Self-Harm

Started by Gfx September 17th, 2013 10:54 AM
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Gfx

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Posted October 8th, 2013
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Before I start with this thread, I just want everyone to remember that this is a sensitive topic. You don't know what people are going through on here or if they know anyone who have been through this, so make sure you think carefully before you post. Thank you.

Anyways, I was just curious on the communities view towards self-harm. If you don't know, that is when you intentionally hurt yourself for certain reasons. Do you know anyone who self harms? Do you have any stories you would like to share? What are your opinions?

I'll say my story. A couple years ago, when I had my first real girlfriend, she verbally abused me, and my dad physically abused me. There was constant yelling and all this, and I just couldn't take it. I would get pissed at myself because I always felt like it was my fault. I'm a person who puts all the blame on me all the time. So, to compensate for it, I would get salt and ice and burn myself along my arms and stuff. I don't know why people do it. I guess it's just a way to cope for the pain.

I know a lot of people who self-harm, and I don't think they should, but I'm not a hypocrite and I do see why people do it. When someone does it, you just need to try talking them through it and stuff. Make them feel special. If you try and yell at them and stuff, it only makes them feel worse about themselves. You got to be sensitive with them and try and rationalize, because normally, they are sensitive people.
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I used to self-harm. :x I did it a lot because I was an emotional wreck.

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I lost my friends about a month ago before dating my bf. My ex dumped me by leaving Facebook and not loving me anymore. Other times, I've lost a lot of best friends. I haven't cut that much, and I haven't in over a month, which is progress. Other times have been me hitting my breaking point because of my disabilities. At one point, I realized how much of a monster I was because of them. I felt terrible because I couldn't be proud of myself. I felt like everyone hated me for being the worst person of all, especially here. My past came crawling back, hitting me so hard. That was when music saved my life.


Basically, I think people have reasons for it. We are only human, and there is only so much **** we can take before we hit our breaking point. That's why self-harm becomes such a big deal. People do it as an escape from the harsh reality of whatever stuff they are going through. Sometimes, it's their only way of escaping. It eventually becomes an addiction, like you're doing drugs.

Also, talking isn't usually enough. It's the fact that people just feel it's the only way for them to cope with the things they put up with. You can't simply tell them to stop or know how to do it without making it worse. That's really the most challenging part of it. It's not just saying, "You need to stop this" because it only encourages them. It's a really difficult habit to stop, and I know. I've been down that road a few times.

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Self-harm is dangerous. If there's anyone here at PC who self-harms, please, talk to someone about it. Tell a friend, a sibling, a parent, a teacher, or anyone else you trust. You and the people around you will be glad you did. Maybe not immediately, but they will. You will.

Anyway, I'm familiar with it. I know a number of people who have done it as a way or coping and at the time there wasn't much I could do to help, but I did want to help. In the end what I was able to do was just stick with them and not judge them. They were fortunate to get more help.

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Self-harm is dangerous. If there's anyone here at PC who self-harms, please, talk to someone about it. Tell a friend, a sibling, a parent, a teacher, or anyone else you trust. You and the people around you will be glad you did. Maybe not immediately, but they will. You will.

Anyway, I'm familiar with it. I know a number of people who have done it as a way or coping and at the time there wasn't much I could do to help, but I did want to help. In the end what I was able to do was just stick with them and not judge them. They were fortunate to get more help.
What helped me was treasuring what friends I have, plus my bf. Also, music has also helped me because it's reminded me that I'm not alone, which is a good thing because music does have that kind of power. Like I said before, sometimes it's not easy to get help because you are afraid of what someone will think if they know you self-harm. I've been around people who tend to feel this way, and I've also done a lot of research on self-harming as well for stories I've written.

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I don't inflict physical self-harm but usually my thoughts end up with me blaming myself for the bad things that happen occasionally. There are moments that I've thought of doing it but I am glad I didn't. I am very pessimistic before even if I seem optimistic to people around me. I don't even know why they think I am a optimist. Must be because I hide what I feel so well. I've changed a lot from before though. I am still pessimistic but I am a bit of an optimist now, and I show what I feel more often.

Back to the topic though, self-harm is something that shouldn't be taken lightly. I've known people who used to do it. It's not something that you can talk into sense immediately. I just made the person feel that I'd always be around no matter what. I am glad that he already tells people when he is dealing with things than keeping things to himself.

If you know someone who do it or found out that someone does it, do not judge them for it. They do it because of something, but we usually don't know that something, and judging immediately might make matters worse.
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I've only ever known one person who cut themselves. He was a pretty shy individual who mostly kept to himself. He was socially awkward but very intelligent. I say was, because it's no longer the case. One day he fell in love, and the person he fell in love with helped him to really open up. Over time he grew more confident and more outspoken. He's been one of the best friends I've ever had and I am glad that he found what he was looking for. He's now married to his husband of 8 years and they're raising a little girl together. He doesn't speak often of his past, but he doesn't hide from it either. In fact, he's said that although it was the darkest time of his life, he wouldn't change a thing about his life because without what he went through he may never have found his husband. You only have to look at them to see the love they share and you can't help but be moved by it.

While his story had a happy ending, for many this isn't the case. Self-harm is a serious thing and we all should be mindful of the people around us and watch for the signs that they may not be as at peace that they seem to be. And not just our friends or family, but also the people that we may personally dislike. It's sometimes the people we don't like who actually need our help the most.

We should also recognize that there are other forms of self-harm that don't leave physical scars. People who chain smoke or who over indulge themselves in food (or who don't eat enough) are also doing self harm to themselves. They're all symptoms of some inner turmoil that's tormenting people.
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I have never self-harmed, but I have thought about it before, especially when I was younger. Like, 13 or 14. Bad age, I guess...

I do have a few friends who do so- one in particular stands out to me. I worry about her a lot. :/ I never know what to do or so, and one time when I went to the guidance counselor she lashed out at me! I know it was a personal thing and she probably wasn't ready to open up, but I was worried sick and I didn't know what else to do.

I just hope she never cuts too deep.

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Posted November 18th, 2013
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I've actually been in the dark about this until this summer. I had no idea this was a thing until health class, and when I found out, I was horrified. It made me feel guilty for some reason knowing people hurt themselves. Still know very little about the topic, and don't know anyone who does this, but I do know this.

You are not placed on this earth for no reason. Everyone, everything, has a purpose. I have been ignored, socially exiled, made fun of, and mocked, but I just remember that most of this stuff isn't happening to me because of who I am, it's because of who the other person is. I'm not the only one they mock, ignore, etc. they do this to everyone because they're mad or upset or feeling the same way they make me feel. So if anyone does self-harm, please please stop, if for nothing else for me. I can't bear to know that amazing people hurt themselves because other people cannot realise how amazing you are. Even if you don't believe it, by hurting yourself, you're hurting your parents, and anyone close to you.
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I have a history with self-harm, and I'd be lying if I said it was totally history, although I've gone from doing it every day to about once every month or two. I won't elaborate on my reasons behind it at this time, because I don't feel like I should.

Something I have found with both me and other people who self-harm is that once you start, it's very difficult to stop. Some people can drop it without issue but to many it is addictive. And while it may sound like obvious advice, if you don't self-harm already, don't ever start. It's not something you want to get addicted to. You may end up with scars that last, as well. I still have scars on my arm from a time I cut myself when I was 15. That was about 3 years ago, and they're still there.

And if you're one of the people who understand why people would self-harm, considering that a blessing. Hang onto it. But please, still be sympathetic towards people who may not cope in the best of fashions. They all have their reasons.
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