"Hey you! How's it going?" "Umm...."

Started by Treecko July 2nd, 2012 3:22 AM
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Treecko

the princess without voice

Age 31
He/Him
St.Louis,Missouri
Seen November 30th, 2021
Posted November 29th, 2021
6,311 posts
11.2 Years
I don't know about you guys but whenever I run into someone I know, it can turn into an awkward situation really quickly. When people ask "how's going/ What's going on in your life?", I feel like I have to give a full report of current events and I never have anything relevant to say. Usually I end up telling anyone I run into the same things "Oh you know, just getting a job and looking for college". I feel awkward cause I think I should have done something life changing or very important and tell that person that instead of the same mumbo-jumbo.

Do you guys feel this way too?
How do you guys deal with this situation? What do you guys do when running into someone you know? What do you tell them when they ask "How's your life/how you're doing?/What's up?"
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Age 33
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London, UK (orig. Toronto, Canada)
Seen August 30th, 2021
Posted August 24th, 2021
10,993 posts
18.7 Years
The other day my parents were actually at a restaurant from where my OLD OLD OLD best friend from Pimary School ended up working (I'm talking about over 10 years ago!) And I'm over in the UK and they randomly handed the phone over to him and it was amazing to just chat and catch up even for those 5 minutes.

I don't find it to be awkward at all- I don't think people should be judging what you decide to do with your life.. I mean.. it's -your- life. But I actually really enjoy running into old friends. But if I run into someone I don't like, it's not like I would act rude or ignore them.. I'd say hi and act like a decent human being, you know?

I think it's fun to catch up anyhow. :3
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Captain Fabio

Age 33
London, UK
Seen November 4th, 2021
Posted November 2nd, 2021
12,193 posts
17.1 Years

I don't find it awkward at all.
If I see someone and I want to speak to them, I will have a lot of things (I am sure), that I want to talk about.

I don't mind if someone is doing nothing with their life currently or completing their dreams; their life and they can do how they like, who am I to make it awkward and be like... ok?

Nick

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Posted July 28th, 2021
17,572 posts
18.6 Years
My friends know not to ask me things like this, because I never have anything interesting to say when they ask, so the only time I have to deal with answering those questions are at work. The majority of the time, I'll reply telling them that I'm fine in a monotone, indifferent tone, and I can't really think of any conversation that comes after. If they ask me what's up, I usually reply with something sarcastic since they can see whatever it is I'm doing.

Esper

California
Seen June 30th, 2018
Posted June 30th, 2018
I feel this way around certain people. People who have jobs which pay them a lot of money seem to enjoy taking about jobs and won't ask "How are things in your life?" or anything like that, but "What kind of work do you do?" almost as if they mean the same thing. (You get asked that as soon as you finish college.) It makes it hard to answer if you don't have a job or a job with a nice title or whatever. Plus, who likes talking about work?

Usually it's easy enough to talk with someone who just asks "how's life been?" because they either don't really care and the conversation was never going anywhere to start with or you'll quickly start talking about something else like old times, etc.

Broken_Arrow

Paper Plane

Female
The Land of Amun
Seen August 28th, 2021
Posted January 5th, 2019
1,209 posts
11.7 Years
i found that a routin question a person ask it to start conversation..either way my reply is it's going okay..weither it's okay or not...when i feel that the person isn't interested i just close the conversation...normally,i don't talk about personal things with anybody..not online not irl..but i can kinda open up if the person i talk to cares to know about my daily life..i can't keep talking if i felt like the person doesn't want to talk...i'm not a clingy person..and that appears to people who know me irl too well..i'm more of an isolated person..so i'll find something to do if i didn't find people to talk to.

but though i like talking to some particular people..but i fear boredom a lot so i give myself a time away so they won't feel bored of me :P lol
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Age 25
Female
TN
Seen December 25th, 2016
Posted December 24th, 2016
290 posts
11 Years
On occasion, when I'm actually doing something, those kinds of questions can make for interesting conversations.

Most of the time it's just the same stale, boring conversation though, especially when friends ask 'What's up?' every time the conversation dead ends. I understand that maybe they want to salvage the conversation, but by the time you're repeatedly asking my how my life has been it's probably just time to let it go.

Shining Raichu

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Age 32
Male
Australia
Seen October 17th, 2020
Posted December 21st, 2017
8,958 posts
12.3 Years
Ugh, I dread running into people I know when I'm out and about, because I never have anything to say to them and I hate the awkwardness when I'm caught off-guard. If I'm going to see somebody and talk to them, I want to know in advance because then I know what I'm doing and what we can talk about. But when you just run into them while you're out doing things that don't include them, you never know how long the social convention dictates you have to talk to them for before it's rude to extract yourself, or quite how to do it.

I've been in this situation a few times, I usually just stick it out until they extract themselves because I hate being rude and I'd rather they give me the social cue than have to take a psychic stab at it and get it wrong.
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Age 27
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New York City
Seen March 19th, 2023
Posted November 7th, 2022
11,676 posts
14.7 Years
Either I reflect the question back at them by saying "Not much, you?", try to be funny by saying the sky, or literally say what I've been doing for the last few days, regardless of how dull it might be. Then again, knowing me, I usually do have something new to share.
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Katie the Friendly Ghost

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Age 31
Female
Le détroit
Seen April 21st, 2013
Posted September 3rd, 2012
241 posts
10.9 Years
It's only awkward for me because I genuinely don't do much. I go to school, I come home for the summer, and live a pretty boring life haha. xP

I'll try to give a complete answer, and typically people will just accept whatever I through at them lol.