"hey wanna be my friend?"

Started by Sirfetch’d September 10th, 2014 9:14 PM
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Seen October 2nd, 2014
Posted September 22nd, 2014
47 posts
8.7 Years
I used to make a lot of friends in high school, while my girl friend didn't.
In the 3 weeks we've been in college, she's joined a Sorority and has a ton of friends, while i've stayed rather reserved this time around. I do have a natural sense of humor, though. And, I can make friends rather easily. Just haven't put myself out their yet.

I'm sure I'll ddo something stupid at a party drunk and get known somehow xD

Sonata

Don't let me disappear

Age 27
Male
Indiana
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Posted March 25th, 2023
13,619 posts
10.2 Years
A lot of the friends I have just kinda happened. I didn't go out of my way to try to make them, we just kinda were friends one day and we've been friends ever since. If I actually had to try to socialize with someone to become friends with them I'm pretty sure I'd be ****ed. The only time I'm not nervous is when I'm talking to girls oddly enough, but only for about the first week of talking to them and then I get shy and can't do anything.

Treecko

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Age 31
He/Him
St.Louis,Missouri
Seen November 30th, 2021
Posted November 29th, 2021
6,311 posts
11.2 Years
Making friends isn't my best quality at all cause I'm pretty shy most of the time. Though if you mention something I'm really interested in, i.e. Pokemon, I may try to become friends with you. But most of the time, I just have casual conversations and small talk, and never really make much friends in real life. I've been wanting to make more friends, though. I feel being an art student could help, but I'm still eating lunch by myself. D: Online, it's a completely different case. I make friends easier on the Internet cause as most of you know, chatting on the interwebs comes easier. You just have to type for the most part, and make no real contact or can't see the person unless you video chat on Skype or something. I can open up a lot more online tbh.

But basically, if I make friends, it's usually cause of them approaching me and hanging with me first, than the other way around. If you start talking to me enough, we may eventually become friends. You just have to get me to open up first.
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Morgnarok

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Age 28
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PokeVerse
Seen November 26th, 2022
Posted November 26th, 2022
2,218 posts
12.9 Years
I wouldn't say I'm shy but more so the type of person who doesn't take interest or notice things about people even if it's something I am into. I wait for them to come to me. I never go to anyone. That is just how I am. I feel as if they don't feel the need to come to me and start a conversation with me then I don't feel the need to be friends with them.

This may be the reason why I really don't have any friends on PC or in real life other than my girlfriend and yes she came to me first.
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Seen December 5th, 2014
Posted December 5th, 2014
58 posts
9.1 Years
It's actually really easy if you're not asking "Do you want to be my friend" ;). I think you should just start with something simple instead of trying to make friends with them and get to know them first.

I went to a music festival a couple of weeks ago and i met a lot of people in the crowd by asking "Are you excited for the next act". Out of one question comes a big conversation about music and other common interests. Starting the conversation is the hardest bit for most people, they don't even like sending the first message over the internet.
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Chiraq, IL
Seen March 15th, 2016
Posted March 15th, 2016
186 posts
9.5 Years
When I moved to where I currently live after I graduated high school it was really difficult to meet people because I didn't have a job or anything so I was dreading it everyday and a lot of people up here are ignorant *******s; but now I know a ton of people that's really cool and has the same hobbies as me. I got a lot of cool black friends that I get in the studio to record their raps and I meet more people with every party I got to or when I hit the bars. Being 21+ makes things so much easier in a new area.
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Age 34
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the land of magical unicorns
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18.9 Years
It doesn't always come natural to me due to having autism. It depends on the person and their interests too. At my anime convention, it becomes somewhat easier, but not completely. I'm lucky if I can manage to meet one friend a year at my convention. :/

Altius

Flygon Fan

Age 26
Male
Singapore
Seen February 26th, 2019
Posted February 26th, 2019
1,010 posts
10.5 Years
I'm terrible at making friends, at least in real life. I never dared to talk to people. I'm quiet. I have a very small pool of (but very close) friends, and they always start the introduction. Heck, even in lectures or tutorials when I don't get anything, I won't dare to ask. :(

I dare to open up more online for some reason... Even I don't know why.

Alice

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Age 31
Female
Oregon
Seen April 30th, 2015
Posted April 29th, 2015
3,077 posts
14.2 Years
Ugh, this has been driving me crazy. I was a complete loner in high school, and have no friends left over from it, plus I've moved several times, and live in a small town. I desperately want some friends now, but just have no way of making any. =/

It's not that I'm bad at it, it's just that there's no one available to be friends with in the first place.

L0RD G3NGAR

Age 25
Male
Canada
Seen January 10th, 2017
Posted May 18th, 2016
847 posts
10.1 Years
I'm reserved as well haha. I've sort of always been the person who makes friends by them approaching me not the other way around. Curse shyness :( Online though I can make friends much easier! I'm not shy at all
This is pretty much me.....
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Seen January 1st, 2023
Posted March 23rd, 2022
3,316 posts
9.2 Years
Throughout my life I've always had a good amount of friends, but I don't really remember how I made them. When it comes to all my years of school I feel like it would almost be unfair to base my ability of making friends on that because I usually made friends through prior friends. Though I do remember a few situations where I was in a class alone and made a few friends.

I'm not as shy as I was, but I would still say I am a shy person so it definitely makes it a bit harder to make the first approach or even if someone approaches me first I feel this wave of nervousness and it's hard to keep thinking of things to say back. I try to remind myself that I am a likable person along with all the nice things people who are just getting to know me say about me. So I'd say my friend making skills by myself are so/so. I tend to be appreciated over time by people rather than right away. When I'm meeting people with my friends or I am intoxicated I usually make friends right away because I am fully comfortable and myself.

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Seen June 29th, 2018
Posted June 14th, 2018
2,787 posts
14.1 Years
i'm exactly like that. i'm really shy and scared of people in general.i tend to run away. it takes a lot for me to like a person and get to know them. it takes time and patience for me.

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maccrash

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Age 24
Male
Massachusetts
Seen October 7th, 2021
Posted April 17th, 2017
3,583 posts
9.2 Years
making friends comes pretty easily to me. I'm not awful at talking to people, but I'm really bad at picking up on romantic cues and stuff. regardless, I have a good amount of friends and I make new ones at pretty much any event I go to, even though I'm generally kinda quiet and shy.

I have a good friend in maccrash <3
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Shiny Bunnelby

Tolerated, but never celebrated.

Age 31
Female
Oklahoma, United States
Seen November 1st, 2015
Posted April 20th, 2015
362 posts
8.9 Years
I am horrific at initiating interaction with others, but man am I easy to approach. I have a relatively kind and polite air about me, but no matter how much I invest in a friendship, it isn't often returned. People are just so busy and I'm not... Ever. Pretty much any person is welcome to strike up a conversation with me and chances are, I will happily oblige. Acquaintances are easy, but keeping friends is not. I have always considered myself tolerated, but not celebrated, if that makes sense. People don't mind my presence, but they also don't mind the absence of it.

I'm a neutral party and it sometimes makes me a bit disheartened, but I won't give up on trying.
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Posted November 5th, 2017
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9.2 Years
I make friends with people easily. It's just about not being unpleasant towards other people. Mutual respect and friendly behaviour is simple, usually.

In terms of being good friends... that's trickier. Genuine effort and general compatibility required. I'm not the most social person but I'll still find people I can really get along with now and then.
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Nakasu

Seen November 4th, 2017
Posted April 27th, 2017
533 posts
11.2 Years
Friends just found there way to me. Especially since I was on the Student Council. We had to help out students in need. And while doing that we sort of grow bonds between the client and us. We may have encouraged them, that they just keep coming back. Sometimes i've even became friends with the most unlikely people through this. I never go straight forward to someone. But if I see someone alone i'll go and talk to them. I'm the kind of girl that only likes happy faces. Some say im too sociable, but I think that's a good thing. To me that is. ^^

Corvus of the Black Night

Wild Duck Pokémon

Age 30
Non-binary
With the Birds
Seen January 9th, 2015
Posted January 9th, 2015
3,416 posts
14.3 Years
I tend to be oblivious. I'm not really shy but I tend to not be aware of others and I end up being kind of obnoxious in the process, which is off putting to people.