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Nihilego

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    imagine that someone well-known in this community left without any warning, any indication of where they've gone, and does not reply to any messages. imagine also that you were very close friends with them before they left. how do you feel? sad, angry, confused, or all of these (most likely)? what would you do to try to find where they went and what happened to them? talk about anything else related to this that comes into your head. has this ever happened to you?
     
    Tbh, this happens fairly often, and I tend to just resign myself to the fact that I may never see them again, and wait patiently. Probably because one of my best friends only logs on like once or twice a year now that he's moved to Australia... so I'm used to it. lol

    Still haven't seen him this year. :(
     
    Ahh, a similar situation has happened to me.

    One of my friends disappeared after a year of me knowing her. We had mutual friends and talked every day. She's been "missing" for two years; we have ABSOLUTELY no idea what happened to her. We've tried EVERYTHING: emails to all known email accounts, spamming the living heck out of her YouTube account, going on any websites that she somewhat knew of, and anything else.

    After all this time, nobody has heard from her. She was always a bit... odd, and most think she just got into trouble with her parents because of her... oddness. She had this thing for plotting people's deaths. ;-;

    Anyway, if any of my close friends from online went missing, I'd assume something happened to them, of course. If I considered them "close," they would at least have the decency to say goodbye to me. I'd be sad for sure because I'd miss them, confused as to why they're missing, angry as to the fact that I had NO IDEA why they were gone...etc. :D
     
    I would just assume that their real life was taking up their time and not worry.

    Months can go by with my real life friends without my having any idea what's going on in their lives, but that doesn't really make me worry or feel sad or anything else like that. When/if they want to talk or do something they'll know how to find me and I can do the same. I guess this is another reason to make sure you have more than one way of contacting someone you don't see face to face.
     
    I had something to happen with one of my close friends online. Her facebook and everything disappeared and we got worried sick. We organized meetings between all of her friends online and tried to find her. Come to know that she was bitten by a snake and went into a coma..........Right before it happened, a guy was harassing her facebook so she deleted it. That's why it was hard to get in touch with her irl friends.
     
    I would personally feel very sad. I seem to feel more emotional about relationships with online strangers, for a reason of which I do not know. This reason may be the fact that there is a mystery in the relationship. Also, I would feel immensely confused because there is no way to know what happened to them, or why they did such a thing. For me it's extremely hard to deal with the loss (not death) of a friend.
     
    I would immediately assume they had died in some tragic and horrible circumstances and freak out in the hope that that wasn't true. I'd hate the feeling of powerlessness since they're an online friend and the never knowing what actually happened would drive me mad.

    It's happened to me a few times with friends from another forum - one of whom was suicidal, so I still assume she's dead.
     
    I've had this happen before. At first it gets really confusing, because why? Then comes the sadness because they're gone for no good reason. After awhile, though, it just becomes "I wonder what happened to this person? I hope they were okay and just got tired of PC." It's a surprising bonus if they come back though!

    Oddly, despite defaulting the worst possible solution on anything, I've never thought anyone's died if they disappeared. :s
     
    I know it's terrible but I can easily resign myself to losing an online friend. Probably because so many times I've been the one that's drifted away and disappeared, not the other way around. But if someone I was close to disappeared, I would miss them but I wouldn't be overly distressed about it.
     
    I try to not get too close to newer online friends these days because I've been hurt so badly in the past by close friends disappearing. Now I don't worry quite so much because I have my closest friends on Facebook or I have their phone number so if they disappear for a while, I still have a means of contacting them. But in the past I would never share that kind of info with people and vice versa, so when someone disappeared, the only way I knew to check on them is if I knew their name and could google obituaries in their area which is super creepy but what else is a girl to do when her best friend just drops off the map with no warning? :'(

    It really tore me up the last time a friend disappeared and since then I've been hesitant to let myself get that attached. If I do, I almost always end up having other means of contacting them IRL before I let them get close enough which might be a little backwards but oh well.
     
    I do know that this sometimes happens. I accept that I may never talk to them again, but also try to reach them if they are on other forums. Though, if they left without saying anything Id assume they dont wish to talk to me anymore and wait till they come back or not.
     
    Kurui said:
    Come to know that she was bitten by a snake and went into a coma
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    ........................woah

    I think I'd just remain pissed at that person for not saying goodbye or anything, especially if I had no way of contacting them outside of PC (or maybe they don't reply to my attempts to contact them). I don't imagine I'd hold a grudge against them for moving on with their life, but if I was a close friend I'd expect to at least know what the hell happened to them.
     
    Honestly, if they were close friends, I'd have a way of contacting them. So, if they ended up, God forbid, dying or something, I'd have a reasonably suspicion and not just a crazy conspiracy theory. If I didn't have further contact info, I probably wouldn't get into the worrying stage for at least a few weeks; people have busy lives and, for the most part, the internet often comes last for many people. Sure I'd be a little upset, but people need to sort stuff out and who am I to stop them in order to make me feel better? That's just narcissism on my part.
     
    If they leave out of the blue then so be it, I'd like to hear from them again if possible but I'm not getting my hopes up.
     
    This has happened to me a few times, however I weren't particularly close to the people left, though I was friends with them. Most of the have actually returned at one point, or is here right now, except for this one person :/

    Though to answer the question, I'd be sad most of the time. I'd probably assume that their sudden disappearance would have something to do with their real life. Normally I have other ways of contacting my friends, like Skype or Messenger, but I've had one instance where the person didn't come on that at all either for about a year :/
     
    Hypothetical? No, it's happened to me a few times in the past, not always with popular members but sometimes with folks that I started chatting with and then they abruptly leave. I'm usually a mixture of confused and disappointed, but I don't really try to track them down (I used to, though). What's really baffling is when someone will go so far as to donate and become a supporter, and then vanish sudddenly. Which I have seen before.
     
    I won't lie...at first I would ignore the absence and believe they went into a trip or their internet crashed. It's happened to me dozens of times, so perhaps that just shaped me to accept. Although after a few weeks, I'll start to worry and miss them. If they don't respond back, I simply stop and wait. A few of those dozen that left came back with a huge apology...although I would never nudge them about their absence. People have reasons for leaving, and sometimes we probably don't know them as much as we thought we did.
     
    Real life has caught up with them and they have moved on. If it was someone I truly care about then I would already have other means to contact them and so I would try those ways after a decent amount of time goes by.
     
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