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Old November 11th, 2013 (3:17 PM).
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Depends on the neighbourhood you're moving to, really. Alabama is one of the poorer states of the US, but it's only a bit relatively - not poor by any strict sense of the word. What reason do you have to be afraid? I don't see how it would be too different from any other part of the country.
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The dangers of back woods killers....
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Old November 11th, 2013 (4:36 PM).
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Well than,i too have a problemd. It's betwen me and my friend. Since i started the rom hacking the friend began to hate me. Hey say that Rom hacking is a poor thing. What should i do?
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Old November 11th, 2013 (9:52 PM).
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@ShinyHoundoom92: Alabama won't be any more dangerous than where you live now. I can think of at least one member here at PC who lives in that state and there probably a lot more. It is a bit awful to have to move when you don't want to, but you can always think of it as a chance to start again, to reinvent yourself, and try new things out.

I really wouldn't worry about monsters in the woods. But if you want to feel safer then just follow some basic safety measures like locking doors and windows, always letting people know where you're going, staying in well-lit areas if it's dark, and not traveling alone when you don't need to. If you can build up the confidence you won't be so afraid. You can build up confidence by doing things that you know will make you safer.


@PokemonMasterOfSkeetendo: You can try to explain to your friend what it is you do with rom hacks so they have a better idea. I'm guessing they don't approve because they think it is illegal or something like that, and if that's how they feel you can just not talk about it with your friend and stick to talking about other things.
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Old November 11th, 2013 (9:58 PM).
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Also, it's Alabama. No one will look down on you if they find you carrying armzzzzzzz yo.
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Old November 12th, 2013 (5:30 AM).
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I've run out of dog food and money to buy dog food. Does anyone have a dog and what people food can I feed him? Last night I gave him a can of spaghetti and like 4 slices of bread. Help :(
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Old November 12th, 2013 (6:02 AM).
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Meat is generally a good way to go I'd say plumpy. Try not to feed it onions, anything spicy or anything overly processed too. Honestly though, I'd say the best thing to do is to borrow dog food or even money from a neighbour or friend.
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I need help PC. First off, I'm dead nervous and really am gonna miss Pennsylvania. Alabama is gonna be sad and depressing just like West Virginia..... I really need advice on this matter and how I should address it. Secondly, is love a waste of time to you? I mean all girls hate smart guys and I really feel like love is not going to be found because Alabama is a southern area... I have one big rule. Don't date southern girls. Should I change that or should I stick to people who are like me. Likes video games instead of killing animals for sport. Please and thank you.
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Old November 13th, 2013 (12:17 PM).
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I think you're letting some preconceptions get the better of you. Yes, there are going to be people in Alabama who only care about hunting and don't like smart people, but there are going to be people who are the opposite, and just a lot of different kinds of people. Give people a chance to show you who they are before you write them off.

If you want to, maybe find some online communities for gamers in Alabama or something along those lines. Do a little research about the place you're going to be moving to.
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Old November 17th, 2013 (8:15 AM).
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Secondly, is love a waste of time to you? I mean all girls hate smart guys and I really feel like love is not going to be found because Alabama is a southern area...
I am living proof that women find intelligence very attractive. The way you think right now is unattractive. That sounds harsh and that's how I meant it. If you think that all girls hate smart guys you are automatically going to associate those traits with any and every girl you meet. Women can sense that and will be turned off by you. Solution: Confidence, this is the hardest thing you will ever learn.. ever. You need to be confident with who you are first and foremost, confident in your capabilities of what you can and can't do. Being true to yourself is not only attractive because you're not being deceptive but is also uplifting and helps you open up to everything life has to offer. It's an exponential growth as well, as soon as you start seeing results you'll be compelled and it goes from there. Next when you approach them, don't have any previous impressions in your mind, if you want to get to know her, don't make assumptions actually get to know her. Every single woman is different and you should take pleasure in finding out her favourite foods and what she likes (asking why she likes them also gets her talking whilst you think of somewhere to direct the conversation if it dries up accidentally).



I'm going to give all the wishful romantic guys of PC some dating advice for approaching women.
You have a 50% chance of striking out with a girl with the first thing you say regardless of how physically impressive you are. It all depends on how direct you are towards her when initiating the conversation.
So you can give her a compliment and be very direct with her, or you can be indirect and say something about the environment or something she's doing (like reading for example, asking what she is reading is indirect).

There are exceptions obviously. On the odd occasion she may be very friendly and open to meeting people regardless. Or she might just hate everyone all the time for no reason.
Go ahead, prove me wrong.

Please be aware that your body language has everything to do with this.
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Today, my best friend texted me, saying we need to talk. She said we'd been drifting apart and didn't think we were suited to be friends anymore. It broke my heart, she'd been the person who brought me through bad times. We'd been through so much together and now she doesn't want us to be friends.
The worst part is, now that I think about it, we don't have much to say anymore.
I feel so awful that I let this happen. What should I do, internet?
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Did she give a reason as to why? Tbqh, doesn't sound like a move a best friend would make.
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Did she give a reason as to why? Tbqh, doesn't sound like a move a best friend would make.
She said our conversations were getting limited and interactions were strenuous, both of which I can attest to. I just wanted to make amends, but she saw it differently.
And there had been some drama before that caused a rift, but I thought it had been over at this point.
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Old November 18th, 2013 (10:21 PM).
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I see. I don't proclaim to give sage advice, but I think it could be time to move on. Like in any relationship, there needs to be synergy for things to work out. If being friends is more strenuous than beneficial, it may be time to reevaluate and perhaps move on. You may want to remain friends, but it can be very hard to force a working relationship. That being said, definitely follow up on that text. Have that one and one and see what's best for you two moving forward.

That's my take on the matter. Of course you can't blame yourself for something someone else is feeling, especially when you two were friends to begin with. I hope things work out; if you can come to a happy resolution, by all means, I hope you do.
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Old November 18th, 2013 (10:27 PM).
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Take a few days off and see what happens. I mean, easier said than done, but you just need to get away and find if you two really need each other. If not, then you'll forget about them in the few days (yay!), but if you really really do, you two will just naturally end up back together.
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This is really more suited for this thread, I would think. Not to mini-mod, of course, just some advice for future reference.

To answer your question, though, your signature has the answer.
Tides aren't the only things that ebb and flow; people do as well. Sometimes they come closer, others, they barely touch the shore. But while it may be that she's decided to drift away, or you from her, before either of you jump to any conclusions you should think about what friendship actually means.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I always thought it was more of a feeling, or link between souls. Not a title that you can revoke whenever you feel like it.

Then again, I'm probably not the best person to give advice about this sort of thing.

I hope you resolve your problem.
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Sometimes people just grow apart because their lives are moving in different directions and whatever kept you close isn't there. It happens when people graduate from school and they realize that a big part of their friendship was that they were simply in the same place with each other. Not saying that's what's going on every time, but if you knew what the tension was about it would help you either patch things up or give you some kind of closure from knowing what exactly was causing a division.
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i dont mean for this to come off as weird but all my best friends in the past have been female, and lately thy have all drifted away from the whole friendship aspect, so if it's possible i was hoping i could find a girl on here that would be willing to be my friend for moral support, it would really help me out so anyone willing thanks for helping me out, feel free to pm me, i promise i wont be a creep., i just seem to form better friend ships with women.
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i dont mean for this to come off as weird but all my best friends in the past have been female, and lately thy have all drifted away from the whole friendship aspect, so if it's possible i was hoping i could find a girl on here that would be willing to be my friend for moral support, it would really help me out so anyone willing thanks for helping me out, feel free to pm me, i promise i wont be a creep., i just seem to form better friend ships with women.
Realize that friendships IRL and friendships over the web aren't exactly the same thing, in small ways. Buuuuuuuut, if you wanna make friends, just talk to people, really? Nine people out of ten on PC are extremely nice, and usually up for conversation, be them male or female. Best of luck!
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Realize that friendships IRL and friendships over the web aren't exactly the same thing, in small ways. Buuuuuuuut, if you wanna make friends, just talk to people, really? Nine people out of ten on PC are extremely nice, and usually up for conversation, be them male or female. Best of luck!
thanks for the help man!

i do have a more serious mater at hand, I'm on leave visiting my family and they all have sticks up their asses except for my dad ( I've really only spent time with him since everyone is in such a pissy mood). none of them want to try to resolve their problems and just want to sweep everything under the rug. is there any advice you guys could give? I'd try an intervention but they wont listen to each other and will just get pissed off. any help would be great!
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thanks for the help man!

i do have a more serious mater at hand, I'm on leave visiting my family and they all have sticks up their asses except for my dad ( I've really only spent time with him since everyone is in such a pissy mood). none of them want to try to resolve their problems and just want to sweep everything under the rug. is there any advice you guys could give? I'd try an intervention but they wont listen to each other and will just get pissed off. any help would be great!

If your family members keep sweeping things under the rug then it will eventually build up and someone will explode. It'll probably become far worse than you could imagine. It's best to deal with any issue as soon as possible. Find any member of the family whom you trust that knows of your situation who is not part of it, preferably older, and have him or her be on your "team" -- the neutral-unbiased-as-possible side when confronting other family members. You and whoever is involved needs to deal with this eventually. Discuss, plan on how to deal with the issue. A pair of people trying to deal with the issue is better than one. But if it's just yourself, then the following will apply still...

Be as neutral and fair as possible, and forget about if they will "just get pissed off". Don't fear, confront them in a patient, humble, loving manner; as a friend. When confronting them, don't attack, don't play the blame game, don't assume anything, what you may know may just be the tip of the iceberg. But state your case and listen and to one side first and then to the other. Confront one in private, and if there are more people involved then confront each one of them in private first. If more than one is involved, try to have them agree to have each other sit down to discuss this, and have them agree to be honest as possible without being angry. Anger will not solve anything, and only at best solve something temporarily, which isn't what you want. Tell them that you're doing this because you care about them and don't want any more division among your family members. If they get pissed off, calm them down first before you go on -- people are most rational when they're calm.

Whatever the issues are go to the root of the problem. The root of the problem could be someone's pride, selfishness, or lusts, fears...But you won't know for sure unless you ask the right questions. Don't ask "yes or no" questions but ask open ended questions like "who", "what", "when", "where", "why", "how"? "What happened?" "Why did you do this?" "How would you feel if you are in his shoe?", "what is your greatest fear in this situation?" as a few examples. You will get a far better understanding of the situation and how to tackle the situation if you ask these kinds of questions. If you must ask a "yes" or "no" question, make sure to follow up with a who, what, when, etc. question. So, understand both sides thoroughly first, before you try solving the situation for both sides.

Be firm in trying to stay as neutral as possible and be firm in having them not start a fight. Be firm in not allowing them to play the blame game when in the end, most likely, they both (all) have done something wrong and have contributed in this iceberg of full of grudges, bitterness, and hurt. Encourage them to admit and see their own wrongs first before they start pointing fingers at other people. That's one of the greatest steps -- admitting their own wrong. Other steps that needs to happen during your confrontation has to include forgiveness, a desire to turn away from all the wrong that they've done, and develop a habit of doing what is right. One of them definitely include to commit to never to be rug-sweepers ever again.

You confronting them is not just a one day confrontation, it could be days, even weeks of discussion before things are solved. Ask for at least half an hour of their time first in dealing with the situation. If it's unsolved, ask for another discussion on a different day. Keep doing this until you truly know for a fact the issue is solved or that dealing this situation is not possible in your hands. If that's the case, encourage them to see a professional counselor.

Before doing all of this though, some thing should be done on your part first. If you have wronged any of them and have swept anything under the rug that has to do with them, then apologize and ask for their forgiveness first before you deal with their issues. By doing so may just cause others to break their pride of confronting their own issues. If you don't do that, you may be seen as a hypocrite or "holier than thou". That's no good.


All that said, good luck and best wishes to you. Interventions are no easy task, but it's gotta be done. The sooner the better.
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There is this kid, he played in my soccer team before highschool but I dropped soccer in highschool. At the start of highschool he followed me around, it got old after a while and he came from a small school so he has that small school syndrome where the personalities are the same and they only have a small group of friends but he got passed that and made some friends who werent just me and another few kids... fast forward until now and ergh he just sits next to me on the bus when there are other seats around and when one goes free he doesn't move and I am unsure how to break it to him that "I don't like him." If i tell him that he would get very upset and I don't want to hurt him to much. I am not asking what do I do just what should I do.
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There is this kid, he played in my soccer team before highschool but I dropped soccer in highschool. At the start of highschool he followed me around, it got old after a while and he came from a small school so he has that small school syndrome where the personalities are the same and they only have a small group of friends but he got passed that and made some friends who werent just me and another few kids... fast forward until now and ergh he just sits next to me on the bus when there are other seats around and when one goes free he doesn't move and I am unsure how to break it to him that "I don't like him." If i tell him that he would get very upset and I don't want to hurt him to much. I am not asking what do I do just what should I do.
It's good of you to consider his feelings about this. Not everyone would. If what he's doing is bothering you then it's okay for you to want him to stop so looking for some way to distance yourself is okay. There are some common things that people do when they don't want to talk to people in public like reading (if that doesn't make you car sick) or listening to music. Those are the kind of passive ways to say "Don't talk to me." If those don't work you can try to move where you sit, like sitting next to someone else or some other way so that there isn't an open seat next to you. To me, things like that don't seem so mean, though they might make him upset whatever you do so I guess it's up to you to decide how blunt you want to be, but you should probably say or do something since this isn't a good situation for you.
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I have a bit of social problems on the internet right now so I'm not looking to blame anyone for my problems, just how to fix it

basically I have /b/tards (if you want the "official" term lol no offense to anyone) as some friends right now (dickbag exterior but sophisticated/polite interior, the whole deal)

I know they're not actually dicks and stuff but I have a hard time doing anything or defending myself from their "rudeness" without being accused of hypersensitivity or being too weak or something like that.

And I don't think they're bad or anything, just how do I deal with them so that they all don't call me "whiny *****" or whatever?
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