Human inconsistencies

Started by Alfieri October 18th, 2015 10:16 AM
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Alfieri

aka Ronnie

Age 27
Male
New York City
Seen June 23rd, 2019
Posted June 23rd, 2019
2,850 posts
9.1 Years
I feel like I'm the only one who gets bothered and feels the need to point out when people are being contradictory or hypocritical.

I would assume most people just kinda brush off other's inconsistencies or find it too trivial to try and change someone about it. However I get very annoyed by it and I almost always have to tell someone, "what you're saying is a double standard" or "you're contradicting yourself" or even "you're making yourself look like a hypocrite when you say that."

A prime example can be someone who hates when people talk about their drama to other people behind their backs yet they do the same thing. Another could be someone who doesn't like to be ignored but ignores others as well.
It's human nature to be inconsistent and hypocritical. We regularly ignore our own bad behaviour and emphasise others as part of an ongoing campaign to either make ourselves look superior to others, justify behaviour we KNOW is inappropriate and thereby ignore it, or just to feel better about ourselves. Most people aren't even aware that they're doing it and, if they are, then it's something totally different, of course. It's different because THEY'RE the ones doing it, which somehow makes all the difference. For example, you might say that someone is arrogant, but say that you're just extremely confident in yourself. It's all a game of semantics, and we're very, VERY good at subconsciously applying positive terms to our actions and negative terms to other people's.

Yeah, sometimes it's annoying...most of the time, actually. But if you're honest with yourself, you'll see it in yourself as well, and if you're REALLY honest about it, you'll realise that it's just as bad. It might not be exactly the same thing that they do, but there's always something, and hyocrisy is hypocrisy, it doesn't come in variants of how tolerable it is outside of individual tolerance, which is subjective opinion.

Personally, I have no problems admitting I'm often a hypocrite. I look down on others who look down on others. I complain about how my mother often complains. I tell people they can't expect everything to please them, and they I get annoyed when something doesn't please me. I don't even realise I'm doing it unless I stop to think about it and, when I DO stop to think about it, I'm not particularly remorseful. The "everyone does it" excuse doesn't justify it by any means, but in a way it does, because it's to be expected: I'm human, just like everyone else.

Anyone who tells you they are in no way a hypocrite at some point or another is either a liar or lives in a rosy pink bubble and has no concept of their own behaviour. It takes too much time to point out other people's inconsistencies, and the very act is hypocritical, because EVERYONE is inconsistent. Live and let live, I say. People are going to do what they want to do and think what they want to think; nothing you say or do is going to change that. If someone's behaviour bothers you THAT much...well, you don't HAVE to interact with them. Problem solved.

Pinkie-Dawn

Vampire Waifu

Age 30
Male
California
Seen February 16th, 2021
Posted May 16th, 2019
9,528 posts
10.5 Years
You have no idea how much I despise these people in entertainment media. You've got these gamers who complain about Mario and Pokémon being stale in their gameplay but then complain about Chibi-Robo and Animal Crossing for using different gameplay styles. Either they have some sort of bias that only their franchise franchise shouldn't change their formula or they're flat out hypocritical.

Universe

all-consuming

Seen November 16th, 2016
Posted November 16th, 2016
2,239 posts
9.6 Years
hypocrisy pretty much comes from not knowing yourself well enough and choosing to analyze others instead. i guess being stuck in a first person view all our lives and being the only outside looking in from our perspective makes it so we don't see ourselves, but instead, everyone else. realizing our own actions and words have as deep of an impact as their's can actually take quite a while.

because we all do this it's best to just forgive hypocritical behavior and make sure they hear loud and clear that they're being that way. it's the best we can do until they actually annoy or bother so many people they have no choice but to deal with themselves and the bad opinions they've created.
Seen January 1st, 2023
Posted March 23rd, 2022
3,316 posts
9.2 Years
it's annoying, but it also depends on how extreme the person is. i know for myself i try to be aware of what i'm inconsistent on because i want to understand why for myself i think it's okay and if it's really justified to look down on or hate on others for doing the same thing. i love to analyze though so that's a me thing lol

Crystal Berry

Crystal Mistress

Female
United States
Seen January 7th, 2020
Posted December 19th, 2019
720 posts
7.7 Years
It's human nature to be inconsistent and hypocritical. We regularly ignore our own bad behaviour and emphasise others as part of an ongoing campaign to either make ourselves look superior to others, justify behaviour we KNOW is inappropriate and thereby ignore it, or just to feel better about ourselves. Most people aren't even aware that they're doing it and, if they are, then it's something totally different, of course. It's different because THEY'RE the ones doing it, which somehow makes all the difference. For example, you might say that someone is arrogant, but say that you're just extremely confident in yourself. It's all a game of semantics, and we're very, VERY good at subconsciously applying positive terms to our actions and negative terms to other people's.

Yeah, sometimes it's annoying...most of the time, actually. But if you're honest with yourself, you'll see it in yourself as well, and if you're REALLY honest about it, you'll realise that it's just as bad. It might not be exactly the same thing that they do, but there's always something, and hyocrisy is hypocrisy, it doesn't come in variants of how tolerable it is outside of individual tolerance, which is subjective opinion.

Personally, I have no problems admitting I'm often a hypocrite. I look down on others who look down on others. I complain about how my mother often complains. I tell people they can't expect everything to please them, and they I get annoyed when something doesn't please me. I don't even realise I'm doing it unless I stop to think about it and, when I DO stop to think about it, I'm not particularly remorseful. The "everyone does it" excuse doesn't justify it by any means, but in a way it does, because it's to be expected: I'm human, just like everyone else.

Anyone who tells you they are in no way a hypocrite at some point or another is either a liar or lives in a rosy pink bubble and has no concept of their own behaviour. It takes too much time to point out other people's inconsistencies, and the very act is hypocritical, because EVERYONE is inconsistent. Live and let live, I say. People are going to do what they want to do and think what they want to think; nothing you say or do is going to change that. If someone's behaviour bothers you THAT much...well, you don't HAVE to interact with them. Problem solved.
I was thinking the same thoughts but you said that better than I would.