I wanna start a family

Started by Palamon November 14th, 2015 11:07 PM
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Palamon

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Do you want a family and children one day? Do you think you could handle the responsibility?

gimmepie

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I really want to start a family in the future, but I do worry about my ability to handle the stresses and responsibilities of parenthood because of my anxiety issues and stuff.
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SeleneHime

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Umm ... I'd love to have kids (eventually), but I'm not sure I'll be physically able to have my own. So I'll probably adopt once I have a secure income post-graduation, but if not, well, I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

killer-curry

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Posted November 1st, 2020
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Well having kids is fun but you are going to have a big responsible for take care of them. Give them love and care. But I need to be married hahaha and that would be in a few years later :)

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My s/o and I pretty much agreed that we don't want any kids in the future; neither of us are comfortable around children (or have the capacity to raise any). :c And as much as I love him, I don't plan on marrying, either. The two of us are instead planning on living together with our two best friends in the future, since the four of us are already a little "family" in a way.
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Posted March 17th, 2019
I want to get married and have kids in the future. However, I do not want more than two because then it would get wayyyy too crazy. And Ill only have kids if I am financially stable of course. I like working with kids, but I still hope they take after me because then I wouldnt have to deal with them screaming and crying so much (I was a very quiet baby and kid). In fact, I never talked until I was 3 lol.

noa

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Posted July 20th, 2020
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My partner and I do want a family eventually, yeah, but at what cost? Raising a child is super expensive. We can barely afford to provide for ourselves. I'd really like to adopt, because I was adopted and it's something that's important to me. There's enough children in this world without families to warrant me wanting to adopt rather than have my own.
So I guess my only criteria for adopting are 1. Being financially stable 2. Willing to put another person's life before my own. I'm not there yet... which is fine.

Universe

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Seen November 16th, 2016
Posted November 16th, 2016
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i don't think children are in the cards for me right now. there's already a lot of difficulty strung about with me having to take care of my own self, and financial stability is not something i've ever had. i have thought about it a lot before but that's probably instinct talking more than anything else. if stable grounds are in my future, perhaps i'll think about it again... and maybe even adopt a little one of my own.

but until then, i'm happy childless.
I want at least two daughters. I've always liked the idea of having daughters to take care of, mostly because I've spent nearly twenty years taking care of my brother, and I think it'd be a nice change of pace to take care of a girl. I don't like babies or obnoxious brats, but babies don't remain babies for very long, and obnoxious brats are usually only obnoxious brats because their parents haven't raised them properly, and I can say with absolute confidence any child that I raised would have better manners.

I'd probably adopt a child though, because actually having kids myself with a partner...yeah. Let's not go into that. Actually being qualified to adopt a child would also prove to me that I was in a position to have kids, and I would never want to have kids if I wasn't absolutely certain I could provide for them in the way they deserve; bringing a child into this world unprepared is the worst kind of irresponsibility. Cheesy as it sounds, I'd like to make a difference in a child's life someday and be a foster parent. So, yeah. Sometime in the future I'd like to have a family, probably as a single foster parent, when I'm in a better psychological and financial position.

But having a partner? That I don't think I could deal with. I'm not sure why, because delegating the responsibility of having a family is surely easier than shouldering it all by yourself, but...well, it's an awkward thing I could type paragraphs about but won't. Suffice it to say that I find taking care of children to be easy and having a meaningful relationship, even just a friendship, difficult.

I can't see it happening, but then I'm a pessimist and a cynic, so I tend not to see my dreams as even remotely achievable. But who knows.

Sylphiel

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One day? ...Maybe. And I say that because right now I definitely don't want any, but there's no telling if I'll ever change my mind regarding that. Chances are low, though. I probably could handle the responsibility, but I'd be nervous all the way through. Plus I'm not good with little kids in general at all. X|

But right now, yeah. I don't want any. Absolutely no interest in them. Have not had any interest in having kids like...ever.

Livewire

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Posted August 2nd, 2019
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13.8 Years
I'd love a few kids down the road in a few years, but I'd much rather wait until i'm irrevocably sure I'm fit to raise them the right way, i'd rather wait and be totally established with a high-paying job, etc., first.

Hiidoran

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I just don't know... I'm getting to that point in my adult life where long time friends are settling down, getting married, and having children. It's hard to see that and not kind of want to experience it myself. I'm just not so sure I'd ever be mature enough to take care of another life like that. Growing up the youngest sibling kind of means I've been babied and lack responsibility in those respects. I think one day it's in the cards, and I know my boyfriend wants children. So perhaps one day when we're more economically stable we'll either adopt or choose other means to have children, but that day certainly isn't today.

Cherrim

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I was definitely in the "ew, gross, no way" camp for many, many years growing up. Lately though, I guess as my ~biological clock ticks down~... I'm sort of coming around to the idea? Like, I'd love to one day--not necessarily soon, but one day--be able to raise my kids while my friends are also raising kids and arrange playdates and help each other out and all that. I'm certainly in no position for it now, but I like to think that one day I'll be stable enough for it.

The one thing that throws a bit of a wrench in it is my health issues. I mean, pregnancy is already a really gross idea to me and I sure as hell don't want to go through labour and actually giving birth because ew on so many levels... but I also don't want to even slightly risk passing down any of the chronic ailments that I suffer from. I wouldn't wish these on anyone, certainly not a potential daughter I might have. So if I ever do settle down with someone to raise a family, we'll either have to adopt or maybe I'll luck out and find a nice girl to spend the rest of my life with who will be a total trooper and willing to do all the hard work to bring a kid into the world because I sure won't, lmao.

I think I'd also be perfectly content growing old without having kids though. I have no strong preference right now so I'll just deal with wherever life takes me.


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Posted December 29th, 2015
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It sounds childish, but I've always wanted to get married and have a family, with at least two kids, maybe 3. I think the only trouble I'd have raising kids is I can get annoyed by other peoples kids really easily, but at the same time I really love them too D: