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Clain
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So, we've probably all been a victim and a boaster of it... And yet it still remains pretty complex. Let me explain.
I was on the bus home today, and heard a 15 year old girl (she mentioned her age) talk about how life was awesome, and she had no regrets. She was talking to another friend, and a girl as well, talking loud enough that anyone in the back could hear. Anyway, she went on about how much drugs she took, and the amount of alcohol, then moved on to about how she sold drugs for a while and slept with other guys. While this was occurring, another girl, also her age was making comparisons of the same thing, that she had done the same thing as well...
And after that whole talk, the girl who started talking about it all, legitimized it all by saying she lives without fear...
Let me go out and say that is by far the biggest bull ever... She is trying to legitimize it as something else... But let me back up a bit.
She was talking about how much drugs she did. When I mention ego boosting, it is sort of like "Hey look at me, I look so cool because I've done this much drugs." Then another person chimes in saying something similar, to compare or even look "better" than the original person... Kind of like a contest...
This is what one may be called a shallow person... But then I did mention that everyone was guilty of it at some point or other... That is not to say that we are all shallow, but rather we have touched the surface of it, just so that we can get our "way". In and of itself, that is not bad, but when it gets bad, like the girl mentioned above, then there is cause for concern.
Now you wonder how she got to be like that? Perhaps the simplest explanation was that she was neglected at home, perhaps from lack of attention, so she acted out in other ways... So yes, in effect this is the parent's fault, however the responsibility doesn't solely lie with them, as it is the victim that has to dig themselves out (of course there is also always help with others).
Ego boosting serves to legitimize what we do, as the right thing to do. We feel better when doing it, because it replaces the original need or desire of a relationship such as with our parents.
When she lied about doing it because she had no fear, I found it to be such a red flag... I don't think she has left the point of no return, but by far she has not met the expectation her parents could have given her... I mean, had they recognized a problem (if they hadn't given her attention before), perhaps she could have recovered, but now it is more of a limbo matter...
The interesting thing, is that this kind of thing isn't limited to boisterous people... Think of the timid person who is shy and busies themself with something else. They may try to seek attention or recognition through the work they do too...
It is as simple even, as lying to someone about what you did or didn't do too, to make it sound like you are someone that you are not... Heck, when I returned from Australia, several people had asked me, if I had sex with some Aussie ladies... I think out of the large amount of people I responded to, only once did I lie and say yes. XD Mind you, the guy I said it to, I don't really like, and don't hang out with him anyway (which should be that way anyway).
This may seem darkly and depressing, but I mean, it doesn't mean we're screwed... In fact, it means we can learn from our mistakes, and basically start living for ourselves, and not live for others... It is too dangerous to live for others, and not that fun either... Just take this simplistic example:
You are on the bus, and there are 4 friends talking with each other in a loud boisterous manner, going so far as making noises and making fun of others on the bus, three of the four get off, do you think the fourth one, still on the bus is going to act in the same manner? Think about it... Why or why not?
Has anyone else encountered something like this? I have more examples of other people too, but it would take too long.
I was on the bus home today, and heard a 15 year old girl (she mentioned her age) talk about how life was awesome, and she had no regrets. She was talking to another friend, and a girl as well, talking loud enough that anyone in the back could hear. Anyway, she went on about how much drugs she took, and the amount of alcohol, then moved on to about how she sold drugs for a while and slept with other guys. While this was occurring, another girl, also her age was making comparisons of the same thing, that she had done the same thing as well...
And after that whole talk, the girl who started talking about it all, legitimized it all by saying she lives without fear...
Let me go out and say that is by far the biggest bull ever... She is trying to legitimize it as something else... But let me back up a bit.
She was talking about how much drugs she did. When I mention ego boosting, it is sort of like "Hey look at me, I look so cool because I've done this much drugs." Then another person chimes in saying something similar, to compare or even look "better" than the original person... Kind of like a contest...
This is what one may be called a shallow person... But then I did mention that everyone was guilty of it at some point or other... That is not to say that we are all shallow, but rather we have touched the surface of it, just so that we can get our "way". In and of itself, that is not bad, but when it gets bad, like the girl mentioned above, then there is cause for concern.
Now you wonder how she got to be like that? Perhaps the simplest explanation was that she was neglected at home, perhaps from lack of attention, so she acted out in other ways... So yes, in effect this is the parent's fault, however the responsibility doesn't solely lie with them, as it is the victim that has to dig themselves out (of course there is also always help with others).
Ego boosting serves to legitimize what we do, as the right thing to do. We feel better when doing it, because it replaces the original need or desire of a relationship such as with our parents.
When she lied about doing it because she had no fear, I found it to be such a red flag... I don't think she has left the point of no return, but by far she has not met the expectation her parents could have given her... I mean, had they recognized a problem (if they hadn't given her attention before), perhaps she could have recovered, but now it is more of a limbo matter...
The interesting thing, is that this kind of thing isn't limited to boisterous people... Think of the timid person who is shy and busies themself with something else. They may try to seek attention or recognition through the work they do too...
It is as simple even, as lying to someone about what you did or didn't do too, to make it sound like you are someone that you are not... Heck, when I returned from Australia, several people had asked me, if I had sex with some Aussie ladies... I think out of the large amount of people I responded to, only once did I lie and say yes. XD Mind you, the guy I said it to, I don't really like, and don't hang out with him anyway (which should be that way anyway).
This may seem darkly and depressing, but I mean, it doesn't mean we're screwed... In fact, it means we can learn from our mistakes, and basically start living for ourselves, and not live for others... It is too dangerous to live for others, and not that fun either... Just take this simplistic example:
You are on the bus, and there are 4 friends talking with each other in a loud boisterous manner, going so far as making noises and making fun of others on the bus, three of the four get off, do you think the fourth one, still on the bus is going to act in the same manner? Think about it... Why or why not?
Has anyone else encountered something like this? I have more examples of other people too, but it would take too long.
