Honest with your feelings.

Started by Nick May 11th, 2014 11:33 AM
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Nick

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Are you totally honest with your feelings? Do you tell everyone your raw emotions when you feel its necessary, even if those feelings are hurtful to the person? Or do you try to disguise your true emotions towards other people, like sugar coating them or just neglecting to tell them at all?

I wasn't always honest with mine, and I hid some of them from people. But recently I've been pretty open about my feelings towards the people in my life, and I share them with them in the most raw and revealing way that I can think of. It's made me feel tremendously better, because I just figure "What's the worse that can happen? Now they know."

Meganium

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Sometimes for me, it's really hard to actually be truthful to my feelings. Especially when it comes to liking someone whom you liked for a long time. I always hide them, no matter what. I'm so scared as to how the other person would react because I've dumped feelings before and I've had people treat me like ♥♥♥♥ afterwards. Most of the time my raw (and truthful) emotions are out. I only sugarcoat my own feelings when I'm super anxious and scared of telling. I have to work my way up to the point where I'm confident and ready to tell the person how I feel (or what I think) of them.

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Yeah I am, I'm very honest. If I don't like somebody, then they'll know it. If I think somebody is being a moron then I'll tell them.

I don't sugar coat stuff but at the same time I try not to be mean, if I keep something from somebody then it's because they can't handle it.

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I never really tell anyone what I'm really feeling. It's not that I don't have people to tell it's just that I feel like it'll just be a burden to the other person. Even when I really want to tell people things I end up downplaying or sugarcoating my feelings without realizing it. I'm really shy and introverted mostly so I don't really like putting myself out there that much in terms of talking about my emotions and stuff.

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I'm honest with my feelings towards others and pretty much just honest with others in general, unless it's family. Most of my family members don't like me because of the things I like so pretty much all of my life we've thrown veiled punches at each other. Most of my friends I tell my raw emotions to. And as The Doctor said, if I don't like someone or if they're annoying me I'll make sure they know. Which is why I don't have many friends/get in trouble a lot because of fights.

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It depends on the situation for me. If I receive a present I don't like, I'll still act like I like it. However, when I'm reviewing a story or adding my thoughts in a debate, I can be pretty blunt. I guess it's just a rule of thumb on being rude, or being constructive. When you receive a gift you don't like, it's kind of mean to just say you hate it. I mean, they did just buy you something and then give it to you free of charge. When people are looking for critique though, that's the time not to sugarcoat things, because you're helping no one when you skimp out on a few details to save someone's feelings.
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Depends. If it's just expressing my opinion, no matter what it's about, I'll do that with anyone once I know them a bit. But opening up to others though about things on my mind? I'm that honest with very few people, if any at the moment

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Oh yeah, at least on the internet where I can be my true self with no interference with my parents, I am always 110% honest. Sometimes I am a little too honest, tbh.
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I have nothing to hide, so I'm totally honest with my feelings. Sure, I might hide the negative ones just a little bit as so to not hurt anyone or make them sad, but I'm mostly truthful with my feelings.

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I'm very truthful with my feelings. I'm not ashamed of showing my emotions, though I often try to hide negative emotions to protect those around me. For some reason, I'm also sensitive to other people's emotions. It's a weird thing that I've had since childhood.
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I don't think anyone's completely honest about what they're feeling, taking lies of omission into account. Some feelings are things you just need to keep to yourself. If I wore my emotions on my sleeve, I'd probably regularly get called a pig by some of the more attractive women I meet. Things like that, and some others, those are things that are private and other people really have no business knowing what I'm really thinking.

I also try not to show negativity unless it's called for. It's unhelpful in a lot of situations. If I'm driving in my car by myself, though, I don't hide it. I feel sorry for whatever fly has to listen to the string of profanity I unleash when someone tries to cut me off.
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No, no at all, I want my emotions inside me and nowhere else, I can't trust anyone because some years ago I was a really open and sensible person, until some idiot made fun of my emotions makig me finish by a psychologist for 5 months! What a good person, uh?
And also, I hate when someone try to console me if I have a problem or something, I can't stand the disinterest of those people who just want my confidence because I'm good with the computer, so if they have a trouble with it can call me to fix it, so why should I be honest with these idiots?

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Honesty is one of the most important things for a good friend/relationship to me
Thus obviously I always try to express my feelings as good as I can and tell others that something is bugging me, since hiding either kinds of feelings would just get bad results;
Hiding good ones would probably make me appear pretty cold and feelingless
And hiding bad ones is just unrealistic since everybody has a bad moment/day occasionally
As well I often try to express things as good as possible because due to my affectional and expressionistic issues that come from the schizophrenia it's some form of therapy for me, as in, the more I intentionally feel the more I'm starting to feel subconsciously, like a normal human being

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After being emotionally pushed around from suffering through my mother's emotions and feelings growing up, I tend to hide my feelings when I'm around others, just so that they don't suffer. I mean, I may hint that I feel upset or angry at something, but I don't usually talk about my feelings just so that I don't make others around me upset and/or angry at me.

Raine

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So, basically asking us if we're blunt or like to beat around the bush, I'm assuming? Based on the reactions I get from my friends sometimes when I tell them things that they probably would prefer not to hear, I'm definitely part of the blunt group, and it's always been that way. I expect people to be honest with me regarding their feelings so I do the same. Some situations may not be best suited for straight-forwardness, but that's how I personally live life.
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I am so confused... like my feelings towards people about them or just my feelings about anything?

If it's the first thing then no I'm never completely honest about that. I don't think I have ever told anyone how I actually feel about them or what I actually think of them. I either sort of tell them or just lie about the whole thing. I mean if you offended me I'd probably bring it up, but anything else is just like why am I going out of my way to tell you this?

If you mean the latter then def no. I'll share my opinion and whatnot, but I really don't want to divulge into raw emotions. Idk I feel sick at the thought of people knowing how I truly feel. Especially people I deal with everyday. I'd rather find a stranger on the street and tell them and then never see them again.
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I will compulsively lie about my feelings. Sometimes it's habit, sometimes it's just jest, most of the time I'm trying to talk my way out of something.
I am always totally honest with myself however. There's really no point trying to trick myself into not feeling sad when I'm really only prolonging it.

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I find I sugar coat things a lot less than I used to. I used to be so hyper aware of other's feelings that I was just censoring everything I said. I don't do that so much anymore, if I have an opinion about you you're likely to hear it.

I actually find also that because of it my posts on PC are becoming shorter - because I cut to the chase now. I don't dance around what I'm trying to say, I just say it.
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Sylphiel

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I feel like when I was a kid, I used to be.

But I feel like somewhere along the way I somehow learned it was a Bad Thing to just show my emotions off like I had, so....I started not to. Even nowadays I find myself hesitating to show my feelings about things, especially if it's something negative.

Although if confronted directly, I'll eventually tell my feelings without sugar-coating too much - but otherwise, I tend to keep things to myself. I guess I figure if I can get over something quickly enough (and I usually do), then it's not really worth bothering others with it.

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I try to show my feelings as much as possible. But I've also learned in life that people can be sensitive towards your feelings--so sometimes I censor them to avoid conflict.

I really don't see why how someone gets sensitive to your feelings, though...


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Heck no. I'm a big "people pleaser", which is definitely a problem. I need to let that go, because I've let certain people in my life walk all over me. I would feel so much better if I tell these people how I felt, I'm sure.

I've made a pact with myself to start telling people how I really feel because not doing so gets you nowhere.
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Heck no. I'm a big "people pleaser", which is definitely a problem. I need to let that go, because I've let certain people in my life walk all over me. I would feel so much better if I tell these people how I felt, I'm sure.

I've made a pact with myself to start telling people how I really feel because not doing so gets you nowhere.
This, except I continue being a "people pleaser" in hopes that I eventually earn their respects, even though they do something I should've called them out for. I end up losing to arguments against them no matter how many counterarguments I make.

I will be nothing more than a mere monster if I were honest about my feelings and not a big "people pleaser," so I try to sweep it under the rug, but it always comes back to me like some type of mutual parasite.