Parents forcing you to greet their friends

Started by Alfieri October 11th, 2014 9:48 AM
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Alfieri

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When you were younger, or if you still are a minor, did your parents ever come to your room and force you to walk out to the living room to greet the guests/visitors?

Something like: "Look honey, come greet these people you never met before or that you don't recognize from when you were only 1 year old! :D"

Meanwhile I'm dressed like a bum at home and had to walk outside to greet people I didn't care about. It was awkward and I just wanted to stay in my room until they left so I could comfortably walk around my house again.

Klippy

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I always go out to greet guests in the home, unless I know they're only going to be there for a short time. The only time I do greet short time guests is when I know them or already have met them.

I think it would be awkward to have a guest in the house, then randomly walk out to get a drink or snack and ignore them. Easier to just go greet them, then you can freely walk about without feeling like you're ignoring them.

Imperator161

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I feel like I was expected to greet and be polite to guests (and still am, when I visit home), but I almost always had warning before they arrived, so I didn't run into the issue of not being dressed appropriately, etc. It can be inconvenient, and if I'm really busy, I'll only chat with the guests for a short time, but I don't have a problem with it. I'm just always considered it to be part of being polite, and if I've noticed guests arrive and it seems appropriate, I'll greet them without prompting.
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Nick

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I don't think that happened to me often.

These days, if there's someone in the house and I have to go to the kitchen or something, I usually just say hi in passing. But if someone comes in, and I'm in my room or something, I don't go out to say hello or anything until I have a reason to go.

Alfieri

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This pretty much summed up my experience when I discovered visitors in the house.



Also, I still do this. -.-
That describes me perfectly. In my new house, it's kinda hard because I have to walk back up the stairs if I spot visitors. xD

Meganium

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"mija, come down here and say hi!"

/in PJ's and a messy bun and no make up.

Well, these days as a grown-up, it seems disrespectful if you don't "come down and greet". When I was young, if I didn't do such thing I would be grounded for a week. Seriously.

Alfieri

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"mija, come down here and say hi!"

/in PJ's and a messy bun and no make up.

Well, these days as a grown-up, it seems disrespectful if you don't "come down and greet". When I was young, if I didn't do such thing I would be grounded for a week. Seriously.
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I feel you though, I would appreciate a warning so I can change into more presentable clothing lol. Or at least to shower.

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Not to friends, but family. We would be at someone's else for some holiday or event and I'd have to greet someone, some distant relative who I don't know, never saw before and never saw again. I didn't care and I was small so I was like "I don't wanna say hi to this person". And some just plain scarred me because they were ancient and looked like the crypt keeper

Eventually I just got introduced all the time as being "shy"

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My parents would have guests over all the time, so this was something that happened a lot. I hated it each and every time. I hate being the center of attention for people I don't know, so it was really painful.

The worst time was when I was at my grandmother's house, and she had all of her friends over. They were all sitting in a large circle in the living room, and my mom made me walk into the center as my grandma just rambled on about me. It was so awkward just standing there and looking at all of the faces staring back at me.
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Not to friends, but family. We would be at someone's else for some holiday or event and I'd have to greet someone, some distant relative who I don't know, never saw before and never saw again. I didn't care and I was small so I was like "I don't wanna say hi to this person". And some just plain scarred me because they were ancient and looked like the crypt keeper

Eventually I just got introduced all the time as being "shy"
Same. My family's always been pretty distant - like, even today, I know maybe 6 people. So I was afraid of every distant relative they tried to introduce me to when I was little, and eventually I was just considered 'shy.'

And my parents still introduce me to relatives all angrily with, "You know him."
Uh, no. No, I don't. Chances are, I met him when I was like 4 and my memory ain't that good, or you've only told me stories about him. That doesn't mean I know someone.

I always go out to greet guests in the home, unless I know they're only going to be there for a short time. The only time I do greet short time guests is when I know them or already have met them.

I think it would be awkward to have a guest in the house, then randomly walk out to get a drink or snack and ignore them. Easier to just go greet them, then you can freely walk about without feeling like you're ignoring them.
Man. Snacks can wait until the creepy people leave the house. Just hide in your room and pretend you're not home.

maccrash

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my parents never really have guests over to our house that I don't know at least in passing, so I've never really had this problem. usually when I see relatives that I haven't seen in years or haven't ever seen I'm at someone else's house and it's easier to just hang back and not have to go near them, especially if there's people I know much better there.
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Arylett Charnoa

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ALL THE TIME. God, I hate it so much.

My mom is from a culture where you must kiss people when you meet them as well. So it gets even more awkward. You think saying hello is awkward? How about saying hello and getting kissed by some random middle aged woman who is overly perfumed and speaking in rapid Spanish in your ear? I can't tell you how many times it has happened, and it has never been pleasant.

She gets really offended and complains like hell if I I don't do it and would often guilt me as a child. Once it was over with, I'd just run straight back into my room, lock the door, and not come out until all of the strangers were gone. At least nowadays, my fiance comes with me and greets the random people as well. It's less awkward when you're not alone. I can also use more excuses to avoid the situation.

I'm very shy and meeting new people makes me awkward, so I even avoid greeting people that I'd like to greet and say hello to. What I prefer is just to be invisible and blend in. So you can imagine how much more unpleasant it is when I am forced to greet people I don't have any interest in.

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I am... personally a big fan of making people feel welcome in my home. When I lived with my mum and she had people over I'd always try to make conversation and make them feel comfortable and whatnot. I never had to - in fact, I don't believe I was ever even asked to. It was just a given that I'd do it really. It's much more awkward being in someone else's home than having someone come to yours, after all. Same deal these days - if my housemates have someone over I'll at the very least say hi to them and introduce myself or something.
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