bottling up

Started by Her August 20th, 2016 8:34 AM
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Her

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do you bottle up your emotions past the point of it being healthy? do you know why you do this? how do you eventually release these feelings?

Bay

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Dani California
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I have a lot of my emotions bottled up because I haven't been happy with my living situation for a long while and I know my family would think my feelings are invalid. Sometimes I do release those feelings when I'm frustrated, and, well, how they would react I'm right.
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Sometimes. I've been told I do this a lot, and I think it's because I have such a hard time expressing them. If I do release them though, it gets into a lot of my meltdowns that result in heavy sobbing.
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I keep my feelings to myself a lot. The only way I feel safe expressing them is through writing, and even then I tend to keep my writing private. Whenever there's a time that I do reveal my feelings, I react to that by metaphorically windmilling my arms while running away going "YOU DON'T KNOW ME" and hiding for a few days.

I know I do this because I feel that if I show any part of who I actually am, someone will use it against me. Or the other person will not like what I have to say and then stop talking to me. So I build a wall around me to prevent my feelings from getting out.

EDIT: What I'm trying to figure out now is why I feel this way.

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When I'm out, I do, but sometimes I break down and cry, I did this last night at the hospital because it was very stressful.
At home I just tell my family how I feel.

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Zodkiel

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Posted August 21st, 2016
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I have little to no emotion. Most of the time I simply feel bored. So I have nothing to bottle up. I used to I guess, but before I ever got a chance to "release them", in whatever way, they sort of disappeared. Now I don't really feel things like "happiness", "sadness" or "anger". Just boredom. Almost all the time.
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gimmepie

Age 27
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Australia
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Unless it's for something really minor maybe, I definitely do this. I tend to be the kind of person who just bottles things up until I sink into a depression or explode into a fit of rage. Aside from just sucking at conveying my feelings to people, I guess I do it because I don't like to bother people with my problems. I'm not a fan of feeling vulnerable around others either though.
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Seen November 16th, 2016
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some people pay way too much attention when you uncork the bottle, so most of the time i keep everything corked up. even when i do vent i still withhold a lot that i wanna mention, but that's probably common behavior.

nowadays i won't open unless i'm in serious distress and its usually only to close friends.

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TequitoClown

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I have a bad habit of this, but I very rarely directly vent. I used to a lot more, but I slowly stopped. I bottle up my emotions a lot more to be considered healthy, however I have great friends and I'm really fortunate for that. So it's not like I have no coping methods. I probably should talk to them about it more, but I don't like bugging people about my own personal problems.

Alex

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I try my best not to do this. i always feel so much better expressing my feelings and it generally fixes the problem causing these feelings as well. sometimes it's hard to do but you gotta face your emotions, ignoring them is the worst possible option

Nick

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I usually do my best to bottle some emotions up until someone asks me about them, only because I try to deal with them internally first and foremost. I like to understand my emotions and why it's causing me to feel the way I feel. This is because I feel like, otherwise, I'm ill prepared to defend whatever I'm thinking if I'm challenged about anything, so I like to keep it inside in order to analyze it and determine why I feel the way I do. Eventually, I'll tell someone about it and release it, but for a while, I tend to try to keep them to myself. I already don't know what to say to people a lot of the time, so preparing myself mentally helps me deal with conflicts brought about by emotions.

Anastasia.R

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For a long time, I've bottled up big emotional problems. I just lived around people who told me to stop talking about how I feel for a long time. I'm starting to get better by talking to close friends I've made! I feel better talking about what's on my mind. My friends seem to know what to say or have the best suggestions and I'm so glad I've met them. c': Feels much better than keeping things to myself which I did for way too long.

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I do. It's a really bad unfortunate habit. I think the reason why is because I usually don't know how to express my emotions into words, and usually end up with me sobbing in the middle of the night while everyone else is sleeping. I'm slowly getting better at not keeping everything bottled up. I have one friend that I can talk about anything and everything and I'm really thankful for her, that I have someone that I'm comfortable with venting to.
some people pay way too much attention when you uncork the bottle, so most of the time i keep everything corked up. even when i do vent i still withhold a lot that i wanna mention, but that's probably common behavior.

nowadays i won't open unless i'm in serious distress and its usually only to close friends.
I am the same tbh. I've had bad experiences with opening up to people so I really only do it if necessary. I find venting my frustrations through other means such as exercise, writing, or just yelling outside has a much better result in the end. At least for me.
I have a big problem with venting out all my problems, especially in front of my mom. I know she's getting tired of it, but I don't want to keep my feelings all bottled up like everybody else, and possibly let said feelings out by doing something really bad (read: criminal).
I think it's better to vent your feelings than keep things to yourself and run the risk of doing something majorly wrong to finally let things out.

Aslan

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I can't count the number of times I've bottled up my emotions past the point of it being healthy. I've always tried to avoid talking about any pent up feelings I have unless I'm actually about to have an emotional breakdown. I don't speak what's on my mind a lot of the time so I usually just hide any anxiety I have behind an attempt to be cheery. Even when I do vent, I tend to hold back a lot because I don't want to bog down the other person.

I still have a long way to go about not bottling my feelings, but I feel like I am getting better. I used to have little control over my anxiety but I find that listening to music, talking to friends or watching videos that are funny or uplifting really helps to distract me from any pent up emotions. I even reread my favourite books because it helps calm me down when I have a really bad panic attack or an intrusive thought that I can't shake. Crying also helps if there's no one to vent to and I'm really upset. I feel weak about it afterwards but it's sometimes better to cry than to hold everything in. I rarely do it though, if I can help it.
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Half and half, but I guess it's a yes. I've been bottling up my emotions a lot more frequently because of the way I've been told "you deal with your muk, you little baby" by about oh, three counselors, my mom, and my aunts? Plus no real life friends that I can talk to about my troubles and feelings. It's gotten to the point that I can't possibly see myself telling my real feelings to irl people and when I do manage to vent out my feelings, it's almost never directly to another person. It's not so bad, though. I've already got a shy disposition even towards my parents, but the only thing I can do about it is imagine that fictional characters can help me cope with life.
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moon

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Sometimes these days I feel like I'm not as emotional as before. I don't ponder emotions as much, and I don't let them get bottled up and overflow. If I get overly emotional, it's always because somebody else triggered it, not because of my own bottled up thoughts.

I'm not sure if my emotional numbness is a sign of a bad thing or if I've just grown more harmonious as I grew older :/
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I can't bottle up my emotions. I freak out if I do that, so I have to talk about them, unfortunately. =/ I guess that's freaky and abnormal, but whatever.