale" that people have, I think there are some people who are just honestly completely straight. I know myself as one. I know that appreciating that the female body can be beautiful and feeling sexual feelings towards that body are completely different things. I think even if I really tried, I couldn't be attracted to another woman that way. I never have and I honestly don't think I ever would. That's why I disagree with the statement.

To be honest the statement irks me a little- it's almost like it's someone who states something about me and assumes that it's true.. when it's not.. and I really don't like when people jump to conclusions about me before knowing me.
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Okay, let me try again. Yes, I do believe there is a little bit of gay inside everyone, no matter how much some people may try to suppress it. Why I feel that way? I simply believe we are not limited to loving just one gender, that's all.
Sufficient?

Well... since you answered the question, I would say yes.

Yeah, I reckon that statement is reasonable enough. I've certainly heard of far more outrageous things in my time. Sometimes I pass by a guy and I think he's really good looking or something along those lines, though I reckon that's more me appreciating beauty rather than having "gay tendancies" or whatever.

I think that is more, you can appreciate if someone is good lucking. :)
But that is what I personally think.

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I wouldn't say there's a "bit of gay" in everyone, but more like there's potential to be gay in everyone. At least that's how I see it. I think that everyone has the potential to fall in love with anyone no matter what their gender, and falling in love with someone usually has sexual attraction bundled along with it. So yea I guess that I agree with the statement, but it's not that any old person can just decide to be attracted to the same gender.
Well I can't speak for everyone else, but for myself yes. I know I'm straight, but at the same time I don't really care either way. There is just a lack of any emotional attraction when it comes to the same gender. It's like I feel nothing, but I also am not opposed to anything. So idk if for me that would be having a little bit of gay in me or being completely apathetic to the situation that I don't feel any desire for it, but I also am not against it for myself.

If it could be proven as a true statement then I would say that even if some people identify as completely straight than the issue is that everyone is just harmlessly curious whether they realize it or not, but not everyone wants to act upon it or has the slightest desire to. I think everyone has the capability to do just about anything, but some things are just easier for some people than others.

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Well I can't speak for everyone else, but for myself yes. I know I'm straight, but at the same time I don't really care either way. There is just a lack of any emotional attraction when it comes to the same gender. It's like I feel nothing, but I also am not opposed to anything. So idk if for me that would be having a little bit of gay in me or being completely apathetic to the situation that I don't feel any desire for it, but I also am not against it for myself.

If it could be proven as a true statement then I would say that even if some people identify as completely straight than the issue is that everyone is just harmlessly curious whether they realize it or not, but not everyone wants to act upon it or has the slightest desire to. I think everyone has the capability to do just about anything, but some things are just easier for some people than others.
See, I was going to come along and ramble something about not being able to speak for everyone due to now knowing all of the facts and the science and whatnot... and then you go ahead and write this beauty. Good going!

But, yeah. I guess I believe the statement is true in how it affects me. Although it's probably more along the lines of what Drakow said earlier, than anything particularly stronger. I dunno, really. I haven't given this all that much thought, as you can probably tell.

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I think of sex, gender, and attraction as kinda fluid rather than static. A spectrum. I think almost everyone has some characteristics of both sexes so when you're attracted to anyone you're at least in some small part attracted to something you have yourself.

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If it could be proven as a true statement then I would say that even if some people identify as completely straight than the issue is that everyone is just harmlessly curious whether they realize it or not, but not everyone wants to act upon it or has the slightest desire to. I think everyone has the capability to do just about anything, but some things are just easier for some people than others.
I'm not curious at all though.. so would that be different? :/ Like I just really wouldn't want to. I don't really think that classifies as anything.
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I think of sex, gender, and attraction as kinda fluid rather than static. A spectrum. I think almost everyone has some characteristics of both sexes so when you're attracted to anyone you're at least in some small part attracted to something you have yourself.
I agree with this statement. Modern society seems to make things seem so clear cut when it comes to sexuality, in reality most people are bi, a full Straight or Homo Sexual person is rare to find.
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I disagree. I know a few people who are militantly heterosexual, assuming the statement refers to "gay" as sexuality specifically. It seems more like a wishful argument point for someone who's in a debate over the ethics of homosexuality. Or something.

Apart from that, it's a very sweeping comment. No one person can speak for another, let alone "all of us" when it comes to something as personal and multifaceted as sexuality.
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I am surprised no one brought up the counter question, is there some "straight" in all gay people. It might be better phrased, "is there some bisexuality in all of us." Even still, I do not agree.

...Or you can even say, there is some "gay" in asexual people. Asexual people don't have sexual attraction to any gender identity.

I think that there are a lot of people who are solely attracted to one sex or neither sex. So I disagree that "all" or even "most" people are attracted to more than one sex.

I would say that this should not e confused with femininity/masculinity. There are some traditional gender attributes that all people have some of each. Society made these attributes in many of these cases, they are not biological. So, if a straight guy likes art or fashion, I don't think that necessarily would mean that he would have even the slightest sexual interest in men, or a bit of gay in him.
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I disagree too. As much as I'd love to believe that every one of those straight guys I've crushed on over the years had just a little bit of gay in them - just enough to give me a tiny ghost of a chance - I just can't reconcile it with my experiences.

I basically agree with Kura. I am gay, and I have no inclination whatsoever toward women. Not even a passing interest. I am 100% homosexual. There is not one little bit of straight in me. I believe in the gay scale too (something along the lines of the Kinsey Scale) where some people do have a bit of gay or a bit of straight in them, but I don't think it's a rule that applies to everybody. There are some complete 0s and complete 6s.
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I disagree too. As much as I'd love to believe that every one of those straight guys I've crushed on over the years had just a little bit of gay in them - just enough to give me a tiny ghost of a chance - I just can't reconcile it with my experiences.

I basically agree with Kura. I am gay, and I have no inclination whatsoever toward women. Not even a passing interest. I am 100% homosexual. There is not one little bit of straight in me. I believe in the gay scale too (something along the lines of the Kinsey Scale) where some people do have a bit of gay or a bit of straight in them, but I don't think it's a rule that applies to everybody. There are some complete 0s and complete 6s.
Mathematically unreasonable. Until you have checked out every single last female on this planet, you cannot viably make the statistical claim that you are 100% homosexual. Hell, I reckon all of the females you have ever seen in your total life span, only amounts to a tiny fraction of the total female population on this planet. That means that your sample size is way too small to be making any statistical hypotheses, let alone statistical testing where you would try to justify a claim along the lines of "I am X% confident that I am homosexual".

So many theories in the scientific community are shot down because often enough, it only takes one contradiction to blow the theory out the window.

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To be honest the statement irks me a little- it's almost like it's someone who states something about me and assumes that it's true.. when it's not.. and I really don't like when people jump to conclusions about me before knowing me.
Cliches as facts (or at least, self-evident assumptions) are annoying.

Anyway, though I didn't quote the rest of her post - I would say I agree with her.

I don't think that saying is true, for the reasons she said. It might only be true if you move into superficial reasoning (like, "Oh, he's straight but likes musicals") but that would be a stupid assumption.