I wanna start a family Page 2

Started by Palamon November 14th, 2015 11:07 PM
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Melody

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Female
Cuddling those close to me
Seen March 4th, 2018
Posted March 2nd, 2018
6,459 posts
18.6 Years
Do I want kids? No, I'm not capable of taking responsibility for a child yet. Don't think I will be either, I can't even see myself having a partner who is dependent on me, let alone having a child.

Ideally my partner would be someone I can depend on. Not like I wouldn't contribute or refuse to have a job or anything like that, no, but someone who is simply a lot more put together than I can be, because to be honest I'm ok on my own but I still have a long way to go on the whole "How to Adult" thing. I'm never that cool of a person. x3

I do love children, but only in that "Aww, you're so cute" way when they're acting like little angels and aren't being snotty brats or royal pains in the ass.

Nolafus

Aspiring something

Age 27
Male
Lost in thought... again
Seen March 3rd, 2018
Posted March 11th, 2017
5,722 posts
10.9 Years
No thank you. I would like to be in a stable, romantic relationship some day, but the thought of kids has never been a good idea to me before. I don't like kids, and after working in a grocery store, my dislike has only strengthened. Having to hear them scream and cry because they wanted to be in the cart with the red car instead of the blue one, or their parents didn't get them the sugar cereal they wanted, or whatever they're so crushed about is just so unappealing. Maybe when I get older I'll change my mind, but for now, it's a definite no.
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Age 34
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the land of magical unicorns
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18.9 Years
As much as I can desire wanting kids, I don't think I'd be able to. Most of this is because of my special needs. I just don't feel as though I'd be fit as a parent. I wouldn't know what to do to take care of one. I can hardly take care of myself, let alone another human being with more needs than mine. Hell, I don't even think I could handle childbirth itself. It'd be such a horrifying experience for me. Probably much worse than it is for an average person. :c

Sure, I love kids... and I love telling other parents how cute their babies are, but I can't imagine having one myself. It's sad to think that my parents will never have the chance of getting grandkids, but even they know it's the truth of the matter. I'm just not really fit for it and probably never will be. I'd rather not have a child and end up being a burden to them. I'd also rather not have the state take my child away from me if I were to have one. I'd feel bad for my future child and be faced with the guilt for the rest of my life. Nope. Just... Nope.
Seen September 18th, 2020
Posted February 18th, 2018
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16.6 Years
I'm probably the sort of person who should have children (high IQ, member of declining native population) but I simply have no interest in them or in contributing to global overpopulation. Nor do I have the resources as a part-time worker. I might not necessarily have to be the working parent, but the idea of taking on full-time work just to be able to support offspring that take away my home time too is about the least appealing life choice I can imagine.
Male
Seen December 8th, 2020
Posted November 17th, 2015
3 posts
7.5 Years
I want to have kids with my fiancee one day and we talk about it sometimes. the thing is that i would want to adopt once i was stable enough. And i also wpuld homeschool them because i dont trust the prussian school system and i don't want other kids raising my kids. its nice to think about but ill wait till I'm 30 haha.

Dragovion

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Age 30
He/Him
Ohio
Seen December 11th, 2020
Posted September 22nd, 2020
23 posts
10.2 Years
I would like to have one eventually. I want to find a girl who is as much of a Pokemon/Anime fan as I am lol. That's all I ask for, and for her to be a down to earth girl who's loyal. That would make me a happy man. Then she and I could raise little Pokemon Masters together.

Skip Class

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Age 28
Female
New Zealand
Seen July 7th, 2021
Posted July 24th, 2020
4,713 posts
14.8 Years
Definitely in the future. Maybe it's the fact I've always been an only child, but was fond of other kids and looking after my younger cousins and older cousins' kids. Probably not for a couple of years when my then partner and I are financially stable and such - I'd probably get a pet first before any kids happened xD


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pastelspectre

Memento Mori

Age 25
he/him
The Pacific Northwest
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2,156 posts
13.1 Years
I want a daughter or two, eventually. I'm just waiting for the right person. I know I want children but not right now, later down in the road. But not right now of course. I just need to find the right person who will treat me right and all that fun stuff. If I do have a daughter, I will name them Willow or Cherry possibly. And a guy Dan or Arin. I'm dumb idk. I do want children eventually, though.

Sothis

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9.9 Years
I don't think I'm fit for the responsibility of having a family, so no, I don't want to.

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Darklordbambi

Master Ball Escape Artist

Age 29
Male
California Bay Area
Seen March 12th, 2016
Posted January 27th, 2016
6 posts
7.5 Years
I do wanna adopt in the future, but way down the line, maybe in my 30's or so. I want to be financially stable and feel ready to be a father. Plus taking care of an infant sounds like a nightmare to me.
"I don't know myself at all, but I'm learning."

Aslan

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10.2 Years
I've thought about adoption but I'm not sure if I'd be able to handle the responsibility of raising children or if I even want my own. I'd be content with helping look after my nieces and nephews or my friend's kids should they have their own later on. I might change my mind in the future since having children is a long way off but otherwise, no thanks!
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Evening

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Seen December 1st, 2021
Posted February 5th, 2016
808 posts
9.4 Years
Trading your life for temporary happiness doesn't sound too good.

Synerjee

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Seen May 28th, 2016
Posted February 25th, 2016
2,901 posts
10.6 Years
I'm not opposed to the idea, as long as I'm ready enough to bear the responsibility of raising a family and possible kids. If a guy comes into my life in the future, then that's the way it goes and I'll be happy with that. If not, I don't mind either.

ItWasABadDream

Genwunner / born 1989

Male
Erie, PA, USA
Seen August 11th, 2017
Posted August 7th, 2017
171 posts
9.2 Years
It sounds childish, but I've always wanted to get married and have a family, with at least two kids, maybe 3. I think the only trouble I'd have raising kids is I can get annoyed by other peoples kids really easily, but at the same time I really love them too D:
I'm 26 now, so the thought is increasingly crossing my mind. I'm often reminded of that one line from the girl who is unknowingly tripping on psychedelic mushrooms from the Eminem song "My Fault"

I'm 26 years old and I'm not married,
I dont even have any kids and I cant cook!
The problems (if you can call them problems, more like obstacles) I run into are 2 main things: I'm Catholic and therefore don't believe in divorce or in having children outside of marriage and although I make a very good living, I wouldn't say I'm totally confident that I'm financially stable enough for a child yet.

I know I don't want to be significantly older than my children. My father is 40 years older than I am and I feel like that is A LOT -- definitely way too much.
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Female
Australia
Seen February 11th, 2016
Posted December 29th, 2015
101 posts
7.5 Years
I'm 26 now, so the thought is increasingly crossing my mind. I'm often reminded of that one line from the girl who is unknowingly tripping on psychedelic mushrooms from the Eminem song "My Fault"
I know what you mean. I'm not 26 yet, but the older you get the more it crosses your mind. at my age my parents were married and they had my sister two years later.

EternalSushi

Fresh for a lifetime.

Age 26
Male
HK
Seen September 9th, 2017
Posted August 22nd, 2017
122 posts
8.2 Years
As an 18 year old, it's a bit too early to think about getting married and having kids, but I've always liked the thought of having children, perhaps a boy and a girl (but nothing more than two kids - I wouldn't be able to support that). I don't know - I've always loved kids, been volunteering in activities where I teach elementary school students and even kindergarten students, so it really gets to me when I think that perhaps I'll teach and raise my own child and watch him/her grow like them.

Having someone look up to me and call me 'daddy' can be the most fulfilling thing in life. With a sweet lover and wife, I'd think we'll be okay.

And there's a saying about those that hate kids that wail on the streets. First of all, well, there's parenting, but my point is: "It's different when it's yours."

Also uh, I think the biggest argument with my future wife would actually be, well, naming the child. Some names don't go well with my last name (not the best ring to it), and if my wife's favorite name happens to be one of them, ohhhboy. We're going to be fighting for the best name.
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Spacy

Visitor from beyond...

Age 22
Female
America
Seen February 20th, 2016
Posted December 24th, 2015
96 posts
7.7 Years
I really just don't. I don't like the idea of all the responsibility, and I really don't want to have conflict with my potential mate over whether or not they should eat meat or go to public school or get vaccines. The best way to avoid fighting over the futures of children is to simply not have them. Plus there's the fact that kids can be annoying, unreasonable, loud, and messy. I'm messy, and I hate having to clean up after myself. Why would I want to have to clean up after a bunch of kids?