Do you ever feel lonely?

Started by xVaporeonx October 8th, 2015 10:15 PM
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Posted October 18th, 2015
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I know I am still new here and no one really knows much about me. Over the last 10 years or so I have struggled with anxiety and panic attacks. As I got older, they got worse. I stopped going places. I lost friends because I never wanted to go anywhere cause of how I felt, no one understood what I was going through. This is kind of hard to admit but other than family and my fiance, I have no friends. I used to have a handful of online friends I talked to almost daily and I played games with them on xbox, and all that. I don't talk to any of them anymore. Most of the time it doesn't get to me, but then there are times like now and I feel so dang lonely. I sometimes feel ashamed to say I don't have friends. And I sometimes feel like something is wrong with me. I do have mild social anxiety when face to face with people I don't know. It is hard to make friends. All the RL friends I ever had either betrayed me or left me behind.

Do you ever feel lonely?
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Crystal Berry

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That's a really sad story =/

I feel lonely sometimes sure. Most of the time I'm fine, but I'm single, have very few really close friends, and I moved on from my friends from high school because of mostly laziness. I realized that to make friends you need to be really interesting, and that usually means have a bunch of interests so you can relate to other people. I'm a very social person, and most people in real life like me for my sense of humor and the fact that I can talk about almost anything, but it's rare for someone to say "Hey, wanna hang out?" I guess because people are so busy with their lives. So in short I'm not really lonely, but sometimes I feel lonely because most people don't care that much about me even though people tend to like me.

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That's a really sad story =/

I feel lonely sometimes sure. Most of the time I'm fine, but I'm single, have very few really close friends, and I moved on from my friends from high school because of mostly laziness. I realized that to make friends you need to be really interesting, and that usually means have a bunch of interests so you can relate to other people. I'm a very social person, and most people in real life like me for my sense of humor and the fact that I can talk about almost anything, but it's rare for someone to say "Hey, wanna hang out?" I guess because people are so busy with their lives. So in short I'm not really lonely, but sometimes I feel lonely because most people don't care that much about me even though people tend to like me.

Now I'm here. :) Don't be afraid to feel like you're bugging or something, I love talkative people despite not being that a social person and talkative one myself. :)

To answer the topic, yes I do feel lonely. I still miss the former significant other. But I guess that's life, it happens.
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Seen May 13th, 2016
Posted October 18th, 2015
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Yeah I had bad experiences with "friends" I did have. I do enjoy talking with people and everything but people tend to take my anxiety issues personally, like I am doing it because I dislike them. It is quite heart breaking. I want so badly for this to end and people only look at it like it is something I use as a crutch. It makes it hard to want to even make friends because people take my anxiety and fears personally. :(

I did have a friend who I used to play call of duty with, we met over the game and he too had panic attacks so he understood me. I used to play with him and his girlfriend and it made me feel normal, but my ex made me stop talking to them. He also made me stop talking to all the other "online" or "xbox" friends I had.

Sorry for rambling. It is nearly 3AM here, I should be sleeping lol I hope I don't sound like a wimp or something.
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Sometimes. I'm in more or less the same position - as I've gotten older my physical and mental health have both deteriorated, and I don't speak to anyone I used to know from school/college/university anymore; I don't go out or socialise either. My online friends have mostly drifted away from me over time, and I'm reluctant to make new ones because I feel the same thing will happen, so I don't see the point to it. I'm isolated by choice as much as circumstance, but sometimes I do get lonely and wish I had someone I could talk to about things. I think it's a natural reaction.

Humans are sociable creatures by nature, and I think even the most solitary person will get lonely from time to time. It's not always the easiest thing to alleviate, depending on what you want out of other people, either - especially in real life, where it's a lot harder to approach people for a conversation than it is online. I guess one thing to remember is that there are always people you can talk to if you need to; it might not be ideal, but it's better than nothing. If nothing else, you can always talk to people online through forums and the like. Any interaction is better than none at all, right?
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Sometimes. I'm in more or less the same position - as I've gotten older my physical and mental health have both deteriorated, and I don't speak to anyone I used to know from school/college/university anymore; I don't go out or socialise either. My online friends have mostly drifted away from me over time, and I'm reluctant to make new ones because I feel the same thing will happen, so I don't see the point to it. I'm isolated by choice as much as circumstance, but sometimes I do get lonely and wish I had someone I could talk to about things. I think it's a natural reaction.

Humans are sociable creatures by nature, and I think even the most solitary person will get lonely from time to time. It's not always the easiest thing to alleviate, depending on what you want out of other people, either - especially in real life, where it's a lot harder to approach people for a conversation than it is online. I guess one thing to remember is that there are always people you can talk to if you need to; it might not be ideal, but it's better than nothing. If nothing else, you can always talk to people online through forums and the like. Any interaction is better than none at all, right?
Most of the time I am fine with it. I think it is a mix of not being able to have my fiance here and not really enjoying things people expect each other to enjoy. I don't drink, or use drugs, I hate parties, I don't like to gamble, I am not really into sports, fashion doesn't interest me, I don't follow celebrities or gossip... I like things that I don't need to leave the house to enjoy. I guess it makes it easy lol Heck, I even prefer shopping online.
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I sometimes do, and when I do, but it is mixed on when I do feel lonely. Sometimes I like it especially when I do want to have some alone time, but sometimes it does end up getting me down a few times, or worse it tears me up from the inside. Like when I go to the movies, I mostly go to the movies by myself and sometimes I like it, but sometimes I wish I had someone with me. However, a lot of times I do not feel lonely. Even though I don't talk to a lot of my friends that I know personally, I still talk to people online and just being able to talk to them, either through text or through voice, is enough to make me not feel lonely, especially with all my close ones. The most that I can say to help is don't think that you are alone on here. I'm gonna say what I said to one of my friends at one point, rather in real life or online, friends are still friends and they'll always be there for you. Consider the members of this forum your friends, they may not have you listed as a friend in their "friend's list" or have them listed as a friend in your's, but most of the time the members on here are friendly and are willing to help. You may not knows us and we may not know you, I still don't know many of the folks on here even after all the time I spent here, but I know they are a friendly, helpful bunch who I consider friends rather they are or aren't on mine or their lists. Knowing that they are willing to interact with me through forum topics, VMs, or PMs doesn't make me feel lonely. Considering how you are, I'm sure you'll find friends here who are willing to help you not feel lonely and be some of your bestest friends. So don't feel alone on here or anywhere, you got friends on here that you may not know who consider you as a friend, and as I said, either in real life or online, friends are friends. Forums, like this one, are a good environment to feel companied by people who are willing to talk and get to know you, and on here, you are never alone.
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I sometimes do, and when I do, but it is mixed on when I do feel lonely. Sometimes I like it especially when I do want to have some alone time, but sometimes it does end up getting me down a few times, or worse it tears me up from the inside. Like when I go to the movies, I mostly go to the movies by myself and sometimes I like it, but sometimes I wish I had someone with me. However, a lot of times I do not feel lonely. Even though I don't talk to a lot of my friends that I know personally, I still talk to people online and just being able to talk to them, either through text or through voice, is enough to make me not feel lonely, especially with all my close ones. The most that I can say to help is don't think that you are alone on here. I'm gonna say what I said to one of my friends at one point, rather in real life or online, friends are still friends and they'll always be there for you. Consider the members of this forum your friends, they may not have you listed as a friend in their "friend's list" or have them listed as a friend in your's, but most of the time the members on here are friendly and are willing to help. You may not knows us and we may not know you, I still don't know many of the folks on here even after all the time I spent here, but I know they are a friendly, helpful bunch who I consider friends rather they are or aren't on mine or their lists. Knowing that they are willing to interact with me through forum topics, VMs, or PMs doesn't make me feel lonely. Considering how you are, I'm sure you'll find friends here who are willing to help you not feel lonely and be some of your bestest friends. So don't feel alone on here or anywhere, you got friends on here that you may not know who consider you as a friend, and as I said, either in real life or online, friends are friends. Forums, like this one, are a good environment to feel companied by people who are willing to talk and get to know you, and on here, you are never alone.
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Hikamaru

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I'm always lonely. When I was at school no friends lived near me, so that meant little contact and that caused me to think myself as an outsider and developed anti-social disorders as a result.
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I sometimes do, and when I do, but it is mixed on when I do feel lonely. Sometimes I like it especially when I do want to have some alone time, but sometimes it does end up getting me down a few times, or worse it tears me up from the inside. Like when I go to the movies, I mostly go to the movies by myself and sometimes I like it, but sometimes I wish I had someone with me. However, a lot of times I do not feel lonely. Even though I don't talk to a lot of my friends that I know personally, I still talk to people online and just being able to talk to them, either through text or through voice, is enough to make me not feel lonely, especially with all my close ones. The most that I can say to help is don't think that you are alone on here. I'm gonna say what I said to one of my friends at one point, rather in real life or online, friends are still friends and they'll always be there for you. Consider the members of this forum your friends, they may not have you listed as a friend in their "friend's list" or have them listed as a friend in your's, but most of the time the members on here are friendly and are willing to help. You may not knows us and we may not know you, I still don't know many of the folks on here even after all the time I spent here, but I know they are a friendly, helpful bunch who I consider friends rather they are or aren't on mine or their lists. Knowing that they are willing to interact with me through forum topics, VMs, or PMs doesn't make me feel lonely. Considering how you are, I'm sure you'll find friends here who are willing to help you not feel lonely and be some of your bestest friends. So don't feel alone on here or anywhere, you got friends on here that you may not know who consider you as a friend, and as I said, either in real life or online, friends are friends. Forums, like this one, are a good environment to feel companied by people who are willing to talk and get to know you, and on here, you are never alone.
I'm sure a certain sheep will be smiling at this after reading it.

I'm always lonely. When I was at school no friends lived near me, so that meant little contact and that caused me to think myself as an outsider and developed anti-social disorders as a result.
No you are not [now]; I'm here, you fool. :P Unless my existence is ignored. *sulks*
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I used to feel lonely because of my troubled past (I was not the one you know today when I joined PC and all) which makes me lonely and was not sure to socialize with anyone, even though things starting to change as I'm in here. Even though I was struggling at times, I'm sure someday I'll become socialized again like I used to when I was a kid.

I'm always lonely. When I was at school no friends lived near me, so that meant little contact and that caused me to think myself as an outsider and developed anti-social disorders as a result.
Awww, that's not good. At least, you have places in here, Hikari. Right? :)

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I do a lot, because I have no friends irl either, and very few people tolerate me online. When I think I've made a friend, they turn out to find me annoying or just flat out don't want anything to do with me. This happens all the time, with everyone,
I have a developmental disability, which makes it hard for me to know what's appropriate and what's not in communication and friendships. I tend to become clingy or do inappropriate things without knowing, so people don't want to associate with me. That's just how it is.
I'm not meant to have friends I think, nor am I meant to have an S/O, there's just nothing interesting or attractive about me either, I'm just bothersome, and I've probably already annoyed a few people here.

Spoiler:

I was also bullied a lot as a kid, right up into adulthood. So I tend to find it hard to really trust people because of that too.

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Nuclearkiller42

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Posted December 4th, 2015
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7.7 Years
I don't have almost any friends in real life, but I rarely feel lonely. Maybe that's because I have a bunch of friends online. I dislike most people that I know from school and I'm too shy to approach people from other places, but the people I know online aren't bad (most of them at least).

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Yeah I had bad experiences with "friends" I did have. I do enjoy talking with people and everything but people tend to take my anxiety issues personally, like I am doing it because I dislike them. It is quite heart breaking. I want so badly for this to end and people only look at it like it is something I use as a crutch. It makes it hard to want to even make friends because people take my anxiety and fears personally. :(

I did have a friend who I used to play call of duty with, we met over the game and he too had panic attacks so he understood me. I used to play with him and his girlfriend and it made me feel normal, but my ex made me stop talking to them. He also made me stop talking to all the other "online" or "xbox" friends I had.

Sorry for rambling. It is nearly 3AM here, I should be sleeping lol I hope I don't sound like a wimp or something.
Your ex made you stop talking to them? That's terrible! it seems to me like he was a control freak? If my ex told me I couldn't talk to my friends because they were the opposite gender or other reasons I would still talk to them behind his back. It's not cheating unless it's romantic. No one should tell you how to live your life.

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Your ex made you stop talking to them? That's terrible! it seems to me like he was a control freak? If my ex told me I couldn't talk to my friends because they were the opposite gender or other reasons I would still talk to them behind his back. It's not cheating unless it's romantic. No one should tell you how to live your life.

This is true. I broke up with him for many reasons and shockingly, this wasn't one of them. lol There is a fine line between doing something out of respect and feeling like you are being controlled. Sometimes it isn't always clear which is happening.
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i used to when i was younger and then i decided to take control and change myself and now i have a very healthy relationship with my friends and family so i never feel lonely in that sense. once a week or so on a really late night where i'm up alone i'll feel lonely in the sense of not having someone romantically. it's been happening more frequently, but considering it only happens at night idk if that's really the right reason to start pursing anything with someone

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To be perfectly honest, I never really had any friends in real life until around a year ago, so I'm used to feeling alone. I frequented a couple of forums before this one but back when I was younger I didn't feel like anyone actually liked me and just had to put up with me every day. I love making friends and talking to people though, and I'm really glad I signed up here because I've made a ton of friends I can hang out with. It's great.

By the way, if you're looking for friends then just hit me up with a VM, there's a good chance I'll talk with you.

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Of course, I think everyone feels lonely from time to time. I also deal with anxiety and depression, so I can get really reclusive and cut people out which always sucks in the long run. I'm in this weird place where all my really good friends and I have graduated from college and are living far away from each other and don't have time to see each other. Some are in grad school and have no time. Lack of time is the current thing I struggle with.

I hate it, I used to have a lot of people I could see at any time or talk to at any time and now that seems to be gone. I've been really lonely for the past year and I'm trying hard to fix it by rekindling friendships that matter to me and making new friends. But it's hard.
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Of course, I think everyone feels lonely from time to time. I also deal with anxiety and depression, so I can get really reclusive and cut people out which always sucks in the long run. I'm in this weird place where all my really good friends and I have graduated from college and are living far away from each other and don't have time to see each other. Some are in grad school and have no time. Lack of time is the current thing I struggle with.

I hate it, I used to have a lot of people I could see at any time or talk to at any time and now that seems to be gone. I've been really lonely for the past year and I'm trying hard to fix it by rekindling friendships that matter to me and making new friends. But it's hard.
I am glad to see I am not alone here with the anxiety thing but I truly am sorry you deal with it as well. It makes life so much harder and very few understand.
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I don't have any friends outside the online world. It's not just due to anxiety, but I also have autism. It often makes it harder to make friends and keep them. I'm often so involved with my strict routines that I tend to hate going anywhere unless I actually want to go. It's usually only with my parents though. I don't really mind the loneliness since I've gotten used to it. I just don't really do very well around other people. D:

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Thank you for this :)
Don't mention it :), I don't like seeing someone feel lonely, or someone feel down about something, and I wanted to help.

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I sometimes do, but it depends about what. Ever since joining PC, the feeling has gone away a bit since there are a lot of great people here and I've met a few of them that I would dare call lifelong friends at this point. However, the feeling is most prominent when I'm with family.

Whenever it's a big get-together, I always feel really depressed afterwards since I don't share any common interests with anyone in my family, immediate or extended. Everyone is talking about the big game during Thanksgiving, and I'm just sitting in the corner playing Pokemon answering the occasional question about how I like living on my own or something. Whenever I try to hold an actual conversation, it never lasts long and after I've caught up with everyone in my family, there's nothing else to talk about. So in the sense that I don't really have a lot of people over here to talk to about my varied interests, I do feel lonely occasionally.
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I sometimes do, but it depends about what. Ever since joining PC, the feeling has gone away a bit since there are a lot of great people here and I've met a few of them that I would dare call lifelong friends at this point. However, the feeling is most prominent when I'm with family.

Whenever it's a big get-together, I always feel really depressed afterwards since I don't share any common interests with anyone in my family, immediate or extended. Everyone is talking about the big game during Thanksgiving, and I'm just sitting in the corner playing Pokemon answering the occasional question about how I like living on my own or something. Whenever I try to hold an actual conversation, it never lasts long and after I've caught up with everyone in my family, there's nothing else to talk about. So in the sense that I don't really have a lot of people over here to talk to about my varied interests, I do feel lonely occasionally.
I am the same way with my family. Don't feel bad there. I always sat alone and only came around when it was time to eat. My whole family thought I was weird most my life, most of them still do. It doesn't bother me anymore... But when I was younger I did feel left our and lonely.
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To be honest, to have some company from time to time wouldn't hurt really. As a reclusive person however, I rarely have this feelings, I'm delighted with just myself. I don't have much online friends, I meet up with my IRL buddies from time to time (mostly couple of times per year) and it's enough. I don't have much time for that stuff since I constantly work far away from my home and my workmates or roommates in my temporary accomodations are the people i talk with mostly.