"I NEVER WANT KIDS..." "Wait, seriously?"

Started by Captain Fabio June 19th, 2012 7:08 AM
  • 2132 views
  • 41 replies

Captain Fabio

Age 33
London, UK
Seen November 4th, 2021
Posted November 2nd, 2021
12,193 posts
17.1 Years

Do you want kids?

I have seen and heard some people say that they 'never want kids' for various reasons.
One thing that always crosses my mind is... "Why? How do you know at this moment in time you never want kids?"
It is fair enough if the idea of bringing up a child you created/fostered into the world, but why do you detest the idea so much if you feel that way?

Question:
Do you want kids? If yes, explain, if no, why not?


Male
Seen March 29th, 2015
Posted March 27th, 2015
589 posts
11.6 Years
inb4 Shining Raichu!

In all seriousness, having children is a huge investment in both time & money, & I can't see myself parting with both. Besides, I see them as little hellspawn that does little else outside of bawling at the top of their lungs & making like a vandal in your house.

My sister & her husband are barely capable of caring for their daughter, thus they have to rely on the help of strangers or other family members to watch her for them, & I can't see how anyone would do that unless they're either desperate or a bunch of tightwads.

Algo Fonix

oh god

Male
Flagstaff, AZ
Seen June 17th, 2015
Posted January 6th, 2014
535 posts
13.8 Years
It'll be a long time before I'd even consider the option of passing on my genes. I honestly wouldn't want a child to turn out to be a person like me... so I'm sort of leaning towards the "don't have kids" camp.

Then again, I figure I may as well leave something in the world to prove that I was ever alive.

I just can't think of it lightly. It's a huge commitment, taking on responsibility for another life. I just don't know if I'm the type of person who should be teaching a child how to be.
If you meet me, have some courtesy, have some sympathy, and some taste.
Use all your well-learned politesse, or I'll lay your soul to waste.

Aquacorde

⟡ not everything is sink or swim ⟡

Age 29
she/her/he/him
Ankh-Morpork
Seen 23 Hours Ago
Posted 3 Days Ago
12,277 posts
18.9 Years
I did want kids at one point, but now I just figure... kids are not something that would make me very happy. I've got five younger siblings and a multitude of younger cousins, so I know how taking care of them goes. It's a hell of a lot of work. Children are also a huge drain on resources. And if I had them in the prime of my childbearing years- 20 years old to 30 or so- they'd be tying me down and creating a mess of problems. Settling down? Not for me. I want to go DO stuff. It's really hard to pick up and go places if you have to tow along kids. And I don't want to be pregnant, give birth or change diapers. Ick.

So basically, I'm too lazy and selfish to be a parent, even though I really like children. My general attitude is that they're best if they're somebody else's. It's practically a given that I'm going to be an aunt, so I can still play with them and teach them stuff. But I can do what I want, too. So it's all good.
marie & casey & rosey
groc x aquacorde x juno 4ever | rp is just collaborative writing
join rp: ultra sinnoh

Esper

California
Seen June 30th, 2018
Posted June 30th, 2018
Nope. Never want kids. Always amuses me when someone says "Oh, but you might change your mind." Like, why do people get so insistent on this one topic? If you tell someone you don't like onions no one say "but you might like them later." It's always babies. Like they can't imagine someone actually not wanting babies somewhere deep in their heart.

And my biggest reason is just that I lack the desire to have kids. If I were ever in a position of having to make a choice about having kids I'd weigh the options and would decide not to have kids for all the financial and practical reasons since kids take over your life.
Age 32
Female
Washington
Seen February 27th, 2013
Posted July 16th, 2012
104 posts
11 Years
I have a son and he's the best thing that's happened to me, but it's definitely a lot of work and not for everyone. Thankfully he's a really easygoing kid (so far) and he's an absolute joy to be around, but I'm definitely at home more than I'd like and I'm spending the majority of my day making sure he doesn't stick a fork in the socket. A lot of money and time get thrown out the window, but in my opinion, he's worth it. Just seeing that face light up every time he sees me is worth millions to me. ;)
Fiona's Deviantart
"So, tell me about yourself. Are you a boy or a girl?"

Sheep

She/Her
Australia
Seen 13 Hours Ago
Posted 15 Hours Ago
39,266 posts
16.6 Years
I've had periods of wanting them a few times, but in the end that was just because I thought the idea of being pregnant was romantic (lol....) and finally realized that probably a year ish ago. I don't think I ever want kids - they seem like they'd be cool to be with when they're older but all the work to get to that point just doesn't appeal to me. Less freedom, all the crying and whining, holding them down as they scream because they're getting shots, the money... yeah. >: That and the potential for them to grow up into rebellious teens and such is always there.

I've always preferred to be alone, so I really hope my parents don't mind that I'm likely not going to have them. I'm the only daughter from them and their sisters/brothers so my mom seemed to want me to have kids a lot when I spoke to her of it years back (where I made a silly suggestion to myself of getting my uterus removed in the future). XD;

Sammi

Age 33
she/her
The States
Seen 5 Days Ago
Posted November 8th, 2021
14,085 posts
18.3 Years
At this moment, hell no. I am not responsible enough and I don't have enough money to take care of a kid.

If I were in a better position for it? Maybe. But to be honest I tend to lean towards no. Not that I don't like kids; I just don't know if I'd make a good parent, ever, or if I will ever think I have enough time/money/stable household for it. I've got nieces and nephews to spoil, that's good enough for me.

I'll make a proper signature when Pokecommunity gets a proper slogan

Hybrid Trainer

Age 28
Him/Them
«UK»
Seen April 12th, 2023
Posted January 27th, 2022
2,096 posts
14.5 Years
Sure I want kids, not too sure if I want them through adoption/surrogacy/whatever ways same sex couples would have kids nowadays. In a perfect world I'd want to have a kid that was both mine and my parters, but that won't happen in my lifetime.
Ignoring that fact though, yea I'd want kids some day. Being able to bring someone up from birth and show them how the world works sounds amazing to me. Plus having something that I can love unconditionally and be proud of every achievement that they make just makes it more appealing.

Magdalena~

Feel the hnnnnggg

Age 29
Female
Wisconsin
Seen July 29th, 2012
Posted July 16th, 2012
127 posts
11.4 Years
1.) I can't stand to be around children
2.) I would be a terrible parent.
3.) See Scarf's post. Yeah, that one with the onions. Everyone always says I might want kids someday. AND I WON'T. xD
#167: Spinarak - The String Spit Pokémon
Bug/Poison ~ Bug eggs
1'08" ~ 18.7lbs ~ 50/50

It lies still in the same pose for days in its web,
waiting for its unsuspecting prey to wander close.

Abilities: Swarm or Insomnia or Sniper
Moves: String Shot, Scary Face, Shadow Sneak, Pin Missile
Locations: Routes 2, 30, 31, 37 (night)
Cry
Other names:

jp: イトマル (Itomaru)
de: Webarak
fr: Mimigal
ko: 페이검 (Pe'igǒm)

Shiny Celebi

Seen August 25th, 2015
Posted October 17th, 2013
2,377 posts
12 Years
I feel like an explanation is needed. Being a parent and havong children isnt something you just do, you really need to think about it. Your whole life changes, it isnt just your life anymore and you dont have the freedom you once had. Its a big responsibility to raise children an provide for them, put them through school, teach them how to succeed in the world and make them responisble adults, this is all your job as a parent. This is all the reason I dont want kids, its just too big a responsibility and I have things Id like to do in my life that would be difficult if I had to raise children. Children are also loud and messy and misbehave, which is stressful, I dont want to constantly have to clean up their messes and stuff. I just dont think I have it in me to be a parent, nor do I want to, so why should i be forced to because society says its the norm? I dont hate children, I just dont want my own, I dont usnderstand why people think thats so bad. Also I dont want to be pregnant and give birth, thats another thing, it just isnt something I want to go though.

psyanic

pop a wheelie on a zeitgeist

Age 26
Male
USA
Seen April 10th, 2023
Posted June 30th, 2018
1,284 posts
12 Years
I'm a bit mixed on the subject. I mean, I think it would be great to have a kid someday, but there's all that investment into kids like the money, time, and effort. However, I can't imagine what else I'd do with my time and money anyway.

Oryx

CoquettishCat

Age 30
Female
Seen January 30th, 2015
Posted December 27th, 2014
13,184 posts
12.2 Years
I do want kids! I want 1 to 4 kids (depending on what my future husband wants), and in my ideal world I would have a boy, and then a girl 2-3 years later, and then that's it, hahah.

But yes in conclusion I want kids.

Edit: as far as people who say "you'll want kids someday", I normally don't feel the need to tell people that but there are some situations where people are basing their entire life off of how they are at that moment. You don't like kids? Sure, that's perfectly fine. But you don't have enough money to support a child now so you've determined you'll never have children? Or you're too afraid of being a bad parent? If you're worried about being a bad parent, then you'll already be better than 75% of parents out there, so it makes me sad to see people set up obstacles when they do want children. :(


Theme * Pair * VM * PM

Not all men...

Are all men stupid?

That's right.

I hardly even know what the hell is going on in the world; I can't fully take care of myself yet, let alone a child. I'm still in college, low-income, plus I'm not too fond of kids at the moment. A few of them are cool, but I few most kids as vicious little demons - I'm basing this on how much I hated them even when I was a child myself - that are a burden on your finances - I'm basing this on how much I've burdened my parents. Not to mention my wife (if I get one) would most likely have her looks shot to hell once she gave birth. Even adopting a child is out of the question for me at the moment.

So, no. I ain't having kids now and probably not any time soon. I'm spending my 20's unshackled to the responsibilities of raising a child.

EDIT: On another note, I find my signature hilariously bad (or good, I can't decide which) for this thead.

Nick

Seen 4 Weeks Ago
Posted July 28th, 2021
17,572 posts
18.6 Years
I don't want kids because I'm selfish and don't want to have to spend my money on a parasite who I'll probably physically abuse since I can't see myself refraining from hitting them upside the head with a bag of rocks if they disrespect me or do something to infuriate me. I also don't like (most) children (I know), so I'm going to justify that by saying that I don't like children in general.

mikey

Age 30
Male
Seen 9 Hours Ago
Posted 4 Days Ago
6,229 posts
14.1 Years
I do want kids someday. I want both a boy and a girl. I think I'd be a great father (:

Moderator
of Brilliant Diamond & Shining Pearl
Discord Moderator

Guy

just a guy

Age 31
Male
Florida
Seen March 26th, 2016
Posted January 22nd, 2014
7,127 posts
14.7 Years
Taking on the responsibility of having a child isn't for everyone, whether it be because it's one's personal choice or because they can't take on such responsibility due to their current lifestyle or financial reasons, raising a child just isn't made for every and anyone. I'm not one of them though. Ever since I was a young kid myself, I've always been excited for the day where I would become a father to my own kids. I've always loved babies and I've always been good around kids, so I've never had a real problem with them before.

I'm not saying I'm ready to have any children of my own just yet, but when I'm ready, married, settled, and I know I can handle the responsibility of raising a child, then definitely. I've always liked the number three, so three kids would be ideal for me. Not all at once though. After the first kid, I'd like to wait about two to three years before the second child. Then maybe five years after that we'd have our third kid. It'll be something to discuss with the wife.

To be given the chance to raise someone of your own blood though, teach them everything you learned growing up and watch them go through life and ultimately be happy is something I see as one of the biggest rewards of all time. I want to have that one day.

Margot

some things are that simple

they/he
Seen April 16th, 2022
Posted February 25th, 2019
3,662 posts
17.3 Years
My lack of wanting kids a while back stemmed from the fact that I felt like I was too much of a worry wart to be an effective mom. I also always had babies get upset around me (THEY CAN SENSE MY FEAR OF MESSING UP) so I was like "FINE. NO KIDS FOR ME."

.....and then I was a nanny for two boys under the age of 10 for 3 years and learned I'm actually pretty damn awesome with kids. So now I'm back on board with poppin' out children later on when I'm done with school and can afford to comfortably take care of them.

Aureol

Kanto/Electric-Type Enthusiast

Age 32
Male
Utah, USA
Seen November 19th, 2015
Posted November 3rd, 2013
422 posts
13.3 Years
Do I want children? Absolutely! I want as many as I can afford.

... do I want them now? Maybe once I get myself well-grounded (a.k.a. some education, a job, and out of my parents' house).
Team Aureol of Kanto: Strike first, strike hard.
I believe in God, I am a disciple of the Lord Jesus Christ, and I am a "Mormon" (Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints). If you ever want to learn about Mormonism, feel free to PM me or go to the official website (mormon.org).

Livewire

Male
Sunnyshore City
Seen December 3rd, 2022
Posted August 2nd, 2019
14,091 posts
13.8 Years
When the time is right, yes. (Married, settled, big-boy job, etc) Preferably two, and preferably boys. Twin dashing lacrosse players (Like me) would be pretty cool from a coaching perspective.


/is a coach now.