IRL Friends?

Started by Kanzler March 28th, 2016 6:11 PM
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Kanzler

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Male
Toronto
Seen April 22nd, 2022
Posted March 11th, 2022
5,957 posts
14.8 Years
Tell me about your social life.

What's your social life like IRL? Do you have many friends or just a few close ones? Are you a shut in or do you go out almost every night? Are you happy with your social life? If not, have you tried anything to change it?

Bay

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Dani California
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17 Years
I used to have a better social life when in college, but after we graduated all of us pretty much went our separate ways and hence why I rarely go out to hang out after several years. Many of my high school friends moved out of state for various reasons. I still have interactions with other folks like my co-workers, but they're all twice my age and tend to have their own lives (family and such) after work. I didn't do anything to change it because I wouldn't know how except perhaps going to a bar or something but I'm not really into those kind of things.
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Nolafus

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Age 27
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Lost in thought... again
Seen March 3rd, 2018
Posted March 11th, 2017
5,722 posts
10.9 Years
I'm decently social at work, but I mainly keep to myself outside of it. I do have one friend who practically lives at my apartment during the weekends, and we hang out all of the time. When I have my days off, I tend to be a lot more social with hanging out with friends and everything, but for the most part you'll find me at home.
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Age 31
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Seen January 5th, 2023
Posted October 18th, 2017
1,130 posts
9.3 Years
Non-existent. That sums up my social life in real life.

I don't leave the house. So the only friend I have to socialize with happens to live with me. Luckily, he's my super best friend fiance man and I love him loads. But yeah, I'm still the same naive shut-in I've been my entire life.

It would be nice to have more real life friends, but on top of that, I have to deal with my fiance's bizarre night time schedule, which makes it rather impossible to socialize with any if we even had them. We'd have to wake up at horrid times and lose sleep. Not an ideal situation, overall, but I'm used to it. Nothing I can do about it unless he gets a new job or we move to a place that has more people in common with us.
Female
England!
Seen September 28th, 2018
Posted June 8th, 2018
529 posts
7.3 Years
I think I have a pretty good social life. But it is just me. I could have a better social life if I wanted to but my problem is that I dont go out as much and I prefer to shut my self inside. Its not that I dont go out but I dont go out as much and I feel whenever I go outside that I be judged and I feel ugly whenever I see my reflections in windows or mirrors etc.

But I love my friends. I have 4 - 6 friends that I can count on to be by my side whenever I am upset.
There is my best friend L ( I say their names in letters) who I been best friends with since I was five or six years old and we have grown up together. We had our fair share of petty arguing. We once argued over Barbie and Bratz dolls. Looking back it was very funny. Even when I moved to Peterborough she still came over from Coventry to see me which is like a two hour drive.
I then have my friends J and I who are extremely funny and we have great banter together and are also the girls I hang out with at school. Also One of them is Polish and the other is Indian so I learnt a great deal about their culture which was very interesting.
Then there is M and S who I love and we share our bond over the mutual bond of Mcdonalds and Hot men.

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Age 34
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the land of magical unicorns
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18.9 Years
I have no social life. 8D I don't have anyone to hang out with. I live my life like a hermit when it comes to an actual social life. :c I just don't do very well with meeting new people. I also have severely bad anxiety as well, so I tend to get overwhelmed by going out with people.

moon

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15.5 Years
In high school, social life was soooo important to try and keep up with. I was so ashamed of sitting around a pokémon forum in my free time. At uni, social life just happened, because I had classmates who shared my party spirit and was part of many clubs, both serious student council like stuff and pure party arranging organisations, sometimes as leader and sometimes as the very lowest scum. There was always some event or party or thing coming up so my calendar was packed. And when it wasn't, I could get my well needed alone time, and maybe sit around roleplaying on a pokémon forum! Felt a bit more okay, I mean, nobody had to know what I did when I was alone.

After uni... I guess I matured a bit and grew more independent and slightly more confident. Might also have had something to do with finally breaking up with my boyfriend of 4 years. I stopped talking to some toxic people and groups in my life and instead over the past year focused on those I cared the most for and who actually seemed to care for me too. So today I am in a really good place. I have moved to a town where some of the people live with whom I am the most comfortable. I have a fun and kind roomie, I have a best friend in another city whom I meet often enough to travel or have fun with. I have other friends from uni now spread across Sweden since they got work elsewhere, and some I have stopped talking to like I said, because they only kept me around to fill out their ranks I think. I'm not gonna be a nameless footsoldier on their parties (: I'd rather have a cozy evening with only a few dear trustworthy people, because one thing I realized when I finally grew up, is that there is no such thing as "popular" or "cool" anymore here. The only thing that matters is staying happy and keeping the ones you care about happy too.

And I can also finally say this year that "IRL friends" is starting to become a non-term for me. I talk to my online friends, you guys, almost more than I talk to these people who I can physically touch - ahah bodybuddies! I don't see a need to make a clear distinction anymore. I mean, I've met some IRL, like Abnegation, so he's technically both, right? And I wish I'll be both with many more in the future. Life has only just started (:
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maccrash

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Age 24
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Massachusetts
Seen October 7th, 2021
Posted April 17th, 2017
3,583 posts
9.2 Years
I'm only in high school so it's been pretty easy for me. in fact, and this is piss-poor timing considering I have about 5 months left here, I've just completely migrated to a whole new friend group. this is both a result of my old one getting stale as hell / me quickly realizing none of us had anything in common anymore and the fact that a class that me and the rest of the members of this friend group took this year requires some bonding or else we'd all have Dropped Out Of School. so that was a neat little catalyst. other than that I have another friend group that doesn't go to my school that's unfortunately dropped off a bit in the last year or so because one of them went off to college. and then there are a couple others dissociated from any friend group that I'll hang with on occasion. those are usually my love interests. so it goes.
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Meganium

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Houston, TX
Seen February 1st, 2023
Posted February 1st, 2023
My social life was close to non-existant when I was living in California. That changed when I moved to Houston. I go out almost every day now. xD

It's pretty cool. I simply found a group of friends who had the same interests as I do, and I blended in pretty well.

Sothis

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Firene
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9.9 Years
A social life? Never heard of that.
But really, I don't have one, I'm very much a hikikomori. It's mostly my severe anxiety that keeps me inside and afraid to really go out much.

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Alex

what will it be next?

Seen December 30th, 2022
Posted December 26th, 2022
6,407 posts
16.4 Years
Mm, I don't go out much. I'd like to go out more. ATM, I work overnights which means my social life takes a huge hit. Can't go out much 'cause I'll be expected at work soon after I get together with friends. And then I have to find time to sleep enough to feel rested to work again the next night.

Some of my best friends are from PC and other online communities, so it's not feasible to hang out with them. Other friends are still studying. Some are in town, I just don't make enough of an effort to go out with them.

I think tl;dr I'd like to go out more. I enjoy it. It feels good.
I'd like to have more of a social life than I do right now but I'm kinda shy about making friends and a lot of "outings" just aren't for me. I do go out with friends from time to time but it's usually the same people and the same type of thing every time. It honestly gets boring :s Ideally if I ever move away from here I will start fresh and just meet a nice new group of people and find new things to do because there just isn't a whole lot to do with friends here, sadly.

Margot

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Posted February 25th, 2019
3,662 posts
17.3 Years
In high school I had a few close friends but they didn't go to school with me. I would see them on weekends and hang out with them after school or all summer. The people I was friends with at school were simply just school friends, I didn't have much in common with them and I haven't spoken to 99% of them since graduating.

I had a lot of friends early college, I was out almost 5-6 nights a week until like 3am. I had different groups that had different interests and had a lot of fun. Then we all transferred, moved, got jobs and got reeeeeealll busy. Which is basically where I'm at now. That weird phase where basically all your friends are moving on and getting married and having kids, getting jobs, moving away. I think I only have a couple of friends in the city now and our schedules never line up with all our weird hours & graduate school.

I'd like to go out more and hang out with people more, I won't lie. I'm just SO bad at reaching out and meeting people. I swear, this is why all my friends from school are extroverts. But, I do cherish all my other friendships, no matter how far away they might be now. I also don't put up distinctions between "irl" and "online" friends. A friends a friend, I don't care where they are.

Flowerchild

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13 Years
ew no who needs irl friends
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MarioManH

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Colorado
Seen January 13th, 2020
Posted December 29th, 2019
501 posts
13.3 Years
Me and my closest friends are complete idiots, really hard to explain this in words, so I'll paint you a picture:
Spoiler:

Me and my friends got off for Spring Break (Freshman in college) and were all together one fateful Saturday night. Out of the four of us, one managed to stay sober, but decided that we all should head to Walmart. I don't really know how, but I ended up getting conned in trying the Chef Boyardee Ravioli Challenge in the parking-lot. Now, in this challenge, you're supposed to eat a whole can of this toxic substance they pawn off as Ravioli without... well, throwing it all back out. Me, being in my intoxicated state, didn't think twice about it and just decided to go for it. I don't remember any of it, but apparently I started chugging (not eating) this can of ravioli. I ended up upchucking the ravioli after 10 seconds. I can only imagine that it was like Mt. St Helens had loads of Olive Garden dumped in it before erupting and blowing toxic tomato sauce + pasta-bits over everyone in sight. Apparently after the Pasta-Splooge, I ended up ditching my shoes and $200 Sweater (I hate myself for just not leaving it to wash at my friends place) and bought a He-Man Muscle Tee from Walmart and a pair of slides + socks. Great replacement, right?

TLDR; Drank too much on spring break and trusted friend, scammed into chugging rancid ravioli, ruined hundreds of dollars in clothing and replaced with He-Man apparel.


No idea why we're all friends, but we do what we do xD. Aside my closest friends, I'm pretty friendly with most of my classmates in all my classes. We all go out to lunch after class sometimes and have a good time.

In terms of going out, I go out about 3-4 nights a week while the remainder are dedicated to writing papers and doing other assignments for my classes. I'm a pretty social guy, but I don't do anything too major like partying every week (I may pop into one or two a month, but it's not a regular occurrence). I like driving to Washington D.C. some nights to just watch a Basketball game or visit local venues/restaurants/clubs. I don't like drinking with people that much either. I may have a beer or two if it's a special occurrence (Party, Special Dinner, Watching the Waking Dead <3 ) but nothing that's too much for me to handle. In the story I put above I only drank more than my usual is because my friends and me were just having a good time and I got carried away (I try not to do that ;_; ). When I'm out though, I almost always have to get some sort of Slurpee or Milkshake. I'm addicted to cold drinks, and I drag anyone I'm out with to a 7-11/Chik-Fil-A in order to get a Slurpee/Milkshake. It's just a must when I'm out.

My social life as a whole is pretty decent. I try to keep things clean (No Drugs, Very low-key alcohol, and nothing overly explicit) so that when I put in my applications to the FBI/DoD/etc. I'll have a really solid background check so nothing will crawl up to hurt me in the end.
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gimmepie

Age 27
Male
Australia
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11.1 Years
Well right now I'm basically bed-ridden. When I'm not an invalid though I think I have a fairly healthy IRL social life. I don't go out hugely often but I'd see a lot of my closer friends at dancing all the time anyway and I make an effort to hang out with other friends whenever we're both available.

My social circle IRL has definitely shrunk since I left high school but I'm alright with that because the ones left are the ones who I'm closest to. Even the friends who I might only manage to see every few months or so are very close ones and when we do manage to meet up it's like no time has passed at all.
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Sonata

Don't let me disappear

Age 27
Male
Indiana
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Posted March 25th, 2023
13,619 posts
10.2 Years
Up until about a year ago I had a small circle of about 20 close friends. We would hang out in groups of 5 or 6 at a time or just spontaneously decide that one or two would be staying the night at the others house. But then a whole of drama happened, three people moved to california, four others moved to southern indiana and then the closest of those friends moved up to northern indiana while the rest are still in highschool. We used to hang out at least once or twice a week, partied once a month, at least talked to each other every other day or so through facebook or text. Now days though I just go to work and come back home. I ask coworkers if they want to do things but they're all just as lazy as i am, and the ones who aren't have so much drama in their lives that they can't faithfully make plans. Because at any given moment any one of fifty people could say something and they'd throw a fit and lash out at anyone who even breathed around them. And that's why I'm now not going to the gym anymore after having just started to return the other day. If I had a drivers license instead of just a permit I could go out to the card shop or go to conventions or even go to the gym by myself at 3 or 4 in the morning. But I don't, and the alternator is out in my car so even if I wanted to run out and do something I don't have that ability to. I want to go out and do things and hang out with people, but it seems like every time I try to it's at literally the worst possible moments in other people's lives.

Her

Age 29
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i have a healthy and balanced social life and i'm just a super fun person apparently
the benefits of having a very flexible job and being someone who people want to hang out with even if i don't necessarily like them
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OuterTsuchinoko

Age 31
Male
New Jersey
Seen November 19th, 2018
Posted July 13th, 2018
580 posts
7.2 Years
I have roommates that started out as friends years ago. Now I kind of just try and spend as little time with them as possible since living with them and seeing how they act normally has caused me to dislike them a lot. Occasionally we hang out, but most of the time they want to drink when they do so I say no because I can't drink alcohol because of my stomach and I rather not be sober hanging around a bunch of people who are drunk. I would like to make some new friends irl, but where I am it is pretty tough to do.

Six or so years ago my social life was great though. I had two friends who were amazing and we all had the same interests. We'd chill constantly together at each other's houses and go to Nintendo events in NYC. We'd make time to go out to restaurants and try new places to eat. All this while balancing work and other responsibilities. I think that was the happiest time of my life. I need to find people like that again because I do like being social and going outside often. Now I just do things by myself and it affects my mood all the time.

Pebbles

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Age 30
Female
in your Heart
Seen September 14th, 2016
Posted September 9th, 2016
960 posts
7.3 Years
super honest?
i got 0 REAL friends
only real friend i got is my boyfriend if i think about it

the rest i know and talk to at school suck basically. cannot rely on them.
do not trust them completely either, for good reasons

it is sad though
because i would love to be able to live a life having a few TRUE friends
but from my life experience , i find people you can connect with a 100% and have things in common with hard to find

also , i am pretty sure it is not me who is the problem because i am a very positive, super fun/random person to hang out with and very social too.... and my boyfriend is somewhat the opposite of that, he finds a lot of things awkward and stuff but i am so not like that.... i talk to random people all the time and i show interest in people all the time if i think they are kind and cool.... but 9 out of 10 times they do not show any interest back and well then, there you go.... lol

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