Help & Advice Thread Page 24

Started by Livewire April 15th, 2013 9:25 AM
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Pure Essence

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Charlotte
Seen November 5th, 2020
Posted October 25th, 2020
800 posts
5.4 Years
Just get Discord instead...

Lost in Thoughts, All Alone

Nah

Age 30
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Not sure if my current problem is worthy enough, but here it goes:

I've been getting pop-up messages to install my Skype again for the upgrades it'll be getting for the last couple of days. One time, it sent me to a link to the Skype website, and when I read the reviews, they went somewhere like this:

"Can't sign in. Error message keeps coming back. If this is a Microsoft app, why is it so difficult to use on a Microsoft phone? Also, when trying to sign in at the Skype website, an error message says "Sorry, Skype isn't allowing the sign in on this device yet." Ok. No way to sign in to Skype on this phone... So why is Skype app available on this phone? Don't get it."

"Skype on W10M is pure garbage. EDIT: v12.10 • No Location Sharing • No drawing • No transparent Tile • Opening the app won't clear Action Center notifications (on phones, it does on PC) • Answering from a notification won't clear the Live Tile • Slow • Opening the app on Phone will most of the time kill any other audio source. At the same time, Skype will also kill its own audio source, making so you are not longer able to hear people during calls. • Broken video calling (upside down image) • Doesn't seem to want to send keyboard emoji anymore. • Pointless "New Messages" notification instead of the actual notification with the message. • No Gallery on phone • No Fluent Design elements on phone • Crashes often At this point, what's the point of Skype?"

"Keeps freaking force quitting on the splash screen... I uninstalled it and when I reinstalled it nothing changed... Why? My phone has 3GB of ram."

I have Windows 10 for a few years now, and I fear that if I say "yes," then I may lose my Skype account, as well as all of my contacts. Can anyone who has already updated their Skype tell me if what I'm doing is the right thing?
You'll probably want to try posting this in S&T instead, they'd likely be of better help to you on this one
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gimmepie

Age 27
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Australia
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hey guys

i need someone who is willing to talk with me through PM

its something really, really personal, so if you aren't up to it please dont even bother replying to this. I understand.

i just have some stuff I need to get off of my chest and I wont do it publicly, nor can I use anyone in real life

Edit: i know this might sound weird, but it needs to be a male that talks to me
Hi
You know you can always talk to me smh
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Pinkie-Dawn

Vampire Waifu

Age 30
Male
California
Seen February 16th, 2021
Posted May 16th, 2019
9,528 posts
10.5 Years
You'll probably want to try posting this in S&T instead, they'd likely be of better help to you on this one
The problem is that it doesn't have its own Help & Advice thread, which is why I post it here instead.

Tsutarja

Age 28
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Florida
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Posted 6 Days Ago
27,325 posts
13.2 Years
The problem is that it doesn't have its own Help & Advice thread, which is why I post it here instead.
Hello, just your friendly neighborhood S&T mod stopping by!

We took away the Help & Advice thread due to the fact it was underutilized, and our solution was to reinstate the [Help] prefix for assistance threads. Please post any tech issues in S&T next time and use that prefix instead of using this thread, thanks. :]

Konekodemon

The Master of Pokemon Breeding

Age 38
Female
NC
Seen August 21st, 2022
Posted February 14th, 2022
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16.1 Years
I was wondering something. I noticed whenever I heat a corn-dog in my microwave the cornbread around the hot-dog always splits open. But if I heat it for less time it's too cold to eat. How do I heat a corn-dog in the microwave without the corn-bread splitting open?

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Tsutarja

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I was wondering something. I noticed whenever I heat a corn-dog in my microwave the cornbread around the hot-dog always splits open. But if I heat it for less time it's too cold to eat. How do I heat a corn-dog in the microwave without the corn-bread splitting open?
Follow the corn dog's microwaving directions? I mean, I'm not sure how else to describe it without getting into the science of why it happens.

The reason the corn dog batter breaks open is due to the moisture content. The molecules being generated by the microwave's radiation react to the moisture content, thus evaporating from water into steam. When you don't have enough heat, the water molecules will still be packed closely with one another and won't feel warm at all. When you apply too much heat, the moisture becomes evaporated and sucked out from the contents, thus why the breading can break open more easily.

Somewhere_

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Age 23
Male
somewhere (duh)
Seen June 5th, 2019
Posted March 17th, 2019
Hi
You know you can always talk to me smh
I didnt want to send you something sensitive without warning, which is why I posted here. Anyways, I'm feeling a lot better now (I think I got a lot of it out messaging another member here) and I think I have a good mindset going forward, but if you want to know what happened Ill tell you in a PM. Telling others seems to help me.

Pure Essence

Reverb, Resound, and Repeat!

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Charlotte
Seen November 5th, 2020
Posted October 25th, 2020
800 posts
5.4 Years
My parents take away my computer and phone at night, but that’s one of the few times I have for leisure... I need help

Lost in Thoughts, All Alone
My parents take away my computer and phone at night, but that’s one of the few times I have for leisure... I need help
I dunno, you might need to explain it to them or make some kind of compromise. I don't really think any of us can,
1) usurp your parents authority and regulatory of devices.
2) actually give you a device to use.

It's probably something you'll have to talk with them about. It can help if you understand why they are doing it and then trying to find some king of fear calmer or middle ground to stand on.

Pure Essence

Reverb, Resound, and Repeat!

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Charlotte
Seen November 5th, 2020
Posted October 25th, 2020
800 posts
5.4 Years
I tried doing what you suggested already and it didn’t go well

Lost in Thoughts, All Alone

string555

Skippity hop, skippity HAWP!

Age 31
Male
Wonderland
Seen March 14th, 2018
Posted February 20th, 2018
If you are old enough to get a job, get one and buy your own devices, tucking them away somewhere so they don't get taken away.

If not, then I'm not really sure what you can do without knowing more information. Do your parents expect you to be doing something else at that time? Do you think they do it because you have a history of staying up too late on your devices? Is it only on school nights or every night?

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Pure Essence

Reverb, Resound, and Repeat!

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Charlotte
Seen November 5th, 2020
Posted October 25th, 2020
800 posts
5.4 Years
It’s every night and its because I do have a history of staying up

Lost in Thoughts, All Alone
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The only reason why I could think of why your parents would take away your phone and computer at night would be because they want you to study and go to bed early for School tomorrow. My mom always wanted me to go to bed early even when I didn't have School the next day but I would just ignore her and stay up late.

Pure Essence

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Charlotte
Seen November 5th, 2020
Posted October 25th, 2020
800 posts
5.4 Years
But I go to a virtual school..

Lost in Thoughts, All Alone

string555

Skippity hop, skippity HAWP!

Age 31
Male
Wonderland
Seen March 14th, 2018
Posted February 20th, 2018
It’s every night and its because I do have a history of staying up
Okay, so you might not like this idea but here's what the deal probably is: You lost the privilege of using your devices at night because you abused those privileges too many times. Chances are the only way for you to get those privileges back is to show your parents that you can be responsible by going to real sleep (Not faking it :P) at a reasonable time, especially on school nights. If you show you can do that over enough time, then they might give you your devices back.

The work is not over then, though. Once you get them back, you have to show that you can use them responsibly at night, go to sleep at a normal time and NOT just go right back to the way you were doing things. Maybe it sucks to have some of your time cut off at night, but that is better than having ALL of your device time cut off, ya?

Besides, if you stay up late using the internet, and have to go to school the next day, isn't it worse to have to do so when being dead tired? I made the mistake of doing that through my schooling, and I suffered worse because of it.

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Sorvete

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Brazil
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Posted March 25th, 2023
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5.1 Years
So, hello.

I want to talk about something that bothers me to hell from the past months.

A friend of mine, that was actually my best friend for a long time now, suddenly decides to stay away from me and almost completely ignore me. He's been doing this for months and he says he 'can't stand being around me, and feels awful when doing so'.

He is on my class from 2 years now, and we used to do everything together, we planned a lot of stuff (even create our own Pokmon Gen).

What I've been feeling is a muxture of anger, pain, low self-esteem and anxiety. I have already talked to my psychologist about it and she said that I should wait until classes come back and see if he takes an attitude, and if not so, I should start looking for someone else to be friends with.

I know he must have his reasons, but I cant understand or get it right now, and it really bothers me every single day.

Anyway, that's it, I hope you can express your opinions.

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Enpatsu Shakugan

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Have you asked him? I can't tell from your post; I'd assume if you were given the answers of he can't stand being around, you have.

Honestly, if that's the case and he's treating you like this, despite how much it's saying it hurts you, he doesn't care. He doesn't care about your feelings and friendship.
And for someone like that, let go. You don't want them as a friend anyway.

You can only speculate for sure what caused it, but you may never know. Some people have no logical reasons for a lot of things they do; they just go on feelings and can't describe it themselves.

You can find a better friend, don't worry. Online or off.

Sorvete

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But he really do (or did) understand my feelings, I trusted him all along. I always shared difficult times with him and he was very comprehensive. But then, one day, he decides to avoid speaking with me

I really don't think he hates me/disregard my feelings in any way. And I don't remember doing something to upset him to the point of completely abscence.

He has been passing through mental problems for a time, and I really tried to help how I could, but I don't know. I really wanted to talk to him about this.

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Is he acting this way around others as well, or is it just you? If the former...well, no matter how much you may want to support him, you can't force him to talk. Whether or not he chooses to confide in you in his choice, and whether you like it or not, if you're his friend, you'll respect his right to privacy and personal space and give him the time he needs to come to you...if that is indeed what he decides to do.

Sometimes, people face problems that they just don't feel confident or capable of discussing with others, and there isn't much you can do but give them time. You've made it clear to him that you're still there for him if he wants it. The ball, as they say, is in his court now.

If it's just you...well, if he won't give you an explanation, then you're better off without such a person in your life. If you did something wrong, and you're willing to apologise and make amends if necessary, that is all you can do. If he's not going to discuss disagreements maturely, it's a waste of your time to try and reach out to him.

Either way, you need input from him if you're going to continue being friends. It's frustrating and upsetting to lose people, especially if it's sudden and seemingly without explanation as this seems to be, but people are inherently self-centered creatures, and there isn't a whole lot you can do when someone decides to shut you out. I'm not saying you should forget about him and move on immediately - unless he's mistreating you - but right now, it sounds to me as though you've done everything you can.

Sorvete

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Posted March 25th, 2023
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It's hard to say if he is treating only me this way, or others as well, but I see that he gets along with some people (mostly my friends Gabriel and Aline) normally like he did before this whole episode.

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Following your psychologist's advice sounds like a good plan, if you don't want to confront him directly about this again. From what you've said, he hasn't offered much of an explanation - WHY does he feel that way towards you now? If he'll answer that, then maybe you can discuss things with him and make amends...or at least feel better about going your separate ways.

Sorvete

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Brazil
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Posted March 25th, 2023
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5.1 Years
I guess you're right, Dawn. I started to think more about myself few weeks ago and avoid creating personal dramas in my mind that are mostly not true.

I'm only 2 years now to finish secondary and should probably start thinking in what I want to do in my life. That's what she (my psychologist) said in the last session.

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Letting go of someone who has been a close friend, especially when you don't see the reason or cause to do so, can be difficult and painful to do. But you definitely need to put your own mental health and wellbeing first, and this person's attitude and behaviour towards you sound like they've been a real detriment. It really is best to just let other people carry on with drama, if that's what they want to do: you're not responsible for the way they think and act, and if they're not going to tell you why they react to you the way they do, you can hardly be held accountable for that either. There can be no progress without communication, and if you're being blanked out, it really is best not to bother.

If he does a sudden 180 in personality, though, be careful, OK? If there is a genuine grievance and you manage to work it out, there's no reason why you can't continue your friendship if that's what you want. But don't let yourself be used or led along. Personal issues are no excuse to mistreat other people, and being told that he "can't stand being around" you definitely qualifies as mistreating. By all means, be civil and friendly, but don't allow him to abuse your trust like that a second time.