You're welcome

Started by Juno October 6th, 2015 4:48 PM
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When people thank me I've always hated saying "you're welcome" - I don't know why but it sounds really formal to me and I usually say something like "no worries" or "no problem" instead, but lately I've been wondering if that sounds kind of rude and have been trying to say the former more.

I guess it's an "acknowledgment vs. being humble" kind of thing - I feel like "you're welcome" means you're acknowledging what you did for the person should be thanked, while "no problem/worries" is like "you don't have to thank me, that wasn't a big deal".

So which one do you use more? Or are you just a normal person and don't think about trivial things like this as much as I do?

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I pretty much said "No problem" as that's what I'm used to saying to most people my age. I said that to other people twice my age too and they don't seemed to mind.

I remember one Tumblr post someone mentioned why most millennials say "You're welcome" are more or less same reasons you said, Juno, but I don't have it saved lol.
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Depends on the situation, how well I know the person, Ect...

If it's just to a friend or something like that It's a casual "No Problem!" Or something along those lines. If its to someone like a professor or someone I don't know to well It's "You're welcome."

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At work I mostly say, "Not a problem" since "you're welcome" sounds so scripted. I find myself avoiding the normally used phrases in favor of others most of the time, actually. I think it has to do with the fact I'm really bad at making them sound genuine. It's much easier for me to say, "enjoy your coffee" than "have a nice day". It doesn't matter how I say it, and believe me I've tried, the latter always sounds fake.
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Oh my gosh... I must say I agree 100% and I think I know exactly how you feel!

I'm a very nice person and by nice I mean really nice (almost too nice). I do things for people and I give out random unexpected gifts out of the kindness of my heart. People thank me often for the things that I do, but I like to express myself with other words and I really dislike verbal etiquette for that reason.

I usually respond to "thank you" with "It's my pleasure" or "no problem", or "any time", but probably close to half the time I don't even respond at all because words aren't always the only way to express gratitude or politeness. I guess it depends on the setting though. If I'm holding the door open for a stranger and he or she thanks me then I'll definitely say something in return, but if I'm giving let's say a friend a gift then my response will be far more casual.


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this thing i read a while ago is suddenly relevant. the second addition makes a point of highlighting what j mentioned about humility too

http://hinallie.tumblr.com/post/123679527625/thisisnotharmless-speaking-of-linguistics

also even as a customer service person i have always said no problem, no worries, no big deal, it's all good, etc
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I remember one Tumblr post someone mentioned why most millennials say "You're welcome" are more or less same reasons you said, Juno, but I don't have it saved lol.
Is it the one Anna posted? :P
On this topic, another interesting thing I just remembered is that in Chinese, there is nothing like "you're welcome" - when someone thanks you, the 'proper'/standard response would translate literally to something like "there's no need for thanks", similar to "no problem" and all that. Annoys my mom a lot, because she finds "you're welcome" more appropriate and I remember her complaining about the lack of an equivalent in Chinese. Also interesting to note that she's of that baby boomer age and prefers "you're welcome" like Anna's post describes.

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As socially awkward as I am, I reflexively say, "You're welcome" to people irl whenever they thank me for something. On the internet, though, I usually always say, "No problem!" or something along those lines instead. In my opinion, the friendliness and formality of both can also be determined by your tone, though the Tumblr post up there about how people from different eras view it does make me think a little more on it now.
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Is it the one Anna posted? :P
Yes, that one! A pretty interesting observation to say the least.
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I'm really reserved, so when someone thanks me for something it usually flusters me because I'm not so used to being thanked. I haven't quite mastered "You're welcome" yet so I usually just say "It's ok" or something like that. It's really awkward for me.

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"You're welcome?"

Hmm, I say either no problem, or don't worry about it because you're welcome just sounds very unnatural. =/

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I alternate between "no problem" "anytime" and just a simple "mmhmmm" or "sure"

Just so they know I heard them I guess? Saying "you're welcome" seems a bit robotic to me, but there's nothing wrong with it x3

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haha I've never really thought about it. I mean there's not really a whole lot of logic with etiquette in the first place, it's all pretty victorian tbh. so excuse me as l set the dinner fork on the right side and yes I will be putting my elbows on the table. damn it

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saying "you're welcome" is pretty formal, but also polite. I usually say "no prob" or "no problem".

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I tend to say "no problem" as it's a habit I got into as a kid. I kind of think it was a habit after hearing "no problemo" so much when I watched Rocket Power :P

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I actually had a conversation about this with someone at work not too long ago, and I realized that depending on who I'm speaking to, I change what I say. Just using work as an example, if I'm talking to someone that's ~40 or younger, I'll say 'no problem' or 'no worries'. Any older people that I'm speaking with I'll generally say 'you're ____ welcome' to. I never just say 'you're welcome' though, as it feels ingenuine, so I'll say something like 'you're quite welcome' or 'you're very welcome' instead.