Loneliness. Page 2

Started by Lindblum December 29th, 2013 12:22 PM
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seeker

Ireland
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Posted May 20th, 2018
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14.1 Years
I think the small hours haunt us all, when we're alone. However loneliness is an important part of self-reflection. It's important to be able to be confident in being alone, fear of it is actually a sign of a broken or frail mentality. Those who are afraid of being alone usually have memories or thoughts that hurt or upset them. So I tend to enjoy alone time and so forth, but too much of it can be bad for anyone, really.

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Age 27
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New York City
Seen March 19th, 2023
Posted November 7th, 2022
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14.7 Years
Do I like being alone? I was going to say not really, but I'm taking that back, actually. It all depends on how life is for you when you're alone, or it does for me anyway. If I'm happy, and I'm alone, I'll be happy, cause my mind's focused on whatever's putting that smile on my face. In times like those, nah, I don't mind being alone at all. It's those times when you're sad or unsure, or hell, depressed, where being alone feels like you're being waterboarded by your own mind. Memories eat away at you, gnawing at every shred of endurance you have, until eventually you have nothing left and you collapse.

So yeah, it depends, really.
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Seen January 12th, 2014
Posted January 4th, 2014
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9.4 Years
I love being alone most of the time because I submerge myself in books (I forget reality), but after that I snap back in real life.. and I just want to feel people.. like cuddling or something.
I feel like I'm satisfied with just THAT and nothing else.
Physical contact, nothing sexual, just so I know I'm not lonely in this world.. but even I can't get that whenever I need it most.
It's just a sinking feeling and you can't help but wish someone would just hug you tight the way you hug people tight and just piece together that broken part of you that you don't even know you have. So deep but true.

Feel better y'all, I'd give out really tight hugs if I could!!

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This..we all might feel lonely sometimes but some people know how to enjoy that! :)
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acatfrommars

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9.6 Years
I prefer to be alone most of the time, but that also seems when I reflect on my past the most and that makes me feel really bad about myself. There are some nights, late at night where I just feel like udder crap and I hate it. No matter who you are, ever human needs some sort of companionship in their life at some point.

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England
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Posted August 12th, 2020
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14.1 Years
Big difference between being alone and being lonely. I like being alone at times because I can be on my own and have none of those gross lonely feelings.

With loneliness though, I hate it (who likes it tho). That horrible empty feeling, it's just ugh no thank. Like there's nothing worse than being with a group of friends and feeling lonely. And I feel like I can't talk to them about it because they don't understand the difference so yah it's just a big gross mess when I feel like that.









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Seen January 24th, 2016
Posted January 9th, 2016
36 posts
9.4 Years
I've always been a lone wolf, it's my nature. I have tried to change it on people's request but it just doesn't work that way. It's just like a pokemon's nature, there's no way to change it (other than hacking LOL).

Surprisingly enough, at my current job, a lot of people there have no idea of how antisocial I am and ironically my job requires me to be super sociable. I have to be approachable and people say I do a great job at socializing. So, I came to realize that sometimes, even though your nature may be "lonely", the situation can influence the outcome of your sociableness (is it even possible to say it?).

On the other hand, while I'm not at work I'm pretty much a lone wolf. People in my French course even asked me one day if they have a contagious disease that keeps me away from them.

In the end I came to realize one thing: we can be alone in the crowd, we are always alone no matter what. Is there really anyone out there or is life but an illusion? We can never tell, let's try and enjoy it for what it is.

"We are all bound by our experiences. They are the limits of our consciousness. But in the end, the human soul will ever reach for the truth... This is what Adam taught me."
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Talon

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Age 24
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Seen May 25th, 2017
Posted May 7th, 2017
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9.6 Years
I used to be very antisocial; I had social anxiety, I couldn't talk to anyone and I had very few friends.

But I think there was one point where I realised my loneliness (the last thing my ex said to me on the phone before we broke up was "Your problem is you're just lonely" and that just got to me so much) and I decided to do something about it. Every day, I try to talk to at least one person who's not a member of my family - whether it be phoning them or texting - and it's just made me much more comfortable. Even today, I've done nothing social all day, but I've facebooked quite a few of my friends. I doubt I could revert back to being asocial and lonely like I was before.
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I'm lonely all the time. People don't talk to me, because they know that it won't go anywhere because of anxiety. I can't help this, but you know....

Loneliness can actually be for the better. If your really angry at the world, you need to be alone, so you won't hurt anyone else.

Loneliness ins't that bad of a feeling, eventually. Once you've been lonely for 9 years, you get used to it.
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Age 27
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Posted December 25th, 2014
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11.9 Years
Lonely? I feel lonely very often. I grew up near a town where pretty much everyone in it didn't want anything to do with my family. We were 'those weird homeschoolers'. We had a few 'friends', but I've never had luck with friends.

I was the one who was too young to hang out with my older siblings, and too old to hang out with the younger one. My only 'friend' turned on me and nearly raped me when I was 10.

Since then? Fake friend after fake friend. I can't help but feel that nobody actually wants me around. I've always had trust issues because of this, plus my Autism that I was born with.

So yeah, I've always had people around, but they didn't want me there, which I think can be worse than being completely alone.

Now, even though I think I have some friends, I can't help but feel afraid, I can't help but doubt. I'm tired of fake friends, and being alone because of it.

I don't view being alone in itself as bad, but when people give you hope that you don't have to be alone, and then strip it away like you're worthless. That's just horrible.

Sylphiel

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Posted January 9th, 2023
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18.5 Years
Feeling lonely? I do sometimes, especially when my mood's not the best (and I just somehow swing to the thought of "omg I have no one to turn to right now ahhh", regardless of my actual surroundings).

However, compared to the amount of time I actually spend alone, I actually don't get that lonely that much. I'm the kind of person that doesn't tend to do well for long among a lot of people, so I'd far rather spend my time by myself or with one or two other people, tops.

Then again, I also then tend to go talk to people online while I'm by myself, so I'm not entirely sure how much that counts...

Demon Wolf

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Posted January 19th, 2018
490 posts
9.4 Years
Love being alone listening to music but I have to interact once in awhile just so I don't go off the deep end that's what I believe n also need hugs once in awhile to feel not so lonely besides that fact most people I've met r fake n its like ugh come on why bothr
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Posted February 1st, 2023
There are times that I want to be alone, and there are times that I want communication and interaction with people. I much prefer doing things on my own, but there can be times that I'll feel depressed because I lack that human interaction. Being along is alright as long as you don't spend too much time by yourself.

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Age 28
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Posted June 28th, 2014
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9.6 Years
I used to be able to go weeks without talking to anybody really. But now I get really emotional and usually need an army of people to talk to me and listen to my feelings, and if I don't talk to people I hold in all my emotions and it usually leads to depression.
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Age 26
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Posted March 27th, 2019
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11 Years
Do I feel lonely? Well, let me just ask... oh, wait.

I feel lonely a lot when my friends are hanging out and I'm not with them, just because I dislike heavily being excluded.

Evening

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Posted February 5th, 2016
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9.4 Years
I never felt lonely in my life.
I don't think it's a sad feeling, most of the time, you feel lonely when no one is around or no one wants to talk or something. You can do a lot of things while nobody is around.

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Age 27
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Jacksonville, Florida
Seen November 17th, 2019
Posted September 5th, 2014
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9.4 Years
I like solitude sometimes. It's nice to be alone and do your own thing. However, there are times where I need someone and I'm thankful I normally have them. When I don't, I've done some bad things that I regret.

Then, there's people like my girlfriend who always needs to be around people or she'll let her mind wonder into bad memories and it plays a toll on her.

I think if people can find a good balance between solitude and people they can truly be happy. However, everyone has different balances.

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Posted June 17th, 2016
342 posts
9.6 Years
I think that feeling Lonely can be translated to feeling alone............ If you are around folks you know and like, you feel occupied and happy. But if you are around folks you don't want to know and no one there gives a damn about you, then it would be classified as lonely........

Alone is when a person is left to their thoughts and ideas........... Like when you study alone or when you sit and watch TV.............

Both of these may or may not mean the same thing............

Feeling lonesome is the time when people feel the need to talk to someone......... It makes them feel as if there is no one left in the world to talk to but that is usually not true.......... It also makes them reflect on the happy(less likely) and sad(more likely) moments of their life....... A person may also be exposed to his memories about a person they have true feelings for and may think about what they should do next........ It is a time when people are forced to be alone and remain confined to themselves.........

I personally like being alone most of the times because I dislike unnecessary company or even the company of my friends............. I prefer solitude to group company.......... It is probably because I am afraid at heart that I may commit a mistake and be laughed at............. But this thread isn't about that...............


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Posted September 13th, 2014
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9.9 Years
I do feel lonely sometimes, but it's often when I kinda put myself into it, like it being two in the morning and being the only person awake, or if I dropped some plans with somebody and change my mind seconds after the last minute.

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Posted March 25th, 2015
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9.5 Years
Going to school means I don't really have the option to be alone for most of the time, only on the weekends, but usually I'm pretty busy then, and I have my abnormally large family to put up with. Whenever I'm alone for a longer amount of time, which is like once every couple of months or so, it's kind of like eating a piece of chocolate, I savour it for as long as I can, and I enjoy it for a bit, but after a while the novelty wears off and it's just boring, I find myself craving human interaction again if you can believe it. Usually that's when I turn to facebook.
But being alone isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, it's nice to be alone with your own thoughts for a bit, but people are nice to, I guess.

Patrick

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Posted September 11th, 2014
543 posts
10.4 Years
I mostly have to be alone because it's the only way I recharge my energy. It's just how introversion works. That and I tend to have periods of time where I really just want to be productive, and I can't do that in largely populated areas with a bunch of chit-chat. I admit it's probably more of a failing of mine, considering it's not so bad when I'm around strangers I can just ditch or among friends that I don't mind the additional chatter (to a degree), but going forward in my career? Eh... working in games requires open communication, which makes a lot of sense in practice, but that also opens the door for a lot of inane chatter which I really don't want or need (especially considering a lot of it is frankly immature). Didn't like it at the last job I had, can't say I look forward to it again. :\

I just like working in the zone, which requires silence, which usually requires me being either alone or with people who are comfortable working in silence as well. To answer the question, I like being alone, but being with other "green" personalities that need quiet to recharge and focus is just as fine. As for loneliness, I don't really get that. I've got people I can simply fire a text message to if I wanna shoot the breeze.

I should mention that I can handle one person being chatty if we're the only two people in the room. I can work and talk simulatenously, though I won't promise undivided attention. However, the company is nice at times (unless I'm doing something that requires concentration).

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Usually I feel lonely when my parents say they're going shopping but wind up being gone for like 6 hours or more because they committed to other things without telling me (which unfortunately happens a lot).. but other than that, I have things I could do online if I ever feel lonely.
This. I go half-days without communicating with a live person, and it doesn't help that my parents run off to do their things and my brothers are engrossed in their ps3's or jobs. For non-family, I can go weeks. I'm not close to anyone irl and my classmates end up using me for notes and the like. So, I'm plenty happy finding other things to do online. I have plenty of people to chat with and plenty of videos and gifs to stare at. Other times it eats at me.
Male
Seen December 29th, 2014
Posted February 12th, 2014
198 posts
11.8 Years
I usually like being with people. I'm a social person and enjoy company alot.

However, sometimes being alone feels great. Even more so when I have to think about something.
I have to agree with what was said above about being alone and feeling lonely. Completely different, and the second one is surely bad
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