Okay so I kinda have this weird little story, which happened to me recently.. so I thought I would share it because it's related to this thread. :3
So to explain a little bit about myself — anyone who knows me knows that I'm a very bashful/demure person, so I'll be hesitant to like talk about myself very much.. unless maybe someone seems to be genuinely interested. But otherwise it seems a bit weird to me, like I'm fishing for attention that I don't deserve or.. something. Being a listener more than a talker, I'll really only talk in depth about myself or whatever when the other person seems to be genuinely interested. If not, cool I guess! But I realized that no, it's not always cool. There comes a point where a relationship is too one sided.
Anyways so I'm pretty good at giving people my full attention and listening to their stories, asking them questions, nodding or relaying similar stories etc because it's fun! But one of my flaws is that I allow people to control the conversation a bit too much, even when discussing topics I honestly don't find too interesting. ^^
And sometimes, doing this can be tiresome. Like recently for example, I've been in heccin lot of short calls with someone I met in class and we had some lovely conversations, and realized we had some similar interests—like music, movies, etc, and so we kept contact and he began to message me which was surprising and nice. :0 But what I DID notice was that he had a couple of interests that he would bring up a lot, but he wasn't interested in some of my main interests, so I would hold those interests back for my other friends, which is normal really.
But it wasn't until hours of talking to this person that I realized that there was something seriously off about our friendship. Because I realized that he was the type of person to talk about himself like... virtually nonstop. I did try to bring up a couple of my interests a few times, but each time he had nothing to really add and just made the conversation about himself again. And the longer I allowed myself to talk to him, the more I realized that I was experiencing this endless loop of someone just talking about themselves over and over again with really no regard for really anything I had to say...
So that's my answer. If you're someone who's looking for a love interest or a friend, make sure they're equally interested in YOU. The conversation shouldn't always center around them, and if it does there's.. probably something wrong because you could be spending that time talking to someone else.