Truth behind just kidding

Started by Alfieri October 4th, 2015 10:53 AM
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Alfieri

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I feel like whenever people say just kidding, there is actually a truth behind it. A way for someone to make an observation about someone or something else without the repercussion of hurting feelings or receiving dirty looks.

For example, if someone jokes about a person's weight comically for friendly laughs, the truth is that the person making the joke has made an honest observation about the other person and felt the need to make a joke about it. Of course the person who made the joke had absolutely no malicious intent behind the joke but still made the joke anyway and softened the blow with a "just kidding."

To me, it's like when a person says "I don't care" but sometimes they actually do.

Crystal Berry

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"Just kidding" is sometimes used as a way to placate someone you might potentially offend, but it's usually not something meant to be taken too seriously because a joke is still a joke. I'm very flippant with my friends sometimes. We joke about each other's weight too, but since we're friends no one usually gets offended.

Cherrim

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I... thankfully do not know anyone who uses it this way. I guess I've seen it used like this in media or books but wow that sound ridiculously hurtful otherwise wtf. :(

I tend to be overly cautious about what I say so unless I'm certain it'll be taken the right way, I don't say anything at all. For friends where we are close enough to make off-colour jokes, we have other ways of signifying it. "Just kidding" sounds so flippant to me, so it's not that way, but admittedly I can't actually think of an example right now...

I guess I just can't think of a situation where I could believably say something like "just kidding" after a rude statement and not have it sound like I was intending to be an asshole from the start. :s


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curiousnathan

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I can see where you're coming from. I've never looked it at like that before. I suppose there is truth behind what they say, despite it being a "joke" the joke was founded on fact; on an honest observation. I usually brush sugar-coated insults like that off. I don't really have the time to deal with them; or rather they're just a waste of time to respond to. Although I do appreciate if you just insult me flat-out rather than wrap it in cotton wool. I hate cotton wool.
i'm that person who says "no you're not" after the "just kidding"

if you're gonna say something rude at least dedicate yourself to it. it's worse to be two-faced than just plain out mean.
I'm the same way! It's amazing how people will stutter after you call them out on actually not "kidding" about what they said. I don't generally get mad though about them saying an insult or whatever but it bothers me so much how they have to lie about it :x
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There are two uses of the term. One is comparable to the "sorry not sorry" where the other really means "kidding around". The difference depends on the person using it. Most kids/teens/young adults now a days use it as a backhanded way to express their jealousy. They will say something like "You are such a *instert loose woman term here*" then follow up with "I am just kidding!!!" but most of the time, it is not a joke. I don't use the term myself because I don't like even chancing hurting someone's feelings.
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