boring valentine!

Started by Allen303 February 1st, 2021 6:54 PM
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once again Allen with his boring thread! every year this festival always broke the heart of the person that has no valentine or not interested in love so let me see how many are like me (hater) with no interest in love I am pretty sure there will be more male than female! and yes tell me that you ever interested in love? for me? never! never ever interested in love!
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i only "hated" Valentines back then bcs it was the cool single kid thing to do. i've since learned though to appreciate it as a day to celebrate love of all kinds, not just romantic. if you don't have a partner to share Valentines with, there's always your family, or your close friends!
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I like how candy and other sugary foods go on sale for about 50% off.

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To experience romantic love would be nice on Valentines Day, however I show my love towards my family and myself (self love) on that day.

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I used to dislike Valentines cause every single time that day came around my heart broke, but now I just... feel indifferent?
I'm not the type either to just ruin other people's mood who do like the day, that's just no bueno imo.

maybe this year will be different, who knows, this year is already full of suprises anyways
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I used to dislike Valentines cause every single time that day came around my heart broke, but now I just... feel indifferent?
I'm not the type either to just ruin other people's mood who do like the day, that's just no bueno imo.

maybe this year will be different, who knows, this year is already full of suprises anyways
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I actually happen to be the cheesy, hopeless romantic type of guy. I don't think I've ever properly celebrated Valentine's Day, but if I get a girlfriend in the future, I'll be sure to give her the five-star treatment for the day, and be all lovey-dovey till her heart's content.
I like how candy and other sugary foods go on sale for about 50% off.
And when I'm single, I've got the day after Valentine's Day to look forward to because of this reason.

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I actually happen to be the cheesy, hopeless romantic type of guy. I don't think I've ever properly celebrated Valentine's Day, but if I get a girlfriend in the future, I'll be sure to give her the five-star treatment for the day, and be all lovey-dovey till her heart's content.


And when I'm single, I've got the day after Valentine's Day to look forward to because of this reason.
That sounds nice actually of what you'd do, in my opinion for Valentines Day if with someone.

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That sounds nice actually of what you'd do, in my opinion for Valentines Day if with someone.
Depends on what she's like. If she's relaxed and doesn't like going out very much, we'd stay in together for the whole day watching TV and movies while eating our favorite foods, playing games together while cuddling up against one another, and doing anything else she'd like; plenty of girls have roped me into letting them paint my fingernails, so I'd let her do something like that. If she's the energetic kind of girl who wants to get out, then I'd plan a day of fun, like going out to a nearby landmark, shopping, and maybe a restaurant that serves her favorite foods. Regardless, I'd always, always shower her in tiny gifts, like plushies and sweets.

But that's just me.

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Depends on what she's like. If she's relaxed and doesn't like going out very much, we'd stay in together for the whole day watching TV and movies while eating our favorite foods, playing games together while cuddling up against one another, and doing anything else she'd like; plenty of girls have roped me into letting them paint my fingernails, so I'd let her do something like that. If she's the energetic kind of girl who wants to get out, then I'd plan a day of fun, like going out to a nearby landmark, shopping, and maybe a restaurant that serves her favorite foods. Regardless, I'd always, always shower her in tiny gifts, like plushies and sweets.

But that's just me.
I'm an introvert so I'd don't go out too much and I'm comfortable at home more. However when my anxiety gets better under control I can try to get out more with a person I'm with. Your ideas sounds very nice I like, I know I'd like to be treated like that.

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I actually happen to be the cheesy, hopeless romantic type of guy. I don't think I've ever properly celebrated Valentine's Day, but if I get a girlfriend in the future, I'll be sure to give her the five-star treatment for the day, and be all lovey-dovey till her heart's content.


And when I'm single, I've got the day after Valentine's Day to look forward to because of this reason.
It is what you make of it. I've never experienced romantic attraction, however as what @roni said it doesn't solely need to be a romantic holiday. There's a multitude of ways to find happiness out of it. Our family has always taken advantage of the discounts and mass stocked up on candy and such things. It also feels quite commercialized. Any day can be made into the special day you described, it doesn't necessarily need to be assigned to Valentine's Day.

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I've never cared much for the holiday myself, but it's not because of the common reasons of hating it due to heartbreak or a lacking love life, it's just that I'm aromantic is all.
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I've never cared much for the holiday myself, but it's not because of the common reasons of hating it due to heartbreak or a lacking love life, it's just that I'm aromantic is all.
There's nothing wrong with that, you do you and whatever makes you happy.

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It is what you make of it. I've never experienced romantic attraction, however as what @roni said it doesn't solely need to be a romantic holiday. There's a multitude of ways to find happiness out of it. Our family has always taken advantage of the discounts and mass stocked up on candy and such things. It also feels quite commercialized. Any day can be made into the special day you described, it doesn't necessarily need to be assigned to Valentine's Day.
Run that last part by your significant other. Do you think they'd understand the argument of, "We can be romantic any time of the year, doesn't have to be on Valentine's Day," would they? It's kind of expected. I know any day can be made in a similar manner - and I'd probably do such a thing too. But Valentine's Day is, like, the excuse you can use to be needlessly romantic. I guess I'm just the kind of guy who kinda looks forward to being that way.

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Run that last part by your significant other. Do you think they'd understand the argument of, "We can be romantic any time of the year, doesn't have to be on Valentine's Day," would they? It's kind of expected. I know any day can be made in a similar manner - and I'd probably do such a thing too. But Valentine's Day is, like, the excuse you can use to be needlessly romantic. I guess I'm just the kind of guy who kinda looks forward to being that way.
There's nothing wrong with your opinion on what ZeoStar said, you do you and what makes you happy.

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Run that last part by your significant other. Do you think they'd understand the argument of, "We can be romantic any time of the year, doesn't have to be on Valentine's Day," would they? It's kind of expected. I know any day can be made in a similar manner - and I'd probably do such a thing too. But Valentine's Day is, like, the excuse you can use to be needlessly romantic. I guess I'm just the kind of guy who kinda looks forward to being that way.
That wasn't an opinion about believing Valentines Day, but more of a response about you sounding possibly upset about being alone on Valentine's Day. (a poor attempt to be comforting i guess). If you aren't able to do it this year, you'll have many other chances to set aside for the special day you described.

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I don't mind being alone at all, I have my family, my cat and myself. (self love)

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I'm not really that much of a romantic person, and I have even less interest in pretending that Valentine's Day has any meaning outside of capitalist propaganda to make people spend more.

That said, I don't hate Valentine's Day, I'm just ... indifferent to it. It makes some people happy and outside of the usual evils of consumerism it doesn't really harm anyone, so, go nuts, I guess.

I guess I'd play along with it if I had a significant other, the same way I play along with say, Christmas or New Years.

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I don't really care about it. I don't see myself being in a relationship but it doesn't bug me.

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Am I the only one who finds the capitalism argument dumb? I'm not saying that it's incorrect, but you can splash it onto basically everything that involves money. Dragging something down purely because of a generic argument like that kinda beats down all the positive aspects to it.

Are my overly romantic tendencies trying too hard to defend a day like this? Maybe. At the same time I was never in my life blessed with a respective other being. I'm also aware that I'm not guaranteed to ever receive this kind of blessing, either. And arguably "self love" also requires you to have a "self" to begin with.

It stings but at least if someone else is having a fun time with their respective other then I guess the day was worth it. It's about the underlying positive message. After all it's a day about giving something positive to others and not demanding something from someone else. (I'm only calling myself out on my selfish behavior and no one else, btw.)
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Am I the only one who finds the capitalism argument dumb? I'm not saying that it's incorrect, but you can splash it onto basically everything that involves money. Dragging something down purely because of a generic argument like that kinda beats down all the positive aspects to it.

Are my overly romantic tendencies trying too hard to defend a day like this? Maybe. At the same time I was never in my life blessed with a respective other being. I'm also aware that I'm not guaranteed to ever receive this kind of blessing, either. And arguably "self love" also requires you to have a "self" to begin with.

It stings but at least if someone else is having a fun time with their respective other then I guess the day was worth it. It's about the underlying positive message. After all it's a day about giving something positive to others and not demanding something from someone else. (I'm only calling myself out on my selfish behavior and no one else, btw.)
I'm not saying it has no positive benefits, in fact, I even highlighted that it makes people happy. There is, however, a negative aspect that needs to be considered. It's important to be critical of things.

The problem with Valentines, in my opinion, is that the capitalist tendencies start to be seen as an expectation instead of something you do because you like the person.

A lot of people get angry if they don't get a Valentine's Day gift or a special night out or something like that when there's no particular reason you have do it on that day. In fact you'll likely face a certain inflation for a number of common services, restaurants and things of the like will likely be crowded because everybody is going out. If you need a babysitter, it's likely gonna be a bit harder to get one because again, lots of couples are going out.

If you do it one week earlier or one week later, you'll likely have a better experience for less.

I don't have anything against the concept of showing your love for someone, but I don't think it needs its own day. Showing your love should be spontaneous and within your means, not something pre-ordained by random people.

Maybe it's a cultural divide and Valentines Day in my country is different than yours, it already has a different date (June) so it's perfectly possible the "celebrations" are different, I don't know.

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I dunno, I like Valentines Day just fine! It’s cute and important for bonding between some couples. Hell, I was even engaged on a Valentine’s Day! But overall, I’m personally low maintenance about it. My partner and I can be romantic whenever we want so we don’t exchange gifts or buy fancy chocolates or go out to eat on any one particular day. At most it’s just the only day we say, “happy valentines!” to one another and that’s it.

And that’s enough for me. (´▽`ʃƪ)♡
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i ignore it, personally. just another regular day, to me.

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Valentine’s Day doesn’t bother me, is nice if you have a partner but it’s not like it’s a big occasion if you don’t.
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I guess I'm indifferent to Valentines Day. But I do like my candy/sweets. It's also one of my friend's birthday, so I'll probably be celebrating with them.
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