Do you think everyone deserves a second chance?

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    I'm sure you've heard the term "Everyone deserves a second chance", right? What are your opinions on this? Do you think it's true? False? Why or why not?

    I think it depends. I mean, I'm the type of person who gives someone too many chances. Lately, I've been drawing the line some after an incident with an ex-friend of mine. There also people I don't think deserve that second chance, especially if I can tell they haven't changed after the fight or whatever happened between me and the other person.

    I wasn't sure where to put this. Sorry if it doesn't belong here.
     
    Some do, some don't. Ultimately it comes down to how said person progresses as a human being. Someone who acted like a jerk could realize what an idiot he was and change to a better person; although that's something an outsider won't really notice at first, it's something that normally takes a hugh amount of time, because people don't change over night, you know. There's always a hugh thought process involved.
     
    I want to say no, like realistically, it would be an objective no. There are certain obvious acts you can't repent.

    For the rest, that depends on the person and the situation. Especially if you're on the receiving "victim" end, you've been able to gauge how far you think a person has come. The onus is on you to pass judgment; you're not obligated to give anyone a second chance, but for some people, there may be set point where they can see someone is deserving of a second chance. Others may be less forgiving, and it's not anyone else's place really to judge their judgement of someone else, as everyone is affected differently by different events.
     
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    I want to say no, like realistically, it would be an objective no. There are certain obvious acts you can't repent.

    For the rest, that depends on the person and the situation. Especially if you're on the receiving "victim" end, you've been able to gauge how far you think a person has come. The onus is on you to pass judgment; you're not obligated to give anyone a second chance, but for some people, there may be set point where they can see someone is deserving of a second chance. Others may be less forgiving, and it's not anyone else's place really to judge their judgement of someone else, as everyone is affected differently by different events.
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    I'm just quoting Flushed because I don't think it could be said better than this.
     
    Realistically, no. There are some heinous things that one simply cannot forgive others for.

    Though I guess for everything else I believe so. Personally, I'm willing to give almost anyone another chance as long as they're actually sorry for what happened.
     
    Yes they should be given, specially when we make mistakes ourselves; no one is perfect.

    As long as they are willing to correct and fix from their most sincere side, then why not give them a chance?
     
    Everyone deserves a second chance. However, it's earned, not given.

    If you're really sorry for something, you have to show it. Try to make amends, but don't expect a second chance. It's not up to you whether or not you get one. The one in control is the victim, and if you messed up really badly, then it's best to just let it go and move on, no matter how much it hurts, because it probably hurts them more. There's not many things worse than someone who hasn't grown up, and refuses to let something go.
     
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    The world is too unfair for second chances.
     
    I think everyone deserves a second chance, but with some, one has to be careful about giving too many chances. One does not want to be exploited for being too forgiving.
     
    Most the most part yes. Sex offenders, murderers, people like that I don't feel should be given a second chance really because those things just can't be forgotten or even forgiven for that matter. However I do think that pretty much anything else warrants a second chance. I feel like society is too harsh on people sometimes and unwilling to forgive. I get that sometimes people do things that hurt you but does that mean you shouldn't at least try to forgive them? Especially if they have changed as a person? Idk I just have a strong opinion on this because I have people in my life who I wish would forgive me and haven't so yeah.
     
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    Well it depends on what they did. If they killed someone close to you or raped someone then no I can't see how they should be given a second chance. But if someone ate a french fry off your plate then I think they should be given a second chance since that's a mild "crime". Although even so, it's hard to answer this because everyone perceives a wrongdoing differently. Everyone has different opinions on what counts as wrongdoing is and the severity of it and that will alter whether they think a person should be forgiven or not.
     
    There are some actions that I wouldn't give a second chance to, regardless of whether they've changed or showed remorse for their actions and that's because I'd just feel too uncomfortable to. For instance, I couldn't see myself giving a second chance to a sexual predator, serial killer, terrorist or any other high-ranking danger to society due to their previous actions.

    I think the above can also apply to gauging whether another person deserves another chance or not. A person can prove that they're a changed individual but if the other person still feels strongly about what you've done then it becomes hard to redeem yourself. For the most part, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt and think of what they've done as a one off but sometimes there are events where second chances just aren't given because they'd be more harmful than rewarding.
     
    Comes down to what you did and why. If you killed someone, no. If you accidentally hit someone with a car, maybe. If you fucked up a relationship, sure, why not. When it comes down to it, it depends on what you did.
     
    If your life is fucked up, but you didn't have impact on it, then yes, yes you deserve second chance. If you ruined your life and relations with other people around you, it's still debatable because you might not be the only one to blame. It really is confusing sometimes, and depends on various situations. I'm gonna go with Flushed on this one.
     
    I would say that the second chance depends on the person who is giving it, as someone said earlier it has to be earned, heck even the most despicable crime can be forgiven if the person it affected has the strength, courage, and heart to understand and be at peace with themselves and the other person to be able to forgive them. While it may see hard to believe but sometimes people find peace and justice in forgiving others, even for the most evil of acts. I personally believe that a second chance is the final chance, you do me wrong once, shame on you, you wrong me a second time and its game over, but again for me i don't think i could forgive a person who murdered someone or sexually abused someone.

    But having said all that, i guess you could say you have to see the reason behind why they did what they did, was it self defense, are they ill, or do they need help? sometimes things aren't always black and white.
     
    Judge the situation and act accordingly. There's no way absolutes can be drawn up for something like this, as most other people in here have touched upon.

    Interestingly though, second chances on a public scale, such as the population forgiving a public figure for some sort of offensive comment, can often be sorted into absolutes. We generally abandon and crucify a person for harmful sexual misconduct, especially in regards to underage sex. R. Kelly as a figure has never recovered from the video of him 'allegedly' pissing on a minor, for instance. Naturally, people still go wild to his music, but he's been largely abandoned since 2002/2003. Though given that he was illegally married to Aaliyah when she was 16 and he was approaching 30, people should have seen it coming.

    Racism from public figures tends to have a 50/50 chance of ruining their career, depending on the comments made and how angry white society gets at the figure. I'll also throw anti-semitism into this point just to be concise. Second chances are sometimes available to the figure, but they're still very limited and the figure is rightfully treated with contempt for the rest of their career, should they even have one.
    Paula Deen might as well be dead, she'll never get another chance from the public. Michael Richards of Cosmo Kramer fame also might as well be dead. Mel Gibson has sort-of gotten a second chance over the years, but he'll always be seen as suspect. If we dig back into the '90s, there was Ted Danson of Cheers fame doing blackface. Given that he fronted CSI for a few years, I'd say he got a second chance over time. Whether or not racism/anti-semitism is something that should deny someone a second chance is not something I'm debating. I'm just showing that the public has been relatively cautious with giving out second chances in regards to that subject.

    Drugs & alcohol... well, that is also a 50/50 subject. But the second chances come more from within the public figure's chosen field rather than from the public. Robert Downey, Jr for example is bigger than he's ever been and he quite famously lost his career to substance addiction a while back. But somehow he was able to land Iron Man and you know the rest. I think people tend to be shocked rather than condemning when it comes to public figures and addiction.

    I don't really know the point I'm making here, to be honest. I think I'm just illustrating how we've been relatively incapable of maintaining absolutes. Second chances may be fickle, or a way of not accepting true responsibility for one's actions, but as I said in the very beginning, we have to judge the situation and act accordingly.
     
    ... Ech, my opinion on this is somewhat unpopular, but whatever.

    I do indeed believe that everyone deserves a second chance. People are ever-changing, ever-growing, and very susceptible to learning. Forgiveness isn't easy, but it honestly does make life so much easier to live. Holding something over someone's head is tough work if you do it for prolonged periods, and besides there are better ways of dealing with other people's mistakes.
     
    no one is entitled to a second chance, it's something that has to be earned and in some cases a second chance cannot be earned. it also depends on the tolerance of the, for lack of better words, "victim" and the intensity of the action that hurt the victim. sometimes it's just easier to cut someone off completely in attempts to cope with the pain.
     
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