Online Dating? Page 2

Started by Kura July 1st, 2012 9:28 AM
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Razer302

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Age 32
England
Seen November 22nd, 2022
Posted December 13th, 2018
3,368 posts
17.1 Years
I was in one before... But now we live together. It was very hard. It wasn't totally online as I met her in person 4 years ago and we got talking after that. But when she went back home to America we both realised how much we missed eachother so that is when it all began.

Niether one of us thought it would work so we ended up dating other people me in the process having a child with one of them till eventually coming to a point where we were both single and decided to give it a go... Now we live together and couldn't be happier. So yes it does work. Just isn't for everyone. Key thing is trust.

Oryx

CoquettishCat

Age 30
Female
Seen January 30th, 2015
Posted December 27th, 2014
13,184 posts
12.2 Years
On a completely serious and non-facetious note, what makes a purely online relationship (i.e. never actually meeting each other in the flesh over at any time during the time together) an actual relationship as opposed to a friendship? I can understand relationships that start offline then move online for one reason or another, and I can also understand relationships that start online before eventually gravitating into the online sphere... but ones that start online and remain online do confuse me on a conceptual level. What is it that makes them a relationship?

So, the above probably summarises my feelings towards online dating. For me, I guess I'd need some form of physical contact (not necessarily sex; more just the intimacy that comes from being with someone) in order to classify it as a relationship.
It's the romantic attraction. If you take into account that there are webcams and Skype, there can be pretty much every kind of interaction just without the physical touch. It would probably be very similar to a relationship between two asexual people; you don't need to touch to be in love with someone. I'm not online-only with my boyfriend, but he's long distance right now and some days I'll spend 8-10 hours on Skype with him, which is intimate enough for a relationship if you care about them in a romantic way.

That being said, I did online once but I could never do it again. I need real life companionship too much and even a few months away from Tom makes me lonely and miss him.


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mew42003

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Age 28
Male
Massachusetts
Seen October 18th, 2013
Posted October 18th, 2013
1,197 posts
18.6 Years
It's a waste of time in most cases. Personally all experiences I've had with it were very sour.. Some took a real toll on me emotionally. It works out sometimes but can be very misleading... How people act behind a computer screen or over the phone can be a lot different from how they act in person.

Broken_Arrow

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The Land of Amun
Seen August 28th, 2021
Posted January 5th, 2019
1,209 posts
11.7 Years
yeah,i'm at one right now...we started as friends and ^ no it's not a waste of time...it's a great time if you know how to spend it...yeah we miss how the other feel and yeah we miss being close to them in hard times...but also those show if we really care or not..something a person in real would pretend..and the memories stay as long as you keep the old messages..sometimes irl you lose some details..i agree with you it's hard it's very hard but the more it's hard for you and you wanna keep it the more you really value the person with you.

i think my current relationship is awesome and my bf is the best in the world..at least for me but i wouldn't find someone better irl,i wouldn't spend such a great happy times like i spent with him and also sharing the bad time however i wish to help more but i try my best and i bet same for him....a friend told me you go through online relation cuz you're afraid of irl ones...well,there is no difference as we both are in the same planet it's so possible we can meet so i'm not afraid of irl like he said i just found a great person but lives further than those who we call "irl".

i respect him and highly value him..so if it happened and we separated because of any reason..i will keep respecting and caring (loving) him..and it will stay as one of the best things that happened for me..so..^ don't call someone who gave you his\her time and care and love..wasting of time..that's cruel.

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Flagstaff, AZ
Seen June 17th, 2015
Posted January 6th, 2014
535 posts
13.8 Years
I was in a distance relationship for almost three years. Absolutely would not do it again. It's great when things are going ok, but it's just way too emotionally taxing to be much worth it when things aren't good. I think if you can find someone close to you, you'll probably end up a lot happier.

Not to say it can't work, but I don't think it's worth it.
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Sydian

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Age 30
they/them
Georgia
Seen May 22nd, 2022
Posted November 29th, 2021
33,354 posts
15.2 Years
You both have to be really committed to it. But I think it can definitely work. As it's been pointed out a million times in this thread, there's Matthew and Ashley. So, I guess in a sense, if you ever get into an online relationship or want to get in one, you can look at how it ended for those two and know it's definitely possible. Or those match.com commercials, haha. But yeah. If you've both got your heart into it, you can pull through.
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