I'm gonna give my queer neighbor a lift to Baltimore.

Started by Snowdrop September 14th, 2013 2:44 PM
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Snowdrop

Back and ready to babble!

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Penguin Jail
Seen May 22nd, 2017
Posted May 2nd, 2017
628 posts
10.8 Years
Lol the title comes from a movie

How blunt and straightforward are you? Do you differ in these qualities depending on real life or talking on the Internet? Does it annoy you when people are maybe a little too blunt or do you appreciate the honesty? At what point should things stop being sugarcoated?

Kyrul

Long Live The Note

Age 30
Male
Missouri
Seen February 28th, 2019
Posted February 28th, 2019
841 posts
11.7 Years
I rather people be blunt and straight forward with me. My feelings aren't going to be hurt. Ain't got time to decipher hidden code messages either.

I'm usually pretty blunt, I hate lying. If I don't want to hurt the person's feelings then I just don't say anything at all.
He / Him
USA
Seen December 1st, 2022
Posted December 1st, 2022
1,306 posts
13.2 Years
I try to be honest unless the truth hurts since I like to take others' feelings into consideration (unless of course the truth is regarding something serious that needs to be known). When I'm pissed off though, which is rarely, I just let it all out. It takes a lot to piss me off so usually that doesn't happen.

*dreaming 4ever

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I try not to be blunt to anyone (including my own parents), because I'm afraid of seeing the reactions that they would make. I always sugarcoat stuff to protect people from getting their feelings hurt, and it also prevents me from making myself feel rude or ignorant. d: I even cover my insults to make them seem as if they're compliments.

Nolafus

Aspiring something

Age 27
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Lost in thought... again
Seen March 3rd, 2018
Posted March 11th, 2017
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10.9 Years
I've learned to be more straightforward. I won't be completely blunt, but I'll get my point across all the same. Reviewing fics has taught me that. No one is going to learn anything if you tell them that their stuff is good and nothing else. It may sting at first, but in the long run, everyone will benefit from it.
PairPC sister
Age 29
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Melbourne, Australia
Seen January 2nd, 2015
Posted November 28th, 2014
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12.1 Years
It's not really my problem how someone else takes the truth. If they can't come to terms with it even after I've thrown it at their face then they should maybe take a step back and think about it.

I'm very much an active public-shamer. If you say or do something stupid I'm going to call you on it, and I'm going to make sure you know that people were around to witness. That way you learn not to be an idiot quickly.
Seen September 18th, 2020
Posted February 18th, 2018
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Eloquence. Honesty is served, of course, as among my highest of values, yet not in the most basic of terms, and not everything is worth saying anyway. One could call me sharply honest, rather than bluntly so. If I were to reference the title for example, there's no reason to point out that one's neighbour is queer. As a recipient, I appreciate any sincerity; I find gilded words disdainful.

Star-Lord

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Age 28
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Toronto
Seen November 28th, 2018
Posted April 14th, 2018
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14.3 Years
I think that sugarcoating has its time and place. Although I'm a really harsh person by nature I'm also aware that being blunt all the time is sort of annoying? Like good lord the people I meet who are like "I'm blunt idgaf get used to it" instantly become hated because they don't have good skills with dealing with people. You can't let yourself be a pushover, but you also just can't... not give consideration to other people's feelings.