Standing up for Yourself.

Started by Palamon June 7th, 2015 6:08 AM
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Palamon

Silence is Purple.

Age 26
he/him
Snezhnaya, Teyvat.
Online now
Posted 1 Day Ago
7,784 posts
14.3 Years
How often do you stand up for yourself? (Be it online, offline, whatever.)

Her

Age 29
Seen 3 Hours Ago
Posted 1 Week Ago
I'll laugh something off just as easily as I'll (verbally) kick someone upside the head, I don't think about it. If I'm annoyed, then I'll make my annoyance known.
Female
Seen March 26th, 2021
Posted February 22nd, 2021
486 posts
10.8 Years
I'm not one to stand up for myself. If a problem happens between me and someone else I usually just walk away.
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Entermaid

Non-binary
The States
Seen November 6th, 2016
Posted October 27th, 2016
2,138 posts
10.3 Years
I do a quick cost-benefit assessment, which is basically what some of you are describing above.

What do I get from the confrontation?
What does it cost/risk being in a confrontation?
Worth it?

Sometimes you can also come accross as overly-sensitive if you always confront someone, whereas you may come across as passive/weak/easy target if you never stand up for yourself. There is also the art of not quite standing up for yourself, but rather insinuating you don't care; that's why I will sometimes use sarcasm and levity to show that I don't care and there is no need for me to standup for myself. Being cool-headed is ALMOST always the best approach.
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Percy

Male
Asia
Seen December 24th, 2021
Posted June 19th, 2021
3,045 posts
8.7 Years
Depends on the situation.
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Lycanthropy

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Age 26
any
Clan of Fools, Waterdeep
Seen December 14th, 2022
Posted December 14th, 2022
11,033 posts
9.3 Years
I try to leave the confrontation and try to get back to it later to talk about it calmly or ignore it has happened. It really isn't the best method...
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Batzu

He/Him
Mt Moon
Seen May 27th, 2021
Posted October 31st, 2020
2,523 posts
14.2 Years
There have been times when i've had people try to start fights with me during nights out, i'm not a big guy (far from it), but I certainly don't stand there and let them push me around. It was the same in school, i'd never purposely go looking for fights, but if someone tried to start, i'd stand my ground.

Online i've not had as many issues, I tend to just talk my way out of any volatile situations (and i'd like to imagine i'm a pretty affable guy lol).

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Nolafus

Aspiring something

Age 27
Male
Lost in thought... again
Seen March 3rd, 2018
Posted March 11th, 2017
5,722 posts
10.9 Years
I used to shy away from any confrontation, but if someone insults me now, then I'll stand my ground. It's normally immature twelve year olds that are trying to entertain themselves by trolling someone, so they're not hard to take down.

In real life, I still shy away from confrontations, but only when it's in an area like work or something where fighting will only cause problems. If I'm anywhere else, I tend to not attract any attention to myself, and it's actually been a few years since I've really had to stand up for myself, but I'll do it if I have to. Otherwise I'm pretty laid back and will let everything just slide off.
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Lalapizzame

Age 25
Male
California
Seen February 12th, 2019
Posted June 7th, 2018
746 posts
15.4 Years
I do one of three things:
  1. Passive-aggressively smile and talk to or about the other person.
  2. Blink, stare, and then walk away like nothing happened.
  3. On "special" occasions, rant and chew out the other person, releasing all of my pent-up anger on that one person.
I try to avoid direct confrontation, though I take note of who has said what over a long period of time. Most of the time, I either do not feel agitated or I am agitated but powerless and can only pick #2. Then I shift to #1 and finally #3. These are all unhealthy options.

Yoshikko

the princess has awoken while the prince sleeps on

Female
Seen April 27th, 2020
Posted February 6th, 2020
3,065 posts
11.8 Years
online i have no trouble at all standing up for myself. irl is a different story, it really depends on my state of mind at that moment, my confidence really fluctuates so it's just a matter of how good i feel about myself that day. i usually end up disappointing myself though - it's not that i can't deal with confrontation but i just take on a passivity and stay quiet and process what's happening and by the time i get myself together the situation is already over usually.

Aslan

she/her
Seen 1 Day Ago
Posted 2 Days Ago
3,108 posts
10.2 Years
Most of the time, fighting back isn't worth it so I keep quiet and try to remain indifferent. I got picked on for rarely standing up for myself but now it's just kinda 'uh ok' if stuff like that does come up.
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Male
Seen January 20th, 2017
Posted January 2nd, 2017
4,705 posts
9.7 Years
I stand up for others more than I do for myself, usually I'll just be quiet enduring stuff even of there are false accusation or rumor about me.
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Belinda

Age 28
Female
Seen March 4th, 2018
Posted November 13th, 2017
2,211 posts
14.8 Years
Online way more often than I used to. I also tend to make jokes of the situation and make other people look bad. But, hey if it means standing up for myself I'm all for it. Offline it really depends on the situation but I don't take muk from people as much as I used to. Mind you I've dealt with enough idiots this year. I believe I'm a stronger person in real life situations when it comes to standing up for myself, but still not there completely anyways.