Something I Need to Talk About

Started by Miss Wendighost June 17th, 2018 4:01 PM
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Miss Wendighost

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There's been something that I've been meaning to discuss for a while, but never got around to it. The truth is that I think I have a toxic sibling. I can't really remember when the toxcicty started, but for some reason, at times he would dismiss me (telling me off for watching Agretsuko on Netflix because he believes all anime is awful, forcing me to date people even though I prefer to wait until I have a stable job, being hostile when I disapprove of something he's doing, etc.). I don't think my parents are going to do much about it and I am at my wits end. Any advice?
“In great deeds, something abides. On great fields, something stays. Forms change and pass; bodies disappear; but spirits linger, to consecrate ground for the vision-place of souls… generations that know us not and that we know not of, heart-drawn to see where and by whom great things were suffered and done for them, shall come to this deathless field, to ponder and dream; and lo! the shadow of a mighty presence shall wrap them in its bosom, and the power of the vision pass into their souls.”

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Hmm, your 18 so you could technically move out for a bit? Do you have family or friends you could stay with until your parents do something about it?
If not, sit your parents down and tell them, sincerely, how you feel?

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Miss Wendighost

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Hmm, your 18 so you could technically move out for a bit? Do you have family or friends you could stay with until your parents do something about it?
If not, sit your parents down and tell them, sincerely, how you feel?
I start a summer job tomorrow, but I don't want to pull more people into drama and for this to be blown out of proportion. Likewise, I feel slightly better posting this here instead of messaging a friend on Facebook and having it come up during my Grad party.
“In great deeds, something abides. On great fields, something stays. Forms change and pass; bodies disappear; but spirits linger, to consecrate ground for the vision-place of souls… generations that know us not and that we know not of, heart-drawn to see where and by whom great things were suffered and done for them, shall come to this deathless field, to ponder and dream; and lo! the shadow of a mighty presence shall wrap them in its bosom, and the power of the vision pass into their souls.”

Joshua Chamberlain


Name: Tombstone
Adopt one yourself! @Pokémon Orphanage

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Once you're working and not around them so much, see if it lessens up a bit..

Other than that, I'd definitely sit down and seriously talk with whatever parent or family member you're closest to.

I understand not wanting to drag ppl into the "drama" but I'm sure they'd rather you talk than keep it to yourself.


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It's an area that no one else can fill
The night's never gonna be the same.

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If you don't want to "drag other people into it", maybe talk to just him about it? Even if you do (eventually) involve other people in it, he still has to be part of it regardless since he is apparently the source of the problem.

If you can't or that doesn't work, then I suppose that the only option is to, like the others said, talk to someone else, or wait until you can move out. idk what else there is for you to do
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Miss Wendighost

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Update: Finishing my first year in College. He had tried to convince me to turn in a paper since it had meet the page requirement even though I knew that it wasn't complete. Luckily, I had refused and are close to finishing. Hopefully I will pass since it's required for my degree.
“In great deeds, something abides. On great fields, something stays. Forms change and pass; bodies disappear; but spirits linger, to consecrate ground for the vision-place of souls… generations that know us not and that we know not of, heart-drawn to see where and by whom great things were suffered and done for them, shall come to this deathless field, to ponder and dream; and lo! the shadow of a mighty presence shall wrap them in its bosom, and the power of the vision pass into their souls.”

Joshua Chamberlain


Name: Tombstone
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A little late: I hope it passes! I'm glad you managed not to turn it in too quick. As Shigeru Miyamoto says, "A delayed paper is eventually good, but a rushed paper is forever bad." Or something.

I agree with the above posters - have you tried talking to him or your parents about it since your original post? I realise that you don't want to blow things out of proportion, but it's obviously upsetting/demoralising when there's someone close to you that acts like that.

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(Didn't notice the original post was a year old until after I wrote my response)

telling me off for watching Agretsuko on Netflix because he believes all anime is awful
It's none of his business what you watch. If he's not a parent, landlord, or police officer, tell him to take a hike.
forcing me to date people even though I prefer to wait until I have a stable job
That's far beyond toxic. If he is "forcing you to date someone," and that's not an exaggeration, that's quite likely illegal depending on where you live. Here in the US at least it's definitely illegal. Nobody can coerce you into dating someone against your will, not even a parent, landlord, or police officer.
being hostile when I disapprove of something he's doing
On the flip side, that's generally none of your business. I'd react the same way. Unless he's doing something that would obligate you (morally or legally) to report it (scamming someone, breaking the law, etc), what he does shouldn't be any of your business, just as your affairs shouldn't be any of his. If he is doing something you'd be obligated to report, the only reason you'd want to speak to him directly would be to urge him to stop if you wanted to give him a chance to do the right thing before escalating the situation.
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I'm genuinely curious if her sibling ever lightened up tbh


I can't leave this spot that's empty without you
It's an area that no one else can fill
The night's never gonna be the same.

SHINee - Area

paired to Palamon