He's my best friend! Meet... what's your name again?

Started by Elaitenstile August 24th, 2013 9:33 PM
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Posted February 8th, 2015
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How much consideration does it take for you to consider a person a friend? A real friend (not the "buddy list" type) but it may be through internet sources.

In other words, what are your personal expectations that one should cross to become your "friend"?
And then, what about a "good friend"?
Best friend?
BFF?
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For me a friend is someone who you can turn to when you need help or just want someone who shares similar interest to chat with. I don't think it takes a lot for a person to be considered a friend, but a best friend is different. A best friend is someone who will be your friend for life, someone who is there if you need them, someone who you are happy to see everyday, someone who you love and would do anything for.

moon

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I find it difficult to define what a friend is. Some people I meet occasionally and can hug as a greeting and have a good time with, I'll refer to as friends. People I meet on PC and have hearty weird PM or Skype convos with are also my friends. But that doesn't mean I'd call them in the middle of a night in a crisis. There isn't really anyone I would consider my true best friend; I guess I'm just not the type to share everything and anything with other people. But luckily I do have some call-in-the-middle-of-the-night people and at least three friends I consider myself closer to than most and care about almost as much as for my family.

It's probably pretty different for different people, how do define a friend. Some people take a long time to warm up to someone and trust, while others (like me :x) can talk with someone for a little while and then call them a friend because we get along well. But yeah, there are layers of friendship.
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To me a 'friend' is someone you'd choose to spend time with and they'd choose to spend time with you, and of course that entails you getting along well, and a 'good friend' is someone that you can talk to when you need help or someone that actively wants to know/help with what's troubling you, and it's someone that you could do most things with and you'd both still enjoy it together. A best friend is someone that you can tell everything and anything to, and someone that tries to get you to talk to them about this stuff because they care about it, not because they're curious - it's also someone that you would always want to do things with and I expect they'd be your first point of call when you need someone to be there for you.

This is probably completely out of whack with most of the people I call friends/etc, but its what I'd define them as. It also has a lot to do with who you get embarrassed around, I'd say.
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Posted November 28th, 2014
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Realistically I'll consider you a friend if we hang out outside of where we met. So I don't consider many people I went to school with friends anymore because we don't see each other outside of school.
But people I get along with at work and school and that get a separate category. Work/school friends.
We have to get along enough to joke around and that, it's not enough to be able to hold a conversation, that could be considered as being civil and therefore makes you an acquaintance.
Everyone on PC is an acquaintance because we don't hang out outside of PC (sorry not sorry).

Corvus of the Black Night

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I usually let almost anyone into a "friend" circle, but it's not actually like a typical friend. It's more just someone I talk to. Someone that I consider a friend has to have a very strong bond with me and there's only like 3 people I could even count as that.

Bounsweet

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I know a lot of people and I'm acquainted with a lot of people, but I have very few people I feel like I could rely on and actually call my friends. My best friend I met online like 5 years ago, and we still talk daily! I like to consider my boyfriend my best friend too, and I've been dating him for nearly 2 and a half years. I also consider Anastasia.R my best friend, and I've known her for about 5-6 years as well.

Trev

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I usually consider a person a friend as long as they don't try to kill me, or they don't insult me. The latter usually makes me less likely to call them my friend, since the first hasn't happened yet (thankfully).

Tsutarja

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A friend to me is one who is willing to devote their time to talk with me, and stay in contact as well. While I don't really have a "best" friend (because all friends are equal to me), I have lots of friends altogether that I stay in touch with, whether it's online or not.

Nick

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It doesn't really take me any consideration for someone to become my friend. Its not something that I consciously decide, either. Friendship happens naturally over time, between two people who share experiences together. They don't necessarily have to share interests with you. They just need to share their lives with you, and if its meant to be, the two of you will grow closer and form a friendship.

A best friend, for me, is a matter of preference. Really, any of my friends can be my best friend, but most of them don't really hit the mark for me to really think of them that way. There has to be a certain chemistry you share with this friend that you don't share with other friends. I can't really think of a way to describe it, but the way you feel around this person is different than the way you feel around other people. I guess in a way its sort of similar to a romantic chemistry you have to share with your significant other, but without the butterflies and the romance.
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Posted September 4th, 2013
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Honestly, I don't have any expectations from a person to become my friend. I actually have a wide variety of friends. On Facebook and stuff I have plenty of friends who are like transgendered, depressed, things like that. In person, I have friends who are jocks and stuff which is funny cause they make fun of the other people. You don't need to try very hard to be my friend, honestly. My only real requirement is to show me respect and Ill be happy.

However, to be my BFF we need to have a ton of common interests to even stand a chance. I can't stand boredom at all and I think common interests make that very preventable.