A positive outlook on something negative.

Started by Nick October 16th, 2014 5:33 AM
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Nick

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I'm sitting here at Panera Bread waiting for my shift to start and I had an idea for a thread.

We all have some really negative things going on in our life, and it really affects our outlook on the world, and more importantly, on life. So I thought to make a thread focusing on the negatives, but with a positive look on it.

Like for me, I have a car payment that I need to pay off and a credit card as well, and a few friends who helped me when I was in need, and that puts a lot of stress on me. But when I sit down and think about it, it really isn't that much compared to the millions and millions of graduating college students leaving school with a diploma, which is great, and a $30,000+ debt that they have to pay off.

Maybe not so positive, since it focuses on the fact that "People have it worse than me!!" but it's still a comforting thought when I think of the overwhelming stress paying off my loans and my credit cards are giving me.

Shining Raichu

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A lot of my positive outlooks come from the "others have it worse than me" angle lol. For instance my manager is on holidays so I'm the store manager at work for 6 and a half weeks (4 down now, 2.5 to go!) and I absolutely hate it, it's the worst. But when I think about it, my manager has to deal with this crap for the other 46 weeks out of the year so really I don't have it so bad.
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Alfieri

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I always look for something positive in a negative situation. Whenever something really stresses me out, I just tell myself that this is only temporary and once I settle whatever needs to be settled, I can go back into my life of leisure.
I'm...not good at this. I have no real conviction when I imagine how it could be worse, because I tend to jump to the worst possible scenario anyway, and I don't like trying to give myself positive reinforcement when the only thing I'm positive about is that it isn't going to get any better.

Although I suppose you could call it an optimistic spin on a pessimistic outlook when I consider exactly how bad my life COULD be, even if the chances of it happening are so microscopic they're not worth mentioning. So, rather than look into the realms of possible improvements, which I struggle with, I look at impossible worse scenarios and laugh about those in some attempt to make myself feel better? I dunno. Things are what they are to me; the only way to deal with them is to actively deal with them, not daydream about what could be. xD