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    We all like making friends with people, but sometimes, people put you off when keeping the discussion too formal and restricted. My question is: Do you make an attempt to relax the discussion or do you wait for the other person to relax it for you?

    I'm not very much like that at all. :S I wait for the person to become relaxed in their style of speaking to see how they'd behave. If they're not relaxed speaking to me, I'll probably lose interest. :< If they're relaxed about the conversation, I'll be more than happy to continue that way.
     
    Samus Aran said:
    We all like making friends with people, but sometimes, people put you off when keeping the discussion too formal and restricted. My question is: Do you make an attempt to relax the discussion or do you wait for the other person to relax it for you?

    I'm not very much like that at all. :S I wait for the person to become relaxed in their style of speaking to see how they'd behave. If they're not relaxed speaking to me, I'll probably lose interest. :< If they're relaxed about the conversation, I'll be more than happy to continue that way.
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    This is about me, isn't it? :X

    Anyway, I try to study the other's personality first before relaxing the conversation. This is to ensure that they don't get offended by me trying to get too chummy all of a sudden.
     
    Generally speaking, I don't start conversations with new people.

    However, when I do I try to relax it myself. Apparently I'm good at it because I have such a laid-back attitude most the time.

    I suck at starting conversations when I'm feeling rather Hostile though.
     
    I'm probably the most out-going person you'll ever meet. :<

    Most of the time, I'll be the one starting the conversation with a person. My attempt is to calm and put the person I'm conversing with in a comfortable spot where he/she can be at ease. It's always awkward whenever someone from one side isn't relaxed or comfortable with what we're talking about. I try my best, but sometimes the opposite side has to put some effort in as well.
     
    Well, I relax myself and I start conversation with new people.
     
    Usually the other person has to do it for me, unfortunately. XD Though if it seems that they're the ones who are really shy, then I'll step up to the plate. However, that's rarely the case.
     
    I like others to start up the conversation, then I'll gladly join in. Same as on here, actually; I'd rather post in topics than post new topics. Don't know why, it's just me, I guess.
     
    I do attempt puns in a subtle manner to see if they are easy going. I rarely start conversations on my own, though.
     
    I tend to speak somewhat formally most of the time. A good hint that I've not yet warmed up to someone is if I continue to speak formally, or get even more formal in tone throughout the conversation. My natural personality is to say how I feel as simply as possible, but if I'm being too stiff and polite, it's probably not a good idea to crack a joke at my expense or say something rude to me.

    That aside, I do break my formal tone when it gets too stiff for me to bear holding up. If you notice more than one formal build up, then breaking (switching back to casual) in my tone, then the discussion, or person I'm talking with may be something/someone I find wearing down on me. ><
     
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