No Matter What, You're Going To Give A Damm.

[Universe]

There's honestly a lot of things wrong with this question.

Are you talking about being nice as in not expecting anything out of others in return, or the kind of nice where it's used with intention to get what you want?

Judging by your post it sounds like the latter, correct me if I'm wrong.

 

[Universe]

Oh, I meant the first one actually. As strange as it sounds, since the second one would be being fake, and that wouldn't make sense to complain about, I think.

Here's how I understood your post:

I'm so nice to people but none of them ever seem interested in me, they always go after people who aren't nice.

Did I misunderstand..?

 

[Legobricks]

I know next to nothing about human sexual selection, but I think that may be a major factor in explaining such ostensibly masochistic (from the perspective of the probably-female choosing a bad guy over a nice guy) tendencies.

 

[Universe]

Sounds selfish and bad, but kinda like that. There are a lot of things in the middle as well, you can't push somebody to like you and so on, things that I know. Maybe, that people isn't my kind of people neither.

Just keep in mind that expecting people to respond to your gestures of kindness with romantic feelings is actually very wrong. True kindness is from the heart and doesn't expect repayment, which also includes "romantic interest" as the payment.

If you know the action is selfish, then why question them seeking other people instead? You're not even being authentic with them if your kindness is seeded with intention.

 

[Corrin]

People are not obligated to care about you though, you just have to find the right people who will.
Don't keep putting effort into those who don't care.

 

[Sydian]

Unfortunately, you can't even count on people being thankful or caring when you do an act of kindness for them. I think, for the most part, people are pretty gracious about it, but there are people that will take advantage of your kindness and not thank you. Which I think it's completely understandable to be upset if you're not even thanked or something, I get that, but I wouldn't always expect it. Do good things out of the goodness of your heart, not for reward.

I hope I'm understanding this correctly...haha. Looks like others have had trouble figuring it out as well. :P

 

[Somewhere_]

People say Im too nice, so I guess I dont mix with a lot of other people.

 

[Margaery Tyrell]

We don't often control who we care about - even if you do something kind to someone, if you invest your heart into them, you can't expect them to do the same back. It sucks, but there are people who just won't care.

If you're going to do something nice for someone, or care enough about them that you'd help them, then do it simply to be kind. Kindness with the expectation of reward is going to disappoint you quite a lot, and it won't feel sincere.

Whether or not its right for someone to care back is irrelevant, because they never had to in the first place.

 

[Taemin]

I like being nice to people just because I certainly wouldn't be mean to them. In the end, all a lot of people want is for someone to be nice to them. Especially at work I try to be polite. Cause for all I know someone is having a shitty day, and if I can make them smile or laugh or something, then it's a good feeling. Not everyone treats me kindly in response, some people even shoot dirty looks, but oh well.