Help & Advice Thread Page 15

Started by Livewire April 15th, 2013 9:25 AM
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Konekodemon

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Age 38
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NC
Seen August 21st, 2022
Posted February 14th, 2022
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16.1 Years
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rebelrabbit

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The hellish wasteland known as southeastern Colorado, USA
Seen April 15th, 2016
Posted April 15th, 2016
34 posts
7.8 Years
Glad I found this thread because I have a rather....odd predicament. It's one of "those" problems involving those of the female persuasion, something I've never, ever, been good at, and I'm not ashamed to admit it, but this is just ridiculous.
I'll start at the beginning, I live in a house with 6 other people, all around my age, sort of like a collage dorm without the collage. From my first day there, one of the women (who I'll nickname Crystal from now on) has made countless advances to me, usually involving either surprise hugging me or just plain sitting on my lap and grinding my leg. I mainly ignored it, occasionally throwing a humored remark when I was in a good mood. A short while after I moved in, Crystal's older sister (who I'll nickname Amy) moved in. Amy and I almost immediately became great friends, and in about 2 weeks we started dating. However, Crystal never stopped her advances, even though I repeatedly told her to stop. I asked Amy to reel in her sister, but she replied "I dunno, she's never really been with anyone before, maybe you should get with her too." I was a little surprised by her statement, but quickly dismissed it as sarcasm. That is, until a few days ago. I was walking around the house at midnight-ish when I heard voices coming from Amy's room, and noticed that her, Crystal, and the house's last female resident that is rarely seen as she is always hiding, were all talking. Me being the Curious George that I am, I eavesdropped on their conversation, and subsequently royally crapped myself. They were talking about how they were all attracted to me, and "to make sure that no-one feels rejected or left out," they were planning to convince me to go out with all three of them. All. Three. Of. Them.
What the HELLdo I do about this?! Whenever I try to think of a solution my brain just BSOD's. I mean, yes, they're all good people to hang around with (including miss 'hides in dark corners' as I'm one of the two guys she talks with, although I didn't think she thought of me like THAT), and I enjoy spending time with them, but part of me sees that as a bit...wrong. Part of me says no, it'll only cause problems, but another part of me says yes as they're practically plotting things out together. Please help before I do something ungodly stupid.
(looking at this post, I wonder if this is actually within the guidelines...)
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Age 31
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"england would also be acceptible"
Seen November 3rd, 2019
Posted November 5th, 2017
947 posts
9.2 Years
Glad I found this thread because I have a rather....odd predicament. It's one of "those" problems involving those of the female persuasion, something I've never, ever, been good at, and I'm not ashamed to admit it, but this is just ridiculous.
I'll start at the beginning, I live in a house with 6 other people, all around my age, sort of like a collage dorm without the collage. From my first day there, one of the women (who I'll nickname Crystal from now on) has made countless advances to me, usually involving either surprise hugging me or just plain sitting on my lap and grinding my leg. I mainly ignored it, occasionally throwing a humored remark when I was in a good mood. A short while after I moved in, Crystal's older sister (who I'll nickname Amy) moved in. Amy and I almost immediately became great friends, and in about 2 weeks we started dating. However, Crystal never stopped her advances, even though I repeatedly told her to stop. I asked Amy to reel in her sister, but she replied "I dunno, she's never really been with anyone before, maybe you should get with her too." I was a little surprised by her statement, but quickly dismissed it as sarcasm. That is, until a few days ago. I was walking around the house at midnight-ish when I heard voices coming from Amy's room, and noticed that her, Crystal, and the house's last female resident that is rarely seen as she is always hiding, were all talking. Me being the Curious George that I am, I eavesdropped on their conversation, and subsequently royally crapped myself. They were talking about how they were all attracted to me, and "to make sure that no-one feels rejected or left out," they were planning to convince me to go out with all three of them. All. Three. Of. Them.
What the HELLdo I do about this?! Whenever I try to think of a solution my brain just BSOD's. I mean, yes, they're all good people to hang around with (including miss 'hides in dark corners' as I'm one of the two guys she talks with, although I didn't think she thought of me like THAT), and I enjoy spending time with them, but part of me sees that as a bit...wrong. Part of me says no, it'll only cause problems, but another part of me says yes as they're practically plotting things out together. Please help before I do something ungodly stupid.
(looking at this post, I wonder if this is actually within the guidelines...)
It is your choice, but allow me to offer my two pence:

Dating 3 people at once is going to be a very complicated and crazy affair to deal with. What if they turn against each other? Is there one in particular that you're close to? Would they put dating you before plotting some absolutely crazy scheme?

Whatever you do I'd be intrigued as to how this went tbh! My common sense and reason would advise against such an arrangement, but... you only live once, right?
Sarcasm, its what social able people have, you know wen you go out and meet chicks just not on forums 1,000,000 miles away from you and you ask them what color underwear they have. - Aristotle, 355 B.C

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California
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Posted November 27th, 2016
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8.8 Years
Aye what's good everyone. I don't come here much but well, I'm in a weird situation. So basically, school started last week, and I like my female friend's sister who's a year younger. I've talked to her and hung out with her but idk how my friend would feel about it. Not sure if it matters but I'm a junior in hs (16) and her sister is a sophomore and she's 15. I used to like my friend before I met her sister but then I found out she's had a bf for about 2 years (this is the friend I'm talking about). But anyways, me and my friend are pretty good friends and I fear that if I were to date her sister it would ruin the relationship. Idk I'm just having mixed feelings :/ Not sure what to do which is why I came here for advice.
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I don't see a problem with dating a friend's sibling assuming everyone is consenting and respectful. It might help to ask for your friend's blessing though. I can understand why she might feel awkward or uncomfortable but hopefully she's cool with it.

Just to clarify when I said "assuming everyone is consenting" I just meant you and the girl you want to ask out. You shouldn't need to get your friend's consent but it's probably best to do so if you think she might have a problem with it and you don't want to upset her.
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California
Seen November 24th, 2017
Posted November 27th, 2016
170 posts
8.8 Years
Hm. Well I guess we'll see over time. I'm just not sure how I'd put it into words to tell my friend. Also as a side note, I've only recently hung out with her sister while my friend is there since they're like my after school squad kind of thing. Sometimes I hang with them during lunch but usually it's after school in the library.
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Hiidoran

ohey

Age 32
Male
Indiana
Seen 1 Week Ago
Posted February 4th, 2022
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17.6 Years
I would say it's most important that you seek your friend's blessing before you ask her sister out. If you two are good friends, I'm sure she'll give it to you. This may change the relationship dynamic with your friend though, as most romantic relationships end up changing your friendships anyway. I'm not saying the two of you won't be friends anymore, but it may change a bit. You just need to ask yourself which is more important to you - pursuing a romantic relationship with this girl, or your friendship? ...and let your heart guide the way!

Hope everything works out for the best though. High school is a tough time. Everyone knows everyone.

Centipede Chan

Age 26
Female
United States
Seen October 14th, 2021
Posted April 4th, 2021
1,069 posts
9.1 Years
Hey um, anyone here willing to message me about anything and everything? I need so much advice and help and everything, and "seek professional help" is not an option at the moment. Or any time soon. I just really need someone on the outside to talk to and be able to vent to. I am sure there are many but I don't want to start randomly messaging people and making them suddenly really worried for my existence.

Sorry I post so much here too.

Stroker Ace

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Male
Seen October 14th, 2018
Posted September 3rd, 2018
75 posts
8.4 Years
Hey guys, I have a bit of a dilemma at the moment... You see, there's this girl at Pokemon club I met back in December of 2014, and we wound up chatting occasionally at club meetings, was preoccupied with another girl at the time, and I didn't develop a crush on her until around March. I finally grew the balls to talk to her regularly around July, and we wound up going to the fair and hanging out at her house in August (on separate days). The thing is, I'm not sure whether or not 1. she will reciprocate the feelings I have for her and 2. when to ask if she wants a relationship with me. We've hung out a lot this past week, the first week back from summer break, but I'm not sure if she really likes me or just thinks of me as a good friend.
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gimmepie

Age 27
Male
Australia
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Hey um, anyone here willing to message me about anything and everything? I need so much advice and help and everything, and "seek professional help" is not an option at the moment. Or any time soon. I just really need someone on the outside to talk to and be able to vent to. I am sure there are many but I don't want to start randomly messaging people and making them suddenly really worried for my existence.

Sorry I post so much here too.
No need to be sorry about posting here. Anyway, nothing any of us say is likely to be as useful as professional help but if you need someone to talk to you're always welcome to drop me a message.

Hey guys, I have a bit of a dilemma at the moment... You see, there's this girl at Pokemon club I met back in December of 2014, and we wound up chatting occasionally at club meetings, was preoccupied with another girl at the time, and I didn't develop a crush on her until around March. I finally grew the balls to talk to her regularly around July, and we wound up going to the fair and hanging out at her house in August (on separate days). The thing is, I'm not sure whether or not 1. she will reciprocate the feelings I have for her and 2. when to ask if she wants a relationship with me. We've hung out a lot this past week, the first week back from summer break, but I'm not sure if she really likes me or just thinks of me as a good friend.
Unfortunately in these situations there's usually really only one way to find out. If you've only really sen hanging out for a short time I'd personally wait a bit longer, but if you've been spending time together and talking freely since July and it's now September I think that's been enough. Really all you can do is either ask her or let it go and wonder "what if" for a very long time.
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scotland
Seen September 28th, 2018
Posted March 16th, 2018
8,874 posts
12.1 Years
Hey um, anyone here willing to message me about anything and everything? I need so much advice and help and everything, and "seek professional help" is not an option at the moment. Or any time soon. I just really need someone on the outside to talk to and be able to vent to. I am sure there are many but I don't want to start randomly messaging people and making them suddenly really worried for my existence.

Sorry I post so much here too.
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California
Seen November 24th, 2017
Posted November 27th, 2016
170 posts
8.8 Years
Well I'm back again. It turns out that my friend's sister has already had a boyfriend for a month or so. Really sucks because I didn't know of her existence till last week. Oh well :/
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gimmepie

Age 27
Male
Australia
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So I need some advice from those who have dealt with screen addiction. It's not an urgent problem, for sure. I've been dealing with it for years and I feel it's become increasingly worse, that's all.

Anyway, my problem is that I am addicted to screens. By that I mean computer screens, television screens, mobile device screens, any sort of screens. As long as I'm staring at a screen, I'm happy. I don't even need to be doing anything as long as I'm sitting down at my computer/playing on my DS/binge watching tv series with snacks. I don't even want to do anything else. I can separate myself from it, but I always find myself distracted when doing other things, as well as coming up with excuses for why I should go back on the computer.

This is making me sick and antisocial and I need some advice on how to stop it. Thanks!
If you think you spend an unhealthy amount of time on the computer etc, then really the only way to deal with it is to stop doing it. Try finding a hobby or something that forces you to step away from any sort of screen.
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Hiidoran

ohey

Age 32
Male
Indiana
Seen 1 Week Ago
Posted February 4th, 2022
6,203 posts
17.6 Years
This is making me sick and antisocial and I need some advice on how to stop it. Thanks!
This is actually becoming a well-documented experience; they're either putting it in the next version of the DSM or it already is, I forget. The point is, there are many people in our modern society now that feel the need to be connected to a screen all the time - it's a compulsion. Like any other compulsion, you either have to slowly ween yourself away if it is indeed causing you distress, or seek assistance from a professional if possible.

You're not alone though, if that helps.

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with an axe
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7.8 Years
I've been considering for a while: Should I leave?

I have been very busy lately, for one thing, and for another, it seems like you guys aren't appreciating me. The 'praise the user above you' hasn't been open for a LONG time since I've posted, some of your bans to me have sounded more like INSULTS lately, I have been distracted by a lot of stuff(My nuzruns, other websites, studying, etc.) nowadays, and I feel I should pretty much ditch this place, save for the Pokémon Trivia forum.

Well thankfully, I still like this place more than my previous forum. But now I'm starting to miss it because of all this. Should I leave the forums?
I… might put something interesting here eventually.

Laguna

Sir Zangoose

Age 24
Male
Seen August 31st, 2016
Posted August 2nd, 2016
1,660 posts
8.3 Years
I don't think you can say that nobody wants you here from just that. The whole Banned game is not supposed to be serious at all and being busy with other things is completely fine. Also, absconding from a forum for stupid reasons isn't gonna make anything better, trust me.

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Age 31
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"england would also be acceptible"
Seen November 3rd, 2019
Posted November 5th, 2017
947 posts
9.2 Years
sum of positive things - sum of negative things (not in a double negative way tho I doubt you made that consideration anyway) = ???

firstly consider all the good things about here that you love and enjoy and would miss if you were not here.
then, consider all the bad things about here that you dislike and cause you great distress and would be liberating if you were not to be here

compare the two. reach a conclusion as follows:

a: the good things outweigh the bad. then stay with us.
b: you can't reach a firm conclusion. take a little break?
c: the bad things outweigh the good. fly. fly away.

it's not down to a public opinion poll whether you should stay or not. nor is it the responsibility of other people to assess how silly/reasonable your thoughts are for you in a personal context. take more responsibility for your life decisions. you'll learn more that way. one day you'll cringe at the post you just made, and I think you know that. but the art of thinking critically like this is a good thing to do. gl hf.
Sarcasm, its what social able people have, you know wen you go out and meet chicks just not on forums 1,000,000 miles away from you and you ask them what color underwear they have. - Aristotle, 355 B.C

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Well I didn't expect to get reponses so quickly. So I guess I will think about it. I doubt I would regret making this, but still.

Oh, and another thing I forgot to put down, but it's a bit of a silly thing-I've never gotten a funny answer in the 'ask a stupid question' thread. Though I guess it's because I always get silly answers in my old forum's stupid questions thread, but still, yeah, maybe I should just think.
I… might put something interesting here eventually.

Hikamaru

Age 30
Female
Australia
Seen January 24th, 2019
Posted September 4th, 2018
50,214 posts
12.2 Years
I understand this because my time here on PC started not so good, where I was in fear after apparently breaking rules and attracting negative attention from some staff (in fact, there was a smod a few years ago that I downright had a fear of because he slapped me for stuff I wouldn't consider rule-breaking) and then I had another panic attack earlier this year that made me want to strip back activity and consider if I'm even worthy enough. I did get enough encouragement to stick around so if you're fearing mod power abuse, remember that a higher-up is there to assist you if you're concerned about a mod.
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Evening

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Posted February 5th, 2016
808 posts
9.4 Years
I don't think you should leave because of those reasons, they're pretty small actually.
But it's your choice.

Keiran

[b]Rock Solid[/b]

Age 31
New Jersey
Seen March 14th, 2022
Posted July 25th, 2018
2,441 posts
12.1 Years
PC isn't an obligation. No contract holds you here. You don't need to enjoy every aspect of the forum, either. You can come just for Trivia and still be a member that we appreciate. Have you checked out our Challenges forum, since you run Nuzlockes? You may enjoy it, if not.
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Female
United States
Seen January 7th, 2020
Posted December 19th, 2019
720 posts
7.7 Years
"it seems like you guys aren't appreciating me."

lol if you want to be appreciated by more users talk to more people via VM, friend more people, post more often all over the board, start new threads, and go to our PS server and say hi (most of us there are very extremely although the chat gets craaaaaazy sometimes).

Aether★

Age 32
Male
Monaco
Seen December 29th, 2021
Posted December 3rd, 2020
2,910 posts
12.8 Years
You know, there are some rules on the internet forums you should learn by yourself. Some of them may require the way you behave. I've learned some in hard way too.

Keep your distance, and have distance for yourself too. Most of those threads aren't even serious, same with people.
If you can't response to an insult with the right retort (basically you've been verbal'd) don't say anything and leave the thread, you won't give the satisfaction to the one who insulted you.
Try to post somewhere else you feel you have some knowledge at.
If you want appreciation, start talking to people via other means.
If you don't have time, just ditch it. That's what I do and I don't even say when I'm going to be absent or when I'm coming back to posting anymore, it's pointless.

The main factor lies in you.

gimmepie

Age 27
Male
Australia
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This seems a bit more fitting as a post in the advice thread than as a topic of its own so I'm going to move it there.

Other than that all I can say is that ultimately it's your choice. I don't like the idea of anyone not enjoying their time on PC and would love to see you stick around and enjoy things, but if you're not having fun here it's up to you whether or not you stay or go.
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