Serious What is your Gender/Sexual Identity?

Started by professor plum May 22nd, 2019 1:50 PM
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professor plum

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I'm a gay cis-male, and my pronouns are he/his. I've acknowledged my gayness since age 12 or 13 (over half my lifetime ago YEESH). There was a period of time when I tried to deny my sexuality, but I eventually realized it was easier to just accept it. Going by the Kinsey scale:

I'd say I'm somewhere between 5 and 6 (closer to 6, probably).

What about you?

[Edit: Please note - do not feel like you have to utilize the Kinsey Scale in your post as it is relatively outdated with regard to modern concepts of gender and sexuality; I posted it with the intent of illustrating my sexuality.]
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probably 4? feels like it fluctuates a lot, like totally feel like i'm on a 6 right now but if i really think about it i feel like there's no way i could be a 6. always see benefits to being with either and i also simply don't really care if i have any feelings for anyone so

she/her, totally identify as a girl/woman/female but AMAB. i don't really like outing myself as trans too much because i don't really feel like that's my identity.
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I probably swing between 2 and 4 depending on the day, which sounds really weird but there are just some days I find myself looking at guys more and some days I'm looking at girls more. Definitely for like the last week or so I've consistently be a 4.

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Idk how I'd identify myself tbh. I'm primarily straight cis-male which well if I have to go by scale its a big 0.
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Hmmmm
I guess I'm somewhere between 0 and 2? Probably 1, idk. I've been confused about it for a while now, but I'm certainly predominantly heterosexual
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juliorain

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6 haven't had relations with girls/women ever so thats a thing... /shrug

Kinsey scale is inherently outdated as it was developed in the 1950s. So it doesn't include a nonconforming gender. Just one axis of difference, but it still is pretty useful tool to break the ice in understanding someone.

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Trans-lesbian. I'm fairly sure I'm a solid 6. I can acknowledge when a dude looks attractive/good but otherwise I'm not into them.

gimmepie

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Similar boat to Angie, I can certainly acknowledge when another dude is attractive but I've never experienced anything even remotely close to being attracted to another man.
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In the timeless words of Popeye, "I yam what I yam."

I've been rather laissez-faire about my own gender in recent years - while I still insist online people call me Adriana, and that's what everyone knows me as nowadays, I have little in the way of gender dysphoria, and even when I did, I was never much for trying to present myself as feminine. Like, my voice is deep even if it is very gay, and I don't often shave my facial hair. I'm very tall and bulky and don't exactly lend an image of femininity from below the face. If surgery and hormones were cheap, easily attained and there was little social consequence to transitioning, sure, I'd go get those pork cutlet titty implants tomorrow. But it's difficult, and I'm much too lazy to undergo that trial when I'm currently doing just fine. I'd say I'm genderfluid, and that works very well for me. It helps that my face is naturally soft and feminine, even with facial hair, so I'm rather blessed in that regard. Overall, I consider myself overtly feminine rather than specifically 'female'.

As for sexuality, I like men. Not so much the genitalia attached to them, but we can't always get what we want!

Cherrim

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I'm a cis female and I guess I'm... bisexual? Pansexual? I don't know the difference anymore, tbh, but I've always identified as bi so that feels right. For a while I subscribed to the "pan means anyone, bi means strictly the gender binary" but that doesn't seem to be the definition at all anymore and I definitely don't care about the gender binary in terms of who/what I'm attracted to so...! Whatever! I guess I'd be a 3 on the Kinsey scale. Maybe leaning towards 4? But mostly just because men are scary and a lot of straight men are just Yikes and I'm not interested in that lmfao. (I once had a massive crush drop down to negative interest in about 30s because a straight guy I thought was cool invalidated my bisexuality in one line so now I'm just plain wary, lol.)


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Trans masculine & pan, but have zero interest in sex. I don't know where I'd lean on this scale, since this is the case...

Cherrim

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Trans masculine & pan, but have zero interest in sex. I don't know where I'd lean on this scale, since this is the case...
Panromantic asexual? (I don't think it'd be weird to view the scale either from a romantic or sexual point of view!) :o


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Cis male here, probably like a 2 or a 1.5 on that scale. I was confused about it for a while but I think I've finally figured it out in that regard.

EDIT: i've never actually seen that scale before it's really cool

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i'm nonbinary but sort of questioning my gender identity lately. for the scale, id say that i'm.. 2 or 3? i..dunno. i'm still figuring out my sexuality.

Tsutarja

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Cis-male and definitely a 0-1 on that scale. I don't have much experience with dating (other than a girlfriend in high school), but I never see myself attracted to males and only think that girls are cute.

juliorain

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I broke the scale.

Absolutely none of those describe me, really. Seems like a painful oversimplification of what can be an incredibly complex and meaningful topic for some people, too.
They Kinsey scale was before the modern division of gender and sex. If you attribute your sexuality along gender lines, then scale cannot work as the scale has cisgender people in mind

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Historically I've been romantically interested in anyone, but only sexually attracted to the male sex. Idk where that puts me on the scale? Generally I tend to much more easily get a crush on someone who seems to like me in return - I never chase people who seem totally uninterested lmao - and since most guys seem to like girls and I'm presenting feminine, I suppose there's just been that many more opportunities to explore that.

I really never felt like my inner gender was a big part of my identity. So nowadays I'm calling myself nonbinary or even agender, mostly because I'm frankly apathetic towards the notion of gender in social/emotional ways and wish we didn't have to bother with them ahah. I still present as feminine because idk I'm used to it and feminine clothes happen to fit my body better than masculine ones? The whole thing doesn't worry me, and I'm comfortable as I am, but it does feel like a small relief somehow when I ask to be referred to with they/them/their instead of traditional female pronouns, and people actually respect it and do c:
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I broke the scale.

Absolutely none of those describe me, really. Seems like a painful oversimplification of what can be an incredibly complex and meaningful topic for some people, too.
They Kinsey scale was before the modern division of gender and sex. If you attribute your sexuality along gender lines, then scale cannot work as the scale has cisgender people in mind
For the sake of clarification, I did not post the Kinsey scale in the first post for every poster in this thread to utilize how they personally identify - I used it as a point of reference for me and my sexuality. My apologies. I'll update the first post.
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UH
This type of thing is what messed me up for years. LOL

I've identified as male my whole life, but I'm also really attracted to guys, so that was weird. Feels pretty gay and it kinda mixed me up for a while, because I felt like I should like girls if I identified as male. However, I also can genuinely like girls. It's weird because I click well with girls for their personalities, and I think they're cute, but damned if I don't prefer to watch hot guys sing and dance for hours in my free time. oof.

The end result is that I'm a pansexual trans-guy, and I don't like saying trans, I've just always been a guy as far as I'm concerned /shrugs - but I GUESS TECHNICALLY.


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I'm a cisgender female. I'm also bi, but I'm asexual and aromantic. I'm not really interested in love... but I have experienced it before finding out about being aromantic. I'm not really against it. I just feel like other factors get in the way for me right now. Like, my routine or just being forgetful about having a partner or whatever. I was like that a lot with my last bf. I often forgot I had him, and that's what made me realize that maybe I'm just not interested in being with someone at this very moment.

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I am a transgender female, lesbian.

I've been on HRT for roughly a year and a half.
So far not much is changed, so i'm considering asking my Gender Specialist for something stronger, but I'm also very nervous to ask.
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