Date me pls

Started by moon December 3rd, 2015 11:01 PM
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moon

they/them
Seen 14 Hours Ago
Posted 2 Days Ago
37,443 posts
15.5 Years
How do you go about finding new people to date? How have you met romantic interests in the past?

If you're not a dating person or have never quite found love yet, how do you think you'd try if you'd try?

or perhaps it's when you stop trying, that true love finds you~
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moon

they/them
Seen 14 Hours Ago
Posted 2 Days Ago
37,443 posts
15.5 Years
I've always, always, managed to fall in love with friends of friends. It's a good way, because then you have your common friend to talk about them with, and someone to hang out with together to make things less awkward in the beginning when you're trying to catch their attention ;)
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gimmepie

Age 27
Male
Australia
Seen 1 Day Ago
Posted 1 Day Ago
I've always fallen for people who I'm already friends with, so mostly it was always a blurt it out and hope for the best situation. These days I'm not really looking though, I'm not sure I really want a relationship anymore.
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Sonata

Don't let me disappear

Age 27
Male
Indiana
Seen 1 Hour Ago
Posted March 25th, 2023
13,619 posts
10.2 Years
I usually meet people through friends, but I've never dated a friend. But my last two releationships I just kind of saw them around and then said **** it and went up to flirt with them. Now days I just don't have the energy to try though and the pickings are pretty slim anyways.

maccrash

foggy notion

Age 24
Male
Massachusetts
Seen October 7th, 2021
Posted April 17th, 2017
3,583 posts
9.2 Years
I'm rarely consciously looking, but since I've been in grade school my whole life it hasn't been difficult for me to find people I'm interested in. one time I got a girl's number at a bible camp I was working at. that was unusual. that was very interesting. but yeah, the girl I like right now is someone who I've gone to school with for the past 7 years, so.
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dad

big poppa

Age 25
Female
Seen June 13th, 2018
Posted June 12th, 2018
2,480 posts
8.4 Years
i don't go looking for guys to date, i just kinda go through life and stumble upon guys that seem "dateable". from there things haven't gone too far since it's pretty hard for someone to tell that i like them. when i talk to someone i like i start smiling uncontrollably so i end up avoiding them like the plague, rip me.

nevertheless, i do like someone, a coworker (yikes). i'm pretty sure he likes me back but we're coworkers ya know.
Female
Seen November 26th, 2020
Posted January 18th, 2016
211 posts
9.7 Years
met my ex on a forum, we became really close then it turns out we were like 30 min away from each other. it was a nice 2 years.
i just like making friends and sometimes maybe that becomes something more. but i dont think i can deal with anyone new at the moment. too much work.

Age 36
Seen 14 Hours Ago
Posted 2 Days Ago
I usually just find someone in a group setting. Like in a large group of friends, there'd be someone to talk to, and we'd get to talking, and then things led on from there.

There was the time that I went out with someone that I worked with. And I've been talking to someone else that I work with. Which I don't really recommend because then all your coworkers are in your business and things get awkward. Of course, I work in a place where the rumors just fly.

nevertheless, i do like someone, a coworker (yikes). i'm pretty sure he likes me back but we're coworkers ya know.
I'm in that situation now myself!

Syndrome

Age 28
Male
Seen March 11th, 2023
Posted May 19th, 2021
3,047 posts
7.8 Years
I don’t really look for people to date. I prefer to just…go with the flow and see what happens. I’ve met everyone I’ve dated that way but tbh I think that I’m kinda mukty at relationships so none have really lasted longer than a year or so. I’m actually talking to one of my exes right now but I highly doubt anything will come out of it than a weird friendship.

Sheep

She/Her
Australia
Seen 3 Hours Ago
Posted 4 Hours Ago
39,253 posts
16.6 Years
oh I dunno. I've only ever liked a handful of people and for most of those I just ignored it until it went away. Only spoke out for one of them and that didn't last beyond 17 years old (not something I considered true attraction anymore either since we didn't click when we met in person). I'm very picky with people to date and need them to fit into a pretty specific list for me to truly become attracted hahaa.

Nuclearkiller42

A pig in a cage on antibiotics

Age 22
The magical land of Brazil
Seen March 5th, 2016
Posted December 4th, 2015
133 posts
7.7 Years
Never dated. Couldn't care less.
Okay, I could care less.

It's just really annoying how people put so much pressure on me to date someone.
It's pretty ironic though how my dad wanted his daughter only to date when she was 18 and me to basically have a huge amount of girlfriends, but my sister had her first boyfriend when she was 15 or so and I'm not even close to getting one.

Somewhere_

i don't know where

Age 23
Male
somewhere (duh)
Seen June 5th, 2019
Posted March 17th, 2019
I have never dated. Im too shy to ask someone out. My two closest friends think I have a good chance with the girl I like, but I doubt that. I sit with her almost everyday at lunch because we share the same class right before it, and after, but she told them I am boring.

That is pretty much the closest I have ever gotten to a girl I like. Well, you guys dont really care haha. Any advice other than, "just do it?"
Female
Australia
Seen February 11th, 2016
Posted December 29th, 2015
101 posts
7.5 Years
I've been in a fair few relationships, but I don't really count the ones that barely lasted a month in high school. After that, every single person I've dated I met online first. I don't think it's the best way to meet someone though =/

It's weird though, how things happen. I'd spent the last year single, with this horrible crush on my best friend. Then suddenly another friend visits for my birthday, and I don't know how, but by the end of the visit we were dating. He's a great person but it'd never occured to me to look at him in a romantic light.

Sometimes romance creeps up on you, I guess.
Age 28
Female
Scotland
Seen May 16th, 2017
Posted January 7th, 2017
283 posts
7.6 Years
Never dated tbh I just don't think i'm ready to be in an actual relationship, that's not to say im not attracted to people I go out and stuff but when they want to keep speaking to me I just freak out and either ignore them or say something mean so they'll back off.
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Nolafus

Aspiring something

Age 27
Male
Lost in thought... again
Seen March 3rd, 2018
Posted March 11th, 2017
5,722 posts
10.9 Years
I've never been in a serious relationship, so I don't really know what to do in one. I've never flirted with anyone, and even though I've had a couple people hit on me, I just ignored it. I'm focusing on myself right now, but I'm starting to come around to the idea of dating. Although, it's more along the lines of if it happens, cool, if not, then no worries.
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Ice

Seen October 16th, 2022
Posted February 3rd, 2020
3,448 posts
8.8 Years
I go up to her while she's on the swing, and put my gum in her hair. If she still doesn't get the hint, I pull it. And if she's still not getting it, I resort to spitballs.

I've never asked someone out on a date. I've been asked twice, and that's it. The hint is to talk about movies you want to watch, and just hope they wanna watch them to, and that they ask if they can do it at your place.

Circuit

Wiring your Circuits

Age 27
Male
Berlin
Seen January 6th, 2021
Posted July 29th, 2020
4,815 posts
15.2 Years
There's this girl, who's been in my class for three years that I fancy. My friends want me to ask her out but, I can't really be bothered to ask her out as she would probably reject me. But I have started to think about just going for it and seeing what happens/
Definitely go for it. Worst case scenario? You stay as you are and carry on as you are now. Best case scenario? You get a girlfriend and it's awesome! What is there to lose?

For me, the first girlfriend I had I met at school. We were friends for a long time, and something inside me knew I wanted to be with her. I asked her out, but she said no. But I kept trying. After about a year and four attempts asking her out, she finally said yes, and we proceeded to have a year and a half's worth of a perfect relationship (in my eyes anyway). I messed it up . Hey ho. Second person I met online, but she didn't feel it and it didn't go anyway at all really. Third was also online, but this time I didn't feel it and that was really awkward :/

Now I'm just sitting here pretty indifferent to any relationship ideas, but something fun and not serious would be welcome. But I'm likely not going to try looking online, I'll just meet people irl and see what happens. I've got plenty of time anyway, and I'm not really in a position in my life to dedicate full-time to anything, so yeah.

Schwarzer Regen

imagine my name in a fancy color/font, I'm just poor

Female
Plsdontstalkmeville
Seen December 9th, 2015
Posted December 9th, 2015
30 posts
7.5 Years
So far the romantically related portion of my life has been a shipwreck; I've been cheated on, deceived for a year, ditched, ignored, abandoned, declared too immature/hyper/anything, yet after every time I managed to eradicate the thing that made me worse to have better chances next time until it's come to the point where the last desaster happened for no spoken reason at all and now I'm completely in a state of:
Should I really bother another time with it and risk even more hurts and emotional stabs, or
should I just give up and somehow try to live alone while simultaneously getting unhealthily jealous at literally everyone else in a relationship

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