PDA PDA PDA

Started by Palamon September 12th, 2015 10:12 PM
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Palamon

Silence is Purple.

Age 26
he/him
Snezhnaya, Teyvat.
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14.3 Years
Are you willing to publicly display affection, be it online, offline, ie: "I love you <3", "You're cute. V///V" etc. Are you affectionate?

*PDA stands for public display of affection.

Sothis

Guns and ammo lie in front of you

She/her
Firene
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9.9 Years
Hey Pala!

I'm actually...really cold lol. My last gf left me because I'm just not good at displaying affection at all, and when I do it just doesn't feel genuine? I'm not sure why this is but yeah.

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Sylphiel

Between your fantasy and my reality
Seen March 28th, 2023
Posted January 9th, 2023
13,114 posts
18.5 Years
I have a hard time displaying any sort of affection, never mind doing it outside of any private situations. I've actually had someone comment on it, before. Said something like "you know, it's actually okay for you to show affection in front of others." Er...thanks for the advice I guess, though it didn't do anything to help since I know this already, I'm just not the kind of person to do such stuff.

Melody

Banned

Female
Cuddling those close to me
Seen March 4th, 2018
Posted March 2nd, 2018
6,459 posts
18.6 Years
Ehehe. I'm super affectionate online. I don't hide my feelings simply because they're precious, and it's better to show them; especially when it comes to someone you can't see.

On the flip-side in reality I do tend to be fairly isolated. I don't express them much; but then again I've never really had someone that I've been all that passionate about in my real world space though...so I can't really be certain. I'm sure I'd be as affectionate as I am online though if I could be without any consequence.
Age 29
Female
Germany
Seen October 6th, 2015
Posted September 22nd, 2015
192 posts
8.1 Years
In private I like to be very affectionate hehe I mean I like it when someone shows me they like me, so I figure they'd like the same?

In public, I like to find some middle grounds ... like, if it's with a partner, I don't mind a kiss once in a while, maybe some hand holding. But making out in public or stuff like that? Hell no. That belongs somewhere else haha
I think it's ok to acknowledge your relationship in public, it just gets a bit obnoxious when you keep shoving it into people's faces. Get a room.

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Lumina

Lucid Melody

Age 27
Female
The Dreaming City
Seen May 18th, 2022
Posted December 18th, 2020
1,287 posts
12.6 Years
I'm terrible at being affectionate. I do try to be in private, and I think I've gotten better at it more recently, but in public it just...doesn't happen. I'm terrible with it. Anxiety and fear of being judged/shamed for it.
I thought PDA stood for Personal Digital Assistant? xD

I'm not good at giving or receiving affection...it just feels so forced and/or inappropriate, both online and offline. I have a general aversion to physical contact, and I'm no good with displaying affection through words either, as it always sounds insincere when coming from me because I'd only say it in response to someone else out of a sense of obligation, rather than any genuine feeling.

Crystal Berry

Crystal Mistress

Female
United States
Seen January 7th, 2020
Posted December 19th, 2019
720 posts
7.7 Years
Yes I am very affectionate. It's just part of my personality. I'm willing to extend my affection to pretty much anyone who I consider a friend, but it's usually in a joking or half way unless I have a crush on the person. I don' really care if it's online, offline, in private or not really. It doesn't take much to get me to show at least some form of affection unless the person isn't comfortable with it.

gimmepie

Age 27
Male
Australia
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Posted 13 Hours Ago
24,970 posts
11.1 Years
I don't mind PDAs and I tend to be somewhat affectionate in public, but there's lines I won't cross and I definitely will not be so public if I know I'm making people uncomfortable. In private I'm extremely affectionate.
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Alfieri

aka Ronnie

Age 27
Male
New York City
Seen June 23rd, 2019
Posted June 23rd, 2019
2,850 posts
9.2 Years
If it's one thing I hate, it's the high school couples making out at bus stops, in buses, in trains, etc. In other words, I despise public display of affection to a certain extreme. If you want to hug and hold hands, cute. A quick kiss? fine. Tongue wrestling and ass groping? Nuh-uh, foh.

Bounsweet

Fruit Pokémon

Seen September 17th, 2018
Posted October 11th, 2017
2,102 posts
15.6 Years
I'm really not an affectionate person with most people, tbh. That's not to say that I don't love my friends, it's just that I don't show that affection as much. I still try to at least show my appreciation, if not affection.

When I'm in a romantic relationship, tho... lol I can be kinda guilty. I do kiss my boyfriend in public a lot, but it's never full-on makeout sessions or anything. Just a quick, "hey let me kiss you" peck on the mouth more often than I've seen most couples do in public.

Taemin

MOVE

he / they
USA
Seen January 6th, 2023
Posted December 9th, 2022
11,196 posts
17.8 Years
I'm not an affectionate person, really. I'll tell people that I'm really close to that I love them if the situation calls for it, or I'll hug friends on occasion, but I don't go overboard with it, because past a point it makes me uncomfortable. I've always been that way. I have an irl friend who's really really affectionate, even in public, and I have to tell them to stop sometimes. xD; It's not that I don't care about people, quite the opposite, I think the world of people, I just like my space.


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Palamon

Silence is Purple.

Age 26
he/him
Snezhnaya, Teyvat.
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14.3 Years
As the thread maker, no... I'm not affectionate. And to get any affection from me, you have to be that close to me to get any at all. I rarely if ever publicly tell people I think they're cute, and don't really love many people, either. Also, I don't like hugging or anything like that. I like keeping to myself, and often hold my feelings of affection or whatever.

starseed galaxy auticorn

PC's Resident Auticorn

Age 34
she/he/they
the land of magical unicorns
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6,648 posts
18.9 Years
I often find it pretty hard to be really affectionate. Though, I do my best to show my boyfriend I still love and care for him. I'm the type of person who shows love and affection in ways that aren't considered normal. It's common for most autistic people to be this way. It's not that we don't have any love or empathy for someone, it's just harder for us to show it or really understand it as well.

I'm definitely not that affectionate in public. I can be, depending on the given situation. Like... when I'm at my anime convention, I'll ask for hugs from people or let them hug me. However, in any other given situation, I tend to feel pretty uncomfortable about it. Most times, it can be random affection when I feel like being that way also.

Sonata

Don't let me disappear

Age 27
Male
Indiana
Seen 8 Hours Ago
Posted March 25th, 2023
13,619 posts
10.2 Years
I don't mind dishing out PDA. Nothing really to feel weird or ashamed about if you actually like the person you're with and somewhat comfortable with yourself all around I guess. I used to really not like PDA because I was self conscious about so many things like if my deodorant had run off or if my hair was even the slightest bit greasy, if my clothes were too tight or whatever. But then I stopped really caring and so I just do it.

Universe

all-consuming

Seen November 16th, 2016
Posted November 16th, 2016
2,239 posts
9.6 Years
my PDA involves calling people nerds, gay, or [insert barrage of playful insults here], especially online. in real life i am usually pretty okay with PDA in general, bar making out. sometimes i've got my days and i'm not down for it, but that's almost always exclusively my fault and no one else's.

i'm more open with my affection towards others in private overall.

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Kotone

someone needed a doctor?

Female
somewhere ;]
Seen June 29th, 2018
Posted June 14th, 2018
2,787 posts
14.1 Years
i'm a very affectionate person. my bf is shy sometimes about PDA, but i think he's starting to be WAY more affectionate. i like being cute. look at our cuteness ^_^

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moon

they/them
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15.5 Years
I'm a bit too affectionate in public :D hugging and holding hands, I love it. But making out or even kissing, that's another thing actually. That's a bit too private and I kind of want to look away when couples make out downtown etc. But a tiny kiss isn't anything obscene of course.
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Margaery Tyrell

Growing Strong

Age 24
Female
USA
Seen February 28th, 2018
Posted November 27th, 2016
335 posts
10.4 Years
Mmm, I'm typically an affectionate person, I don't just do it randomly, but when I want to show my affection, or if someone needs it, I'll usually use my voice. I verbally express affection the most with stuff like "you're precious" or "you're incredible" etcetc
I do like physical affection but I reserve it for when its necessary surprisingly
I've never been in a relationship tbh, but I think I'd be okay with holding hands and hugs, and perhaps quick pecks every once and a while
In private however, then idk, probably just more kisses and verbal affection honestly, depending on whether or not they'd be okay with it
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Meganium

memento mori

she/her
Houston, TX
Seen February 1st, 2023
Posted February 1st, 2023
I think I'm a bit too affectionate in both online and offline. I guess I just like to show how much I love my significant other so much. I mean...if I don't, I'd feel awkward, ya know? xD

I hug him a lot. I really do. He loves it when I give him hugs and kisses on the cheek. He always pulls me close to him whenever we're watching a movie either at the theatre or at a restaurant. Most of all, telling him "I love you" in public is what I love to do. Because why the hell not? He's mine and I want to show the world that he's mine.

Okay so I kinda went off on a tangent here but that's WHAT I DO.