leadership irl

Started by Nihilego June 13th, 2015 2:17 PM
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Nihilego

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scotland
Seen September 28th, 2018
Posted March 16th, 2018
8,874 posts
12.1 Years
Do you consider yourself a good leader? Why? What sort of situations have / do you demonstrate leadership in? If the opportunity to be a leader is offered, will you take it?

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I was the president of my Spanish Club in high school! Though while small, it definitely gave me a sense of what being a leader of something was like and how stressful of a job it actually is. I feel like I can be a good leader because I like to take initiative and get things done in a timely manner but I also like to sit back and evaluate things instead of being the one demonstrating them I guess? If given the opportunity to be a leader of something though I would take it in almost all scenarios.(I used to be completely opposed to that haha)

Meganium

memento mori

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Houston, TX
Seen February 1st, 2023
Posted February 1st, 2023
I'm one of the supervisors/key holders at a clothing store right now. I've been in the position for almost three months now. Since I started working for the company, my manager (from the store I transferred from in California), thought that I actually have room for "growth"...which led me to where I'm at now. I felt that I was kinda rushed to get promoted, but they did believe in me. Also, I wasn't expecting to get promoted so soon. I wanted to obtain at least a year's experience, whereas I got 6 months.

I didn't expect myself to be one of the "leaders" of a retail store. I used to not consider myself as a leader back then, due to my anxiety. But this position has helped me significantly in coming out of my shell and show people what I can bring forth not only to the employees I'm overseeing, but to the company itself. After three months in the position, I've found my comfort zone, and I want to stay in this position for...i don't know, another year? My dad thinks that the way things are going right now, I could actually make it as a manager, just like him, but I feel it's really stressful, so I'm probably going to pass.

I don't know if I actually do consider myself as a good leader. People do come to me for inquiries, whether work, personal or otherwise. I like to listen to what people have to say. I like to assist the higher management on things they need to accomplish. I do get respect, while there are other employees who literally hate their job (I actually made someone quit last week lmao). My manager told me that things like that happen sometimes, and I shouldn't take it as my loss.

Also, leadership positions look really good on your resume. That's how I got my current tech job. I'm aspiring myself to become an IT manager after I obtain my BS in IT. That's a goal I have, and with the leadership skills I'm getting, it'll totally help me in the long run. ;3

Sonata

Don't let me disappear

Age 27
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Indiana
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Posted March 25th, 2023
13,619 posts
10.2 Years
No. I'm a terrible leader. I have terrible work ethic and tend to break the very rules I try to set into place. I'm much better as a follower over a leader. Give me some instructions and tell me what to do and it will get done. Give me free reign over something and try to get me to control it and it's likely to crash and burn or take way longer than it should to get done because I go at everything in the most overly complicated ways possible.

Her

Age 29
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Posted 1 Week Ago
I'm the oldest child of 4, with an age gap of 14 years between me and the youngest sibling (yay Catholicism!) and I have rather... deadbeat relatives so it's fallen on me for the last decade or so to raise them. I think that would count as my first and most exhausting leadership role, as I had to put off or outright end some parts of my life in order to take care of them. I'd also say it's the most rewarding, but the somewhat strained relationship I have with them right now complicates things. Still, it's the first example that comes to mind when I think about my own experience at leadership in my life. It's not something I wanted to take on, but it was sink or swim, I guess.

In a more professional sense, I became a manager for a store for an NZ clothing franchise at the ripe old age of 18! Exhausting, but it paid bucketloads more than any job any of my peers at that age were getting. Very rewarding, great for my CV and it gave me an insight into one of my loves, albeit it was clothing for men.
Straight out of high school and working steadily was great.
Age 36
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According to my workplace, I apparently don't. On my past two reviews, it's been the only complaint anyone has about me: I'm not a leader. I don't take charge of anything. But it's weird because my position isn't really a "leader" role. I'm by myself most of the time. And any time that I am with a group of people, I'm the leader of that group. I give direction and make sure that everyone's working well together.

It's just that no one is around with those times happen, except for my team. And their words mean nothing apparently?

I try to be a good leader when I need to be. Most times, though, I try to avoid being one, or working on a team of people, whenever possible.

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Spiff

love child

Age 28
Male
Seen January 29th, 2023
Posted March 22nd, 2021
1,028 posts
8.4 Years
I work at two pools. I'm head guard for a city pool in the downtown area and supervisor for my college's pool. We have a lot of incidents/rescues at my downtown pool due to the large attendance we have. Just last week someone severely broke their ankle on the diving board. It's easy to get scared on serious rescues like this but you just gotta have initiative. This involves proper first aid treatment, evacuating the pool, calling 911, then interviews and paperwork, etc. The location of the pool also compounds the stress since there's a lot of shady behavior. I've had my lifeguards get threatened, I've had drug deals, graffiti, all that good sketchy stuff. This job has taught me how to act when muk hits the fan when most people just watch.

Nolafus

Aspiring something

Age 27
Male
Lost in thought... again
Seen March 3rd, 2018
Posted March 11th, 2017
5,722 posts
10.9 Years
I'm probably a better follower than leader, but I know how to lead and have done it in the past.

I was section leader in marching band. It wasn't much, but it gave me insight since I had to teach two people how to march properly and grow a good work ethic in them. Honestly, I didn't do that good of a job then, but one attribute I always like about myself is that I'm a fast learner. It's not often that I make mistakes twice, so if I'm in a leadership role, I'll figure out how to do things pretty quickly.

The main thing that holds me back is my fear of confrontation. I'm trying to work on it, but I'm pretty passive, and would rather work to get the job done rather than argue about it. I'm not used to having authority over people, so any type of leadership role is a little out of my comfort zone (in real life, at least). I'm a better follower than leader, but I can lead when the situation calls for it.
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Nick

Seen 3 Weeks Ago
Posted July 28th, 2021
17,572 posts
18.6 Years
Absolutely.

I'm currently a shift manager at a restaurant. It's a casual restaurant, but its still a lot of work. I have to pay attention to absolutely every single thing going on, and I have to remain sane while doing so. I have to keep in mind virtually everything. The guests, drink levels in the machines, the tables, what employees are doing, what food is being cooked, if guests have complaints, if servers need swipes, any problems that arise internally, food available, food being ordered, food being sent out, things being correct, things being clean, and so on and so forth.

I'm in third ranking where I work. There's a general manager above me, and an assistant general manager below her, and then there I am with the other shift managers (two) right underneath them. But I have the same responsibility as the general manager and the assistant general manager, and I have shifts to run by myself. In fact, today was my first shift that I ran by myself for more than two hours. Since I had from 3:00 until 9:00 when no one was there with me. So everything fed to me. And I loved it. It was intimidating at first, since it was such a long time and it was my first dinner service on my own, but it was awesome.

I think I do a good job managing people, and I'm getting the hang of it more and more as time goes on and my experience grows and develops. I'm learning what works for me and what makes me comfortable, and I'm stepping out of my old position and into my new leadership position. There are shortcuts I did while in my old position that don't work for me now, since I have to set an example, and things I have to keep in mind while up front that are more prominent if I do them compared to when I was wearing a different shirt doing them. And that part is stressful.

But I'm really good at keeping my cool and appearing like everything is running smoothly and keeping calm and whatnot. At least I think I am, anyway. My face may look noticeably different to people who know me, and I might close in more, but I also do that when I am focusing, and I do that a lot at my job.

I make a lot of changes. I make a lot of internal suggestions with the other managers. I have opinions that I share with people. I have recommendations. I have feedback, and so on and so forth. I try to keep morale up. I try not to be a hard ass. I try to let people do their thing and I try not to step into those situations unless I have to.

I'm still new to this position, but I am growing more every time I have to deal with things I am not comfortable with. When outside people come in, I deal with them so they can fix issues I'm having within the store. When I need to get help from outside, I know how to do it. I am slowly becoming someone people go to when they have questions or problems, and I relay that to the appropriate people and vouch for them on their behalf to them as well. I am considerate, and since I'm still new to the role, I lead by example in doing things that other managers don't seem to take the time to do themselves, and I think it encourages others to do the same and not be bothered by doing menial tasks, because I do them as well.