Stop being so passive!

Started by Sableye~ July 20th, 2013 5:00 PM
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Arcturus.

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Seen August 24th, 2014
Posted July 18th, 2014
605 posts
10.8 Years
I'm a pretty passive person, people push me around all the time. There is a point though, where I just won't stand for it anymore and snap, but people can normally get away with a lot before that.
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Nick

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Posted July 28th, 2021
17,572 posts
18.6 Years
I don't consider myself a passive person. People probably perceive me to be a passive person, though. Unfortunately, a lot of the things that go on around me brush off my shoulder and I don't really care all too much about them, so I can definitely come across as someone who is easy to push around because I don't really care. Don't confuse my kindness to help combined with my indifference to do so as someone without a backbone, because I do call people out on whatever ****ery they're putting me through when I sense tom****ery and I'm not afraid to be blunt.

Sanguine

malignant narcissist

Female
in front of my TV
Seen April 7th, 2019
Posted January 1st, 2019
535 posts
10 Years
People used to push me around a lot, and I used to think nothing of it (I thought I was just being nice).

After certain things happened in my life, I'd get incredibly angry when someone even tried, so I guess that I'm not passive anymore xD
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gimmepie

Age 27
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Australia
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11.1 Years
I find myself in much the same position as Element0 and 007_eleven.

I am a pretty passive person and I don't like to come across as though I like to start trouble or anything in any way. I will take a lot from people and just ignore it, but like what these people above have said you can only push me so far.

I have to expend a lot of effort to not lose my cool and eventually if you push enough you're going to get a response. There have been plenty of cases in my (not overly long) past where I have just lost it to the point of being verbally, or in some cases even physically aggressive.

I like to think that I'm not easy to walk over though, despite being a passive person. I don't let people push me around, I'm just not going to start arguments and I am going to tend towards trying to fulfil others needs before my own (see the thread on the subject). If conflicts arise I'm always going to try and stay as neutral as possible or at least try to sort it out diplomatically.

All this being said though, how passive I am really does depend what buttons you push. I can take a lot personally but I'm very protective of my close friends and family.
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Trev

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Age 26
Male
Seen December 31st, 2021
Posted March 27th, 2019
1,505 posts
11 Years
I actually used to be very aggressive and I basically didn't like anyone unless they could tolerate my anger, which no one really bothered to do. Over time, I learned to chill out and be nicer. I still get one of those wild nerves if some one says something that just gets me down to the bones, though. I've found that locating a middle ground is always a good medium.

Unless I have a crush on the person. Then they can just walk all over me like a floor mat for all I care. I literally will be at their beck and call if I like someone enough.

Meganium

memento mori

she/her
Houston, TX
Seen February 1st, 2023
Posted February 1st, 2023
I'm passive because of my anxiety, but when I hit my limit, I definitely stand up for myself and/or for what I believe in. To be honest, I'm not as passive as I was before, because I learned how to take charge in the things I believe in.

Dirk Strider

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Seen July 12th, 2015
Posted May 2nd, 2014
10 posts
9.8 Years
I tend to be passive in a sense that I'm borderline submissive up until the point that I become annoyed when I'm being screwed around with. You know, playful teasing and jabbing is fine, but there's a limit to my vulnerability and when said limit is reached, I tend to lose my composure rather easily. My history of broken composure has lead to people typically leaving me alone when it comes to playful jabbing, which I don't mind, haha.
Brazil
Seen December 8th, 2014
Posted June 3rd, 2014
78 posts
13.9 Years
I'm very passive, I almost never do anything to defend my opinion and won't react to anything that makes me mad. I figure, 'hey, I'll just end up forgetting about it in a week or so' lol
Same here. I don't like to fight, people always yell out of a sudden and I hate that...

In my case it's not like I'll forget in a week, but most people do. They get really angry at the time, mock me and say stupid things, but in a week they are normal again. That's another thing I don't like: you hurt me but in a few days you just forget? Nah... at least apologize and try to be nicer next time. Just because I'm passive it doesn't mean I don't feel or don't get hurt...
I was really passive not so long ago. I was the main target of bullying at my school, but on the other hand, i couldnt care less if they did. I always ignored it but sometimes it was hard to. I really got pushed around a lot back then... but now im less passive (i still dont like to fight, but now i stand up for myself more than back then).

Those days... rather wanted to forget them

Melody

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Seen March 4th, 2018
Posted March 2nd, 2018
6,459 posts
18.6 Years
I tend to be quite passive unless provoked. But I'm not quiet about what I consider a provocation, and I don't take too much. If I'm nearing my limit, I'll let you know. But I don't usually do much until someone has pushed me far enough to warrant speaking up or show any distress.
Age 29
Male
Melbourne, Australia
Seen January 2nd, 2015
Posted November 28th, 2014
910 posts
12.1 Years
I like to be aggressive to people who are aggressive towards me first, I then end up making a joke and laughing it off because I'm being aggressive for the irony of how passive I am.

Indirectly though, if we're living together and you don't put your dishes away or something simple that just annoys people but you repeatedly do it after I ask you to stop, I will delete your backup files, there will be no clean towels or toilet paper in the bathroom, I'll open all the loaves of bread so they turn stale and I'll put vinegar in the milk. And then conveniently I will have no idea what you're talking about and blame you for trying to prank me.

Aslan

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10.2 Years
When people try to push me around, generally I just laugh. I'm not sure what to think of it, I just don't care. I show them I'm not scared at all of whatever they want to do, I just won't let them trample all over me like a stampede of elephants. So I guess I'm passive in a sense? I just don't let it bother me since it used to always get on my nerves when I was younger, being picked on and always getting pushed around. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I suppose. :p

In general, I stand up for myself in most cases. I will fight back if I have to, although I prefer to avoid the situation. I don't like getting into heated arguments but I'll stand my ground if it really comes to it. Generally though I try not to be bothered about being pushed around and show the people that I really don't care, to scare them off a bit.
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Posted February 18th, 2018
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16.6 Years
Extremely. I'd hate to cause trouble. As I was raised, I was taught that I should be assertive, but I don't see merit in the notion of everyone pressing their own opinions relentlessly on all matters, which would be the ultimate conclusion of such a virtue. I have instead learned patience and humility, understanding and discretion, or so I believe.

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Seen January 4th, 2018
Posted October 11th, 2015
4,016 posts
10.5 Years
Pretty much what Paladin said.
I'm not submissive. I just don't care. I might playfully hit someone for teasing me or something like that, but only if I know them.

If you're an acquaintance and start throwing insults- that's cool, I don't like you much either.

I usually only pick fights if someone goes after me first. Even at that, I don't always take the fight seriously, especially if it's a friend. A specific guy I know is very aggressive and it isn't rare for him to snap and literally tackle me. It's kind of amusing when he's legitimately trying to hurt me, and I'm just having fun with the fight. {:
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Her

Age 29
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Posted 4 Days Ago
let's be real
when was the last time you people saw me being pushed around
thank you
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Khoshi

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Age 24
Male
Sydney, Australia
Seen January 3rd, 2020
Posted October 16th, 2019
2,646 posts
10.1 Years
I let people push me around and stuff similar, I'm a guy who can tolerate a lot...but if you just say the wrong thing, that's it. I explode in a rage.