"You can't hate me. Everybody loves me!!"

Started by Guy June 23rd, 2012 1:27 PM
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Guy

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Age 31
Male
Florida
Seen March 26th, 2016
Posted January 22nd, 2014
7,127 posts
14.7 Years
There are those who adore being loved and bothered being hated. There are those who adore being hated and bothered being loved. Then there are the others who just don't give a care.

Some people are naturally liked, while others may put on a mask so people do like them. Are you the type of person who is generally liked by people, but when someone doesn't feel the same or outright hates you, does it catch you by surprise and leave you bothered about it? If it does, do you try and go out of your way so that person comes to like you or do you just not care at all what people think about you?

On the opposite side of things, do you just prefer it if people think you're some kind of bad guy and leave you alone?

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CoquettishCat

Age 30
Female
Seen January 30th, 2015
Posted December 27th, 2014
13,184 posts
12.2 Years
Yeah, I am generally liked or ignored. I don't really have many enemies. But when I do have enemies, it depends on why they dislike me if I'm bothered or not by it. If they dislike me because of something I did that I think was the right thing to do for example, or something like that, I wouldn't be bothered by it. But if it was a friend that turned into an enemy because of something I did it would bother me, haha.


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Age 33
Female
London, UK (orig. Toronto, Canada)
Seen August 30th, 2021
Posted August 24th, 2021
10,993 posts
18.7 Years
I'm the type of person who is 100% myself all the time. That means if you don't like me, then don't.. and I will care a bit, yeah.. but in the end it's really not my loss. I dislike when people want to decide that they don't like me before getting to know me, but again, it's their loss.

I find online I have very few friends because I can be very strong opinioned and I don't like to take BS. Offline people tend to like me and think I'm very cheery and bubbly.. though people say that I am exactly the same online as I am offline so.. I don't see how that works.

Okay I am rambling but.. no. I don't go out of my way to be liked by people. What you see is what you get.. don't like it? Well then oh well! But please at least act with decency!!
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Doctor Lobotomy

Male
New South Wales, Australia
Seen November 7th, 2016
Posted July 24th, 2015
1,193 posts
12.1 Years
Personally I don't really care if someone hates me as long as they don't openly and continually show it such as abusing me in public or similar stuff because that just gets annoying.
I do prefer it when people like me but I understand that I don't really have the patience to get along with everyone and that I won't share interests with everyone in the world.
So basically I dont go out of my way to make people like me and Im not that bothered if they don't like me or like me either.
Age 30
Male
Seen June 28th, 2019
Posted December 13th, 2015
3,801 posts
13.4 Years
I'm the type of person who keeps to myself most of the time, usually I feel a lot of tension towards me though when with a large group making me think that I did something wrong just by being in the same space sometimes tbh but thankfully I've gotten used to it by now. I don't mind someone to keep me company every now and then though just as long as I'm not busy at the time.

If someone actually confronts me on something about me that pisses them off though I won't have any of it, if they don't like a certain something about me then that's their problem.

Overlord Drakow

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Down Under
Seen November 6th, 2019
Posted November 5th, 2019
3,654 posts
15.6 Years
I adapt my personality to try and best suit the situation.

I would rather be well liked than well hated. So when I socialize, I behave in an easy going, light hearted, friendly manner because this is what most people prefer. Whether that is truly how I am, is a different matter entirely.

I've had my fair share of enemies, mainly because of the way I am. I've had a lot of people who disliked me initially but eventually ended up liking me. In contrast to that, I believe I generally do leave a good first impression.

Sydian

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Age 30
they/them
Georgia
Seen May 22nd, 2022
Posted November 29th, 2021
33,354 posts
15.2 Years
I'm generally well-liked, though I have trouble making and maintaining friendships lol. I don't have many enemies, though I'm quite forgiving. There are very few people that I'll never forgive for things. However I usually don't let that show, so they may or may not get a chance to love me or hate me.
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It's not really something I mind either way. I tend to avoid nearly everyone anyways. If I find out someone hates me though I just like to know why, but I don't really get upset about it.

As far as I know in real life I am generally liked, but I've known people who didn't like me. My reaction usually ends up me leaving them alone, but nearly every time it's someone who I never really knew in the first place so we never had much contact to begin with. As for online I really don't know what the majority thinks tbh.

I guess I sort of lean towards preferring not to be hated, but just to be unnoticeable. It's kind of hard to explain, but I just hate to be bothered and rarely bother with anyone else to begin with.

Shiny Celebi

Seen August 25th, 2015
Posted October 17th, 2013
2,377 posts
12 Years
I try to be well liked by everyone. I really dont like the thought of being hated by others and Ive experienced being hated by other people and it dosent feel good, it just makes you want to try to reverse it anyway you can. Ive even had my personality change as a result to be more likable, I dont think it worked or did much of anything at all to help me.

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Seen April 13th, 2016
Posted April 12th, 2016
4,163 posts
14.2 Years
I suppose I'm liked. I mean, I've been told numerous times by people that they like me, or think I'm funny - whether they're people I've just met, or people I've known for quite a while. I have a big friendship group, but I like to hang around within a lot of different groups.

I'd say one of my biggest flaws is that I'm too nice. If someone gives off they don't like me, I'll be really upset and try my best to make them like me. That's just me. I've been told in the past that I need to except the fact that in life not everyone is going to like you. Which is true, but I just hate it especially if you're constantly in an environment with someone, say at work or at school, there's always going to be that tension if you don't like each other. I try my best to break that tension.
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Age 32
Male
Australia
Seen October 17th, 2020
Posted December 21st, 2017
8,958 posts
12.3 Years
I used to be a huge people-pleaser, so it would really, really bother me when somebody didn't like me. I would do whatever it took to fix things with them because the idea of not being liked was abhorrent to me. In the last month or so, though, I've come to the realisation that I shouldn't care, and so I don't anymore. Not everybody is gonna like me and not everybody has to, so I'm cool with it. It's a lot less pressure thinking this way.

The only time I care whether somebody likes me is when I really like them. It's really sad when that happens :(
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Jellicent♀

Age 30
Male
Seen July 11th, 2022
Posted March 8th, 2021
2,614 posts
11.3 Years
I guess I'm liked. Idk. I never ask or anything like that, and if someone does, I can usually tell, I think. If I find out someone doesn't like me, it makes me a wee bit sad, and I'll try to help that, but if it just keeps making them dislike me more, I'll just give up on being their friends. :c
I mean I know not everyone is gonna like me, but I still feel sad, because I do at least try to like everyone else. I'm the kinda guy who thinks everyone should be friends, though, so maybe that's why i feel this way. ;;
Age 32
Female
Washington
Seen February 27th, 2013
Posted July 16th, 2012
104 posts
11 Years
I keep to myself a lot, but when I do go out and meet people, I'm generally pretty liked... I think. I'm a pretty mild, water of a duck's back kinda gal, so not much bothers me.

If people don't like me, they stay pretty quiet about it. :P
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Seen April 27th, 2020
Posted February 6th, 2020
3,065 posts
11.8 Years
Not really, people have always disliked me by default, even in primary school and I still don't know what it is about me but even my best friend sometimes does things that he doesn't do with other friends where I'm like, why do you dislike me like that? I'm really mean well and actually am very sensitive but somehow people don't (want to?) see that.

Haseyo

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Male
Maryland
Seen August 4th, 2012
Posted July 31st, 2012
254 posts
10.9 Years
I've very upbeat and can be social in any situation. I don't like being too social, but if people talk to me, I can hold a good conversation for hours.

I've never heard anyone dislike me. I'm sure there have been people that I've met that behind my back to, but I've never had someone tell me "Hey, did you know Jim seriously hates you?"

At a movie theater, I know people hate me. I make lots of comments during a movie ._. but I hate going to the movies. I only go if people drag me, but my friends and gf get a kick out of my comments and don't give a crap if people get mad so WHATEVS!

Esper

California
Seen June 30th, 2018
Posted June 30th, 2018
I like being liked. It makes me feel better about myself. Not many people like me initially though, at least I don't think so. They don't hate me either, which is fine, too, 'cause I hate being hated. If someone does dislike me for some reason and I can't find some way to get them to stop hating me I feel like giving them a good reason to hate me by doing something I would hate me for. I guess I have to find some way of justifying it or I'm maybe I'm simply vindictive. But I also feel guilty easily so I'll usually apologize and try to forget any unpleasantness, probably because I'm hoping that I can be liked again. Or something. I've confused myself now.
Age 23
Male
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Seen August 1st, 2012
Posted July 31st, 2012
60 posts
11 Years
I honestly no longer care about what others think about me. I used to dress according to trends, and act like everyone else but no longer. I still try to act nice and look nice but only to please me. Having people who dislike me gives me a sense of individuality. There's still something in me that makes people like me, though.
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Interwebz
Seen December 6th, 2012
Posted June 29th, 2012
101 posts
11.4 Years
I don't particularly strive to be liked by everyone. That'd be impossible. However I'd also detest being hated, by anyone (even thought it's probably already true)

There are those who I would like to like me, and don't. I guess in some subconcience level I do strive for their approval or whatever, and yeah it's something I would go out of the way to achieve. If I didnm't ever achieve it, I'd probably turn into Mr. Burns from the Simpson and try to just pee them off. But being hated by everyone? Nah, no-one could handle that,



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Age 22
Seen January 8th, 2022
Posted October 24th, 2014
266 posts
14 Years
I am myself around others and really don't try to change and I have a lot of friends. There is a small amount of people who hate me, but we hang out for some reason at the same time. Like we hate and love. Weird. I want people to like me because I want a lot of friends in the future.
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Age 29
Male
Clinton, MD
Seen March 25th, 2014
Posted July 8th, 2012
10 posts
11.1 Years
Being socially anxious and shy, I can say that I care a little too much about what people think of me. The reason I stay quiet and kind of under the radar is for fear of what people might think. People constantly say "don't care about what people think of you" but I can't do that for some reason...I don't know.

I'm not exactly sure what side of the spectrum I'm on between being liked and hated, because I don't interact with people that much. I try my best not to step on any toes, and I stay out of everyone's way. I might say I'm neither liked OR hated seeing as a majority of people I run into don't even know who I am lol.

Sammi

Age 33
she/her
The States
Seen 5 Days Ago
Posted November 8th, 2021
14,085 posts
18.3 Years
I'm pretty honest about who I am and how I act. I'm not really looking to be popular. If I happen to be, for some reason, okay. If not, okay. *shrugs*

To be honest, hardly anyone is hostile to me, so when people don't like me I get surprised. A lot of the time I'll probably dislike them back and be really bitter about it. I'm not used to being hated. ^^; I don't go out of my way to make them ~see the light~ and suddenly like me for god-knows-why.

In the end, though, they can think what they want. imo, there isn't anyone who's universally liked, ever. Someone is not going to like you. And that's fine.

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