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Actually...am a guy!!!

Gardevoir the Dragon Slayer

Gardevoir the Dragon Slayer

I burn!
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    On Pokecommunity (and the rest of the internet) its not unusual for people to list themselves as the opposite gender than they are in real life.

    Do you list yourself as the opposite gender to what you are in real life and if you do why?

    Have you ever been shocked to find a member of PC is not the gender than you thought that they were?

    Do you deliberately not put your gender on PC?

    Have other people thought you were the other gender than you are in real life?
     
    I've had my gender set as female before just for funsies but pretty much overall I've always had it set as male and never tried to convince anyone differently. I don't think I've ever had anyone mistake me for the wrong gender in real life either.
     
    Honestly, I thought of doing that years ago, and I thought it'd add too much confusion. But I knew people who did, it was cool.

    Got mistaken on RuneScape a lot, though. AlexTheRose is apparently somewhat feminine lawl
     
    even if I did set myself as female I think most people would see right through me. alas I'm never gonna do that so. why would I false advertise.
     
    I didn't set my gender because I like seeing what people assume about me. It's not like I'm very secretive about it, though.
     
    I was tempted to do so once years ago, the whole switch thing, but then I realized it might be more interesting to just hide my gender and see what people thought of me then, instead of just setting it as opposite and trying to convince people that way. And then I just left it off because I don't tend to announce my gender online anyway and I realized I didn't care if people got it right or not. :P

    That, uh, that can only really work that way for me online, though.
     
    I tried it for a while last year, and it threw off some of the newer members. However, it was just experimentation and I have no intentions of ever doing it in the future.
     
    I've never deliberately posed as the opposite gender; I just don't specify what my gender actually is when I'm online, and I don't answer when people ask me. I don't think it's particularly important.

    If it's not important, then why don't I just specify? I'm a fairly androgynous individual in my personality, and I prefer people don't make assumptions about me without bothering to get to know me first based off a gender sign. I also find it quite interesting to see what people assume about me when they don't have that to go on. Ask people what they think of you and they'll usually either lie, tell you what you think you want to hear, or give you an incomplete picture because they don't want to offend you. Regardless, you never get a satisfactory answer...or at least, I don't.

    But I've actually learned quite a bit about how people see me and how I subconsciously portray myself by what gender people assume I am, and this sort of thing interests me. I've told some people after a while what my gender is, or they've found out through Skype calls - bit hard to disguise that sort of thing really - but then I've never made a big secret out of it or anything; as I said, it doesn't matter, I just prefer to not specify if it doesn't inconvenience me to do so. I've not told anyone on here yet, though. I expect I will eventually, but I'll never make it public.

    So, it doesn't matter to me what gender I am and what gender people think I am, but it can be quite insightful. It doesn't matter to me what gender other people are, as I'll treat people the same regardless and try not to make those initial assumptions (not sure how successful I am with that, but I try not to cast things in stone) so it's never bothered me when I've gotten someone's gender wrong...unless I address them and they correct me; that's inevitably awkward, aha.
     
    I hide all my info just because it seems like useless info to me. Most people think I'm a guy online.
     
    Yeah... I think it's best to avoid confusing people by genderbending. So, I am sure to always list myself as my actual gender.

    And I don't think I've ever been mistaken for a girl in real life so...
     
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    Do you list yourself as the opposite gender to what you are in real life and if you do why?
    I did once display my gender here as male back in 2012 for laughs, but that was shortlived and these days I always display as female because I am female myself.

    Have you ever been shocked to find a member of PC is not the gender than you thought that they were?
    I'm not sure... but I know others have been surprised about me being female. I have a very bad tendency to use a lot of avatars/sigs that look male and that's what throws them off.

    Do you deliberately not put your gender on PC?
    Nope. I don't like being mysterious, people know that I'm female.

    Have other people thought you were the other gender than you are in real life?
    My voice sounds a lot like a young boy, and my hair is pretty short (but still long enough to be in the "feminine" range) so there has been a time one thought I was male, and I don't tend to wear very girly clothes so I can see why I wasn't surprised.
     
    For a while I left my gender unspecified here, though I can't remember the exact reason. I then decide to reveal it as many of my friends already know I'm female. There have been a few times when I was mistaken for male if someone doesn't know me well and I didn't say my gender yet.
     
    I identify as male irl and online. So no.

    This reminds me, there used to be a member that had a female selfie for an avatar. That member claimed to be the boyfriend of the girl his avatar. Anyway, eventually that member revealed that the girl in the picture was her, and she identifies as female.

    I found it odd this user was anti-lgbt whenever possible (claiming homosexuality and transgender people choose to be that way, then citing either pseudoscience or the Bible) yet she is a woman pretending to be in love with a woman, and frequently commented about herself as a male and how she deals with relationship issues.

    But that is the extreme example, most of the time when someone changes gender identification on PC, there is a genuine and/or non-malicious intent.
     
    Do you list yourself as the opposite gender to what you are in real life and if you do why?

    Used to on other sites for funsies but then it wasn't a lie anymore.

    Have you ever been shocked to find a member of PC is not the gender than you thought that they were?

    Nope. At most it's been "oh, thats not what i thought, lol ok".

    Do you deliberately not put your gender on PC?

    *casually glances to postbit*
    Yes.
     
    I only confused someone's gender once a couple years back, but since then I'm trying to be as cautious as possible in this regard. Not that gender matters, anyway...

    I also don't see a reason to try to confuse other people with a wrong setting in my profile, mainly because I feel like my posting style (or profile customization preferences, etc.) makes it kinda obvious (at least in my opinion) that I'm male.
     
    I don't see the appeal in gender bending. Like, what do people get out of it? "Hahahaha!! They called me a girl, but I'm really a guy! Hahahaha! I fooled them so good!" Like? I just really don't get it.

    I'm sure I've been confused in the past. Unless I know what gender they identify with, I'll call them whatever gender is listed on their profile and really not care.

    Sooooo, no. I don't. I identify as a male, and I have always identified as a male and enjoy identifying as such.
     
    My gender has always been listed as female and that's always what I've identified as and somehow people still confuse me for a guy I don't know.

    Usually I'm pretty good at identifying other people's genders accurately. The only two I've ever been confused about are Syd and Tig and they were active and good genderbenders.
     
    IRL, I haven't been mistaken for the opposite gender, or at least if I have its been only a few times ever.

    Not totally sure where I sit on the gender spectrum, so I'm not too picky with what I display my gender as in places if I display it at all.
     
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