Choices... Giving up on love...

Started by Charcoal92 November 3rd, 2013 4:37 AM
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Male
Western PA
Seen September 6th, 2016
Posted September 6th, 2016
71 posts
9.6 Years
Now I have been single and everyone says "Oh don't worry Corey" and " You'll find love. Man love in my book is all fake. Right now my brother chose a woman who dissed my neices and everything in my life is screwed up! Love is not worth it anymore. Tell me your ideals. Right now love is fake for me and I have given up on it. No friends to chill with.
Age 31
Female
DETROIT
Seen April 5th, 2015
Posted March 6th, 2015
287 posts
10.3 Years
Love is not worth it anymore...because your brother made a bad decision in a life partner? That doesn't affect you or your future potential girlfriend. I just don't understand the reasoning at all. ^^; One bad exemplar does not predict how overall trends are, especially such an example that has little to do with you.

Love is great. It's illuminating. If you're doing it right, it compliments your life and adds a worthwhile piece to it. It can also be abusive and twisted, which is unfortunate, but I think the minority of relationships are like that. It's important to choose a partner that makes you feel good. If you feel bad around your partner, that's a sign you need to run far and fast.
Age 29
Male
Melbourne, Australia
Seen January 2nd, 2015
Posted November 28th, 2014
910 posts
12.1 Years
I agree^
You can't take one piece of data and plot a graph that accurately describes objective trends..

You can have any opinion you want about love but the truth is, you have no idea what you're missing. And with that attitude towards it you're going to repel potential mates. I can guarantee if someone offers you the prospect of love and you give them the "love isn't real" spill they are going to be turned off, the first step to ruining any relationship is misunderstanding.
Serious though, you don't have to like it, but you should keep an open mind when it comes to potential partners. You more than likely will come across someone that makes you very, very happy and you will hate yourself forever if you ruin it by being close-minded.
Male
Western PA
Seen September 6th, 2016
Posted September 6th, 2016
71 posts
9.6 Years
I agree^
You can't take one piece of data and plot a graph that accurately describes objective trends..

You can have any opinion you want about love but the truth is, you have no idea what you're missing. And with that attitude towards it you're going to repel potential mates. I can guarantee if someone offers you the prospect of love and you give them the "love isn't real" spill they are going to be turned off, the first step to ruining any relationship is misunderstanding.
Serious though, you don't have to like it, but you should keep an open mind when it comes to potential partners. You more than likely will come across someone that makes you very, very happy and you will hate yourself forever if you ruin it by being close-minded.
No offense my ally. Where I live everyone hates me for be the only "non redneck" in this town. I have rumors about me. If I wanted to be nice and caring the girls fathers would shoot me for being an "outsider". So where I live now it's near impossible to have a relationship due to the super crazy fathers who pack shotguns and stuff.

Kura

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Age 33
Female
London, UK (orig. Toronto, Canada)
Seen August 30th, 2021
Posted August 24th, 2021
10,993 posts
18.7 Years
No offense my ally. Where I live everyone hates me for be the only "non redneck" in this town. I have rumors about me. If I wanted to be nice and caring the girls fathers would shoot me for being an "outsider". So where I live now it's near impossible to have a relationship due to the super crazy fathers who pack shotguns and stuff.
Move away man! It's a large world! I found love across the ocean :3 I'm originally from Canada and I got the whole "You're a nerd" thing and being an outcast. I spent years trying to find the right friends and the right people to lift me up- so it takes time but it's not impossible!! And I ended up finding love in the UK which is where I am at now :3

I wouldnt give up on love, but I wouldnt throw my toys out of the pram if something doesnt turn out my way with someone I have a crush on either. Make an effort, even try to change your approach. If you keep at it you'll find someone. Heck just look at Dipo/Vertigo. He used to write blogs about his relationship drama and now after a couple years he's found someone lovely that he likes. Just keep at it.
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Kanzler

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Male
Toronto
Seen April 22nd, 2022
Posted March 11th, 2022
5,957 posts
14.8 Years
Make an effort, even try to change your approach. If you keep at it you'll find someone. Heck just look at Dipo/Vertigo. He used to write blogs about his relationship drama and now after a couple years he's found someone lovely that he likes. Just keep at it.
Wicked shoutout XD Yes, I suppose it's a model to consider. But the effort must be made.

Guy

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Age 31
Male
Florida
Seen March 26th, 2016
Posted January 22nd, 2014
7,127 posts
14.7 Years
All it takes is meeting the right person in the right place. Sometimes that means leaving the only place you've ever known for something better. In your case, I think that's exactly what you need to do. Don't give up on love, dude. Love is great, and when you find it you don't want to let it go. Love has a way of changing you and discovering yourself in ways you never knew before. Also, don't base your love life around the failed example of others, that's a terrible choice and the wrong way to look at it. Try seeing the positives about being in love and it might change your perspective.

I haven't given up on love, and I don't think you should either.

acatfrommars

Male
Seen February 5th, 2023
Posted January 9th, 2023
3,870 posts
9.6 Years
Some people feel like they don't need love or deserve love, but one thing that I have learned in my short 17 years on this earth is that the most significant thing is this life is love. Love is how people tribulation, it is what gives people hope and it is ultimately how people move on. Love is probably the reason I am still here today, everyone needs love whether it be from your parents, friends, a lover, etc.

Love can hurt you though. This girl and I used to love each other. We were together for a long time, and we split. That hurt. Love is a powerful thing, it can hurt you or help you. Don't give up on love man. I've been in your shoes before; live life, enjoy every day and eventually love will come to you. When it does, embrace it and don't let it go.

Corvus of the Black Night

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Age 30
Non-binary
With the Birds
Seen January 9th, 2015
Posted January 9th, 2015
3,416 posts
14.3 Years
I don't get why people search for love. It will come.

The man I love, I didn't search for him, it just happened.

Honest

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Age 27
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New York City
Seen March 19th, 2023
Posted November 7th, 2022
11,676 posts
14.7 Years
I wouldnt give up on love, but I wouldnt throw my toys out of the pram if something doesnt turn out my way with someone I have a crush on either. Make an effort, even try to change your approach. If you keep at it you'll find someone. Heck just look at Dipo/Vertigo. He used to write blogs about his relationship drama and now after a couple years he's found someone lovely that he likes. Just keep at it.
Wicked shoutout XD Yes, I suppose it's a model to consider. But the effort must be made.
I legit just laughed my ass off. Kuro <3

It's worth it, man. I don't know if true 'love' exists, but I do know that being with someone whom you really do care a lot for can be spectacular. Don't let a bad example like your brother affect YOUR life. Give it time, get out and find your idea of perfection.

It's worth it.
he did it, not me.

Faye Rose~

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Age 28
Female
Ohio, United States
Seen June 30th, 2014
Posted June 28th, 2014
270 posts
9.6 Years
Never give up. Love will find you in the most strange of places. It may not be exactly how you imagined it, but when you find it you'll feel so special! I'm currently having one of these moments, it's very amazing.

Keep your head up and it will find you.
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Kura

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Age 33
Female
London, UK (orig. Toronto, Canada)
Seen August 30th, 2021
Posted August 24th, 2021
10,993 posts
18.7 Years
I see what you all are saying, but it is way easier for a girl to find love. That or it sure feels like it. lol
Not true at all. Maybe it might be easier for certain girls who glam up to find a boyfriend if they find someone who is more superficial... but to find love is a complicated thing.
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