What make you "popular" or "unpopular"?

Started by Mawa May 13th, 2016 9:09 AM
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Mawa

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It seems like many of PC members say they don't "fit". Most of them, I thought they were "popular".

So following the thread about if you "fit" well in PC, I was wondering: what make you feel like you are (or another member is) "fitting in"?
Is it popularity? If yes, how do you describe the "popularity" on a forum? Can you compare with other forums?
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I suppose that the definition of popularity would differ between individuals, because it's generally about attributes that you think other people have that you feel you lack. It's this sense of charisma - or self-confidence, perhaps - that allows others to converse with people in a way that you wish you could.

As I said in the other thread, I think popularity and the concept of fitting in is more about how you perceive others in relation to yourself rather than how you perceive yourself a lot of the time.

Probably hasn't answered the question, but eh. To feel like I'm popular I'd have to totally change my perspective on it, and I'm in no real hurry to start being overly concerned with what others think of me again.
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I suppose that the definition of popularity would differ between individuals, because it's generally about attributes that you think other people have that you feel you lack. It's this sense of charisma - or self-confidence, perhaps - that allows others to converse with people in a way that you wish you could.

As I said in the other thread, I think popularity and the concept of fitting in is more about how you perceive others in relation to yourself rather than how you perceive yourself a lot of the time.

Probably hasn't answered the question, but eh. To feel like I'm popular I'd have to totally change my perspective on it, and I'm in no real hurry to start being overly concerned with what others think of me again.
I agree with you, it really depends on the individual feautures of a person an also on her/his charisma :) I know an interesting example about this, it's about the children in school. Well we all know how often the kids with good marks are hated by their classmates but sometimes they become really popular in their classes and gain much respect :)
I also think that popularity is connected with your talents and appearance, also the individual fashion style :) If you can sing good, there's a great chance that you'll become popular in your company. And the same is with the style, for example, if ypu look cool like on these photos, belong to some youth subculture and so on, you can be popular too :)
But popularity doesn't always mean the good personality in general as I noticed from my own experience >_>
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Mawa

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I agree with you, it really depends on the individual feautures of a person an also on her/his charisma :) I know an interesting example about this, it's about the children in school. Well we all know how often the kids with good marks are hated by their classmates but sometimes they become really popular in their classes and gain much respect :)
I also think that popularity is connected with your talents and appearance, also the individual fashion style :) If you can sing good, there's a great chance that you'll become popular in your company. And the same is with the style, for example, if ypu look cool like on these photos, belong to some youth subculture and so on, you can be popular too :)
But popularity doesn't always mean the good personality in general as I noticed from my own experience >_>
It's very interesting!
What's interesting here is that we don't get "popular" the same way in real life and in a forum. Would you say someone who shows her/his face on the forum miiiight become more popular? If he/she looks good, seems confident, has a good style?


Imo, I feel like there is some members on PC who has many visitor messages, likes on their post, quotes, etc. For me, they seems popular since the other members are curious about what they have to say. The fact their names continue to appear by other members (in threads like "who do you..." and stuff like that). The number f years they are on PC does make them feel more "popular" for me. But that's only my opinion! I knew we don't see popularity the same way and that's why I wanted to do this thread.

I honestly don't know how to describe popularity in real life. For me, you are popular if the majority of the [insert the group, subculture or school] know your name and who you are. So you can be "popular" but not in a good way. We all know kids at school who everyone knew but for a bad reason...
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I dig this forum because it's really responsive to personalities, and anyone with something cool to say can get showcased which I think is just radical. when I joined last year I got a sort of cult-classic following which was crazy cause I don't post too much, but I donnu man I'd rather have that than some fanatic mass worshiping, it feels more genuine I guess.

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What makes me unpopular is that I'm not as loud or vocal as some of the well-respected users I've seen in the subforums I go to, and I always lose to an argument against them whenever I try to oppose them as a way of standing up for myself.

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Popularity is the perception you make in the minds of people who don't really know you that well. With friends you don't really talk about your popularity among yourselves, but with people you only sort of know or know by reputation. So popularity here would be like how much the members talk to you, about you, read or quote or like your posts, and that sort of thing.

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To me, most people know I'm popular on this forum due to a massive postcount and activity across various sections. However, I also have a thing where some people confused me for a staff member because of my activity and posting style in threads that involve answering questions (it also didn't help that supporters once had a name colour similar to the mod colour), similar to how some thought Team Fail was a staff member before he even became staff.
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I consider someone popular on here if they go out of their way to talk and make relationships with many other people and have some success while doing so. Because generally when you put yourself out there and make good bonds with people, you become recognized in whatever community they belong to. It's easy to be popular if you're friends with quite a few others because they probably regard you with affection already.. and that good word will spread to strangers.

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I honestly don't know how to describe popularity in real life. For me, you are popular if the majority of the [insert the group, subculture or school] know your name and who you are. So you can be "popular" but not in a good way. We all know kids at school who everyone knew but for a bad reason...
Wouldn't it be best to call those people notorious instead of popular? The latter term usually means something/someone that many others know and also like.. while notorious means being well-known but in a bad way.

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Popular: The fact that I'm obviously the most adorbz fangirl on PC. ^_____^ I'm the one and only as well!

Unpopular: I think this is because I don't talk much to other people via VM/PM. I'm not very good with one-on-one conversations (this depends on the person though). I just don't engage much into making a ton of friends like most people here have because I either don't know how, or I just don't want to. *shrug* I don't mind having friends here. That's not what I'm saying. I just don't make an effort because of my anxiety and social paranoia. I also think another problem is that I have narrow interests lately (Tom Hiddleston, Hugh Laurie, visual kei).

As for others, I tend to consider them popular if they are socially-active imo. They take the time to ask how people are doing and make friends easier. They don't worry so much about how others feel or what not. Plus, a lot of people also seem to make tons of friends if they are into Pokemon and share that same interest. While, I myself am into it, I don't consider myself a strong part of the fandom like some here do.

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It's very interesting!
What's interesting here is that we don't get "popular" the same way in real life and in a forum. Would you say someone who shows her/his face on the forum miiiight become more popular? If he/she looks good, seems confident, has a good style?


Imo, I feel like there is some members on PC who has many visitor messages, likes on their post, quotes, etc. For me, they seems popular since the other members are curious about what they have to say. The fact their names continue to appear by other members (in threads like "who do you..." and stuff like that). The number f years they are on PC does make them feel more "popular" for me. But that's only my opinion! I knew we don't see popularity the same way and that's why I wanted to do this thread.

I honestly don't know how to describe popularity in real life. For me, you are popular if the majority of the [insert the group, subculture or school] know your name and who you are. So you can be "popular" but not in a good way. We all know kids at school who everyone knew but for a bad reason...
In case of this forum I think no :) This way can succesful only if you're already popular :) I meant more about the real life in my reply :)
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I think people get popular on here in a similar way to RL. When I like a post it's either because it made me laugh, was informative/helpful or I could relate to it. I often like posts if I notice someone's posted exactly what I was going to, but more comprehensible. What I looked for in a friend is someone nice, relatable and who can make me laugh. Here is no different.
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I think a sense of humor and the style in which you communicate i.e. write, text, message, whatever goes a long way.

Like some people's online presence, won't name drop, I find to be utterly odious due to the way they post, which makes them seem obnoxious, condescending, presumptuous, pompous, superficial or whatnot although I like to think they aren't like that intentionally, and that creates a social rift between them and people whom they interact with. Just negative vibes to be gotten.

And some people are like natural comedians. Charming and charismatic, their posts just make you wanna hit that like button with your face twenty thousand times and I guess that constructs a popularity of sorts.

How you carry yourself usually plays a major role in one's reputation. After all, the popular kids in school are always the most confident self-loving one.

As for me, idk what constitutes my popularity or lack thereof.

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How you carry yourself usually plays a major role in one's reputation. After all, the popular kids in school are always the most confident self-loving one.
I can't remember who said it but someone posted something about this being notoriety rather than popularity. I can see why. IIRC most of the 'popular' kids at my school didn't even like each other really, nevermind the less loud students liking them. They got peoples' attention all right but not their admiration.
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Idk exactly, but I can tell someone is popular by:

1) sizable post count. people do not stay on forums if they do not have friends, meaning they most likely have many people that VM them

2) Cool username. It is concise and works well. Maybe just a coincidence.

3) Avatar looks cool. Hard to explain in more detail, but its more specific than this.

2 and 3 can apply to anyone, and number 1 is more telling. Of course this is just if you wanted to look at the front, not digging deeper to see if they have friend groups or something.

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I can't remember who said it but someone posted something about this being notoriety rather than popularity. I can see why. IIRC most of the 'popular' kids at my school didn't even like each other really, nevermind the less loud students liking them. They got peoples' attention all right but not their admiration.
It can be notoriety, it can be popularity. Depends on how confidence is translated across to people. Not every confident self-loving person is arrogant and egotistical, even though such people are few and far between.

But definitely if you can't love yourself, how are you gonna expect people to love you? Nobody likes hanging around a self-loathing, negative Nancy.

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Wouldn't it be best to call those people notorious instead of popular? The latter term usually means something/someone that many others know and also like.. while notorious means being well-known but in a bad way.

You see, I didn't knew this term! And I can't find a way to say this in french either (but maybe that's just me). Thanks! :)



1) sizable post count. people do not stay on forums if they do not have friends, meaning they most likely have many people that VM them
Interesting, but what's interesting about the first point is that I personally found some profiles (I do creep a lot here, sorry guys) where the members was here since many years, yet don't have a big friendlist nor VM or even a big postcount. But they are still "active" as connected. Why do they are on the forum, that's a question I did asked myself.
And here then you say these people don't stay on the forum if they don't have friends, and these persons prove that this quote is kinda wrong. But hey we won't know why they are still on PC if they don't really post to tell us.

*Sorry if I didn't expressed myself right, remember that's my second language :)

** I don't have anything against the members who are ghost on this forum. Not at all! Everyone do what they want, that's none of my business. Maybe they like to read the interactions, maybe they like to read about the news. I just realized we do have some members still "active" that aren't too active. Even if they seems to have no friends really (maybe they do!) they are still here.


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Interesting, but what's interesting about the first point is that I personally found some profiles (I do creep a lot here, sorry guys) where the members was here since many years, yet don't have a big friendlist nor VM or even a big postcount. But they are still "active" as connected. Why do they are on the forum, that's a question I did asked myself.
And here then you say these people don't stay on the forum if they don't have friends, and these persons prove that this quote is kinda wrong. But hey we won't know why they are still on PC if they don't really post to tell us.

*Sorry if I didn't expressed myself right, remember that's my second language :)

** I don't have anything against the members who are ghost on this forum. Not at all! Everyone do what they want, that's none of my business. Maybe they like to read the interactions, maybe they like to read about the news. I just realized we do have some members still "active" that aren't too active. Even if they seems to have no friends really (maybe they do!) they are still here.
true, there are a good amount of ghost forumers, but are they popular? Many of them have a post count in the low 100's-300's, and do not VM as much. My theory is that people that VM more, stay on the forum more because they have more connections. I dont have any statistics and this could just be me being stupid, but this is what it appears to be like.

Mawa

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true, there are a good amount of ghost forumers, but are they popular? Many of them have a post count in the low 100's-300's, and do not VM as much. My theory is that people that VM more, stay on the forum more because they have more connections. I dont have any statistics and this could just be me being stupid, but this is what it appears to be like.
Im think you are right, and I'll add PM with VM. or the friend list say a lot too, even if some members might be seems as "popular" bu they choose to not having anyone in friend list if they aren't really close to.
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I feel as if it matters on status on the forum. Most Mods/H-Staff are the highest people here. Most have been here for awhile and know the ropes (hince why they are mods/H-Staff. I am not afraid to admit I'm unpopular, don't say I don't try lol. I don't need (or want) to be staff, but I just gotta experiment on who is nice and who to avoid and stick with the nice people and try to avoid the rude trolls.

P.S. Here is advice to everyone I received by a Mod. Don't look at PC as High School popularity battles. Best advice is to just go with the flow and find your own path and follow your own road. "Just be who you want to be".